FAQ's - Neurodiverse Couples (see below)

FAQ's - General Couples Therapy FAQ's - click HERE

Can you explain "integrated therapy"?

It is often helpful to have a couple's therapist plus a separate individual therapist to support each partner. That way each person can focus on growing individually so he/she can show up in the relationship in a healthy way. This set up works best when the therapists are in the same group and can coordinate care. We recommend that you start with couples therapy. At your first session, your couples therapist will help assess whether integrated therapy makes sense for you and, if so, can connect you to the right support team.

Do I have to get a diagnosis?

Most of our clients do NOT seek to receive a diagnosis, nor do we find much benefit in providing one. It is much more effective to treat whatever unique characteristics which present themselves and avoid the negative effects of labeling and having a fixed mindset. ​​ On the other hand, it can be INCREDIBLY helpful to receive a diagnosis if it can help a couple reinterpret behaviors as a way of experiencing the world as opposed to a sign of bad intent. In such cases, clients start by taking the following on-line assessments (not definitive tests): ​​

When a formal diagnosis is requested and we agree that it will be helpful, we take the following steps: ​​
  • Discuss your developmental history
  • Discuss your development of peer relationships and friendships and the quality of attachment to family members
  • Make behavioral observations including your social and emotional presentation
  • Observe your self-awareness, perspective-taking and level of insight into social and behavioral issues
  • Discuss your ability to understand another person’s feelings, intentions and beliefs
  • Ask for your self-report of certain symptoms
  • Meet with a friend or family member who can provide additional perspective
  • Assess for related issues such as obsessive-compulsive tendencies, general anxiety and depression.
​​ Please note that neurological testing is not required to get a “formal” diagnosis.

Will I feel stigmatized as an Aspie?

No. We believe in a strengths-based model which focuses on perspective-taking and determining how to best provide resources to all of our clients including those who are considered neurodiverse. It is not that the neurodiverse individual is unable; it is that partners and society in general need help to connect and be inclusive. Our goal is to provide hope, resources and guidance for neurodiverse individuals and their partners to utilize their unique gifts to build a fulfilling relationship.