Art therapy can be a great option for neurodiverse individuals and our team of therapists are experienced in using art to promote self-expression and communication. AUTISM & ART THERAPY < Back WELCOME TO OUR ART THERAPY JOURNEY FOR AUTISTIC ADULTS Hello and welcome from Colleen Kahn and Stephen Robertson ! We are a pair of art therapists who specialize in neurodiversity, with a particular focus on autism. Our passion lies in the beautiful intersection of art and therapy , a space where expression knows no bounds and every stroke of a brush tells a story. We believe in the transformative power of art therapy to support autistic adults in their journey toward self-expression, communication, and emotional well-being. THE HEART OF ART THERAPY Art therapy is more than just creating art; it's a therapeutic process that facilitates self-exploration, understanding, and growth. For autistic adults, it offers a… Show More

Bridge communication gaps with AI-assisted couples therapy. Personalized, secure, and led by experts in neurodiverse relationships. Schedule a free consult today. AI-Assisted Therapy Neurodiverse couples therapy just got a major upgrade. We’ve fused the warmth and wisdom of expert human therapists with the precision of smart AI technology. The result? Unmatched clarity. Deeper understanding. Real connection. Think of it as your therapist, supercharged. You get the insights that will help you bridge the gap and truly see each other. How AI-Assisted Therapy Can Work for You Our secure, confidential AI tools work in the background to support your therapist and empower your growth. Here’s how: 1. Uncovering Deeper Insights & Patterns Sometimes the biggest breakthroughs come from seeing the connections you didn't know were there. Our AI helps your therapist identify recurring themes, communication patterns, and hidden dynamics that emerge over time. Our therapist uses this to help you both move past the surface-level issue and address the core patterns underneath. 2. Tools and Exercises Tailored Just for You No more generic worksheets. Based on the specific themes of your session, our system helps your therapist create personalized homework, reflection prompts, and skill-building exercises. These are tools designed for your unique dynamic, helping you apply what you learn in therapy to your daily life. 3. Empowering Your Growth Between Sessions For those who enjoy exploring on their own, we provide you with expertly crafted prompts to use with your own personal AI tools (like ChatGPT). This is a completely optional way for you to continue reflecting and discovering insights on your own terms, in a way that feels comfortable to you. Your Therapist is Always the Pilot Let's be clear: You are not in therapy with a robot. You are in therapy with a skilled, compassionate human who is an expert in neurodiverse relationships. The AI is simply a powerful co-pilot, handling data and spotting patterns so your therapist can focus on what matters most: you, your partner, and your connection. What AI Cannot Do: Read Nonverbal Cues & Rapport: A computer cannot see a softening posture, a tear, or a sudden change in eye contact. It misses the subtle patterns of connection and the difficulties in building rapport that tell the real story behind the words. Understand Developmental & Cultural Context: While AI processes words, it lacks the deep understanding of the developmental history and cultural background that shape who you are. It often misses the situational nuance—the "why"—behind your behaviors. Provide Normed, Standardized Diagnostics: Common AI tools are not a replacement for truly standardized, validated psychometric instruments. There is currently no valid test administration available through AI. Distinguish Effort from Genuine Barrier: AI can provide a roadmap, but it cannot do the driving. It lacks a qualitative sense of human effort and cannot distinguish between when you are engaging in suboptimal effort versus facing a genuine barrier to growth. The hard work of vulnerability remains yours alone. Offer Clinical Intuity: AI lacks clinical intuition honed by thousands of hours of experience. Relying on it alone creates safety risks: it may minimize symptoms (causing you to delay care) or catastrophize normal issues (causing unnecessary panic). You should know that: Your therapist makes all clinical decisions. Empathy, trust, and human connection remain the heart of our practice. The AI provides data; your therapist provides the wisdom. Your Privacy is Our #1 Priority We know that therapy is a private space, and sharing your story requires trust. Protecting your confidentiality is a responsibility we take very seriously. For those who wants to know more, please take a look at the separate section on security below. Is AI-Assisted Therapy Right for Us? This enhanced approach can be incredibly powerful if you: Often feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages. Want to move beyond recurring arguments and understand the root cause. Appreciate data-driven insights and a clear view of your progress. Are looking for practical, personalized tools to use between sessions. An Innovative Option: Your Choice & Comfort This service is completely optional. We understand that this approach is new, and your comfort is our priority. If you prefer traditional therapy without these tools, we fully support and respect that choice. AI-assisted therapy is a specialized service currently offered by select therapists in our practice who have received specific training. If you are interested in exploring this option, please be sure to mention it when you schedule your consultation so we can match you with the right therapist. Ready to Discover a New Way to Connect? Experience the clarity that comes when human expertise and smart technology work together for you. Schedule Your Free Consultation Today Your Privacy & Security (Powered by Google Workspace) We run every part of our AI‑assisted workflow inside Google Workspace Enterprise—the same cloud platform trusted by governments, financial institutions, and Fortune 500 companies. Here’s what that means for you: End‑to‑End Encryption All emails, files, and AI‑generated transcripts are encrypted while they travel across the internet and while they rest on Google’s servers. Even if someone grabbed a hard drive, they couldn’t read a byte without Google’s multi‑layered keys. No Ads, No Data‑Mining Google contractually guarantees that Workspace customer data is never used for advertising or any purpose beyond delivering the service. Your therapy information stay yours—full stop. Independent Compliance Audits Google Workspace is regularly examined against SOC 2, ISO 27001, GDPR, and more. Granular Access & Audit Logs Only your therapist and a small, security-trained QA team from Google can open your session data. Enterprise AI, Not Public Chatbots Our AI runs inside this locked‑down Workspace environment and never feeds your data back into public models like free Gemini or ChatGPT. When we give you optional self‑reflection prompts to use in your own personal AI tools, we’ll also show you how to do so safely—and what not to share. Want to read the fine print? Google publishes detailed security resources that back all of the claims above, including: Google Workspace Overview of Security Architecture Google Workspace Google Workspace Encryption Whitepaper (how data is encrypted in transit and at rest) Google Services Google Workspace Security Whitepaper (full privacy & compliance commitments) Google Workspace Feel free to dive in—then come back knowing your therapy data is protected by some of the most robust security infrastructure on the planet.

As a therapist deeply immersed in the intricate dynamics of neurodiverse relationships, I've often found myself in the middle of the age-old debate: What holds more value, facts or feelings? 🤔 Picture this: one partner, with a furrowed brow, insists, "The facts clearly show I'm right! You are completely overreacting! You shouldn't feel that way." 😠 While the other, with a sigh of frustration, counters, " But you're missing how all this makes me feel, which is just as important." 😞 This isn't just an argument; it's a vivid illustration of two fundamentally different ways of experiencing the world, each with its own language, trying desperately to be heard and understood. 🗣️ The Deep Roots of Emotions 🌱 A deeper dive into the nature of feelings reveals that they are often rooted in past experiences rather than the present moment. This is particularly true for individuals who have endured trauma. For them, current events can act as triggers, invoking disproportionate emotional responses that seem incongruent with the actual situation. It's akin to a geological fault line; when the present bumps against this line, it causes tremors that reverberate through our being, manifesting as intense emotions. Understanding an Outsized Reaction 😲😡😥😖 This understanding of emotions sheds light on why we might react strongly to certain situations that, to our partner, might seem minor. It's NOT the present circumstance that's solely responsible for our feelings; instead, it's our past experiences casting long shadows over our current perceptions. This shift from present to past can lead us to erroneously believe that, if only our partner would change, our emotional turmoil would subside. However, the key to mitigating these disproportionate reactions lies in having compassion for the underlying trauma, thereby recalibrating our emotional responses to better match the realities of the present. The Autistic Mistake: Dismissing Emotions ❌🧠 Unfortunately, autistic partners often make the mistake of arguing facts over feelings. The wiser path is acknowledging the reality and significance of feelings, while setting facts aside for the moment. Emotions are indicators, messengers that convey important insights about our inner world and our relationships. The Allistic Mistake: Equating Emotions to Truth ❌🔮 On the other hand, the mistake that an allistic partner makes is to elevate these feelings to the status of incontrovertible truths , allowing them to unjustifiably indict others or dictate our actions. This misstep can lead us down a path of misunderstanding and conflict, both with ourselves and others. Take a Pause: From Primal to Thoughtful Response ⏸️💡 One of the most effective strategies for navigating emotional triggers is the practice of pausing before reacting. This pause, a moment of intentional breath and reflection, allows us to move from a primal, reactive state to one of thoughtful response. It signals to our body that we are safe, enabling us to engage the more rational parts of our brain. Learning to pause and respond rather than react can result in a monumental shift for a couple. Feelings are Essential, Not Truth 💖 Feeling our feelings is essential. Resisting or denying them as an individual or a couple only amplifies their intensity and can lead to greater internal turmoil. Feelings are transient energies, constantly in flux. By allowing them to flow through us, they lose their power to overwhelm. Yet, remembering this truth can be challenging in moments of acute emotional distress. Ultimately, honoring our feelings while also recognizing that they are not infallible truths is a delicate balance to achieve. Feelings provide valuable insights into our emotional landscape, but they must be interpreted with caution and context, particularly when they stem from past traumas. Neurodiverse Couples Counseling 🤝 For neurodiverse couples grappling with facts and feelings, the support of a neurodiverse couples specialist can be an invaluable step towards healing and equilibrium. In doing so, we learn not only to honor our feelings but also to ensure they serve us in constructive ways, guiding us toward healthier, more informed choices in our lives. Click Here To Match With An Expert With heartfelt guidance and support, Harry Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT, PsyD Dr. Motro is a registered Marriage and Family Therapist #53452 and the Founder/Clinical Director of the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center. Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule With Whitney Take an ASD/ADHD Screener Are you curious about whether or not you have autism/ADHD? Want to learn more about yourself and take the first step towards deeper self-understanding? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and Take An ASD/ADHD Screener Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Communication Guide for Neurodiverse Couples. Learn to listen and talk with less frustration and more hope! NEURODIVERSE COMMUNICATION < Back SPEAKING DIFFERENT LANGUAGES? Why do we feel like we are speaking different languages when we try to talk to each other? Do your partner's words sound like "blah blah blah...", where you are not really hearing each other? What hijacks our ability to communicate effectively? Do your conversations sound like: Tammy: Look at me when I talk to you. Tim: I am trying to but you're not making any sense. You said to walk the dog as soon as I felt like it. I never felt like it. Tammy: You know that the dog needs a walk every day. Tim: But you never said that. Tammy: I've said that… Show More

supporting a hyperfocused partner Have you ever walked into a room to ask your partner a simple question like, "Do you want lunch?" only to be met with a blank stare, a grunt, or—worse—instant irritability? You aren't necessarily dealing with a rude partner. You are likely dealing with a partner in the "Cave." Stop. Is this Hyperfocus or Burnout? Before we solve this, we have to accurately diagnose the silence. From the outside, a partner staring blankly at a screen looks the same whether they are thriving or drowning. But biologically, these are opposite states. Hyperfocus: The brain is running at 200mph. It is locked onto a task (coding, gaming, painting, researching…) in a state of deep, euphoric flow. Autistic Burnout: The brain is out of gas. This is a state of total system exhaustion, skill regression, and sensory collapse. Today, we are talking about Hyperfocus. We are talking about how to support the partner whose brain is moving so fast they have forgotten they own a body. (We will discuss the recovery protocols for Burnout in a future post—that requires a totally different toolkit). The Double-Edged Sword In neurodiverse relationships, hyperfocus is a superpower and a struggle. When an ADHD or Autistic brain locks onto a task, the rest of the world falls away. Unfortunately, so does their awareness of basic bodily needs like hunger and thirst. This is where The Supply Drop comes in. It is a strategy of care that respects the focus while protecting the body. The Science: Why They Go Into the "Cave" To understand why the Supply Drop is necessary (and why interruptions are so combustible), we have to look at the neurology of attention and bodily awareness. 1. Monotropism: The Attention Tunnel The most compelling framework for understanding this is Monotropism . While a neurotypical brain is often "polytropic" (able to diffuse attention across multiple interests and sensory inputs simultaneously), a monotropic mind pulls all cognitive resources into a singular, intense "attention tunnel." When a person is inside this tunnel, everything outside of it is effectively filtered out. To answer a question, they have to collapse the tunnel, reorient to the room, process your voice, formulate an answer, and then try to rebuild the tunnel from scratch. This "task switching" is cognitively expensive and often physically painful. 2. Interoception: The Silent Sense Interoception is the sense that tells us what is happening inside our bodies (hunger, thirst, heartbeat, need for the bathroom). Research consistently shows that neurodivergent individuals often possess "atypical interoception." This means the signal from the stomach to the brain is either muted or ignored until it reaches emergency levels. Your partner isn't choosing to starve; their brain literally hasn't sent the notification yet. By the time they realize they are hungry, they are often already in a state of hypoglycemia or sensory overload (hangry). The Strategy: Executing the Supply Drop The goal of the Supply Drop is simple: Maintenance without interaction. You are acknowledging that your partner is currently "offline" socially, but their biological hardware still needs fuel. By proactively managing this, you prevent the meltdown that occurs when low blood sugar meets high cognitive demand. Here is how to execute the perfect Supply Drop: Step 1: The "Safe Food" Protocol Do not introduce new textures or complex decisions during hyperfocus. Rely on "Safe Foods"—meals you know they will eat without thinking. Think finger foods, protein shakes, or a trusted comfort meal. The goal is caloric efficiency, not a culinary critique. Step 2: The Silent Entry Walk into the room quietly. Do not say their name. Do not ask, "Are you working hard?" Do not ask where the remote is. Your presence should be as non-intrusive as the furniture. Step 3: The Placement Place the food and a large glass of water within their peripheral vision. If you put it directly in front of their keyboard, it becomes an obstacle/demand. If you put it too far away, object permanence issues may cause them to forget it exists. The "corner of the eye" is the sweet spot. Step 4: The Exit This is the hardest part for the partner doing the drop: Leave. Do not wait for a "thank you." Do not wait for eye contact. Trust that when they surface for air, they will see the food and eat it. The "Cost" of Connection: The Reciprocity Requirement There is a vital caveat to this strategy. The "Supply Drop" is an act of high-level service. For this dynamic to be healthy, there must be a balance. If the neurotypical partner respects the "Cave," the hyperfocused partner must commit to truly showing up when they exit it. The Deal: "I will not interrupt your flow state, but when the scheduled time comes (e.g., dinner at 7:00 PM), you must fully disengage and be present." The Supply Drop buys you time and focus; the payment for that is intentional, undivided attention later. Why Therapy Is Often Necessary Here Without a protocol like the "Supply Drop," this dynamic usually dissolves into resentment. The partner outside the cave feels abandoned. They feel like they are living with a ghost. They prepare food that goes uneaten. They ask questions that are ignored. They begin to feel that their partner loves their computer (or hobby) more than them. The partner inside the cave feels suffocated. They feel nagged. They feel that every time they hit a stride, someone is tapping on their shoulder, breaking their concentration. They feel unsafe in their own home because they cannot predict when the next interruption will come. This is the cycle of Pursue/Withdraw . One chases for connection; the other retreats for safety. This is exactly what therapy fixes. We don't just give you tips; we help you break the emotional gridlock. We help the "abandoned" partner process their loneliness and the "suffocated" partner articulate their sensory needs. Once we clear the resentment, we can build a new system—like the Supply Drop—where both partners feel seen, fed, and understood. [Click here to schedule a session today] Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these statements may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. 🔦 Spotlight on Jen Terrell Specialties Neurodiverse Couples Highly Sensitive People (HSP) Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse) Betrayal/Affair Recovery Communication Multicultural Challenges Trauma-Informed Life Experience Supports neurodiverse processing and communication. Works with autism-, ADHD-, and HSP-informed care to help partners understand sensitivity, sensory load, and emotional expression across different neurotypes. Trauma-informed and nervous-system-centered. Focuses on helping clients regulate first, so conversations, repair, and connection feel safer and more possible. Long-term partnership insight. Married for 28 years, bringing lived understanding of rupture, repair, routines, and the natural rhythms of closeness and distance over time. Family, culture, and trust-aware care. Parent of four teens with hands-on experience supporting regulation and connection at home; culturally fluent in Korean/American family dynamics; helps couples gently rebuild trust after relational injury. Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT #155583, Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Learn more about Jen Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners References & Further Reading On Monotropism and Attention Tunnels: Murray, D., Lesser, M., & Lawson, W. (2005). "Attention, monotropism and the diagnostic criteria for autism." Autism , 9(2), 139–156. This is the foundational paper establishing the theory that autistic minds focus intensely on a small number of interests at the expense of broader attention. Ashinoff, B. K., & Abu-Akel, A. (2021). "Hyperfocus: The forgotten frontier of attention." Psychological Research , 85, 1–19. This study explores the phenomenon of hyperfocus (flow) as a distinct dimension of attention often found in ADHD and Autism. On Interoception (Body Awareness): DuBois, D., et al. (2016). "Interoception in Autism Spectrum Disorder: A review." International Journal of Developmental Neuroscience , 52, 104-125. A comprehensive review confirming that interoceptive processing is frequently altered in ASD, leading to difficulties in recognizing bodily states. Honma, M., et al. (2019). "Dysfunctional interoception in adults with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder." Psychiatry Research , 272, 807-810. This research highlights the link between ADHD symptoms and the inability to accurately perceive internal bodily signals like hunger. On "Task Switching" Costs: Monsonell, N., et al. (2014). "Task switching in autism spectrum disorders: A systematic review and meta-analysis." Research in Autism Spectrum Disorders , 8, 11-26. Discusses the significant cognitive "switch cost" autistic individuals experience when forced to change focus. Kofler, M. J., et al. (2018). "Executive dysfunction and developmental delay in children with ADHD." Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology . Discusses the deficits in executive function that make self-regulation and shifting attention particularly draining for ADHD brains. Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

🧠 Highly Sensitive Person (HSP): A Deeper Understanding Do you often feel overwhelmed by loud noises, bright lights, or strong smells? Maybe you’ve been told you’re "too sensitive" or that you need to toughen up. If this sounds familiar, you might be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). This trait, found in 15-20% of the population, describes individuals whose nervous systems are wired to process sensory input more deeply. Being an HSP is not a disorder —you won’t find it in the DSM. However, it plays a significant role in how people experience the world. Understanding this trait can transform relationships, helping couples and individuals navigate its challenges and embrace its unique strengths. 🔍 What is HSP? Highly Sensitive People possess a blend of qualities that make their experiences in the world different, including: Depth of Processing HSPs process all types of information more deeply than others. They are more reflective, often taking longer to make decisions because of their detailed thought process. This depth of processing includes both conscious analysis of conversations and unconscious gut feelings. Overarousability HSPs notice more than others in any given situation—be it emotions, noise levels, or even subtle smells. This hyper-awareness is advantageous but can also lead to overarousal and stress, especially in overwhelming environments. Emotional Intensity HSPs feel emotions intensely, both positive and negative. This heightened emotional responsiveness makes them empathetic, as they are more attuned to others' feelings. Sensory Sensitivity HSPs are highly sensitive to subtle environmental stimuli, which can help them notice potential dangers but also makes them more vulnerable to discomfort from loud noises, bright lights, or even certain foods. Risk Evaluation HSPs are excellent strategists and tend to plan ahead, carefully evaluating risks before acting. Their sensitivity tempers impulsive behavior, making them cautious adventurers 🌱 Helping Individuals with HSP For individuals, navigating the world with heightened sensitivity can feel overwhelming, but it also comes with a range of gifts that can be harnessed with the right support. Therapy for HSPs focuses on managing the challenges while celebrating the unique strengths this trait offers. Managing Overstimulation : One of the most common difficulties HSPs face is managing sensory and emotional overload. Whether it's loud environments, chaotic workspaces, or emotionally intense situations, HSPs can easily become overwhelmed. Therapy can provide practical tools for recognizing signs of overstimulation early and implementing coping mechanisms, such as taking breaks, finding quiet spaces, or practicing mindfulness techniques. Building Boundaries : HSPs often feel others’ emotions deeply, making them prone to taking on the stress or discomfort of those around them. Learning to set emotional boundaries is essential for preserving energy and preventing burnout. Therapy can help HSPs develop the confidence to assert their needs in both personal and professional settings, allowing them to protect their well-being without feeling guilty or selfish. Reframing Sensitivity : Many HSPs have been told throughout their lives that they’re "too sensitive" or that their traits are a weakness. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy or frustration. Therapy helps individuals reframe their sensitivity as a strength, highlighting how their empathy, intuition, and emotional intelligence can positively impact their relationships, work, and personal fulfillment. Handling Negative Feedback : HSPs are particularly vulnerable to criticism, which can be felt more deeply and linger longer than for non-HSPs. Therapy can help HSPs develop healthier ways of processing feedback, turning it into constructive learning opportunities rather than internalizing it as a reflection of their worth. Embracing a Rich Inner Life : Many HSPs have a vivid imagination and a deep connection to art, nature, and beauty. Therapy can encourage HSPs to embrace these traits as sources of joy and fulfillment, helping them cultivate practices that nourish their inner world, whether through creative outlets, mindfulness practices, or spending time in environments that inspire them. By working with a therapist who understands the unique needs of HSPs, individuals can learn to thrive in a world that often feels too intense. 🧠 HSP Overlaps with Other Neurodiversities HSP traits can overlap with aspects of other neurodiverse conditions such as autism or ADHD. For example: Autism : Both HSPs and autistic individuals can experience sensory sensitivities, though for different reasons. Autistic individuals may struggle with processing sensory stimuli, while HSPs tend to process stimuli more deeply on an emotional level. ADHD : HSPs may experience a similar sense of overwhelm in busy environments as someone with ADHD, but where ADHD might be characterized by difficulty focusing, HSPs are often over-focused on emotional and sensory details. Exploring these overlaps in therapy can help neurodiverse individuals and couples find ways to better understand each other and work together. ❓ Is Sensory Processing Sensitivity (SPS) a Disorder? Sensory Processing Sensitivity (SPS), the trait underlying HSP, is not a disorder but rather a natural variation in how the nervous system processes sensory information. While it can coexist with conditions like autism or ADHD, it is distinct in important ways: Empathy and Social Sensitivity : SPS involves high levels of empathy and responsiveness to social stimuli, traits that are often absent in conditions like high-functioning autism. This makes SPS more about deep social and emotional engagement rather than social difficulty. Attention Span : Although HSPs may be misdiagnosed with ADHD, they tend to have good concentration in quiet, calm environments. ADHD typically presents with a more consistent challenge in maintaining attention, regardless of the setting. Despite the challenges of overstimulation and emotional intensity, SPS offers a range of advantages, including heightened intuition, creativity, and empathy. For some, however, the trait can lead to vulnerabilities, such as anxiety or depression, particularly if they feel misunderstood or isolated. Therapy can provide valuable psychoeducational support, helping HSPs navigate these challenges while embracing their sensitivity as a strength. 🧠🧠 Understand Your Sensory Sensitivity: Get Expert Guidance with Our Sensory Assessment If you’re wondering whether your sensitivity might be part of a broader sensory processing pattern, you may benefit from taking the Sensory Processing Measure, Second Edition (SPM-2) . The SPM-2 is a widely recognized tool used to assess how individuals process sensory information in various environments, such as at home, work, or in social situations. What is the SPM-2? The SPM-2 measures different aspects of sensory processing, including how people respond to visual, auditory, tactile, and other sensory stimuli. It can help identify specific areas where a person may struggle with sensory integration, such as difficulty filtering out background noise or heightened sensitivity to touch. How Does It Relate to HSP? While the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) trait is not the same as sensory processing disorder (SPD) or other sensory challenges, there are overlapping characteristics. Both HSPs and individuals with sensory processing challenges may: Experience overstimulation in busy or noisy environments Feel overwhelmed by certain textures, sounds, or bright lights Require more downtime or space after social interactions However, HSP focuses more on emotional and social sensitivity , along with a deeper level of processing information, whereas sensory processing disorders tend to be more about how the brain interprets sensory input from the environment. How Can the SPM-2 Help? For individuals who are uncertain if their experiences stem from sensory processing difficulties or their HSP trait , the SPM-2 provides valuable insight. Under the guidance of our trained clinicians, this assessment can: Clarify if sensory sensitivities are part of a more significant sensory processing challenge Identify areas where targeted support might reduce overstimulation and stress Guide therapy to address both the emotional and sensory aspects of sensitivity, creating a more holistic treatment approach Start Your HSP Healing Journey with Nancy! As a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) myself, I understand the challenges this trait can cause and would love to support you on your healing journey! More About Nancy 📝 Schedule Your SPM-2 Assessment Today At the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center, our clinicians are experienced in using the SPM-2 to help individuals understand their sensory profiles. If you’re interested in exploring how sensory processing might be influencing your experience, we invite you to take this assessment as part of your therapeutic journey. Contact us to schedule an SPM-2 assessment with one of our expert clinicians and start gaining deeper insight into your sensory and emotional world. 🧸 HSP in Children vs. Adults Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) traits manifest differently in children and adults due to differences in life experience, coping mechanisms, and social environments. HSP in Children Highly sensitive children often stand out early on. They may: React Strongly to Stimuli: Loud noises, bright lights, or crowded environments can overwhelm them quickly. They may cover their ears or retreat from overstimulation. Be Emotionally Intuitive: Even as young children, HSPs are highly attuned to the emotions of those around them. They can often sense when a parent or peer is upset, even if nothing has been said. Struggle with Transitions: Shifting from one activity to another, like going from playtime to schoolwork, may be particularly hard for HSP children, who need more time to process the change. Require More Downtime: After social activities, these children may need more quiet, alone time to recharge. For children, these traits can be difficult to manage without the right support. Parents and teachers often misunderstand their behaviors as shyness or moodiness, leading to feelings of frustration or isolation. Early intervention—whether through parenting strategies, school accommodations, or child therapy—can make a significant difference in how an HSP child learns to manage their sensitivity. HSP in Adults As adults, HSPs have often developed coping strategies for navigating their sensitivity, though the challenges remain. Adult HSPs may: Have Better Emotional Regulation: Over time, many HSPs learn how to recognize their emotional triggers and manage them more effectively. They might still feel deeply, but they’ve often developed ways to avoid being overwhelmed by these feelings. Face Workplace Challenges: HSP adults might find office environments particularly draining, especially if they involve a lot of noise, social interaction, or pressure to multitask. However, their sensitivity can also make them excellent problem-solvers and creative thinkers. Maintain More Balanced Relationships: With age, adult HSPs can better communicate their needs in relationships. They are likely to seek out supportive, understanding partners who respect their sensitivity. Still Require Alone Time: Just like in childhood, HSP adults need time to recharge after social interactions or stressful environments. They may schedule alone time or quiet activities to prevent burnout. The key difference between HSPs in childhood and adulthood is the level of self-awareness. Adults are typically more equipped to recognize their own needs and assert them, whereas children rely more on parents or caregivers to create supportive environments. Therapy can help both children and adults find the best ways to thrive in their personal and social environments. 📚 5 Great Books on HSP The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron - The essential guide to understanding HSP traits and learning how to embrace them. Learn more The Highly Sensitive Person in Love by Elaine Aron - A must-read for HSPs navigating love and relationships. Learn more The Empath’s Survival Guide by Judith Orloff - Practical strategies for managing emotions and boundaries as an HSP or empath. Learn more Quiet by Susan Cain - An exploration of introverts, many of whom share HSP traits, and how to thrive in a noisy world. Learn more The Highly Sensitive Parent by Elaine Aron - For HSPs who are navigating the joys and challenges of parenthood. Learn more Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Start Your HSP Healing Journey with Nancy! As a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) myself, I understand the challenges this trait can cause and would love to support you on your healing journey! More About Nancy Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Do you want a relationship that feels stable, connected, and genuinely fulfilling? Maybe you’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, had the late-night talks, and tried to “figure it out” together. Here’s the twist: You’re not going to get there with logic alone. And emotions—on their own—won’t carry you across the finish line either. You could lay out every communication strategy... Use every neurodiverse relationship tool... Follow every single Instagram tip on emotional intelligence... …and still find yourselves looping through the same painful patterns. Why? Because logic might get you 10% of the way there. Emotion? Another 10%. But the other 80%? That’s where the magic lives: Curiosity. Acceptance. Vulnerability. And yeah—curiosity may have killed the cat… but it just might save your relationship. Real transformation begins when your partner shows up with genuine curiosity—not to fix you, but to know you. That’s when you feel like you matter—like you’re not just being heard, but truly wanted. That kind of presence invites you to show up more fully—without the mask, without the defenses— and feel accepted just as you are. This is exactly what neurodiverse couples therapy is designed to do. It creates the kinds of moments that shift everything: When shutdowns are met with patience and warmth—not pressure. When pain is allowed to exist in the open—without judgment or fixing. When effort, even the quiet kind, is truly seen and honored. Because this isn’t about winning an argument. It’s about feeling understood. Feeling safe. Feeling loved. And the beautiful part? You don’t have to figure it all out on your own. We’re here to walk with you—into something more honest, more connected, and more possible than you thought. Take the First Step Warmly, Harry Motro Clinical Director, Adult Autism Assessment Center and Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Let's get started today! 🔦 Spotlight on Lea Choi Specialties Neurodiverse Couples Counseling ADHD & Autism Relationship Coaching Emotional Regulation Executive Functioning Support Complex Parenting Challenges Multicultural & Intercultural Relationships LGBTQIA+, Poly & Kink-Affirming Learn more about Lea! Did you miss the last Blog? Click Here to Read Now! Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Cassie Clayton, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Cassie Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Most therapists guess about behaviors. We ran the numbers. We analyzed data from 650 people. They all took the CAT-Q (Camouflaging Autistic Traits Questionnaire) . We looked at every score. No guesswork. Just patterns. The CAT-Q measures how much someone hides autistic traits. 100 or more means a person is camouflaging. The average score was 128! That’s a ton of effort. Camouflaging means social performance. Masking is just one part. Camouflaging means watching, copying, smiling, scripting. It ’s exhausting. Most people endorsed this statement on the CAT-Q : “I always think about the impression I make.” Not sometimes. Always. That’s not just social anxiety. That’s survival mode. This affects relationships—big time. Autistic partners get drained fast. They may shut down after being around people. They’re not avoiding their partner. They’re recovering. Allistic partners often take it personally. They see silence or distance. They feel hurt or confused. Both sides feel disconnected. But it’s the camouflaging talking. We help couples see this clearly. We explore what camouflaging looks like at home. We help couples talk about it. We give language to the shutdown. We make space for the real self to come through. How much do you camouflage? Take the CAT-Q . It ’s free. It’s fast. It tells you something most tests don’t. Find out how much effort you’re putting into fitting in. You might be surprised. Here's the CAT-Q. You’re not broken. You’re just tired. We get it. We can help. 👉 Fill out our contact form to get started. Our team is here to help you take the next step. With care, Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Get Matched with a Therapist 🔦 Spotlight on Maring Hinga Specialties Autism, ADHD, AuDHD Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse) Blended Families Cassandra Syndrome Support Somatic Therapies Internal Family Systems Trauma healing Neurodiverse Couples Personal Experience Lived through a neurodiverse marriage that ended in divorce, gaining firsthand insight into the challenges of misaligned communication, emotional rhythms, and unmet needs. Over a decade into a new, hard-earned partnership, navigating the ongoing work of blending families, healing old wounds, and choosing connection over comfort—even when it’s hard. Brings real-world empathy to couples work, shaped by personal experience with both disconnection and deep repair, offering grounded support instead of quick fixes. Learn more about Maring! © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these questionnaires may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

How to Stop an Argument from Escalating—Try the Pause Card Your next argument needs a pause button, not a power struggle. Grab a blank card, draw a giant ⏸, and you’ve built the cheapest relationship tech on Earth. Rule 1: Flash it when you feel the argument tipping over to a fight. Then walk away from each other. Either partner can flash it—no debate, no eye‑rolls, no veto, no chasing. It stops spirals mid‑sentence, before sarcasm turns to scorched earth. Autistic brain avoids sensory overload. Allistic brain sidesteps word grenades. Both nervous systems exit fight‑flight and drop into “buffering.” During the pause, no one problem‑solves, fact‑checks, or doom‑predicts. You breathe. Sip water. Walk three blocks. Pet the dog. Journal your thoughts and feelings. Rule 2: Return only when heart rates are under 100 and voices can fit inside a library. Always return within 24 hours. If your heart rate is still > 100 after 24 hours, return anyway. But tell your partner you're not ready. That you care. That you need more time. But you will come back within another 24 hours. Once you're calm and able to return, the conversation will feel different. The same topic feels like a puzzle, not a battlefield. The "pause" card must be respected. If it's used to avoid, it loses its magic. Respect it and you can turn conflict into connection. Need some hand holding to make this work? Schedule with one of our therapists Because sometimes saving love is as easy as hitting “pause.” Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Get Matched with a Therapist 🔦 Spotlight on Heather Emerson-Young Specialties Neurodivergent Couples Autistic Individuals & Family Members ADHD & Executive Functioning Support Complex Trauma & PTSD Substance Use & Co-Occurring Disorders Co-Parenting Challenges Parenting Twice Exceptional Children Identity & Self-Acceptance Specialist in Neurodiverse Relationships Lived Experience Lived Experience in a Neurodiverse Marriage Mother of Two Unique Children Parenting an 18-year-old and a 13-year-old. Diverse Educational Background – Master’s in Marriage & Family Therapy, degrees in Communication, and a Doctorate in Education Experience Across Multiple Fields – Over five years in nonprofit work supporting the unhoused, LGBTQ+ communities, and individuals with learning disabilities Dedicated Educator – Adjunct professor at community college, undergraduate, and graduate levels Neurodiversity-Affirming Therapist – Using evidence-based and strength-focused approaches to support clients Learn more about Heather! © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these statements may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

See ADHD traits in a clearer, more balanced way. Our visual wheel helps partners understand challenges, recognize strengths, and strengthen communication. ADHD Trait Wheel Exercise Get Free Template Instructions If you're filling out a wheel for yourself... Look at each wedge and read both descriptions of the autistic trait. Notice that the first describes the challenging side of the trait while the other highlights it's benefits. Color the left half of the wedge red if the challenging side resonates with you and color the right half green if the positive side does. Fill in as much or as little of each half as feels accurate—more rings for stronger traits, less for milder ones. Look at which traits feel challenging and the ones the reveal strengths. Notice how seeing both sides helps reframe the trait in a more balanced way. Share it with your partner or therapist if you want—it can open up clearer, easier conversations about your needs and strengths. If you're filling out a wheel for your partner... Look at each wedge and read the two descriptions of the trait—one showing the challenging side and the other highlighting the positive side. Color the left half red if the challenging side shows up in your partner, and color the right half green if they display the positive side. Fill in more or less of each half depending on how strongly each side of the trait shows up in them—more rings for stronger traits, fewer for milder ones. Notice which traits seem the most challenging and which clearly show strengths. Seeing both sides together can help you reframe the trait and understand your partner in a more balanced, compassionate way. Share the finished wheel together—use it to start a conversation, build appreciation, and strengthen your connection. Example ADHD Trait Wheel

Holiday stress neurodiverse couples Holidays amplify everything. The warmth. The noise. The expectations. Set your shared expectations. Connection over perfection. Plan ahead for road bumps. Pick a pause signal. Two taps. Hand on the table. When it shows up, pause. No debate. Take a break and find a place to talk. Map the sensory load ahead of time. List hotspots: noise, lights, smells, touch, crowds. Plan supports: earbuds, softer lighting, layers, step-out spot, fidget. Exit and return. Regulate, don’t apologize. Pace the day. Anchor plans to events, not the clock. “After pie, we call your sister.” “Before we leave, we take a walk without family.” Keep talks small. Fifteen minutes. One topic. One decision. Handle monologues kindly. Agree on a cue. A light touch on the watch. A finger on the napkin. Speaker lands the point. “Thanks for the cue—I’m wrapping up.” Then invite others in. Different styles. A shared plan. Gratitude without gaslighting. Say what happened. Communicate feelings. Express appreciation for effort. “I see that you tried the plan. I’m disappointed, but I am grateful you tried. I know the room was loud.” Truth plus gratitude. Repair with dignity. Repair script. Speaker: “I own [behavior]. It landed as [impact]. I’ll do [specific repair] by [time].” Listener: “Thanks for owning it. What I need next time is [one behavior].” Short. Concrete. Family dynamics. Decide your lines. Topics to skip. How to step away. How to leave early. Tag-team. One leads. One scans the room. Switch every 30 minutes. Debrief fast. On the drive home. Three easy questions: What helped? What was hard? What we’ll do differently? Write it down. Try it next time. Why this works: Mixed-neurotype couples often misread each other. It’s not bad character. It’s different processing. Clear signals and repeatable supports break the loop. Ready to carry these habits year-round? [Click here to schedule a session today] Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these statements may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. 🔦 Spotlight on Lea Choi Specialties · Neurodiverse Couples Counseling · ADHD & Autism Relationship Coaching · Emotional Regulation · Executive Functioning Support · Complex Parenting Challenges · Multicultural & Intercultural Relationships · LGBTQIA+, Poly & Kink-Affirming · Identity & Self-Exploration Life Experience Lived Experience as AuDHD and in a Neurodiverse Relationship – Navigated firsthand the challenges of differing communication styles, sensory needs, and emotional processing. Bridging the Gap Between Neurotypes – Learned how to shift from misinterpretation and frustration to mutual understanding and connection. From Isolation to Communication – Overcame years of feeling unseen by developing relationship strategies that work for both partners, not just one. Reframing Love & Connection – Discovered that love isn’t always verbal—it can be expressed through small, meaningful actions. Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT # 151193 , Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Learn More about Lea! Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners References Crompton, C. J., Hallett, S., Ropar, D., Flynn, E., & Fletcher-Watson, S. (2020). Neurotype-matching, but not being autistic, influences self- and observer-ratings of interpersonal rapport. Frontiers in Psychology, 11, 586171. https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.586171/full Driver, J. 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Picture This: It's time to leave the house and your neurodivergent child is experiencing big emotions over a seemingly small detail. You’re caught between calming your child and keeping to your schedule. The stress builds as minutes tick by, and you feel the pressure of the day's demands upon you. Strategies to navigate these moments never seem tailored to fit your child's specific needs, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and at a loss of how to handle this situation in a way that you can feel good about. Sound familiar? Many parents of autistic/ADHD children face similar challenges and feelings. And now you have a chance to join with others who are on a similar journey. Introducing Our Neurodiverse Parenting Support Group 🤝 As parents, we are constantly multitasking, juggling different roles, and shifting gears. If you’re a parent of an autistic or ADHD child, you don’t have to navigate this journey alone. The Parenting Autism Therapy Center , our sister organization, offers a support group that provides a sense of community and understanding that can be difficult to find elsewhere. Hello! We are Adrienne Vincenti and Anne Hoglund , two of the caring team members here at the center. As fellow parents actively raising our neurodiverse children, we understand the unique challenges and joys that come with it. We will make sure you have a safe place to talk, learn, heal, and grow. Our group will be a place to join with others in similar situations to find connection, share your experiences, and learn new tools and strategies to help you better support your child and yourself. Location: Online Via Zoom Cost: $60/session for a 6-week series (Scholarships may be available) Day/Time: Thursdays, 11 a.m. to 12 p.m. PST Sign Up Here Session 1: Navigating Grief and Embracing Your Child In our first session, we will focus on adjusting to a new diagnosis and the feelings that come with it. Parents often experience grief and a range of emotions when their child is diagnosed as neurodivergent. We’ll discuss how to work towards acceptance and embrace the unique journey of parenting an autistic or ADHD child. Session 2: Advocating for Your Child Within the School System Advocacy is crucial in ensuring your child receives the support they need. This session will cover knowing your child’s rights, building positive relationships with teachers and administrators, and communicating effectively. We’ll also provide tips on staying informed, being prepared, and remaining persistent in advocating for your child’s needs. Session 3: Anxiety, Fear, and Isolation Anxiety and fear about the future are common among parents of neurodiverse children. In this session, we’ll explore allowing the situation to be what it is, instead of what you think it should be. We’ll discuss accepting the unknown and learning to enjoy the present without anxious dependence on the future. Session 4: Coping with Social Challenges Social challenges can be tough for autistic and ADHD children. We’ll identify common social interaction difficulties and discuss how to find supportive people for your child. This session will also cover effective communication, as well as teaching emotions, social skills, and coping strategies to your child. Session 5: Managing Emotional Dysregulation Emotional dysregulation is a significant challenge for both children and parents. In this session, we’ll identify triggers, develop emotional awareness, and practice mindfulness. We’ll also teach coping strategies, emotion regulation techniques, and the use of visual aids to help manage emotions. Patience is key, and we’ll discuss ways to cultivate it. Session 6: Preventing and Recovering from Parent Burnout Our final session focuses on you. Preventing and recovering from burnout is essential to being the best parent you can be. We’ll discuss what self-care looks like to you and how to find your people—building a support network and community that understands and supports your journey. Sign Up Now You’re doing an amazing job navigating the ups and downs of raising a neurodiverse child. Celebrate the victories, no matter how small, and be gentle and compassionate with yourself in the more challenging times. And remember: you are not alone on this journey. We’re here for you at the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center, supporting you every step of the way. Sign up for the Parenting Autism Therapy Center support group and start getting the support you need. With heartfelt best wishes, Adrienne Vincenti & Anne Hoglund Parent Group Co-Facilitators Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule With Whitney Take our Stress Test The APSI Questionnaire was specially designed for parents of autistic children. Take the APSI Questionnaire Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

🌟 ADHD Isn’t a Deficit—It’s a Different Way of Focusing ADHD isn't about a lack of focus—it's about a focus that operates on its own unique terms. Your ADHD brain is wired to zero in on what excites and engages you, unleashing incredible creativity and drive. But this same strength can also make it challenging to tackle tasks that don’t spark your interest, leaving you (and your loved ones) frustrated and misunderstood. It’s time to rethink ADHD as both a powerful tool and a challenge, and to understand how to harness its full potential. 🧠 The ADHD Nervous System: Unleashing Strengths and Overcoming Struggles The ADHD brain is a powerhouse of potential, driven by an interest-based system that can propel you to remarkable heights or present significant challenges depending on the task at hand. 🌟 The Strength: Hyperfocus and Creativity One of the most powerful aspects of ADHD is hyperfocus —the ability to become intensely absorbed in activities that captivate you. This laser-like focus can lead to extraordinary productivity, creativity, and problem-solving abilities. When your interest is piqued, your brain engages fully, allowing you to dive deep and excel in ways that others might struggle to achieve. 😴 The Struggle: Managing Mundane Tasks However, the same brain that excels in areas of passion can struggle with mundane, repetitive tasks . When a task lacks stimulation or personal relevance, it can feel nearly impossible to complete. This can lead to procrastination, avoidance, and a cycle of frustration where the inability to finish these tasks diminishes your sense of accomplishment and self-worth. 🥶 Another Struggle: Overwhelm and ADHD Paralysis Another significant challenge is ADHD paralysis —a state of overwhelm that occurs when faced with too many tasks or too much information. This mental shutdown can leave you feeling stuck, unable to move forward, and further exacerbates feelings of shame and inadequacy. By understanding these strengths and struggles, you can learn to navigate the challenges while leveraging the incredible potential that comes with your unique way of thinking. 🛠️ Therapeutic Interventions: Using NICUP and MEDS to Thrive In therapy, understanding that the ADHD nervous system is driven by interest allows us to develop strategies that not only manage symptoms but also harness the unique strengths of ADHD. Here’s how we approach it: 💥 NICUP: Aligning Tasks with Your Brain’s Natural Preferences NICUP stands for N ovelty, I nterest, C hallenge, U rgency, and P assion—elements that are key to engaging the ADHD brain effectively: Novelty : Incorporating new elements into routine tasks can keep your brain engaged and focused. We explore ways to introduce freshness into your daily routines. Interest : We help you connect your responsibilities with your personal interests, ensuring that even mundane tasks carry some level of engagement for you. Challenge : Transforming tasks into challenges or competitions can tap into your natural drive, making it easier to stay focused and complete them. Urgency : Creating realistic deadlines or adding time constraints can stimulate your brain’s need for urgency, helping you maintain momentum. Passion : We work to align your tasks with your core passions, ensuring that what you do feels meaningful and motivating. 🧘 MEDS: Building a Foundation for Mental Wellness While NICUP focuses on task engagement, MEDS — M indfulness, E xercise, D iet, and S leep—provides the foundation for overall mental wellness: Mindfulness : Practicing mindfulness helps you become aware of your thoughts and behaviors, enabling you to manage distractions and reduce shame-based thinking. Exercise : Regular physical activity is essential not just for your body but for your brain, helping to regulate mood, improve focus, and alleviate anxiety. Diet : A balanced diet supports brain function and energy levels, making it easier to maintain focus and manage ADHD symptoms effectively. Sleep : Quality sleep is critical for resetting your brain and preparing you for the challenges of the next day. We work on strategies to improve sleep hygiene, which can have a significant impact on your ability to manage ADHD. 💬 Addressing Shame and Self-Worth in Therapy ADHD isn’t just about focus; it’s also about the emotional toll that comes with it. Many adults with ADHD struggle with feelings of shame, inadequacy, and low self-worth because of the challenges they face in meeting expectations—whether their own or others'. In therapy, we work on: Building Self-Compassion : Recognizing that ADHD is not a flaw but a different way of processing the world. This shift in perspective is crucial for healing. Reframing Negative Thoughts : Helping you identify and challenge the negative self-talk that often accompanies ADHD struggles. Creating a Supportive Network : Encouraging connection with others who understand ADHD, so you don’t feel isolated in your experiences. ADHD isn’t about a lack of focus; it’s about focusing differently. The therapy we offer is not just any therapy—it’s specialized and deeply understanding because our therapists don’t just know ADHD clinically—they live it. Our team includes clinicians who are ADHD’ers themselves, bringing a wealth of lived experience to their practice. They understand the unique challenges you face because they’ve been there too. Through this specialized lens, we help you navigate challenges, build self-worth, and harness your unique strengths. Warmly, Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center 📝 Take Charge: Screeners to Better Understand Your ADHD Understanding your ADHD is the first step toward managing it effectively. We invite you to take one or more of the following screening tools to gain deeper insight into your symptoms and how they impact your daily life: 🧠 Adult ADHD Self-Report Scale (ASRSv1.1) A commonly used self-assessment tool for adult ADHD, the ASRSv1.1 consists of 18 questions designed to help identify ADHD symptoms. ⚡ Barratt Impulsiveness Scale (BIS-11) This 30-question screener focuses specifically on impulsivity traits, helping you understand how impulsiveness affects your life. 📋 Structured Adult ADHD Self-Test (SAAST) The SAAST covers 21 questions about concentration, impulsiveness, disorganization, and hyperactivity, providing a broad overview of how these traits manifest. 🧩 Copeland Symptom List for Adult ADD If you’re more concerned with attention deficit rather than hyperactivity, this 63-question screener zeroes in on symptoms related to inattention. Taking these screeners can offer valuable insights and guide you in seeking further evaluation or support. 📊 Stats of the Week Did you know? Prevalence: Approximately 8.7 million adults in the U.S. have ADHD. 1. ADHD Statistics And Facts In 2024 – Forbes Health Underdiagnosis: Many adults with ADHD remain undiagnosed. Studies suggest that less than 20% of adults with ADHD are aware of their condition. 1. Adult attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) - Symptoms and causes - Mayo Clinic 2. Adult ADHD: Statistics and Facts - WebMD Gender Disparity: While more men are diagnosed with ADHD, women are often overlooked due to differences in symptoms presentation. 1. ADHD in Women - WebMD Comorbidities: ADHD often co-occurs with other mental health conditions, such as depression, anxiety, and substance abuse. 1. Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder in Adults: What You Need to Know - National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) Impact on Work and Relationships: ADHD can significantly impact an adult's career, relationships, and overall quality of life. 1. Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder in Adults: What You Need to Know - National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) Treatment Effectiveness: Treatment, including medication and therapy, can be highly effective for managing ADHD symptoms and improving overall well-being. 1 1. Adult ADHD: Symptoms, Statistics, Causes, Types, and Treatments - WebMD Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

For Couples: Understanding the Highly Sensitive Person Do you often feel overwhelmed by loud noises, bright lights, or strong smells? Maybe you’ve been told you’re "too sensitive" or that you need to toughen up. If this sounds familiar, you might be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). This trait, found in 15-20% of the population, describes individuals whose nervous systems are wired to process sensory input more deeply. Being an HSP is not a disorder —you won’t find it in the DSM. However, it plays a significant role in how people experience the world. Understanding this trait can transform relationships, helping couples and individuals navigate its challenges and embrace its unique strengths. 🔍 What is HSP? Highly Sensitive People possess a blend of qualities that make their experiences in the world different, including: Depth of Processing HSPs process all types of information more deeply than others. They are more reflective, often taking longer to make decisions because of their detailed thought process. This depth of processing includes both conscious analysis of conversations and unconscious gut feelings. Overarousability HSPs notice more than others in any given situation—be it emotions, noise levels, or even subtle smells. This hyper-awareness is advantageous but can also lead to overarousal and stress, especially in overwhelming environments. Emotional Intensity HSPs feel emotions intensely, both positive and negative. This heightened emotional responsiveness makes them empathetic, as they are more attuned to others' feelings. Sensory Sensitivity HSPs are highly sensitive to subtle environmental stimuli, which can help them notice potential dangers but also makes them more vulnerable to discomfort from loud noises, bright lights, or even certain foods. Risk Evaluation HSPs are excellent strategists and tend to plan ahead, carefully evaluating risks before acting. Their sensitivity tempers impulsive behavior, making them cautious adventurers 💑 Helping Couples Understand HSP For neurodiverse couples, where one partner may be autistic or have ADHD, integrating an HSP trait into the relationship adds complexity but also depth. Here’s how this dynamic can show up: Sensory Overload : HSPs can find environments or experiences that seem neutral to their partner overwhelming. Whether it’s a noisy event or an emotionally charged conversation, the HSP partner may need more downtime or a change in surroundings to cope with the overload. Their non-HSP partner, however, may not experience the same level of intensity and can feel frustrated or confused by the HSP’s reactions. Counseling can help each partner understand and respect the other’s sensory needs, finding a balance between stimulation and calm. Emotional Processing : HSPs are deeply sensitive to emotional shifts in a relationship. A tone of voice, a word choice, or even an expression can trigger strong emotions. In neurodiverse couples, this sensitivity can clash with a more direct or less emotionally expressive partner, like someone on the autism spectrum, who may be less attuned to these subtle cues. This can lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Therapy can help bridge this gap, fostering communication that supports both the HSP’s need for emotional nuance and the non-HSP partner’s need for straightforward conversation. Conflict Resolution : Because HSPs feel emotions so deeply, conflict in the relationship can feel especially overwhelming. They may take longer to recover after arguments, need more reassurance, or even avoid conflict altogether to prevent emotional overload. This avoidance, however, can lead to unresolved issues. Neurodiverse couples therapy can provide tools for managing conflict in a way that doesn’t overwhelm the HSP, while also giving the non-HSP partner the space they need to express their thoughts more clearly. Building Empathy : On the flip side, the depth of feeling that HSPs bring to a relationship can foster a strong sense of empathy and emotional connection. Their sensitivity allows them to pick up on their partner’s needs, even if unspoken, which can create a more supportive and nurturing bond. Couples therapy can help partners use these strengths to their advantage, deepening their connection while also addressing the challenges that come with HSP traits. By creating a space where both partners’ needs are understood and respected, counseling can help neurodiverse couples find a new balance in their relationship. 🧠 HSP Overlaps with Other Neurodiversities HSP traits can overlap with aspects of other neurodiverse conditions such as autism or ADHD. For example: Autism : Both HSPs and autistic individuals can experience sensory sensitivities, though for different reasons. Autistic individuals may struggle with processing sensory stimuli, while HSPs tend to process stimuli more deeply on an emotional level. ADHD : HSPs may experience a similar sense of overwhelm in busy environments as someone with ADHD, but where ADHD might be characterized by difficulty focusing, HSPs are often over-focused on emotional and sensory details. Exploring these overlaps in therapy can help neurodiverse individuals and couples find ways to better understand each other and work together. ❓ Is Sensory Processing Sensitivity (SPS) a Disorder? Sensory Processing Sensitivity (SPS), the trait underlying HSP, is not a disorder but rather a natural variation in how the nervous system processes sensory information. While it can coexist with conditions like autism or ADHD, it is distinct in important ways: Empathy and Social Sensitivity : SPS involves high levels of empathy and responsiveness to social stimuli, traits that are often absent in conditions like high-functioning autism. This makes SPS more about deep social and emotional engagement rather than social difficulty. Attention Span : Although HSPs may be misdiagnosed with ADHD, they tend to have good concentration in quiet, calm environments. ADHD typically presents with a more consistent challenge in maintaining attention, regardless of the setting. Despite the challenges of overstimulation and emotional intensity, SPS offers a range of advantages, including heightened intuition, creativity, and empathy. For some, however, the trait can lead to vulnerabilities, such as anxiety or depression, particularly if they feel misunderstood or isolated. Therapy can provide valuable psychoeducational support, helping HSPs navigate these challenges while embracing their sensitivity as a strength. 🧑⚕️ Meet Nancy Rushing: Our HSP Specialist Nancy Rushing, one of our compassionate therapists, is a Highly Sensitive Person herself. She brings a deep understanding and unique insights into working with HSP clients. Her empathy and personal experience with this trait allow her to guide both individuals and couples toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships. 👉 Learn more about Nancy here 🧠 Understand Your Sensory Sensitivity: Get Expert Guidance with Our Sensory Assessment If you’re wondering whether your sensitivity might be part of a broader sensory processing pattern, you may benefit from taking the Sensory Processing Measure, Second Edition (SPM-2) . The SPM-2 is a widely recognized tool used to assess how individuals process sensory information in various environments, such as at home, work, or in social situations. What is the SPM-2? The SPM-2 measures different aspects of sensory processing, including how people respond to visual, auditory, tactile, and other sensory stimuli. It can help identify specific areas where a person may struggle with sensory integration, such as difficulty filtering out background noise or heightened sensitivity to touch. How Does It Relate to HSP? While the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) trait is not the same as sensory processing disorder (SPD) or other sensory challenges, there are overlapping characteristics. Both HSPs and individuals with sensory processing challenges may: Experience overstimulation in busy or noisy environments Feel overwhelmed by certain textures, sounds, or bright lights Require more downtime or space after social interactions However, HSP focuses more on emotional and social sensitivity , along with a deeper level of processing information, whereas sensory processing disorders tend to be more about how the brain interprets sensory input from the environment. How Can the SPM-2 Help? For individuals who are uncertain if their experiences stem from sensory processing difficulties or their HSP trait , the SPM-2 provides valuable insight. Under the guidance of our trained clinicians, this assessment can: Clarify if sensory sensitivities are part of a more significant sensory processing challenge Identify areas where targeted support might reduce overstimulation and stress Guide therapy to address both the emotional and sensory aspects of sensitivity, creating a more holistic treatment approach Book A Session 📝 Schedule Your SPM-2 Assessment Today At the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center, our clinicians are experienced in using the SPM-2 to help individuals understand their sensory profiles. If you’re interested in exploring how sensory processing might be influencing your experience, we invite you to take this assessment as part of your therapeutic journey. Contact us to schedule an SPM-2 assessment with one of our expert clinicians and start gaining deeper insight into your sensory and emotional world. 📚 5 Great Books on HSP The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron - The essential guide to understanding HSP traits and learning how to embrace them. Learn more The Highly Sensitive Person in Love by Elaine Aron - A must-read for HSPs navigating love and relationships. Learn more The Empath’s Survival Guide by Judith Orloff - Practical strategies for managing emotions and boundaries as an HSP or empath. Learn more Quiet by Susan Cain - An exploration of introverts, many of whom share HSP traits, and how to thrive in a noisy world. Learn more The Highly Sensitive Parent by Elaine Aron - For HSPs who are navigating the joys and challenges of parenthood. Learn more Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Start Your HSP Healing Journey with Nancy! As a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) myself, I understand the challenges this trait can cause and would love to support you on your healing journey! More About Nancy Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel