If you're filling out a wheel for yourself...
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Look at each wedge and read both descriptions of the autistic trait. Notice that the first describes the challenging side of the trait while the other highlights it's benefits.
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Color the left half of the wedge red if the challenging side resonates with you and color the right half green if the positive side does.
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Fill in as much or as little of each half as feels accurate—more rings for stronger traits, less for milder ones.
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Look at which traits feel challenging and the ones the reveal strengths. Notice how seeing both sides helps reframe the trait in a more balanced way.
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Share it with your partner or therapist if you want—it can open up clearer, easier conversations about your needs and strengths.
If you're filling out a wheel for your partner...​
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Look at each wedge and read the two descriptions of the trait—one showing the challenging side and the other highlighting the positive side.
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Color the left half red if the challenging side shows up in your partner, and color the right half green if they display the positive side.
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Fill in more or less of each half depending on how strongly each side of the trait shows up in them—more rings for stronger traits, fewer for milder ones.
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Notice which traits seem the most challenging and which clearly show strengths. Seeing both sides together can help you reframe the trait and understand your partner in a more balanced, compassionate way.
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Share the finished wheel together—use it to start a conversation, build appreciation, and strengthen your connection.
Example ADHD Trait Wheel
