Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), or Persistent Drive for Autonomy, isn’t defiance—it’s a nervous system response to pressure. Learn the signs, what triggers it, and how to create safety and connection at home or in relationships.

Wondering if your partner might be autistic? Skip the pressure of a diagnosis. Use our relationship-focused trait screeners to gain clarity, understanding, and connection.

Jenny Pan, a Chinese American therapist and neurodivergent advocate, shares her story of navigating two cultures, masking, and reclaiming her voice. If you're Asian and neurodivergent, you don’t have to choose between honoring your culture and honoring your needs. You can heal—and be fully seen.

When your next argument starts to spiral, don’t power through—pause. A simple homemade card can short-circuit meltdowns, misfires, and misunderstandings. Here’s how to use it.

Is your teen struggling after school but “fine” at school? Autism in teens—especially girls and high-masking kids—often goes undetected. Learn how self-understanding, not just diagnosis, can help your teen thrive.

You’ve seen top 10 lists before. You might roll your eyes. Too generic. Too fluffy. Doesn’t apply. We get it. But this one’s different. It’s built for your relationship. A neurodiverse relationship.

Most therapists guess about behaviors. We ran the numbers. We analyzed data from 650 people. They all took the CAT-Q (Camouflaging Autistic Traits Questionnaire). We looked at every score. No guesswork. Just patterns. The CAT-Q measures how much someone hides autistic traits.100 or more means a person is camouflaging. The average score was 128! That’s a ton of effort.

HSP, Autism, or ADHD? Figuring Out What Fits You—Without the Labels Taking Over Let me know if you want variations for different audiences (e.g., partner-focused, clinical, or youth-oriented), or if you’d like social sharing text too!

Autism and Sex: Finally, a Way to Understand the Disconnect. But if you’re autistic—or in a relationship with someone who is—Bedroom rules can feel more like a test you didn’t study for. “Tease each other?” What does that actually mean? “Keep a steady pace?” Based on whose rhythm?“Don’t be afraid to experiment?” What if new things feel overwhelming?   For many autistic adults, these kinds of open-ended instructions feel confusing, stressful, or even shame-inducing.

The divorce is in the rear mirror. You found love again. You brought two households together. You imagined a bigger table…more laughter…shared adventures. Then reality pulled up a chair. Suddenly, everything feels like a tug of war. 

At first glance, it sounds alarming. A 450% increase in autism diagnoses among adults aged 26 to 34. Back in 2011, only about 91,000 adults in that age group had received a diagnosis. In 2022, that number was closer to 500,000.* So what’s going on?Are more people becoming autistic? Or are more people finally being seen?

There’s a kind of pain that doesn’t show up on the outside.You’re still functioning. You’re getting through the day. But inside, you’re quietly falling apart.  That’s what Cassandra Syndrome feels like.

Do you want a relationship that feels stable, connected, and genuinely fulfilling? Maybe you’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, had the late-night talks, and tried to “figure it out” together. Here’s the twist: You’re not going to get there with logic alone.

Wired for Connection, Not Solo Flights. Humans don’t just crave connection—we’re engineered for it. Our brains assume we’ve go

Neurodiverse couples wrestle with a double-edged lie: suffering means something’s broken, and their differences make it worse.

Imagine this: He feels trapped, yet he loves her deeply. Inside, his thoughts spin: “I have to be who she wants me to be. If I don’t,...

Imagine this: Your partner spends hours reorganizing the kitchen because everything must be "just so." Meanwhile, you’re left wondering...

Neurodiverse couples wrestle with a double-edged lie: suffering means something’s broken, and their differences make it worse.

🤯 The Contradictory Self: When Values and Wiring Clash in Neurodiverse Lives

Every relationship is made up of two unique perspectives. For neurodiverse couples, those perspectives may sometimes feel