The BIG 10 for Neurodiverse Relationships
- hmotro
- Jul 10
- 2 min read
You’ve seen top 10 lists before.
You might roll your eyes.
Too generic. Too fluffy. Doesn’t apply.
We get it.
But this one’s different.
It’s built for your relationship.
A neurodiverse relationship.
The Big 10 for Neurodiverse Relationships
Don’t assume silence means disinterest. Sometimes it means overload. Ask, don’t guess.
Fight the confusion, not each other. You’re wired differently, not broken.
Say what you really mean. Neurotypical hints don’t work here.
Take breaks when you’re flooded. Then come back. Always come back.
Ask for the connection you need. Don’t wait for it to show up by magic.
Celebrate your partner’s effort, not just results. What looks small may be huge.
Touch…if it’s wanted. Check first. Respect sensory needs.
Ask, “What makes today easier?” Daily micro-tweaks beat grand fixes.
Goals and dreams can look different. But they still need to be shared.
Choose kindness before clarity. You can always explain more later.
We could spend a full session on each one.
And maybe we will.
But you may not even need us.
Pick one a day.
Sit with it.
Let it shift the way you show up.
That one small change?
It might change everything.
Harry Motro
Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center
Specialties
Neurodiverse Couples
Cassandra Syndrome Support
Communication
Addiction, Trauma, Betrayal Recovery
Blended Families
Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse)
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Internal Family Systems
Personal Experience
Lived 24 Years in a Neurodiverse Marriage. I know the highs and heartbreaks of a relationship where love is real—but miscommunication is constant. That lived experience grounds the way I support couples navigating similar dynamics.
Parented a Brilliant, Struggling Neurodivergent Son. As a mom and advocate, I learned to interpret, adapt, and create safety for a child the world didn’t always understand. That shaped my deep respect for nervous system differences and co-regulation.
Rebuilt After Addiction, Trauma & Betrayal. I’ve walked through collapse and come out the other side—with hard-earned insight into recovery, boundaries, and how to rebuild relationships rooted in mutual safety.
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