SELF DISCOVERY
Two Ways to Start Understanding Yourself (or Your Partner)
Sometimes things just don’t click in your relationship—and you’re not sure why.​ Could it be autism? ADHD? Something else entirely?​ ​
Here’s how we help you find out:
STEP 1: Quick Self-Discovery
Start by taking one of the free screeners listed below for autism or ADHD.
It’s a low-pressure way to explore whether neurodiversity might be shaping your experience.
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STEP 2: Go Deeper
If the screeners show signs of autism or ADHD, you can choose to dive into an "in-depth" assessment.
Our assessment specialists (part of Adult Autism Assessment) have received additional assessment training to work with adults and understand how this plays out in relationships.​​
​​Not sure what’s right for you?
We offer a free consultation to help you figure it out—no pressure, just support.
Check out the screeners and learn more at Adult Autism Assessments →
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Autism Screeners:
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Recommendation: Take these 3 tests (4 for women) and then book a free consult.
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1. Ritvo Autism & Asperger Diagnostic Scale (RAADS-14)
Emphasis on internal experiences
14 Questions
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2. Autism Spectrum Quotient Test (AQ)
Most common screener for Autism
50 Questions
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3. Camouflaging Autistic Traits Questionnaire (CAT-Q)
Detects masking, social compensation, and assimilation
25 Questions​​​
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Additional test for Women:
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4. Modified Girls Questionnaire for Autism Spectrum Condition (GQ-ASC)
Designed for adult women, it identifies behaviors and abilities in women associated with autism
21 Questions
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Learn more about these tests here.
Other tests related to Autism
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1. Autism Sexual Intimacy Measure (ASIM-24) *
Measures ones knowledge, sensory comfort, consent skills, and communication in terms of sex.
24 Questions​​​
2. Adult Repetitive Behaviors Questionnaire-2 (RBQ-2A)
Measures repetitive and restricted behaviors in adults
20 Questions
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3. Extreme Demand Avoidance Questionnaire for Adults (EDA-QA) Assesses behaviors often associated with Pathological Demand Avoidance—or as some prefer, Persistent Drive for Autonomy—a profile seen in some autistic individuals. Explores regulation, flexible thinking, sensory coherence, and social perspective-taking.
26 Questions
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4. The Monotropism Questionnaire
Assesses for features indicating a monotropic cognitive style, the tendency to focus deeply on a limited number of interests at one time.
47 Questions
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5. Online Alexithymia Questionnaire (OAQ-G2)
Measures 7 factors related to emotions (see below)
37 Questions
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6. Toronto Alexithymia Scale (TAS-20)
Identifies difficulties identifying and describing emotions, and distinguishing body sensations from emotions
20 Questions​
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ADHD Screeners:
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Recommendation: Take these 4 tests and then book a free consult.
1. Adult ADHD Self-Report Scale (ASRSv1.1)
Commonly used self-assessment tool for adult ADHD
18 Questions
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2. Barratt Impulsiveness Scale (BIS-11)
Focus on impulsivity traits
30 Questions
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3. Structured Adult ADHD Self-Test (SAAST)
Covers concentration, impulsiveness, disorganization, and hyperactivity
21 Questions
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4. Copeland Symptom List for Adult ADD
Focus on Attention Deficit, not hyperactivity
63 Questions
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Learn more about these tests here.
Other tests related to ADHD
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1. ADHD Sexual Intimacy Measure (ADHD-SIM-24) *
Measures strengths and challenges across four subscales: Attention & Presence, Impulse Control & Risk, Boundaries & Consent, and Relationship Communication & Satisfaction..
24 Questions​​​
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Other Neurodiverse tests
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1. Highly Sensitive Person Inventory (HSPI-24) *
Designed for individuals seeking to better understand their level of sensitivity and emotional/sensory responsiveness. It measures four key traits commonly associated with high sensitivity: Depth of Processing, Overstimulation, Emotional Reactivity, and Sensitivity to Subtleties.
24 Questions
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3. The Dyslexia Questionnaire for Adults
Assesses difficulties with reading, writing, and spelling that indicate dyslexia in adults
13 Questions​
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General Screeners​​
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1. Clinical Perfectionism Questionnaire (CPQ)
Assesses patterns of goal-setting and self-evaluation to determine clinical perfectionism.
14 Questions
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2. Frost Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale (FMPS)
Measures perfectionism across several dimensions, including concern over mistakes and organization.
35 Questions
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Assesses the severity of anger as a symptom or condition. It can identify individuals who may benefit from anger management strategies or therapeutic interventions.
21 Questions
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Here are key pages on the Adult Autism Assessments site to find out more:
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*Disclaimer
This questionnaire is designed to offer helpful insights and support self-reflection. It can be a useful starting point to increase understanding and many individuals find it valuable for identifying patterns and starting meaningful conversations—whether with a partner, therapist, or coach.
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That said, this tool is still in development and has not been validated through formal scientific research. While the questions are based on commonly reported experiences, the questionnaire’s reliability and accuracy have not been formally established. It is not intended to diagnose any condition or replace professional evaluation.
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For personalized guidance, we encourage you to consult with a neurodivergent-affirming clinician.
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