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Why do we feel like we are speaking different languages when we try to talk to each other?

Do your partner's words sound like "blah blah blah...", where you are not really hearing each other?

What hijacks our ability to communicate effectively?

​Do your conversations sound like:

Tammy: Look at me when I talk to you.

Tim: I am trying to but you're not making any sense. You said to walk the dog as soon as I felt like it. I never felt like it.

Tammy: You know that the dog needs a walk every day.

Tim: But you never said that.

Tammy: I've said that…

A photo of neurodiverse expert and therapist, Colleen Kahn. Colleen sees clients with Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center and is here to support you on your journey.


The neurodiverse and neurotypical communication styles can be broken down as follows:

  • Logical vs. Emotional

  • Concrete vs Abstract

  • Absolutist vs. Relative

  • Avoidant vs. Insistent

Furthermore, we send and receive information through the following filters:


  • our expectations and stereotypes,

  • our wounds or defensiveness,

  • our past experiences,…


The Double Empathy Problem is a concept that has been gaining more attention in recent years, particularly in relation to Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). It refers to the idea that both neurotypical individuals and autistic individuals may struggle to understand each other’s perspectives, leading to communication…

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