AI in Relationships: Friend, Foe, or Both?
- hmotro
- Sep 29
- 2 min read
AI-assisted therapy autism
AI is starting to show up in our counseling sessions.
Clients bring it in.
Sometimes it helps.
Sometimes it hurts.
Here’s the upside.
For autistic partners, AI can act like a practice partner.
It can suggest wording that feels clearer.
It can help find the hidden emotion.
It can flag tone that might come across the wrong way.
It can give space to rehearse a hard conversation without judgment.
Research on tools like TwIPS shows that LLMs can help autistic users rewrite texts so their intentions aren’t lost.
Another study shows how AI “social coaches” lower anxiety when practicing conversations.
That can be powerful.
Especially when communication gaps fuel so much pain for neurodiverse couples.
But there’s a dark side.
Some partners are turning AI into a weapon.
Typing in grievances.
Getting back polished, one-sided arguments.
Quoting the bot as objective truth.
Even having AI “lecture” their spouse in front of kids.
Conflict that once simmered now boils fast.
Therapy progress gets undone.
Trust erodes.
Why?
Because AI is a mirror.
It reflects you.
It validates what you feed it.
AI wants to please you, so it may trash your partner.
That’s where it gets dangerous.
So how do you use it wisely?
Set boundaries.
No AI during fights.
No quoting ChatGPT as “proof.”
Limit your use so you don't get lost in the AI's perspective.
Use it for prep, not combat.
Draft your thoughts, then make them yours.
Check AI results with a real person.
Spend time just thinking.
Listen to yourself.
Bring it into therapy.
If you’ve used AI, share what it said.
We’ll unpack why it resonated—and what got left out.
And help you can repair what's broken, with authentic listening and connection.
Harry Motro
Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center
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We’ll dive deeper into this in a future newsletter. |
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Specialties
Neurodiverse Couples Specialist
ADHD, Autism,
Intimate Partner Violence
Emotion Focused Therapy
Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse),
Sex/Physical Intimacy
Emotional Intimacy
Communication
Life Experience
I am AuDHD, living with both Autism and ADHD.
I am also raising two Highly Sensitive Children (HSC)
Born and raised in the South—in Louisiana and Texas—by immigrant Chinese parents, both of whom are neurodivergent.
Languages: English & Mandarin Chinese.
Experienced various neurodiverse relationships through family, friends, partnerships, teaching, parenting and counseling.
Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT #149167,
Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452
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