Most therapists guess about behaviors.
We ran the numbers.
We analyzed data from 650 people.
They all took the CAT-Q (Camouflaging Autistic Traits Questionnaire).
We looked at every score.
No guesswork. Just patterns.
The CAT-Q measures how much someone hides autistic traits.
100 or more means a person is camouflaging.
The average score was 128!
That’s a ton of effort.
Camouflaging means social performance.
Masking is just one part.
Camouflaging means watching, copying, smiling, scripting.
It’s exhausting.
Most people endorsed this statement on the CAT-Q:
“I always think about the impression I make.”
Not sometimes. Always.
That’s not just social anxiety.
That’s survival mode.
This affects relationships—big time.
Autistic partners get drained fast.
They may shut down after being around people.
They’re not avoiding their partner.
They’re recovering.
Allistic partners often take it personally.
They see silence or distance.
They feel hurt or confused.
Both sides feel disconnected.
But it’s the camouflaging talking.
We help couples see this clearly.
We explore what camouflaging looks like at home.
We help couples talk about it.
We give language to the shutdown.
We make space for the real self to come through.
How much do you camouflage? Take the CAT-Q.
It’s free.
It’s fast.
It tells you something most tests don’t.
Find out how much effort you’re putting into fitting in.
You might be surprised.
Here's the CAT-Q.
You’re not broken. You’re just tired.
We get it.
We can help.
👉 Fill out our contact form to get started.
Our team is here to help you take the next step.
With care,
Harry Motro
Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center
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Specialties
Autism, ADHD, AuDHD
Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse)
Blended Families
Cassandra Syndrome Support
Somatic Therapies
Internal Family Systems
Trauma healing
Neurodiverse Couples
Personal Experience
Lived through a neurodiverse marriage that ended in divorce, gaining firsthand insight into the challenges of misaligned communication, emotional rhythms, and unmet needs.
Over a decade into a new, hard-earned partnership, navigating the ongoing work of blending families, healing old wounds, and choosing connection over comfort—even when it’s hard.
Brings real-world empathy to couples work, shaped by personal experience with both disconnection and deep repair, offering grounded support instead of quick fixes.
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