< Back Soy Kim Hello, it’s nice to meet you! My name is Soy and I am a Marriage and Family Therapist who earned my master’s in Clinical Psychology and studied Business during my undergraduate years. ​ I believe that therapy is a sacred space where one comes to learn to re-embrace their most authentic selves as well as their partner’s . These parts of us that were once labeled as cute, charming, or safe, have now become nuisances, being written off as “too sensitive,” “needy,” or “cold,” “disconnected.” Together, it is my hope to create a place where you can re-examine the strengths in yourselves and the other, remember what was alluring in the first place, and how might you renegotiate your relationship with new discoveries. My approach is balanced: Gentle yet firm, non-shaming and affirming, without enabling , and it is in my nature to support those who may feel stuck, unseen or unheard, to find their voice and bridge the connection where there is disconnect. ​ Neurodiverse Couples: Sometimes, it isn’t a mismatch in our personalities or values that impacts couples in challenging ways—sometimes, it’s our biology, and how does one change their biology?​ I offer neurodiverse couples the space, tools, and skills to both celebrate the relationship and also examine areas where there may be some challenges , learning how to respond to these challenges in a more connected way. Another part of my role is to help facilitate conversations that may challenge you to slow down to not just hear what your partner is saying, but to also take in their intention. Our world is so fast-paced, sometimes we forget to take a step back not just to listen to the words, but to hear what’s being said. ​ Another important piece to this is education and awareness: We will take the time to learn more about yourselves and how you relate to your partner, as well as understand the biology of your AS partner. The goal here is to help gain a better understanding about oneself and the other , so that when opportunities show up to connect, you can do so in a more attuned way. ​ I honor the relationship you have already built so far and look forward to seeing how else I can help nurture its growth. “When we reveal ourselves to our partner and find that this brings healing rather than harm, we make an important discovery—that intimate relationship can provide a sanctuary from the world of facades, a sacred space where we can be ourselves, as we are…This kind of unmasking—speaking our truth, sharing our inner struggles, and revealing our raw edges—is sacred activity, which allows two souls to meet and touch more deeply.” -John Welwood ​ Specialties (in addition to Neurodiversity): • Couples struggling with trauma • Communication and emotional intimacy • Parenting after child sexual abuse • Addiction & codependency • Affair recovery Clients: Couples, adults (young, middle, older), adolescents Modalities: Trauma-informed, Attachment-Based, Humanistic Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Harm-Reduction, Narrative Therapy, Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Relational Therapy, Psychodynamic ​ Languages: Fluent in English and Korean License: Registered Marriage & Family Therapist Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty areas: Discernment, Intimate Partner Violence, Neurodiverse Couples Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) already in mind, include their names here: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours.

< Back Monica Attia Neurodiverse Couples: What is often missing from traditional couples counseling is the acknowledgment of diversity in neurotype, culture, career, and family dynamics. Drawing on my own personal experiences, which involve navigating the complexities of cultural adaptation, major career transitions, and my own neurodiverse marriage, I am dedicated to supporting couples in similar situations. Our approach is rooted in acknowledging and celebrating these diversities, while working collaboratively with couples to create a harmony and synergy unique to them. In our sessions, we delve into the intersectionality of neurodiversity, culture, career, and family influences, with the goal of fostering a holistic approach to your relationship dynamic. Together, we explore the intricate interplay of these factors, creating a space where understanding, resilience, and celebration of differences form the foundation for lasting connections. To put it simply: It’s impossible to truly know someone without acknowledging what makes them different. And as the old adage goes... to know someone is to love someone. This is a therapy experience that not only acknowledges the diverse facets of your relationship, but also embraces them as catalysts for growth and harmony. My Roots: I am a first generation Egyptian-American lawyer turned therapist with ADHD and autism. My younger self struggled with the pressure to conform both culturally and neurotypically. I believed that I would only have a healthy life and happy relationships if I forced myself to be “normal.” I later learned that celebratory self-acceptance opens the door to meaningful connections. I now take pride in my neurodivergence. So much so, that if given the option, I wouldn’t switch brains. Even if it would have definitely made my childhood and adolescence easier. Why? Because my neurodiversity connects me to a community of resilient and amazing folks. It’s now my life’s mission as a therapist to support and celebrate other neurodiverse individuals and couples . This world wasn’t designed with our needs in mind, but this world is made better because we’re in it. You deserve to feel seen and understood, too. ​ NEURO-INCLUSIVE NOURISHMENT ​ The Paradox of Food Food is paradoxical. It’s necessary for survival, yet can feel like torture. It’s deeply personal, yet everyone around you has an opinion. It’s supposedly simple, and yet it’s often complicated. Food can simultaneously feel fun and connecting, and yet dangerous and isolating.For the neurodiverse mind, this paradox is understandably frustrating and overwhelming. Eating “properly” felt like a full time job that I never had enough energy for thanks to sensory issues, executive dysfunction, and the shame for not conforming to the “societal norm.” Societal Expectations Because, of course, the media, family, friends, peers and literal strangers, have a lot to say about our food and our bodies. It’s incessant, aggravating, contradicting, and completely unrealistic. It doesn’t take into account your specific history, trauma, medical needs, culture, neurotype, or preferences! So let’s opt out of those societal expectations, and figure out what you need together. Without judgment, without coercion, and with lots of empathy, because I’ve lived the struggle too. A nourished body and a peaceful mind are possible. ​ To read more about Neuro-inclusive Nourishment, click here. ​ Certificates Board registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #141520 (supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , clinical director) Certified in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Certified in Brainspotting (for trauma therapy) She Rocks the Spectrum Therapist Neuro-inclusive Nourishment Specialist Education Masters of Science, Marriage and Family Therapy - San Diego State University Post-Baccalaureate Psychological Science Program - University of California, Irvine Juris Doctor - Georgetown University Law Center Bachelor of Arts, Political Science - University of California, Los Angeles ​ Clients Neurodiverse women Autistic, ADHD, Highly Sensitive People Neurodiverse clients with eating struggles Neurodiverse couples Modalities In my therapy practice, I use and am trained in the following client-centered modalities as they align with my belief in the significance of emotions, personal narratives, and the mind-body connection in healing and personal growth: Emotionally Focused Therapy Brainspotting (for trauma therapy) Internal Family Systems Narrative Therapy License Associate Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, #139592 (supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , clinical director) Specialty areas: Sex-Kink-Poly, Trans, Assessment, ADHD, Autism, Eating & Autism, Teens, Sex, Brainspotting, Neurodiverse Couples, Internal Family Systems, LGBTQIA+ Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) already in mind, include their names here: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours.

< Back Adela Stone Adela is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who graduated with an MA in Clinical Counseling. She also has a Master’s degree in Journalism which she received in Europe where she is from. She speaks three languages and understands the need to tailor therapy based on cultural backgrounds. Her experience as an immigrant helps Adela to empathize with her client’s life challenges, and her early parental and spousal losses enable her to connect with others in mourning. It has also boosted her resilience and given her a worldview atypical for her age. She has gone through a big marital challenge herself during her current second marriage and has undergone couples therapy. She is now a part of a blended family which enables her to understand some of the tricky dynamics of step parenting. NEURODIVERSE COUPLES: The most common complaint of a neurotypical person in partnership with a neurodiverse person is the partner's rigidity. Often, the individuals in this type of relationship suffered attachment injuries. Making Sense of Differences I can help you shed light on some of your partner's behaviors and make sense of the hurt, misunderstanding and resentment you may feel. It is normal to go through grieving: for the past of your relationship that wasn't neurotypical as well as for the future of your union that will be always be a bit different. Your brains aren't wired the same way. Neuroscience research show us that People with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) may appear stuck or have shutdowns or meltdowns because they are often in a state of overwhelm in which someone with Asperger's is scared, frustrated, or angry, as well as withdrawn. This state is often referred to as Defense Mode. Defense Mode I can help you understand the Defense Mode that a neurodivergent person often employs so that you can help yourself or your partner from shutting down so often. Perhaps you know what the signs of Defense Mode are by now. The neurodivergent partner isn't trying to be mean. In fact, they are doing the best they can with the emotional resources they have, AND they can do better: for the sake of both of you as human beings worthy of love and acceptance, and for the sake of the future of your relationship. There are ways to help yourself or your loved one come out of Defense Mode. The two fundamental ones center around decompression time and trust building which is comprised of four necessary pillars that we can work on putting together. Your partner isn't being willful. Their definition of an issue you are dealing with just isn't the same as yours. Listening to Understand Talking in order to connect is a basic human need but we need to have a common shared understanding first. The message about what this shared understanding actually is can get blurred or corrupted. If you have a common language you can define shared values and shared expectations. Remember that forcing a conversation will lead nowhere. We can work on how to ensure an important conversation does take place though. I'm sure you know listening is important but are you actually using efficient and respectful listening with your partner? If you are, both of you will experience less frustration. Listen to understand, not to form a defensive retort in your mind as they speak. Understand what it is like to be them. I get that it isn't fair to you, the neurotypical partner, it feels as though you are doing all the work. I agree, it isn't fair but you are in a partnership and are here so I assume you do want to try. I am in the business of hope and positivity and would like to offer you some. I have seen neurodiverse marriages succeed. Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): Healthy Grieving as a Couple Couples going through life transitions Co-parenting Kink-aware couples therapy Couples with mismatched sexual desires LGBTQIA+ ally Differences in sexual taste and style Guidance through nonmonogamy/polyamory Blended families/step families Languages: Fluent in Czech, French and English Clients: Couples, Families, Young Adults Modalities: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Mindfulness-based Therapy, Gestalt, Positive Psychology, Existential Therapy, Art Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy. License: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT #143787, APCC #9260 Specialty areas: Sex, Sex-Kink-Poly, Neurodiverse Couples, Cassandra, DBT, Intimate Partner Violence, Blended Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) already in mind, include their names here: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours.

< Back Joseph Kaiser My Story Born and raised in the Redwoods of Northern California, I spent two decades in the advertising industry as a creative director, art director, and copywriter collaborating on regional, national and global campaigns. As a creative director nothing was more thrilling then collaborating with other creatives. Nurturing diverse perspectives and personalities to create high impact campaigns was a source of great personal and professional inspiration. Later I founded two small businesses; one in tech accessories and another manufacturing active toys developed for neurodiverse, neurotypical, and other children with special needs. I am a US Patent holder and was honored with a Silver Clio Award 2002, Bronze Clio 2002 and published in Graphis Design Annual 2004 and American Graphic Design 2003. My goal is to empower growth through the use of dynamic evidence-based theories and therapeutic rapport. Though I love my work with individuals, I am particularly passionate about couples work and how it can lead to individual well being and familial harmony. For better or worse, our earliest programming teaches us what we think marriage 'should' be. The truth is, marriage is what we make of it. We are the creators and, although painful at times, it can also inspire and empower. I am a firm believer that people heal and grow in connection to others. ​ Main Areas of Focus Neurodiverse Couples Some couples have yet to realize they are neurodiverse. When they finally do, a diagnosis can feel like a relief after years of pain and contention. One common complaint from a partner may be that they are being "gaslighted” by the neurodiverse partner; accused of being irrational and not having their experience or feelings validated. The neurodiverse partner can feel overwhelmed and misunderstood. Common differences in communication are logical vs. emotional, concrete vs. abstract, absolute vs. relative, and avoidant vs. insistent. The first step is to help couples identify just how differences in their wiring affect their interaction cycles. Next is to break blame and shame patterns and find acceptance in differences through a structured step by step process that helps you rediscover love and acceptance. ​ Couples De-escalation and healthy communication are a crucial place to start but only one dimension of couples work. Uncovering deeper unspoken truths and patterns by creating an environment of trust and acceptance is at the core of the healing process. Exploring and validating each partner's unique experience is essential to connecting. I help clients work past blame and shame. Major life changes like the loss of a job, the arrival of a child, or grief and loss, can bring about a shift in dynamics. My goal is to help couples grow together instead of apart while retaining their own identity. I provide a structured approach to couples therapy using elements of EFT, Gottman Method, CBT, Attachment Theory, Relational Life Therapy, Internal Family Systems and more. ​ Affair Recovery Unfortunately, affairs transcend race, culture, sexuality, age, and socio-economic background. Whether it be emotional or sexual, infidelity is traumatic. The betrayed partner can develop depression, anxiety, and symptoms similar to PTSD while the unfaithful partner can be plagued with guilt. My first step is crisis management to stabilize your lives so the therapeutic work can begin. Once the immediate crisis has settled, the real work begins. If partners are willing, compassionate, and persistent, it can be an opportunity for tremendous growth. Affairs may be a reflection of long-standing wounds or struggles that pre-dated the marriage as well as patterns that developed during the relationship. Understanding why the affair occurred is critical to getting on a productive path to affair recovery. Using a step-by-step process, I will compassionately steer couples through this difficult minefield. ​ Parenting And Co-Parenting It is in the best interest of their children for parents to move from an adversarial relationship to a cooperative and collaborative one. After 15 years of parenting and co-parenting of his own, I leverage my training and personal experience to help couples develop co-parenting plans and maintain a safe, secure, nurturing environment for their children to thrive. When done successfully, co-parenting counseling can improve the child’s confidence and self-esteem. Individuals As a compassionate professional, I am committed to helping individuals find healing, growth, and relationship transformation. This begins with building rapport which I believe is the wellspring of effective psychotherapy. I work with challenges such as depression, stress or anxiety, self-esteem, and career transition. Whether it is the cycle of life, health crisis, a move, a loss, relational struggles or change of circumstances, we can become overwhelmed. All too often there is a confluence of things that happen all at once. We thought we could handle it all but our body and psyche say no. I have a compassionate, accepting, curious approach that melds joining the client with various therapeutic methodologies and evidence-based practices. Other Areas of Focus Neurodiverse Couples Therapy & Coaching Trauma informed therapy Depression & Anxiety Treatment Life transitions High stress jobs Discernment Counseling Trauma-informed Therapy Pre-marital Counseling Depression and Anxiety Grief, loss, and shame Clients Couples of all ages Couples of all ethnic backgrounds Adult Individuals. Men, Women High achievers Modalities Internal Family Systems (IFS) Emotionally Focuses Therapy (EFT) Narrative Therapy Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) Person-Centered Therapy Gottman Method Family Systems Positive Psychology Attachment-based Culturally Sensitive Existential Family Systems Humanistic Mindfulness Motivational License Registered AMFT #133330 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty areas: Addiction, Discernment, Affairs, Sex, Assessment, LGBTQIA+, Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, ADHD, Blended, Parenting Neurodiversity, Parenting, Internal Family Systems, Eating & Autism, ND at Work Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) already in mind, include their names here: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours.

< Back Bassy Lee My Story ​ I grew up in a family and culture that does not encourage seeking help from others because it is perceived as a sign of weakness. However, seeking help at the right time is actually a strength because pain and mistakes can be avoided. After college, I worked as an occupational therapist and found myself falling in love in the helping profession. I am frequently drawn to couples work in my social circle. While exploring my second career path, I want to formalize my experience in couples counseling to help people outside my social circle. I want to share not only my knowledge and skill but also my experience in the ups and downs of marriage and life. ​ My Strength Being married for more than 20 years and a mother of one young adult child and two teenagers, I understand the unhealthy cycle in marriage as well as the emotional struggles in parenting. I am experienced in working with neurodiverse couples, cross-cultural marriages, couples with depression, addiction, anger issues, and affair recovery. Helping families move to healthier relationships is what I profoundly care. ​ NEURODIVERSE COUPLES: Intimate relationship is challenging for neurodiverse couples who have very different perspectives, communication styles, and personalities than each other. My previous work as an occupational therapist enhances my empathy and professional understanding towards couples facing neurodiversity issues. ​ Neurology affects how a person thinks, feels, speaks, and believes. It also make an impact on an intimate relationship when it affects every conversation a couple has, how they make decisions together, and how to raise kids together. ​ During couple relationship coaching, I take these factors into account to help improve communication and intimacy in the neurodiverse relationship. ​ Diagnosis is not necessary but it is sometimes helpful for deeper understanding leading to more appropriate therapeutic approach. These online assessments are optional for you: ​ Autism Spectrum Quotient (33-50 = possible AS) Empathy Quotient (< 30 = possible AS) Ritvo Autism & Asperger Diagnostic Scale (RAADS-14 ) (>13 = possible AS) Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): cross-cultural couples relationships parent-child conflicts spiritual formation in couples ​ Languages: Fluent in English and Cantonese Clients: couples and families, adults, adolescents, healthcare workers, church or community leaders Modalities: Emotion Focused Therapy, Person-Centered, Neuro-biology, Family Systems, Trauma-informed, Somatic therapy, integrative (holistic) psychotherapy, Dialectical Behavioral. ​ License: Registered Associate, MFTA #122672 Supervised by Claudio Silva, LMFT #82582 Specialty areas: Christian, Parenting, Sex, Neurodiverse Couples Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) already in mind, include their names here: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours.

< Back Blaze Lazarony My Story I’m Barbara Lazarony, but everyone calls me Blaze. For 20 years, I worked in the fast-paced world of retail, where, as a Senior Director, I led and mentored executives and managed $2.5 billion in sales in 42 locations across the United States. I was uber-successful with a sassy job title and a large office overlooking Market Street in San Francisco. The young girl born on a farm in rural Ohio thought she had finally made it! I was living as an overstressed workaholic. The signs that something was wrong with my health kept getting louder and louder until I couldn’t ignore them any longer; in 2003, I was told I had thyroid cancer , and I decided to resign from my job. Those were dark times for me; in addition to cancer, I was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression, anxiety, and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). It was a journey, and I sought support from modern and holistic medicine, plus a fantastic therapist and coach. The truth was, I had no idea who I was beyond my job title. ​ Sadly, no one in the medical profession back then told me I had both an acquired and genetic form of neurodiversity; it took me a while to discover that my brain was wired differently. I don’t have Autism or ADHD; however, I know what it feels like to be different from everyone else! ​ CANCER WAS THE SPARK I NEEDED TO IGNITE THE FIRE THAT CHANGED MY LIFE. –BLAZE LAZARONY That fire led me to become an Advanced Certified Integral Coach and start my own business. I loved being a coach for eighteen years but realized I could not help people achieve long-lasting success, fulfillment, and healing because I didn’t have the skills, training, and knowledge to get to the root of issues holding them back. To support people in the way I wanted to, I decided to go to graduate school at the age of fifty-three and earn my Master's degree in Counseling Psychology. ​ Since finishing my degree, I have navigated different types of cancer twice and supported my life partner through his own cancer journey. I also have a history of autoimmune disease diagnosis; therefore, I am someone who understands the deep well of grief that needs to be acknowledged and validated in therapy. ​ Main Areas of Focus Neurodiverse Couples I am committed to helping couples like you who are neurodiverse. I’ve learned how to love and be loved by my husband; we’ve been together since we were seniors in high school forty years ago. We have experienced grief, loss, the death of loved ones, financial issues, health challenges, and even being separated for two years, yet we continue to love each other. I offer my clients both the lived experience and the clinical training to navigate the challenges of neurodiverse relationships because I’m in one myself. So, if you’re trying to navigate relationship challenges, I can help. For example, many couples come to therapy with communication difficulties; perhaps they can’t understand one another or are having trouble communicating their needs to their partner, leading to misunderstandings and even conflict. Clients also express having problems managing their levels of anxiety or impulsivity, where one person constantly feels stressed or overwhelmed while the other is more relaxed. Finding a balance between giving someone space to feel their feelings and not trying to “fix” them is a topic we address in therapy. I help both partners in a neurodiverse relationship learn to understand each other better by using specific strategies for communication. Communicating openly with your partner about what you need and being willing to negotiate is essential. Let’s face it: all of us get triggered, and some strategies can help manage these triggers, especially in neurodiverse relationships. Key strategies include learning about each other's unique triggers and creating ways to manage overstimulation. If you are in a neurodiverse relationship and struggling, please reach out to me for help. You deserve to create a thriving relationship full of patience, love, and understanding. ​ Sensory Processing Difficulties Supporting clients with sensory processing disorders, such as Alexithymia, HSP (Highly Sensitive People), and Interoception difficulties, requires a comprehensive and tailored approach. As a professional, I thrive in supporting clients who have challenges processing and interpreting sensory information, leading to anxiety, discomfort, and feelings of being overwhelmed. Therefore, creating a safe and calm environment that minimizes sensory triggers and provides clients with the tools needed to regulate their sensory systems is essential. This may include sensory integration therapy, mindfulness techniques, and self-awareness exercises. As a practitioner, I strive to make this process enjoyable by incorporating fun activities like sensory play, relaxation exercises, and positive reinforcement. By supporting my clients with sensory processing disorders, I can help them develop the skills needed to thrive daily. ​ Adult Autism & ADHD Assessments I provide neurodiversity-affirmative assessments and therapeutic services to empower individuals to reach their full potential. I utilize a comprehensive process, including questionnaires, discussions, observations, and evaluations for adults to assess for Autism and ADHD. Including the in-depth MIDAS-2 and SRS-2 for Autism and the CAARS and Brown EF/A scales for ADHD. Together, we will explore and identify opportunities for your personal growth, acknowledging your unique Autistic and ADHD-filled gifts so that you can lead a life of success and fulfillment. In addition, I understand the special difficulties that neurodivergent individuals face daily. I strive to help my clients confront these challenges head-on, ultimately finding ways to communicate better, socialize easily, and feel more comfortable in the world. I am excited to be your advocate, mentor, and therapist on this journey; if I could have had help when I received my neurodiverse diagnosis, it would have made a world of difference. I would be honored to join you on your path toward hope and confidence! Specialties and Certifications Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor Neurodiverse Couples Specialist Autism & ADHD Assessment Specialist Advanced Certified Trauma Specialist Advanced Certified Integral Coach Brainspotting Certified-Level I & II ​ Life Experience Has personal experience in multiple neurodiverse relationships Worked with thousands of people as a Coach, Manager, Leader, and Mentor Former careers as an Executive and Business Coach, Executive Director in a non-profit, and Senior Director in retail-coaching people, as well as managing staffing operations and finances ​ Education Bachelor of Science in Home Economics, Fashion Merchandising, The Ohio State University Master of Science in Clinical Psychology, Sofia University, also earned a Certificate in Creative Expression ​ More about Barbara (Blaze) Diagnosed as Neurodiverse 20 years ago Offers Neurodiverse Couples Retreats Married for 35 years to her high school sweetheart, together for 40 years Cancer Survivor-3 times! Guest Lecturer on Leadership at California State University Northridge Co-Author of five books-including two about business and two of poetry Links to Blog Posts Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony's Blog Posts Specialty areas: Assessment, Sex, Sex-Kink-Poly, Discernment, Cancer & Autism, Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, Cassandra, Couples Retreat, Brainspotting Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) already in mind, include their names here: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours.

< Back Tony Traback Welcome! My name is Tony. I have been meeting with couples for over 20 years and been married for 17. I would be honored to help you. NEURODIVERSE COUPLES: At the outset, I want to recognize that relationships are not easy. In spite of the inherent beauty in the variety of life, Neurodiversity adds another level of challenge, especially if there is a lack of understanding. Communication can break down. Unhealthy patterns can destroy trust. Even happy life transitions can upset the good patterns we work hard to form. While relationships can be a profound source of companionship, during rough patches, we can feel unseen, unheard, and lonely; even our partner’s presence can become a source of irritation. Even been there? The good news is that you do not need to walk this road by yourself. There is hope. The truth is no one steps into a relationship or marriage with all the tools one needs to thrive. Especially a neurodiverse relationship!!! Most of us need help along the way. And this is where I come in. With me, you will grow both personally and relationally. You will live more fully out of your authentic self, accepting of yourself and your partner's differences. You will cultivate habits to help you flourish and identify barriers getting in the way. You will learn to say “yes” to the things that bring you life. Relationally, you will improve your communication and build intimacy so fights become conversations which lead to knowing one another more deeply. You will identify the destructive dances in your relationship and learn new ways of being together—so that you laugh and play together again. Don’t assume your current experience is all there is. ​ Education & Relevant Experience I grew up in a divorced home and a blended family. My parents and stepparents did not know how to communicate well. There was infidelity and lots of conflict. If I am honest, it was a mess. My parents needed help but never got it. And I think that early experience shaped much of why I have such a passion for working with couples. I attended Claremont McKenna College, studying politics, philosophy, and economics. After college, I joined the Peace Corps and served in Kenya, and then worked for four years with youth and their families as a counselor in Santa Clara County. I later earned a Doctorate in Ministry from Fuller Theological Seminary and a Masters in Psychology from California Southern University. I have spent the last twenty years trying to help individuals, couples, and families flourish mentally, emotionally, and relationally. I love working with couples and look forward to meeting you. Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity):​ Trauma Premarital Counseling Cultural Issues Couples Counseling Family Conflict Separation Therapy Life Transitions Grief Modalities Solution Focused Therapy Existential Therapy Emotion Focused Therapy Person Centered Clients Couples Individuals Families License Registered AMFT #134113 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. ​ Specialty areas: Christian, Addiction, Affairs, Neurodiverse Couples Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) already in mind, include their names here: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours.

< Back Leila Pirnia Neurodiverse Couples Insurmountable Problems? Being in a relationship where one, or both, partners has a neurodiversity can present unique challenges that may seem insurmountable at times . Perhaps you and your partner have been struggling to connect, and you're not sure how to move forward. You may feel like you're speaking different languages, that your partner doesn't understand you, or that you can't find common ground. ​ I've worked with many couples in similar situations, and I've seen firsthand the toll it can take on both partners and the relationship. One partner may feel like they're always walking on eggshells, trying to avoid triggering their partner's sensitivities, while the other partner may feel like they're constantly being criticized or misunderstood. Communication may break down, leaving both partners feeling frustrated, alone, and disconnected. ​ Perspective Taking to Bridge the Gap With the right support and guidance, it's possible to create a safe and loving partnership that enables each of you to thrive and grow. As a neurodiverse couples’ therapist, my goal is to help you both understand each other's perspectives and needs , and to find ways to bridge the gap between you . I'll work with you to identify areas of strength in your relationship, as well as areas that need improvement. We'll explore strategies to build empathy, trust, and communication skills, and we'll develop tools to manage conflict and build resilience. ​ I approach therapy with a focus on collaboration, compassion, and cultural sensitivity. I believe that each person and relationship is unique, and I strive to create a safe and non-judgmental space where you can explore your experiences and feelings without fear of criticism or rejection. I'll work with you to tailor our sessions to your specific needs and goals, and we'll work at a pace that feels comfortable for you both. ​ If you're struggling in your relationship and feel like you're at a crossroads, I encourage you to reach out for support. Together, we can work towards building a stronger, more connected partnership that brings out the best in each of you. ​ Parenting Neurodiverse Children, including ADHD, Autism, Anxiety, OCD, Giftedness, and Twice Exceptional (2e) As a parent, you seek insightful solutions for your unique child rather than labels and generalizations. You may have long recognized that your child differs from other children. Despite seeking answers in parenting books and receiving advice from friends and family members, you have yet to find lasting solutions to your child's behavior. In fact, some of the advice may have even caused setbacks or worked as temporary band-aids, at best. You may be in awe of your child's unique talents in certain areas, but at the same time, perplexed by their inability to complete certain basic tasks. You may observe uneven patterns in your child's development, leaving you uncertain about how to set appropriate expectations. To Push or Back off? You may wonder how much to push your child to their full potential and when that pushing may be jeopardizing their mental health or pushing them farther away. You may notice that teachers, friends, and family unfairly judge your child, leading to a negative impact on their self-esteem and sense of worth. It's possible that you have already enrolled your child in various programs or interventions, but you are still searching for a more comprehensive understanding of how to best support your child and your family. You may be hesitant to seek help, out of concern that a professional may not be able to perceive your child's uniqueness and individuality in the same way that you do. Toll on Relationships Meanwhile, this struggle with meeting your child’s needs can be taking a toll on your relationship with your partner and other children. You’ve been struggling to meet everyone else’s need in the family at the expense of your own and you recognize you need a better strategy. “Beneath every behavior there is a feeling. And beneath every feeling there is a need. And when we meet that need rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom. ” My Approach When working with families, I strive to integrate a personalized, emotion-focused approach with evidence-based research and best practices . This approach allows us to create a meaningful connection and work together towards positive change. I create a comprehensive and tailored plan of action that takes into account your family’s and your child's unique strengths and challenges, without solely relying on labels and diagnoses. I work with parents every step of the way and help them discover the “why” beneath their child’s behavior and guide them toward positive changes. I offer specific guidance to help parents engage with their children in ways that tap into their intrinsic motivation for growth and success. My approach is founded upon evidence-based neuropsychology, curiosity, thoroughness, and clinical integrity, to help your child and the family reach their full potential. In our work together, you will come away with a nuanced and individualized roadmap that is tailored to your child's unique needs, allowing you to make current and future decisions that are suited to their individuality. I am a firm believer that therapy has the power to unlock the world-changing potential of the neurodiverse mind, and I am committed to helping your child achieve their full potential. ​ Read more about our care for Twice-Exceptional Children . Specialties and Certifications Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor Neurodiverse Parenting Specialist Neurodiverse Couples Specialist Kids and Teens Therapist Cassandra Syndrome Specialist ADHD, OCD, and Anxiety Specialist ​ Life Experience Associate Psychotherapist at Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center and Autism Parenting Therapy Center. Training with Dr. Harry Moto, Clinical Director and Founder. Clinical training - The Center for Professional Counseling of Los Angeles. Trained from a psychodynamic, depth-oriented clinical theoretical orientation, integrating alternative modalities as needed such as family systems theory, attachment theory, and CBT/DBT/ACT. Clinical training - Outreach Concern. Work with children, teens, and families as a school-based mental health therapist at multiple school sites. Handle a diverse caseload of students with behavioral, social, emotional, and academic needs. Incorporate a strengths-based orientation to foster academic growth and help students reach their personal potential, both inside and outside the classroom. Graduate Research Associate working alongside Dr. Shelly Harrell in her Culture, Wisdom, and Resilience Lab. My primary focus was the development of a unique application designed specifically for mental health therapists. This innovative tool enables therapists to incorporate quotes from thought leaders into their therapy practices, promoting greater wisdom, insight, and resilience among their clients. Prior President, CFO, COO, and Founder of various tech companies, startups, and non-profit organizations. Learnings from the corporate world helped shape my passion for understanding people’s behaviors, motivations, and drives. These experiences have equipped me with a unique perspective and skill set that I bring to my work as a mental health therapist. ​ Education Bachelor of Science, Massachusetts Institute of Technology Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology with an Emphasis on Marriage & Family Therapy, Pepperdine University Other Areas of Focus High Achievers Tech Executives, Corporate Executives Midlife and Life Transitions First Generation, Immigrants and Children of Immigrants Trilingual: Farsi (Persian), Spanish, and English Clients Individuals Couples Families Teens/Kids Modalities Psychodynamic/depth-oriented psychology EFT (emotion focused therapy for couples) IFS (internal family systems) CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) including ACT and DBT Family Systems Dynamics Solution focused therapy License Registered Associate Marriage & Family Therapist, MFTA #138180 California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) Psi Chi, the international honor society in psychology. Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy, Inc. Specialty areas: LGBTQIA+, Muslim background, Sex-Kink-Poly, Addiction, Assessment, Parenting Neurodiversity, Parenting, Teens, ND at Work, Neurodiverse Couples, ADHD, Autism, Buddist - Spiritual, Cassandra, Discernment, Internal Family Systems, Children, Trans Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) already in mind, include their names here: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours.

< Back Liz McClanahan Living Neurodiversity I live in a neurodiverse family every day. My husband is on the Autism Spectrum and received his diagnosis later in life. I am so proud of my 26-year marriage and the fact that we were able to reconcile after a divorce and remarry. My two children are also on the Spectrum . They have taught me how differences can be intensely beautiful and frustrating at the same time. Having a neurodiverse marriage and parenting my preteen son and adult daughter give me a unique point of view to better understand and empathize with my clients and their challenges in a way that simply cannot be taught in books. ​ Podcast Listen to Liz discuss Neurodiversity on the Neurodiverse Love Podcast Understanding You “When you meet one person with Autism, you’ve met one person with Autism.” - Dr. Stephen Shore, autistic professor, author, ​ Everyone is different, every couple is unique. As a therapist, my goal is to understand you and your distinct relationship. Just because I have personal experience with neurodiversity does not mean I am automatically an expert on your relationship. I aim to learn who you are and how you relate to your partner in your own unique way. I can provide a safe, non-judgmental, empathetic space for couples to come together on a healing journey and work towards accomplishing their relationship goals. Over time, a couple’s relationship may start to break down when neurodivergent differences turn into dysfunctional patterns resulting in disagreements, loneliness, hopelessness, and pain. The good news is that there is hope, I help couples navigate their relational patterns, bridge communication gaps, and facilitate an understanding and honoring of the couple’s differences. ​ Neurotypical Partner Challenges As an NT partner myself, I empathize with the pain that can come from communication break down and misunderstandings in a neurodiverse relationship. In the past, I felt that no one understood what I was going through, including therapists who lacked neurodiverse training or experience. This only compounded my pain and thoughts that my marriage could not get any better. My spouse and I have since learned how to make our marriage work in our own way. I understand him and his needs the best way that I can and vice versa . For this reason, I am passionate about helping couples do the same. I can offer a beacon of hope for couples because I know change within a relationship is possible. Neurodiverse Couple Challenges There are some unique aspects of how the AS brain processes and expresses information that differs from the NT brain; although this may bring tremendous advantages in certain areas of life, it can make relating to others and everyday activities difficult and stressful for both partners. Topics which are common in neurodiverse couples that I work with include: Alexithymia - a person has difficulty identifying and expressing emotions Executive functioning capabilities - cognitive processes Sensory issues - identifying when AS partner feels overstimulated Masking- AS partner has high-stress levels while trying to “pass” as neurotypical Transitions - AS partner has high-stress levels transitioning to different topics or activities ·Communication - both partners misunderstand each other’s behavior and needs Defense mode - understanding flight, fight, or freeze mode and how to cope Past emotional wounds - AS partner not feeling accepted, being bullied, or internalizing negative labels from the neurotypical society (trauma) Empathy - AS partner may struggle to understand how their partner is feeling These aspects of the Neurodiverse partner do not make that person good or bad. My job is to help you bridge the gaps that exist between you ; in emotional processing, getting things done (executive function), managing the world you live in (sensory issues), making transitions, communicating, reacting to each other (with less defensiveness), and healing wounds. Neurodiverse Parenting Parenting is not easy! Perhaps you, your spouse, or your children are on the Autism Spectrum, and you feel stuck, frustrated, sad, lost, and don’t know where to turn for help. I have over 24 years of personal experience with raising Autistic children alongside my AS spouse. Neurodiverse families have parenting issues specific to them that an experienced therapist is trained to treat. I work with couples to cope with the complexities of parenting. As parents, we all want our children to be successful, happy, and healthy. Some families have the added stress of co-parenting in a blended family or parallel parenting. I am here to listen, understand, and coach parents to navigate high conflict situations, build their parenting skills, and create a family environment where each family member can thrive. Whether your goals are to reduce conflict, reduce stress, or increase communication; I guide parents through techniques aimed at building a stronger relationship with their children and creating the results desired. ​ Education and Licensing I am a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and a Neurodiverse Couples Coach. I earned my master’s degree in Clinical Psychology from Azusa Pacific University (APU). My professional career is dedicated to helping neurodiverse couples to heal emotional wounds, improve communication, reduce conflict, and increase intimacy. Areas of Focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): General Couples Therapy Intimacy, Sex Affair Recovery Anger Management Divorce Life Transitions Families including Parenting, Co-Parenting, Blended Families Depression, Anxiety, Mood Disorders, Personality Disorders Clients Couples, Families, Men, Women Modalities Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Narrative Therapy, Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT), Person-Centered Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Family System Therapy, Positive Psychology, Trauma-informed Therapy License Registered Associate Marriage & Family Therapist, AMFT #133330 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. ​ Specialty areas: ADHD, Autism, Parenting Neurodiversity, Discernment, Internal Family Systems, Neurodiverse Couples, ND at Work, Parenting Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) already in mind, include their names here: Send Thanks for reaching out! 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< Back Nicole Knowlton Neurodiverse Couples Nicole was in a long-term relationship where neurodiversity was present . Nicole understands and believes that it is vital to identify solid communication strategies between partners, using specific techniques for handling relationship troubles, whether perpetual or solvable. These techniques encourage the understanding that emotions are important, there is no absolute reality, only two subjective ones, acceptance is crucial, and a development of fondness and admiration within the relationship. Nicole encourages couples to celebrate the small steps towards a larger goal and helps keep focus on what the couple can do to set themselves up to thrive. ​ Parenting Neurodiverse Children Nicole has personal experience as a mother of a neurodivergent teen, and appreciates that parenting neurodivergent children can be exponentially intense. Nicole has navigated the educational battles to obtain IEP and 504 plans, and understands the unique family environment needed to help families to support each other. She teaches parents positive parenting skills that encourage the use of “Why?” to address the child’s behavior, focusing on an understanding of the purpose that behavior serves the child and what they are trying to tell you. Allowing the behavior to inform what needs to be put into place ahead of time to help the child manage the particular challenge, and also ensuring that consequences are related to the behavior/issue as a last resort to addressing behavior. Nicole encourages parents to catch their child’s positive behaviors whenever possible and to name specifically what they see so as to encourage the positive behavior to reoccur. Other Areas of Focus Addiction Anger Management Major Life Transition Support, co-parenting, blended families, separation/divorce Parent Coaching Sex Therapy​ Neurodiverse Couples Retreat - Nicole Knowlton specializes in virtual couples retreats offered over Zoom or in-person couples retreats in Southern California. ​ Education Undergraduate degree in Business, Double Master’s degree in Psychology and Alternate Dispute Resolution Juris Doctorate degree ​ Clients Couples Families Modalities Coaching Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) Gottman Method Internal Family Systems (IFS) Solution Focused Brief (SFBT) Strength-Based Structural Family Therapy More about Nicole In addition to her couples therapy and coaching, Nicole has a mediation private practice in Irvine, California. She also facilitates Batterer’s Intervention Groups, teaches parenting and anger management groups, and helps clients and families combat addiction. License Registered Associate, AMFT# 122657 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty areas: Addiction, Assessment, Blended, Autism, Parenting Neurodiversity, ND at Work, ADHD, Neurodiverse Couples, Internal Family Systems, DBT, Couples Retreat, Parenting Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) already in mind, include their names here: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours.

< Back Steve Howard “The world needs different kinds of minds working together.” Temple Grandin Improving Neurodiverse Relationship Skills Steve has personal experience working with neurodiversity and believes that neurodiverse couples can learn new skills to help them break old patterns and relate to one another in new ways. To some extent, all couples enter into their relationships with a lack of interpersonal skills and insufficient knowledge of who their partner is as a person. For neurodiverse couples, this skill deficit is magnified by being uninformed about how they are differently wired. Being uninformed often leads to unhealthy ways of seeing and reacting to their partner. It creates separateness where you are hoping to build togetherness. With Steve, each week in therapy, you will learn skills to help improve the intimacy that will become the glue that binds you together. Steve will be careful to facilitate the skill building in a way that honors the dignity of both partners. Both-And Thinking Steve is committed to using evidence-based therapeutic practices to work with neurodiverse couples, helping them shift their approach to life from “either-or” to “both-and” thinking . What this means for neurodiverse couples is BOTH of you are right in some way AND you can learn to use better relationship skills. This new approach will empower your different minds to work together for the good of your relationship. ​ "DBT" for Helping Neurodiverse Couples He has been trained in using Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to teach neurodiverse couples how to navigate life’s emotional challenges with a more skillful approach. DBT teaches practical skills to help people live with greater mindfulness of their emotional life and a non-judgmental approach to their relationships. Some of the elements of this approach include:​ Using the "Wise Mind" in your relationship Learn skills to effectively manage negative emotions “Reconditioning” a difficult situation so it triggers more effective emotional responses and intensity Using Mindfulness to transform communication Expectations He believes that many of the problems faced by neurodiverse individuals are related to expectations of modern society versus limitations imposed by the condition . By openly discussing this expectation gap without harsh judgment, couples can begin to reset expectations in their relationship in a new constructive way. This will help both partners enter the thought (and emotional) world of their partner in order to improve the health of the couple’s relationship. ​ Anger Management/Mindfulness ​ Anger can be a toxic force that slowly builds in a neurodiverse relationship and ultimately interferes with the growth of intimacy. This usually takes the form of meltdowns and shutdowns. For couples, learning to manage anger will help you grow in ways that feel nurturing and address the underlying hurt or pain that is driving the anger in the first place. Steve will bring his extensive experience teaching anger management to prisoners into his work with your relationship. Steve will teach you to use mindfulness skills to identify your anger triggers. As a couple, you can help each other create a personal “ Anger Meter” as a visual aid that helps you monitor your anger. Together, you will learn how to use a “time out” to give each other some space to regulate your emotions so you can eventually reconnect. Couples must remember that anger is an emotion that we all experience, sometimes more or less intensely due to your brain wiring. Steve will help you use the skills you learn in therapy to understand the message behind the anger and allow that message to provide greater understanding and intimacy with your partner. ​ About Steve: Steve is a Neurodiverse Couples Coach and a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist who graduated from the Counseling Psychology program at CSU Bakersfield . He also holds a B.A. in Psychology from Pacific Lutheran University in Tacoma, Washington. He has experience providing therapy and counseling to couples/individuals/groups through on-line therapy as well as in-person in the community of Bakersfield, California. ​ Other areas of focus General Couples Therapy Blended Family Issues Separation and Divorce Anger Management Working Through Anxiety ​ Modalities Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Dialectical Behavior Therapy Humanistic Therapy ​License MS, Registered Associate, AMFT 110174 Supervised By Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed By New Path Couples Therapy, Inc. Specialty areas: Christian, Blended, Parenting, Discernment, Neurodiverse Couples, Affairs, Autism, DBT Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) already in mind, include their names here: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours.

< Back Kristin Herbert Background and Education Conceived accidentally during the “summer of love,” I was surrendered by my birth parents as an infant, then adopted and raised as one of two adopted children. Reunited with my birth parents and extended families on both sides as an adult has resulted in an inconclusive, ongoing self-study of nature and nurture. Following my divorce as a young adult, I earned an MFA in Poetry at the University of Pittsburgh in an effort to turn my heartbreak into poetry. My writer’s resume, in addition my own published poetry, fiction, journalism, and creative nonfiction, includes working as a university instructor, in academic and literary book publishing, as a massage therapist, and at educational nonprofit for underserved populations including foster youth. After my second divorce, as a single parent navigating complex relational trauma recovery and learning to accommodate and support the neurodivergence in my family, I earned a Master’s degree in clinical psychology and began training to became a therapist. Now, I am ten years along in a blended family that includes a spectrum of neurodiverse brains and nervous systems: those of my own and my partner, our combined four children, and our dog and cats. I find inspiration and meaning from my ongoing work with an array of clients who share the courage to turn inward in order to better understand their experience and relate ever more deeply to themselves and the people they love. ​ My Approach Imagine two different nervous systems, two divergent ways of experiencing and being in the world. Often, we find ourselves polarized, stuck in an either-or mentality, vying with the person we love most for our goodness, our truth, our most authentic way of being and being seen. In an effort to achieve a shared perspective, we may lose ourselves and invalidate one another. Couples therapy interventions that work for neurotypical couples can fall flat when neurodiversity is in the mix, leaving both partners feeling unseen, misunderstood, exhausted, and even hopeless. But there is hope, with a couples therapist who is dedicated to understanding the ways in which your neurodiversity affects your relationship. My approach is informed by curiosity and attachment theory, as well as the ability to hold complexity and paradox. Moving from an either-or to a both-and perspective, our minds can expand to imagine another point of view without sacrificing our own. Nowhere is this opportunity more present than in a neurodiverse relationship. I will help you discover the best of both worlds where each of you make sense, all of your feelings are valid and important, and you can turn to one another with vulnerability. We will work in session to create shared experiences of safety so your nervous systems can re-set, and your brains and bodies can form new pathways to connection. Highly Sensitive Nervous Systems Neurodivergent minds often run highly sensitive nervous systems. Whether diagnosed (or mis-diagnosed) with autism spectrum disorder (ASD), attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), giftedness, twice-exceptional learners (2e), anxiety, depression, relational trauma, obsessive-compulsive disorder, or any number of other labels, including self-identified “creatives,” many people report experiencing sensory overload. I understand how that feels and how it can impact relationships. I will help you identify and craft ways to support your nervous system and those of your loved ones in your home, relationships, and life. Trust, Infidelity and Betrayal When we love, we are vulnerable. When trust is broken, it can be hard to imagine moving forward. But it’s important to process what happened. Because the rupture was relational, so too must the healing be relational. We’ll work together to understand the factors that contributed to this traumatic experience. We will grieve what was lost and tend to your wounded parts. Whether you are the betrayed or the betrayer, whether you choose to move through this traumatic experience separately or together, you will not be alone. I will help you make sense of what happened and re-establish safety and self-esteem. Blended families ​ My lived experience comprises adoption, biological relations, step-families, divorce, blended families, and neurodiversity. We will work together to map and understand your family of origin patterns, to express your conscious beliefs about what love means, and to explore how your behaviors reveal unknown parts about yourselves and one another. Viktor Frankl writes, “there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” In session, we will explore the space between. Other Areas of Focus Supporting neurodiverse couples Exploring and fine-tuning Coping Skills Understanding and Healing Family Dysfunction Establishing Healthy Boundaries Increasing Connection and Intimacy Implementing Self-Compassion and Self-Care Processing Relational Trauma (cPTSD) & Post-Traumatic Growth Mapping Attachment Patterns Processing Grief and Ambiguous Grief Healing from Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma Discernment Counseling Processing Grief related to Infertility and/or Miscarriage Supporting Caregivers Identifying and Healing Burnout Improving Co-Parenting Supporting Life Transitions Coaching Parents, including Single Parents, Co-parents, Adoptive Parents, and Step-parents Exploring Identity LGBTQIA+ Allied Clients Couples Individuals (including Single Parents) Families (including Divorced and Bended Families and Single-Parent Families) Modalities Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples Existential Therapy Experiential Therapy Attachment-based Therapy Compassion-focused, Humanistic Therapy Culturally Sensitive Therapy Internal Family Systems (IFS) Narrative Therapy Psychodynamic/ Relational Therapy Trauma-Informed Therapy Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) Coaching License Licensed MFT #141308 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty areas: Cassandra, Sex-Kink-Poly, Parenting Neurodiversity, Emotion Focused Therapy, LGBTQIA+, Trans, Buddist - Spiritual, Affairs, Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, ADHD, Blended, Parenting, Discernment, Sex Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) already in mind, include their names here: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours.

< Back Harry Motro About: Dr. Motro has made working with neurodiverse community the centerpiece of his life. He has extensive personal experiences with neurodiversity and believes that typical couples counseling falls far short for neurodiverse couples. Accordingly, he has dedicated his practice to providing life-changing counseling for these special but often misunderstood couples. ​ His background includes the following: ​ he spent his earlier work life in technology and then chose a second career in helping others, he is the founder and clinical director of the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center where he collaborates with other therapists equally dedicated to the neurodiverse community. he has collaborated with his team to develop specialized tools to assist neurodiverse couples, he serves as an adjunct graduate school psychology professor where he has incorporated neurodiverse couples counseling into the teaching curriculum, he is a clinical supervisor of other neurodiverse couples therapists, he serves on non-profit boards including, New Path Couples Therapy and Therapy in Motion. he has been married 40 years and the proud parent of adult children , and he has received specialized couples training at the Master's & Doctoral levels. His interest in neurodiverse couples is rooted in his personal life, his prior work in technology, and because his psychology practice is based in Silicon Valley, a neurodiversity hot spot. ​ NEURODIVERSE COUPLES: Most neurodiverse couples start off woefully uninformed about their differences and how to support and accept each other. ​ This misinformation leads to misunderstanding, which eventually morphs into the belief that the other partner is purposely cruel or simply uncaring. Emotional walls come up and intimacy fades and then dies. The most important part of our work in therapy is to free you from this painful blame and shame cycle. We work to gradually reframe how you understand and see each other, reshaping your patterns, and allowing a new relationship to blossom. ​ You can read more on his approach to Neurodiversity at: https://www.harrymotro.com/therapy-for-neurodiverse-couples . Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity):​ General Couples Therapy Affair Recovery Sex addiction Modalities: Trauma-focused Neurodiverse Couples Therapy , Emotion Focused Therapy, Imago Therapy, Gottman, Person-Centered, Existential, Couples-Based CBT, Behavioral, Internal Family Systems, Experiential, Positive Psychology ​ Clients: Couples and Families only ​ License: California / LMFT53452 Specialty areas: Christian, ND at Work, Discernment, Internal Family Systems, Emotion Focused Therapy Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) already in mind, include their names here: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours.

< Back Colleen Kahn Welcome, I am so delighted you are here. ​ My Passion for Neurodiverse Couples I am dedicated to helping neurodiverse couples find a new way to love and appreciate each other. ​ Understanding Neurodiversity First, let me cover the basic terms. A neurodiverse relationship is where at least one partner is neurodivergent (Autism, ADHD, Dyslexia, Dysgraphia, Down’s Syndrome...). This means that you and your partner are different; not better or worse. ​ Neurodiversity may be a new concept for you. Maybe it's what you have been searching for but didn't know. It may be an awakening to the difficulties you have been experiencing in your relationship but could not quite articulate. ​ In fact, many neurodivergent adults have gone undiagnosed for most of their lives. Neurodivergent is “the idea that people experience and interact with the world around them in different ways; there is no ‘right’ way of thinking, learning and behaving, and differences are not viewed as deficits,” according to Harvard Health. ​ Please know that I recognize the distinct challenges you face. My personal experience has provided me with a first-hand rich understanding of the intricacies of neurodiversity. ​ Communication Struggles ​ Neurodiverse couples often struggle with communication breakdowns . The neurotypical partner may struggle to understand the neurodivergent partner's unique needs. The neurodivergent partner may face challenges with ADHD/Autism in expressing themselves in a way that resonates with their neurotypical partner. This two-sided communication breakdown is called the double empathy problem. Understanding this helps reduce blaming one person for the problem. This is the tip of the iceberg so to speak and one of many issues that you may be dealing with. I truly understand the frustrations that can arise. ​ A Safe Place for Healing I am here to provide a safe and understanding space for you to explore your issues and relationship. My therapeutic approach offers a clear road map that emphasizes: ​ fostering mutual understanding and compassion, enhancing communication skills, providing exercises and tools that you can work on separately and together, and embracing the unique strengths that each partner brings to relationships. ​ Neurotypical Partners (Cassandra Syndrome) My journey is not just a professional one but also deeply personal. If you are in a relationship with a neurodivergent partner, it may feel isolating, frustrating, and exhausting. You may spend a lot of time and energy trying to make sense of your partner's behaviors and your reactions. You may seek books, podcasts, or any article to understand why your relationship is different. You may feel misunderstood, isolated, disconnected, and hopeless. I have been there. I have been married for 19 years. Every experience is unique. You are so special. You deserve to be seen and heard. Supporting Autism and Cancer: I recognize the importance of a compassionate, supportive ally for autistic individuals who have been diagnosed with cancer. I had the honor and privilege to work bedside with neurodivergent pediatric oncology patients and their families at Stanford Children’s Hospital. My firsthand experience at Stanford, expertise in supporting neurodivergent individuals, and being a stage four cancer survivor myself allows me to be a source of comfort and strength on the path to healing. I am here to provide a trusted environment that acknowledges and addresses your unique needs when facing a cancer diagnosis. ​ You can read more about Cancer and Autism by clicking here . ​ About Me: I bring a unique blend of professional expertise, passion and personal experience to my practice. I am a proud mother of two sensationally strong willed teenagers. I am also a former software engineer turned therapist. My journey took a fascinating turn from the world of coding to the intricate landscapes of the human mind. ​ I earned a Bachelor of Arts degree in Communications and forged a successful IT career starting at Apple Computers. My love of learning led me into engineering and product management. I became the first female self-taught software engineer at Alcatel TeleCommunications. My team dubbed me the engineer whisperer. I was the essential communication bridge between our neurodiverse engineering team and our neurotypical sales and marketing team. I eventually learned that my heart yearned for something more – a meaningful connection with people and the opportunity to contribute to their lives in a significant way. Driven by my desire to help others, I embarked on a transformative path towards becoming a therapist and returned to school. I received my Master's in Marriage and Family Therapy and Art Therapy from Notre Dame de Namur University. While in school, I cultivated my passion for mental health and overall well-being. ​ ​ How I Work: My therapeutic neuro-informed approach covers a broad range of modalities. I tailor each session to meet the unique needs of each couple. My work is rooted in a client-centered, humanistic approach emphasizing compassion, building understanding, inclusive communication, empowerment with respect and dignity. In our sessions, we'll work on enhancing your relationship through mindfulness and effective communication. Let's navigate the challenges together so you can build a stronger, more connected partnership. Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): ​ Adolescent Counseling Art Therapy Caregiver Support Co-Parenting Couples Counseling Cancer Support Divorce Recovery Infertility Individual Counseling Life Transitions Neurodiversity New Parents Parent Coaching Teen Counseling Clients Couples Individuals Families ​ License & Certifications ​Registered Associate, MFTA #324701 Board Certified Art Therapist (ATR-BC) Neurodiversity Specialist Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc . Specialty areas: Cassandra, Parenting, Cancer & Autism, Teens, Children, Neurodiverse Couples Reach Out Now First name Last name Email If you have a therapist(s) already in mind, include their names here: Send Thanks for reaching out! We will respond within 24 hours.