Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are autistic, have ADHD, or are otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help! < Back Rachel Wheeler Neurodivergent-Affirming Therapist for Couples, Individuals, and Parents I don’t just study neurodiversity—I live it. I’m an AuDHD therapist, a neurodivergent parent navigating the complexities of raising a child with multiple neurodivergences, and someone who has spent her life learning how to translate across differences. I specialize in working with neurodivergent individuals and couples who are tired of being misunderstood—and ready to build relationships based on clarity, compassion, and connection. Neurodiversity Is My Special Interest If there were a degree in neurodiversity, I’d have it. I’ve taken over 50 courses across autism, ADHD, PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy), trauma, relationships, and more. Understanding how the nervous system interacts with communication, identity, and attachment is my passion—and the foundation of how I work. Neurodivergence isn’t just a topic I care about—it’s who I am. I’m Autistic. I’m ADHD. I’m PDA. I’ve built a neurodiverse marriage and I’m raising a neurodivergent child. Everything I know clinically is grounded in lived experience. I’ve had to figure out, step by step, how to make relationships work outside the neurotypical mold. A Marriage Transformed Our Story My husband and I have been married for over 16 years, after spending 7 years as close friends. That long friendship built our foundation—but it didn’t prepare us for the confusion that came from not understanding our different neurotypes. We appreciated each other’s quirks, but communication was hard. We missed signals. We misread needs. It wasn’t until I received my diagnosis that everything finally made sense. Suddenly, what once felt like failure became clarity. Our relationship shifted from expectation and blame to mutual understanding and compassion. We stopped trying to force a mold—and instead began co-creating a relationship that supported both of us. One built not on obligation, but on respect and accommodation. Understanding our differences made room for greater connection. It allowed us to build a dynamic that amplifies our strengths and honors our needs. We’ve been through a lot. But time and again, we reconnect—and come back stronger. That’s what’s possible when both partners are committed to learning and growing together. How I Help Other Neurodiverse Couples My own experience allows me to support couples in ways that feel grounded, real, and hopeful. I work with partners who: Are just discovering they’re in a neurodiverse relationship Feel stuck in cycles of blame, disconnection, or shutdown Long for more clarity, respect, and emotional safety In therapy, I help couples: Understand the neurology beneath their differences Replace misinterpretations with curiosity and insight Create accommodations that support both partners Rebuild connection after ruptures or misunderstandings Neurodiverse relationships don’t need to be confusing or lonely. With the right tools and understanding, they can become some of the most resilient, creative, and fulfilling connections there are. PDA: A Drive for Autonomy, Not Defiance PDA—often called Pathological Demand Avoidance—is deeply misunderstood. I prefer to use the frame Pervasive Drive for Autonomy . People with PDA aren’t being oppositional—they’re responding to perceived threats to their autonomy. When something feels like a demand, their nervous system can go into shutdown or resistance. This trait shows up in kids, in adults, in couples. It impacts how we relate, how we parent, how we experience daily life. I help: Parents reduce power struggles and increase connection Individuals name what feels threatening and find accommodations Partners spot PDA patterns in their dynamic and respond with compassion Understanding PDA allows us to stop fighting what we don’t understand—and start connecting in ways that work. Twice Exceptional, Fully Myself I’m 2e — a person who lives at the intersection of giftedness and neurodivergence. My strengths are vivid and unconventional, but for years, my giftedness masked my challenges, leading to unmet needs, emotional overwhelm, and burnout. I’ve felt the weight of sensitivity — the kind that absorbs everything and can’t always let go — and I’ve known the ache of social isolation behind a capable exterior. Being twice exceptional means living with both brightness and complexity. It’s not about being “high-functioning” — it’s about being human in ways that don’t always fit the mold. I’m passionate about mental health, neurodiversity (including autism, PDA, and ADHD), and making space for people whose experiences don’t fit into neat categories. I now advocate for the kind of understanding I once needed — for myself and for others walking the same layered path. Parenting While Neurodivergent—and Raising ND Kids I’m parenting a beautifully complex, profoundly sensitive neurodivergent child. We adapt constantly. And we do it as two neurodivergent people learning from each other. What I’ve learned from my daughter is invaluable. She’s helped me understand masking, sensory needs, emotional safety—and how to advocate fiercely while staying grounded. That’s a skill I bring to the parents I work with. In therapy, I support parents who are: Struggling to find support that actually fits their child Grieving the loss of conventional expectations Managing meltdowns and shutdowns with limited reserves Trying to hold their child while also holding themselves Parenting isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence, flexibility, and repair. I help parents feel resourced, seen, and ready to do things differently. The High Cost of Camouflaging I was a highly camouflaging autistic person. For years, I didn’t even realize how much I was masking—until I saw the difference in how my daughter moved through the world. Her authenticity gave me the courage to begin unmasking. Not recklessly—but thoughtfully. Purposefully. In ways that allowed me to stay safe while becoming more whole. In therapy, I help clients: Identify when and why they’re masking Reconnect with their authentic self Understand how camouflaging impacts mental health and relationships Masking is a brilliant strategy. But it doesn’t have to be your default. There are safer, softer ways to show up in the world—and we’ll explore them together. A Brush with Mortality That Changed Everything As an adult, I had a near-death experience. It was beautiful—but also clarifying. It reshaped my relationship to time, purpose, and presence. I carry that insight into my therapy work. Especially with couples, I hold space for: Savoring the present instead of clinging to old arguments Letting go of pettiness in favor of connection Remembering what really matters before it’s too late Therapy is where we slow down and remember how precious life is. It’s where we build relationships worth waking up for. Outside the Therapy Room I love walking in nature, practicing yoga, meditating, cooking with my daughter, listening to music, dancing, and watching British TV (another special interest). These joys keep me grounded—and they remind me that life doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful. Training and Background MS in Advanced Clinical Practice, Columbia University Two years of English language curriculum at the C.G. Jung Institute in Switzerland PDA North America Level 2 Certified PAST PDA UK Level 3 Certified 50+ advanced trainings in neurodivergence, trauma, and relationships What I Offer Therapy for neurodivergent couples, individuals, and parents Expertise in PDA, masking, emotional regulation, and communication A space grounded in lived experience, deep compassion, and clinical skill If you’ve felt like no one’s really gotten you—therapy with me might feel different. Not because you’re broken. But because you finally don’t have to pretend. When you’re ready, I’m here. More Associate Clinical Social Worker, #126649 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Specialty Areas: AuDHD, ADHD, Autism, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Neurodiverse Couples, PDA, Not Accepting New Clients, Attachment, ASD/Allistic Couples, Assessment, Highly Sensitive People (HSP), Trauma, Somatic Therapies Rachel Wheeler Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Neurotypical Partner Support Lisa's primary focus is supporting Neurotypical/Allistic Partners through her Couples Retreats/Intensives & support groups. For more information on Lisa's partner support, click here . Couples Retreats & Intensives Lisa is passionate about helping couples in crisis find their way back to each other through innovative intensive sessions. Her approach combines evidence-based therapeutic modalities with intuitive guidance, providing a powerful alternative to therapy (a process that can take months to years). Her intensives are designed to be efficient and highly effective, providing tangible improvements in a rapid amount of time. Whether your relationship is on the brink of divorce, navigating trauma, or just stuck in unhelpful cycles, intensives with Lisa can be a great option for you. Personal Experience Lisa is personally familiar with divergence in how each partner experiences the world and communicates, being married for 18 years to someone from a different culture and race than her own. She is a mom of two boys - 13 and 18. As the daughter of a diplomat, a multicultural experience was integral to Lisa's early life and has continued since, as reflected in her multiethnic/interracial marriage. While a neurodiverse relationship means that one or both partners are on the autism spectrum, deeply understanding how to bridge relationship barriers comes from her personal relationship experience. Furthermore, having the experience of personally overcoming Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Lisa is equipped with wisdom and education to guide healing and transformation. Neurodiverse Coaching Approach Lisa specializes in neurodiverse couple coaching. Her expertise is grounded in neurodivergent communication and attachment science, which is informed by the scientific study of human development and bonding, integrated with insights from emotional processing neuroscience. Through her compassionate and insightful guidance, Lisa supports neurodiverse couples on their journey from feelings of exhaustion and hopelessness toward achieving their desired outcomes around communication and connection. Her unique approach is characterized by a profound empathy and understanding that individuals can become entangled in self-deception, outdated coping mechanisms, beliefs, and habits that, while once protective, may no longer serve their current needs. Lisa's coaching helps couples navigate these challenges, fostering an environment of ease and understanding that paves the way for growth and reconnection. Formal Training Lisa is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and a seasoned couples coaching professional. Her expertise results from being trained by Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes as a certified life coach, her graduate-level education in Marriage and Family Therapy (Delta Kappa Pi), and her undergrad in Transpersonal Psychology. Cloe Madanes is one of the originators of the strategic therapy approach and founded the Family Therapy Institute of Washington, D.C., and the Family Therapy Center of Maryland. Her pioneering work laid the foundation of many of the most effective approaches and techniques used in couples therapy. Publications: Lisa is a published author: Inner Sanctum: Your Most Empowering Resource This book is a transformative journey from inner turmoil to authentic self-realization. This book isn't just about healing; it's a guide to realigning with your core truth through introspection and transcendence. Anzaldua delves deep into how our perceptions, shaped by unresolved experiences and conditioning, often lead to emotional suffering and repetitive life patterns. Through her powerful narrative, she illustrates that liberation lies not in changing who we are but in becoming more attuned to our true selves. "Inner Sanctum" offers a unique blend of psychological insights and spiritual wisdom, demonstrating how breaking free from our ingrained narratives can lead to profound emotional relief and a richer life experience. Anzaldua's approach is about appreciating ourselves, including our habits and fears, and understanding their origins as coping mechanisms that once served us but may no longer be beneficial. The book outlines practical methods and transformative practices, supported by scientific evidence and spiritual teachings, to help readers embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment. With its focus on unbecoming what we are not and revealing the layers of our authentic selves, "Inner Sanctum" is more than a self-help book; it's an invitation to a life of expanded awareness, where personal growth and spiritual expansion converge. It's a guide to appreciating the brilliance of our true nature, transcending limitations, and aligning with our deepest truths for a fulfilled and meaningful existence. Lisa has several articles on Medium.com . Specialties in addition to Neurodiversity: Couples Retreats/Intensives Cassandra Support - Group and Individual Ongoing Traumatic Relationship Stress Trauma Bond Toxic Shame Narcissist / Empath Dynamic (Personal Healing) ASD / Allistic Couples Counseling and Coaching General Couples Coaching Family Conflict Life Transitions Transformational Coaching Integrative Spiritual Therapy Internal Family Systems Emotionally Focused Therapy (couples and individual). License: Registered Associate, AMFT#132097 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Couples Retreats/Intensives, Cassandra Syndrome, ASD/Allistic Couples, General Couples Coaching, Family Conflict, Life Transitions, Internal Family Systems, Transformational Coaching, Integrative Spiritual Therapy, IFS, Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients, Emotion Focused Therapy, Trauma Lisa Marie Anzaldua Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are autistic, have ADHD, or are otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Nancy Rushing Not accepting new clients See our other clinicians or Fill our our contact form to get matched My Neurodiversity I am AuDHD , living with both Autism and ADHD. This combination shapes how I think and feel—offering a mind that can focus deeply on details while juggling a steady stream of ideas. AuDHD means I experience the world with a unique clarity, noticing subtleties others might overlook, alongside a restlessness that keeps me seeking new connections. It’s a way of being that balances routine with flexibility, teaching me patience and a quiet strength in embracing differences. I am a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). I am also raising two Highly Sensitive Children (HSC). Specialties and Certifications Neurodiverse Couples Specialist ADHD, Autism, AuDHD, Sensory Sensitivities and Processing Sex Anxiety and Depression Parenting Children (Neurodivergent and Neurotypical) Social Anxiety Intimate Partner Abuse Perfectionism/High-Achievement Grief Chronic Illness/Caregiving Support Brainspotting Phase 1 & 2 Languages Spoken English Mandarin Chinese Life Experience Born and raised in the South—in Louisiana and Texas—by immigrant Chinese parents, both of whom are neurodivergent. Experienced various neurodiverse relationships through family, friends, partnerships, teaching, parenting and counseling. I have been an Early Childhood Educator for over 10 years with direct experience working with children ages 4-17. Before attending graduate school, I was a stay-at-home parent for 8 years. I have been teaching yoga since 2011 and enjoy creating classes that bridge the mind-body connection in yoga with psychoeducation. Multicultural Competencies Intergenerational Trauma Immigrant/Refugee Trauma Second-Generation Immigrants- Bicultural/Multicultural BIPOC LBGTQIA+ Bilingual: Mandarin Chinese My Therapeutic Approach My approach is client-centered and tailored to your unique needs, incorporating an integrative approach based on our interactions over time that include: Neurodivergent-Informed Cognitive Behavioral (CBT) Dialectical Behavioral (DBT) Emotionally Focused (EFT) Trauma-Informed Brainspotting Phase 1 and 2 Solution-Focused Attachment-Based More about Nancy I really enjoy making connections with people and am a naturally curious and inquisitive person. I am an avid animal lover and advocate for the benefits of the bond between neurodivergent children and animals, drawing especially from firsthand experience. I have perfect pitch and can identify notes in any song I hear immediately and can play the song on piano. This gift is linked to neurodivergent individuals, and a gift that I hid from others for most of my life, while I was still masking. Hi, I'm Nancy. I'm glad we connected today! I want to acknowledge how difficult it can be to take this first step in your journey in understanding more about yourself, your partner, and your relationship—especially if you’re at a crossroad. It takes courage to cross an unknown journey. You might be feeling hopeless, pessimistic, confused, and possibly filled with anger and angst about your relationship, especially when you notice recurring patterns—repeating the same conversations, and experiencing the same interactions, thoughts and emotions. In each of our personal journeys, we metaphorically travel a path and face various obstacles along the road— let’s call these life’s “challenges”. Sometimes, these obstacles can make us feel stuck, pressure us to turn back, confront them aimlessly, repeat familiar patterns, or find a new path and direction. Obstacles are an essential part of a journey, just as the challenges we face in our life experience are unique and contribute to growth and transformation . Without these hurdles, it would be difficult to gain insight into our strengths, understand ourselves and the world around us, and develop the resilience needed to navigate life’s challenges. Each obstacle we encounter shapes our character, deepens our understanding, and ultimately enriches our experience, making the journey more meaningful and rewarding. The goal of our therapy sessions is to help you explore and harness the power of perspective and the choices you make, leading to acceptance and understanding around your unique challenges. I aim to assist you in finding the right tools to gain insight and effectively navigate the obstacles along your life’s path. Additionally, I want to help you, and your partner reconnect and intertwine your paths, enabling you to continue the journey and create meaningful destinations together. My Story I am a child of Chinese Immigrant parents, born and raised in the south—specifically Louisiana and Texas. My neurodivergent journey started when I lost my mom in 2019 and discovered that she had undiagnosed mental health issues and was also neurodivergent. Witnessing the disconnect and misunderstandings that happen in a neurodivergent relationship helped me realize that every person wants to be loved and wants to love others. Every person deserves to be loved and longed for, the way they need and understand love to be. Since childhood, I have been extremely curious and inquisitive by nature and have a passion to learn about and understand others. I am a HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) and was late-diagnosed ADHD during graduate school while I was studying about neurodiversity and discovered that my perceived anxiety was an excess of complex thoughts in my mind that was misdiagnosed as generalized anxiety. It took the right therapist to connect me to this understanding and acceptance. My passion is to support others on their neurodivergent journey—to help them discover their authentic selves embrace their unique differences and build meaningful connections in their relationships. I have been living in the Bay Area for 17 years, married for 13 years, and have two neurodivergent children who are 7 and 9 years old. When I am not spending time with my family, I enjoy teaching yoga, exercising, cooking, having meaningful conversations and experiences with others, and being an avid animal lover. Obstacles faced be neurodiverse couples: Communication Differences – How do you express yourself, interpret what your partner is saying, and understand their message: Are you feeling misunderstood? Sensory Sensitivities – Are there feelings of being uncomfortable or overwhelmed by sensory stimuli such as sounds, lights and textures that prevent you or your partner from processing feelings or engaging with each other? Emotional Processing – Is it difficult to recognize, interpret, and manage emotions during emotional experiences? Do you and your partner respond in a way that is challenging for each other? Contrasting Perspectives -Do you and your partner have different views on issues or, see them differently? Social Expectations - How do you and your partner navigate societal or cultural expectations in your relationship, and what impact do these expectations have on your interactions? Routine & Flexibility - How do you and your partner handle changes to your routines or plans, and what effect does this have on your relationship? Support Needs - How do you and your partner express and respond to each other's needs for support, and what challenges do you face in meeting these needs effectively? 🎯 Working with AuDHD Clients Living with AuDHD (Autism + ADHD) often means navigating a world that doesn’t fully understand your unique way of thinking, processing, and engaging. Whether you’ve always known you were different or recently discovered your neurodivergence, therapy can help you untangle challenges, embrace your strengths, and create a life that works for you. Many AuDHD individuals experience a mix of intense focus and executive function struggles, sensory sensitivities and sensation-seeking behaviors, deep emotional intensity, and difficulty with social expectations . These traits can impact relationships, career paths, and day-to-day functioning in ways that feel frustrating and overwhelming. In therapy, I help AuDHD clients: Understand their unique wiring – Recognizing the interplay of ADHD and autism and how it shapes their experiences. Manage executive function challenges – Developing practical strategies for focus, organization, and task completion. Navigate sensory sensitivities & overwhelm – Identifying triggers and creating coping strategies to reduce stress. Build meaningful relationships – Learning communication tools to express needs, set boundaries, and connect authentically. Regulate emotions – Developing techniques for processing feelings without burnout, shutdown, or emotional overload. Work with, not against, their brains – Creating routines, systems, and environments that align with their natural rhythms. Whether you’re struggling in your relationships, career, or personal growth, I provide a nonjudgmental space to explore what’s working, what’s not, and how to move forward in a way that makes sense for you. Your brain isn’t the problem—let’s find ways to work with it, not against it. Other Areas of Focus (in addition to neurodiversity) Sex Anxiety and Depression Parenting Children (Neurodivergent and Neurotypical) Social Anxiety Intimate Partner Abuse Perfectionism/High-Achievement Grief Chronic Illness/Caregiving Support Clients Couples Individuals Families License Registered AMFT # 149167 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc . Specialty Areas: ADHD, Autism, Intimate Partner Violence, Emotion Focused Therapy, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Neurodiverse Couples, Sex/Physical Intimacy, Emotional Intimacy, Communication, Not Accepting New Clients, Assessment, Attachment, Buddist - Spiritual, Cassandra Syndrome, Christian, Discernment, Highly Sensitive People (HSP), IFS, Internal Family Systems, PDA, Teens, AuDHD Nancy Rushing Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are autistic, have ADHD, or are otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help! < Back Maring Higa, Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist | Neurodiverse Couples Specialist 💛 Lived Experience Shapes the Way I Work I know what it’s like to fight for connection—and to finally find it, in a way that feels real, earned, and deeply alive. Earlier in life, I was in a neurodiverse marriage that ended in divorce. It was a relationship filled with both love and difficulty, and navigating the differences in communication, processing, and emotional rhythms taught me more than any training ever could. That experience was humbling and powerful—it cracked me open to what it really means to bridge worlds. I carry forward the insight, empathy, and hard-won clarity I gained from that relationship with deep gratitude. It made me who I am today. Now, I’m over a decade into a new relationship with someone I truly consider my soulmate. But “soulmate” doesn’t mean easy. It means we’re committed to doing the work—especially the work of blending families, healing old wounds, and growing through inevitable friction. We still have our differences. We still stumble. But we keep showing up with curiosity, humility, and care. Having lived through both disconnection and deep repair, I bring a grounded, compassionate hope to couples who are struggling. I don’t offer quick fixes—I offer real tools for real relationships. 🧠 How I Work with Neurodiverse Couples I specialize in helping neurodiverse couples —whether autistic, ADHD, or both—untangle the confusing, painful cycles that often arise when two very different nervous systems and communication styles collide. I don’t see either partner as “the problem.” Instead, I help couples understand how their unique wiring, regulation needs, and processing styles impact the way they connect—or miss each other. Together, we: Slow things down so both people feel safe and heard Shift out of blame and into shared curiosity Build a relational language that works for both neurotypes Learn how to repair misattunements with compassion and intention Respect sensory needs and differences in emotional pacing My approach blends depth and structure. Some of the methods I draw from include: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for co-regulation and secure attachment Imago Therapy for exploring how early wounds shape current conflict Internal Family Systems (IFS) to help each partner access compassion for their own inner world Gottman tools for practical support around communication, rituals, and conflict management Somatic and bioenergetic work to address what's held in the body, not just the mind Every couple is different—and in neurodiverse relationships, that difference is often wider and more profound than in neurotypical ones. That’s not a deficit—it’s just reality. With the right support, it can become a strength. 🌿 The Body Knows—Especially in Neurodiverse Relationships Before I became a therapist, I practiced acupuncture for 17 years. I’ve also trained in somatic healing and bioenergetic therapy, and I bring that deep respect for the body into my work with clients every day. Neurodiverse individuals—especially autistic folks—often live disconnected from their bodies. They may struggle with interoception (the ability to sense what's going on inside) or feel overloaded by sensory input, leading them to numb out or dissociate. Others may live in a state of chronic stress without even realizing it. In my work, I help clients tune back in—gently and safely. Whether through breath, movement, somatic tracking, or body awareness tools , we reconnect to the body not as a “fix,” but as a source of wisdom and regulation. This is especially important in relationships, where the body holds unspoken tension, patterns of shutdown, and the longings we can’t always verbalize. My training and experience include: Acupuncture and holistic bodywork Somatic therapy and bioenergetic release Support for postpartum health and hormonal transitions Women’s health and trauma recovery Personal experience as an athlete, injury survivor, and circus arts performer This embodied lens helps me work with clients whose nervous systems are exhausted, disconnected, or over-activated—especially in the context of neurodiverse relationships. 🌱 Parenting Neurodivergent Children I’m a mom of two amazing kids. My daughter is 9, and my son is 14 and autistic. Parenting a neurodivergent child has taught me more than any book or training ever could. I've come to understand the sensory challenges, the meltdowns, the brilliance, the beauty, and the fatigue. What’s more, I was diagnosed with ADHD later in life, which helped make sense of so many struggles I carried silently as a child—overwhelm, internal shame, and the constant feeling of falling short in a world that didn’t match how I was wired. This personal journey allows me to support other parents—especially those navigating diagnoses, school systems, and the emotional toll of loving a child who may not be understood by the world around them. I walk alongside you not as an expert from afar, but as someone in the trenches who deeply gets it. 👨👩👧👦 Co-Parenting After Separation I’ve lived the real-world challenges of co-parenting —trying to communicate with an ex while staying grounded in your values, protecting your kids' emotional safety, and managing the logistics of schedules, boundaries, and big feelings. Co-parenting can feel impossible at times, especially when there’s unresolved hurt or different parenting philosophies. I work with clients to develop r ealistic, compassionate strategies for communication, boundary-setting, and conflict de-escalation. My goal is to help you shift from power struggles to problem-solving, so your children get the best of both parents. 🏡 Blended Families: A New Blueprint Blending families isn't just about combining households—it’s about building a completely new system with its own rhythms, rituals, and rules. As someone who’s part of a blended family, I know the loyalty binds, the role confusion, and the emotional landmines that can appear unexpectedly. There’s grief for what was, hope for what could be, and lots of tension in the “in between.” I help blended families navigate common challenges like stepparent roles, co-parenting across households, discipline differences, and how to build connection when trust is still forming. Together, we create a new blueprint that honors everyone involved—including the kids. 🎨 And Just for Fun I’m endlessly curious and deeply creative. I love women’s soccer, making music, and getting lost in hands-on projects. I find beauty in the messiness of being human and believe that humor, creativity, and embodiment are essential parts of healing. Education & Clinical Training M.A. in Counseling Psychology (Marriage and Family Therapy) – National University M.S. in Oriental Medicine – Pacific College of Oriental Medicine Certified Bioenergetics Therapist – Southern California Institute of Bioenergetics (in progress) Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #145908 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Trained in: Somatic Therapy & Nervous System Regulation Internal Family Systems (IFS) Trauma-Informed Couples Work Fertility, Pregnancy, and Postpartum Mental Health Women's Health & Holistic Medicine Acupuncture and Embodiment Practices Podcast Creator & Host: The Messy Middle (2016–2021) – Personal growth and emotional healing Body Talk (2024–Present) – Exploring somatic therapy, mind-body connection, and holistic wellness Specialty Areas: Autism, ADHD, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Blended Families, Somatic Therapies, IFS, Trauma, Neurodiverse Couples, Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients, Attachment, AuDHD, Communication, Couples Retreats/Intensives, Discernment, Emotion Focused Therapy, Highly Sensitive People (HSP), Multicultural Challenges, Teens, General Couples Coaching, Family Conflict, Betrayal/Affair Recovery Maring Higa Take an Autism Test

< Back Kimberly Hawks Neurodiverse Couples Specialist | Associate Marriage and Family Therapist My Approach to Therapy Welcome! I believe neurodiverse couples deserve understanding, practical tools, and compassionate support to navigate differences, repair ruptures, and strengthen their bond. Therapy with me centers on how you relate to yourself and how you connect with your partner, so we can co-create healthier patterns that respect your individual needs and the realities of your neurodiverse relationship. Together, we will design a clear roadmap with actionable steps for communication, shared growth, healing, and resilience —helping you navigate conflict, feel heard, cultivate compassion, and deepen your connection. M y Journey: Neurodiversity in Parenting, Partnership, and Life I’m a wife and mom in a neurodiverse family. Our three kids each have different neurotypes, my husband has ADHD, and I’m a highly sensitive person (HSP). As a couple, our different wiring impacts our parenting approaches, emotional needs, communication styles, and ways of showing and feeling love. Over the years, we’ve navigated the ups and downs of raising children, managing serious medical challenges for one of our children while keeping life “normal” for our other two, and juggling work and travel. In times of crisis and busy-ness, it’s easy to slip into survival mode and stop connecting—we’ve learned that relationships, especially between partners with different neurotypes, take intentional daily practice . Small, consistent efforts to stay attuned, adapt, and repair have strengthened our bond and our family rhythm. Children thrive when their parents are connected and in love. This experience informs how I support couples: empathy, practical strategies, curiosity, and consistent practice can make real, lasting change in relationships. Parenting Through Neurodiversity and Serious Medical Issues I’ve done the hospital all-nighters, medication schedules, insurance calls, and constant “Plan B.” I’ve navigated children with different needs, and when HSP and ADHD come into conflict at the least opportune times—and learned that clear communication and small repeatable routines steady a household better than one-off heroics. Families don’t need perfection; they need nervous-system regulation, aligned expectations, clear boundaries, and repair that actually sticks . Adoption, Attachment, and Complex Family Systems I was adopted as an infant and raised with split custody after my adoptive parents divorced. My mom came out as a lesbian when I was in first grade and built a large, loving blended family with her partner (now wife of 20+ years), her children, and my step-sister from a prior relationship. My dad remarried, and in that home I was an only child. As an adult, I reunited with my birth mother. Living between different households—and then doing the attachment work of reunification—taught me that belonging is built through safety, consistency, and trust , not titles. I bring those attachment lessons into therapy: predictable care, listening, straight talk, and small promises kept. Married 25 Years- Staying Connected My husband and I met in college on the East Coast, and in 2025 we celebrated 25 years of marriage. He was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult–learning about his neurotype, and understanding more about my sensitivity, enabled us to break old cycles of recurrent arguments, missed cues, and shutdown/flare patterns. Couples counseling has been key to our growth and staying connected , especially during medical crises and times of stress—prioritizing repair over being “right,” using clear scripts on hard days, and protecting time for intimacy and connection when everything else feels unstable. This experience informs my work as a couples therapist, helping partners navigate differences, improve communication, and strengthen their connection. Parent Coaching and School Support Before becoming a therapist, I helped to launch two schools –a preschool and a K-8 school, where I was deeply involved in school administration and admissions. That experience matters. I understand how administrators make decisions, how to make sure a school is a good fit for a child, and how to advocate for the support that each child needs and deserves through collaboration and IEP/504 processes. As a therapist, I bring experience working in elementary school settings and was honored with a California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) award in 2025 for my collaborative approach to working with neurodiverse children, their families, schools, and other specialists. Mind–Body Wellness Trail running with friends keeps me balanced—it’s nervous-system regulation in motion. Cooking with my family, whether we’re making homemade pasta or tackling creative kitchen challenges, brings joy and connection. Time with friends and family restores perspective, and reading keeps me curious. Playing with our golden retriever, going on dates with my husband, jumping on the trampoline with my son, and hanging out with my teen daughters make life deeply meaningful. These moments remind me that nurturing our closest relationships matters most, especially when life feels full and demanding. Neurodiverse Couples: Repair That Works Under Real-Life Stress Neurodiverse couples often love each other deeply but trip the same wires: intent vs. impact mismatches, processing-speed differences, sensory overload, executive-function gaps, and uneven social needs. When you add a child’s medical needs or school crisis, the bond can slide into logistics-only mode and resentment. What we build together: Shared language for neurotype differences. Clear, non-pathologizing terms that reduce blame and make needs discussable. Repair first, then reasons. Ownership before context; repair scripts that fit your brains and your stress window. Executive-function scaffolds for the relationship. Time anchors, transition plans, decision trees, and externalized reminders so love isn’t held hostage by working memory. Sensory-aware intimacy. Pressure-free closeness, pacing, and predictable rituals that make connection safe again. Conflict that ends. Shorter fights, calmer recoveries, and agreements you can actually keep during busy weeks or medical flares. Bottom line: we design routines and communication playbooks that hold under pressure—because that’s when you need them. Parenting Neurodiverse Children (Including Chronic Illness and 2e) Parenting neurodiverse kids is both beautiful and challenging. You’re balancing strengths with support needs, independence with safety, and your own burnout due to high demands. I help you: Stabilize the nervous system at home (yours and your child’s) before layering new skills. Build routines that survive chaos, using smallest viable steps and visual anchors. Translate assessments into accommodations schools will actually implement. Support 2e learners so giftedness doesn’t mask disability—or vice versa. Cope with chronic illness : pacing, grief, medical advocacy, and sibling care that doesn’t disappear. Manage dynamics between siblings of different neurotypes, fostering understanding, fairness, and connection. Align as parents to reduce conflict and create consistency, helping children feel safe and supported. Keep the couple strong so the family system can thrive. Blended Families (Informed by My Own Upbringing) Growing up across two homes—with different rules, values, and cultures—taught me how identity and belonging form in motion. In session, we clarify roles, set respectful boundaries, and create rituals that include everyone without erasing anyone. Small, predictable gestures build trust faster than good intentions. Working With Adult Adoptees Adults who were adopted in infancy or childhood often experience unique challenges around attachment, identity, and belonging. In my work with adult adoptees, I help clients understand how early adoption experiences can shape patterns of closeness and trust with partners and children, as well as how these dynamics may influence parenting. Together, we explore the impact of trauma, loss, and questions of identity while building tools for authentic connection and open conversations about adoption within relationships and families. Treatment Modalities- An Integrative Approach There’s no single approach that works for everyone. I take time to get to know you—both as individuals and as a couple—and tailor my work to meet your unique needs and goals. I draw from a range of therapeutic modalities and the latest evidence-based research to best support your growth and connection: Foundational Approaches: CBT, ACT, Humanistic/Person-Centered, Solution-Focused/Brief, Psychodynamic, Behavioral and Social Thinking interventions. Mind–Body & Experiential: Mindfulness, somatic-informed work, expressive arts to help clients connect with and regulate their internal experiences. Relationship & Systems: Family Systems Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Relational Life Therapy (RLT) to support connection and relational growth. Trauma-Informed: I use a trauma-informed lens in all of my work, creating a safe, attuned, and empowering environment to help clients process experiences and build resilience. Collaboration: I coordinate with medical teams, schools, specialists, and educational consultants when it supports the work and the client’s goals. Education Bachelor of Arts , Psychology — Boston College Master of Science , Counseling Psychology — Dominican University of California License & Employment Information Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, #156426 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Specialty Areas: Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients, Neurodiverse Couples, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), CBT, Attachment, ACT, Blended Families, Communication, Emotional Intimacy, ADHD, Discernment, Emotion Focused Therapy, Family Conflict, General Couples Coaching, Highly Sensitive People (HSP), ND at Work, Teens, Trauma Kimberly Hawks Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are autistic, have ADHD, or are otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help! < Back Empowering Neurodiverse Relationships 🌿 I believe that neurodiverse couples can thrive when they are given the tools and support to better understand each other. Through neurodiverse couples counseling , I guide partners in embracing their differences. My goal is to help transform challenges into opportunities for growth and building fulfilling, connected relationships that honor each partner’s unique strengths. Specialties: Neurodiverse Couples Trauma Parenting (Neurotypical and Neurodiverse) Sex Addiction Substance Use Addiction Inner Child Work/Parts Work Life Experience Autistic & ADHD (AuDHD) Partner to a neurodiverse husband Mother to 2 wonderful children Identifies as a queer woman Experience being in recovery from addiction Clients: Couples Individuals Teens Families Group Therapy Modalities: IFS (Internal Family Systems) Family Systems Gottman Method Bowenian Family Therapy Emotionally-focused Therapy Solution-focused Therapy Trauma Informed Therapy My Professional Journey with Neurodiversity I believe my work as a therapist is enriched by a unique blend of personal and professional insights, particularly in the realm of neurodiversity. As an autistic woman also living with ADHD , I bring a deep, lived understanding of how neurodiverse traits—such as communication styles, sensory sensitivities, and emotional processing —impact relationships. My professional background, which includes working as a physician and now as an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist allows me to support my clients in both the emotional and practical aspects of building healthier, more connected relationships. Through my own journey with neurodiversity, I’ve come to understand how differences can be both challenging and transformative. These experiences shape my empathetic approach, especially in helping couples navigate the unique dynamics that neurodiversity introduces into their relationships. Personal Experiences That Shape My Work As a queer woman in recovery from addiction, my personal experiences have been integral to my coaching practice. I’ve embarked on a long journey of self-discovery, working through childhood trauma, complex family dynamics, grief, loss, and understanding my own neurodiverse identity. These lived experiences allow me to connect authentically with clients, offering them a compassionate and empowering approach to their own struggles. My background enables me to provide a supportive environment for those who are navigating similar challenges in their relationships. Neurodiversity in My Family Life While raising my two wonderful children, my understanding of neurodiversity deepened. This understanding became even more personal when my husband was recently diagnosed with ADHD , further expanding my knowledge of neurodiverse relationships. These insights into both autism and ADHD have shaped my personal life and professional practice. They have also enhanced my ability to guide couples through their own neurodiverse relationships. Whether through parenting, marriage, or coaching, I’ve come to appreciate the complexities and gifts that neurodiversity brings to relationships. From Addiction to Recovery My struggle with addiction was deeply tied to feelings of overstimulation and stress, common traits among neurodiverse individuals. This experience led me to a place where I felt disconnected from myself and those I loved. The "gift of desperation" prompted me to seek help, and through years of recovery, including support from Alcoholics Anonymous and individual coaching, I found my way back to myself. Through this process, I realized that addiction doesn’t just impact the individual—it profoundly affects relationships . I believe that healthy relationships can be a foundation for healing, offering a supportive environment where both partners can grow and reconnect. My personal journey of recovery fuels my passion to help others experience this transformation in their lives and relationships. Couples and Neurodiversity 🧠 Neurodiverse traits—such as variations in communication styles, emotional processing, and sensory sensitivities—can deeply impact relationships. However, when these differences are understood and embraced , they can become a source of strength rather than tension. In my practice, I work collaboratively with couples to enhance communication, manage conflict, and embrace their unique differences. By creating a supportive environment for exploration and dialogue, I help couples build empathy and connection , ultimately leading to a more harmonious and fulfilling relationship. Navigating Neurodiversity and Addiction 💔 Neurodiverse individuals are more prone to addiction due to a variety of factors, including challenges with impulse control, emotional regulation, and difficulties with social interaction. Traits associated with neurodiversity, such as heightened stress responses and sensory overwhelm, can make certain individuals more vulnerable to seeking coping mechanisms through substances or compulsive behaviors like sex addiction. Unfortunately, these behaviors can create a cycle of isolation and emotional disconnection within relationships. In my coaching practice, I work with both sex addiction and substance use addiction, understanding that while they share similarities, they also present unique challenges. Both forms of addiction can create profound rifts in a relationship, leading to trust issues, secrecy, and emotional distance . However, they differ in how they manifest and impact the couple. Substance use often affects daily functioning and physical health, while sex addiction can result in deep feelings of betrayal and shame, particularly for the hurt partner. License: Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, #153124 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Specialty Areas: Neurodiverse Couples, LGBTQIA+, Addiction, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Sex/Physical Intimacy, Emotional Intimacy, ADHD, Autism, Internal Family Systems, Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients, Attachment, AuDHD, Communication, Discernment, Highly Sensitive People (HSP), Trauma, Betrayal/Affair Recovery Malori Evans Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Living Neurodiversity I live in a neurodiverse family every day. My husband is on the Autism Spectrum and received his diagnosis later in life. I am so proud of my 26-year marriage and the fact that we were able to reconcile after a divorce and remarry. My two children are also on the Spectrum . They have taught me how differences can be intensely beautiful and frustrating at the same time. Having a neurodiverse marriage and parenting my preteen son and adult daughter give me a unique point of view to better understand and empathize with my clients and their challenges in a way that simply cannot be taught in books. Podcast Listen to Liz discuss Neurodiversity on the Neurodiverse Love Podcast Understanding You “When you meet one person with Autism, you’ve met one person with Autism.” - Dr. Stephen Shore, autistic professor, author, Everyone is different, every couple is unique. As a therapist, my goal is to understand you and your distinct relationship. Just because I have personal experience with neurodiversity does not mean I am automatically an expert on your relationship. I aim to learn who you are and how you relate to your partner in your own unique way. I can provide a safe, non-judgmental, empathetic space for couples to come together on a healing journey and work towards accomplishing their relationship goals. Over time, a couple’s relationship may start to break down when neurodivergent differences turn into dysfunctional patterns resulting in disagreements, loneliness, hopelessness, and pain. The good news is that there is hope, I help couples navigate their relational patterns, bridge communication gaps, and facilitate an understanding and honoring of the couple’s differences. Neurotypical Partner Challenges As an NT partner myself, I empathize with the pain that can come from communication break down and misunderstandings in a neurodiverse relationship. In the past, I felt that no one understood what I was going through, including therapists who lacked neurodiverse training or experience. This only compounded my pain and thoughts that my marriage could not get any better. My spouse and I have since learned how to make our marriage work in our own way. I understand him and his needs the best way that I can and vice versa . For this reason, I am passionate about helping couples do the same. I can offer a beacon of hope for couples because I know change within a relationship is possible. Neurodiverse Couple Challenges There are some unique aspects of how the AS brain processes and expresses information that differs from the NT brain; although this may bring tremendous advantages in certain areas of life, it can make relating to others and everyday activities difficult and stressful for both partners. Topics which are common in neurodiverse couples that I work with include: Alexithymia - a person has difficulty identifying and expressing emotions Executive functioning capabilities - cognitive processes Sensory issues - identifying when AS partner feels overstimulated Masking- AS partner has high-stress levels while trying to “pass” as neurotypical Transitions - AS partner has high-stress levels transitioning to different topics or activities ·Communication - both partners misunderstand each other’s behavior and needs Defense mode - understanding flight, fight, or freeze mode and how to cope Past emotional wounds - AS partner not feeling accepted, being bullied, or internalizing negative labels from the neurotypical society (trauma) Empathy - AS partner may struggle to understand how their partner is feeling These aspects of the Neurodiverse partner do not make that person good or bad. My job is to help you bridge the gaps that exist between you ; in emotional processing, getting things done (executive function), managing the world you live in (sensory issues), making transitions, communicating, reacting to each other (with less defensiveness), and healing wounds. Neurodiverse Parenting Parenting is not easy! Perhaps you, your spouse, or your children are on the Autism Spectrum, and you feel stuck, frustrated, sad, lost, and don’t know where to turn for help. I have over 24 years of personal experience with raising Autistic children alongside my AS spouse. Neurodiverse families have parenting issues specific to them that an experienced therapist is trained to treat. I work with couples to cope with the complexities of parenting. As parents, we all want our children to be successful, happy, and healthy. Some families have the added stress of co-parenting in a blended family or parallel parenting. I am here to listen, understand, and coach parents to navigate high conflict situations, build their parenting skills, and create a family environment where each family member can thrive. Whether your goals are to reduce conflict, reduce stress, or increase communication; I guide parents through techniques aimed at building a stronger relationship with their children and creating the results desired. Education and Licensing I am a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and a Neurodiverse Couples Coach. I earned my master’s degree in Clinical Psychology from Azusa Pacific University (APU). My professional career is dedicated to helping neurodiverse couples to heal emotional wounds, improve communication, reduce conflict, and increase intimacy. Areas of Focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): General Couples Therapy Intimacy, Sex Affair Recovery Anger Management Divorce Life Transitions Families including Parenting, Co-Parenting, Blended Families Depression, Anxiety, Mood Disorders, Personality Disorders Clients Couples, Families, Men, Women Modalities Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Narrative Therapy, Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT), Person-Centered Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Family System Therapy, Positive Psychology, Trauma-informed Therapy License Registered Associate Marriage & Family Therapist, AMFT #133330 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: ADHD, Autism, Discernment, Internal Family Systems, Neurodiverse Couples, ND at Work, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Emotional Intimacy, Accepting New Individual Clients Only Liz McClanahan Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are autistic, have ADHD, or are otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help! < Back At a Glance: My Journey & Focus Who I Help: Neurodiverse Couples – Supporting relationships where one or both partners are autistic or neurodivergent, improving communication, connection, and emotional regulation Couples of All Backgrounds – Helping partners navigate differences, deepen intimacy, and resolve recurring conflicts in a way that fosters understanding and growth Parents of Neurodivergent Children – Providing guidance and support for parents raising autistic and ADHD children, with an emphasis on communication, advocacy, and self-compassion Neurodivergent Individuals – Assisting autistic and ADHD clients in self-exploration, emotional regulation, and navigating relationships and societal expectations Multicultural & Immigrant Families – Supporting mixed-culture relationships and families through acculturation challenges, language barriers, and cultural identity exploration LGBTQIA+, Polyamorous, & Kink-Affirming Clients – Offering an inclusive, judgment-free space for identity, relationship structure, and self-discovery Core Beliefs & Approach: Love Looks Different for Everyone – Relationships don’t need to fit a traditional mold; they need to work for you The Problem Is Not You, The Problem Is the Problem – Externalizing struggles to foster teamwork in couples therapy Depathologizing Neurodivergence – Your brain isn’t broken, and therapy shouldn’t try to "fix" you—it should help you thrive Communication Is a Skill, Not an Expectation – Every couple and family can build a communication system that fits their needs Honoring Identity & Intersectionality – Your culture, neurotype, sexuality, and lived experience all shape how you connect and grow in relationships Embracing the Complexity of Relationships Relationships are messy, beautiful, challenging, and deeply personal . When couples struggle, it’s rarely because they lack love—it’s because they lack understanding of each other’s unique ways of thinking, feeling, and processing the world . This is especially true for neurodiverse couples , where communication differences, sensory needs, and emotional regulation challenges can lead to misinterpretations, frustration, and disconnection . My work is centered on helping couples build a relationship that works for them— not one that fits neurotypical or societal expectations. Common Challenges in Neurodiverse Relationships: Communication Differences – One partner may prefer direct, factual conversations , while the other thrives on emotionally expressive dialogue Processing & Emotional Regulation – Conflicts escalate when one partner needs time to process, while the other needs immediate reassurance Executive Functioning Mismatches – Different organizational styles can lead to frustration around household management and responsibilities Social & Sensory Needs – One partner may need more alone time , while the other craves constant connection Misinterpretation of Love & Affection – Some express love through acts of service , while others need verbal affirmation Rather than focusing on who is "right" or "wrong" , we work on understanding and adapting to each other’s neurotypes , creating new ways of connecting that feel authentic and fulfilling . My Personal Journey: From Disconnection to Understanding I didn’t just learn about neurodiverse relationships in textbooks—I’ve lived it. When I first met my partner, I was fascinated by their brilliant mind, unique perspective, and deep emotional world . But as our relationship grew, so did the challenges. What I saw as emotional distance, they experienced as sensory overload. What I needed as verbal reassurance, they struggled to express in words. For years, we misunderstood each other’s reactions, mistaking neurological differences for personal failings . Conflict left us both feeling isolated and unseen —until we began learning how to communicate in a way that worked for our relationship, not just for one of us. Through therapy, we discovered: Love doesn’t always sound like "I love you"— sometimes, it looks like small, quiet gestures of care Space isn’t rejection—sometimes, it’s self-regulation Verbal processing isn’t better than non-verbal processing—it’s just different This experience reshaped my approach to couples therapy . I know firsthand how hard it can be to bridge these gaps—but I also know it’s absolutely possible with the right tools and support. Let’s Build a Relationship That Works for You Therapy should be a place where you feel understood, not judged . Whether you’re working through relationship struggles, parenting challenges, or personal growth, I’m here to support you in creating a life and relationships that truly reflect who you are . Neuro-affirming Practice In my view, a truly neurodiversity-affirming practice begins with being neuro-informed. By grounding our work in a deep understanding of neurodiversity, we can accompany you on your journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance with an informed and compassionate presence—one that validates the full spectrum of your traits and identities. The focus is not on counting deficits or pathologizing differences, but rather on cultivating curiosity to understand what is present and meaningful for each individual. From that perspective, my therapy and coaching work is about sharing knowledge about how others with similar neurotypes have developed supportive strategies, as well as integrating insights from emerging research and leading voices in the neurodiversity-affirming therapeutic community. Ultimately, with this approach you are neither alone nor broken, but part of a broader and valued spectrum of human experience. Specialties: Neurodiverse & Neurotypical Couples Counseling ADHD & Autism Relationship Coaching Emotional Regulation & Executive Functioning Support Complex Parenting Challenges Multicultural & Intercultural Relationships LGBTQIA+, Poly & Kink-Affirming Therapy Identity & Self-Exploration Therapy Modalities: Gottman Method (Levels 1 & 2) Narrative Therapy Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Internal Family Systems (IFS) Attachment-Based Therapy Education Touro University Worldwide – Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy University of Vermont – M.A. English Literature (2008) University of Cincinnati – B.A. English Literature (2002) License: Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, #151193 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Specialty Areas: ASD/Allistic Couples, LGBTQIA+, ADHD, Autism, Emotional Regulation, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), AuDHD, Attachment, IFS, Communication, Sex/Physical Intimacy, Emotional Intimacy, Not Accepting New Clients, Assessment, Buddist - Spiritual, Cassandra Syndrome, Emotion Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Neurodiverse Couples, Trauma, Highly Sensitive People (HSP) Lea Choi Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are autistic, have ADHD, or are otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help! < Back Jenny Pan Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist | Neurodiverse Couples Specialist My Personal Story Caught Between Cultures I am a first-generation Chinese American, born in Taiwan and raised in New York. I’m fluent in Mandarin Chinese and deeply connected to my cultural roots. But growing up, I often felt like I had to shapeshift to belong—blend in, stay quiet, and strive for perfection in everything I did. I carried the weight of being “too much” in some spaces and “not enough” in others. Over time, I’ve come to embrace what makes me different. I wear my heritage with pride, speak my truth with courage, and hold my healing journey as a testament to resilience. Early Struggles With Differences I immigrated to the U.S. at age 9 and endured years of bullying due to emotional, physical, and learning differences. Like many kids in the '80s, I went undiagnosed for ADHD —though I carried many of its traits. A Neurodivergent Marriage - Unrecognized Later in life, I married someone who was eventually diagnosed with autism— after our divorce. For 15 years, we struggled to connect, not realizing that we were a neurodivergent couple trying to operate in a neurotypical model of marriage. Living Through Cassandra Syndrome I now understand that I was experiencing something many partners of autistic individuals face: Cassandra Syndrome. I was confused, emotionally depleted, and constantly questioning my reality. At the time, I didn’t have a name for the chronic sense of loneliness and the emotional disconnection I felt. Today, I can look back and name it—and I want others to know they are not alone. If this resonates with you, I recommend exploring Believing Cassandra , a powerful resource for partners of neurodivergent individuals. Parenting in a Neurodiverse World Today, I’m the mother of two amazing kids (now 14 and 12), including a daughter with ADHD. Our family continues to navigate the neurodiverse world—messy, beautiful, and real. At one point, I poured that journey into a poem, capturing the raw truth and hope that helped me move forward: Brokenness is not the end, it’s the place where light gets in, where truth unfolds in tender threads, and new stories can begin... This isn’t just poetry—it’s a path I’ve walked. The Impact of Therapy on My Life Therapy didn’t just help me—it changed everything. I often say my therapist was like a breath of fresh air to lungs that had forgotten how to breathe. Therapy gave me space to rediscover my voice, to grieve and heal, and to show up for my children in a way that felt grounded and whole. Becoming a therapist was a leap of faith. I wanted to give others the same compassion and clarity I received when I was lost. It’s been one of the most fulfilling decisions of my life. Helping Neurodiverse Couples Find Connection Neurodiverse couples often come to therapy exhausted—not from a lack of love, but from the endless misunderstandings. I get it, not just professionally, but personally. I’ve lived the confusion of missed cues, clashing communication styles, and emotional disconnection. These couples aren’t broken. They’re navigating two different operating systems, often without a manual. My approach is rooted in this truth: neurodiverse relationships can thrive—when we stop trying to force sameness and start learning each other’s language. I also work with individuals and couples in Mandarin (and Chinglish), offering a space that feels more natural and deeply connecting for clients with shared cultural backgrounds. I have experience supporting multicultural and mixed-background couples in navigating the complexities of identity, language, and communication. I help couples: Understand their neurological differences without judgment De-escalate conflict and strengthen emotional regulation Build communication tools that actually work for both partners Create systems that support daily functioning, from parenting to housework Repair old wounds while building new habits of connection Common dynamics I address include: One partner needing direct, literal communication while the other craves emotional nuance Shutdowns, meltdowns, or missed signals leading to hurt or confusion Different needs for routine, sensory input, or social interaction Emotional burnout from masking, rejection sensitivity, or late diagnosis Couples with mixed cultural backgrounds Together, we untangle the pain, challenge the shame, and build something more authentic—something that works. Life Inside a Neurodiverse Blended Family I’m now remarried and living in a blended family that includes my two children and my husband’s adult children. Every day, we’re learning how to honor each other’s histories, personalities, and neurotypes while building something new together. Blended families aren’t easy—but they are rich with opportunities for grace and growth. Ours has been no exception. We’ve had to work through loyalty binds, competing schedules, co-parenting dynamics with exes, and very different ways of expressing emotion or asking for space. What helps us stay connected is our commitment to intentional practices. We hold weekly check-ins as a couple—not just to address problems but to stay tuned in emotionally. We also attend monthly couples therapy, even during the calm seasons, because we believe in proactive care. It’s like tending a garden—you don’t wait until things are dying to water the soil. Our family isn’t seamless. But it’s ours. It’s genuine, loving, and constantly growing. And that, to me, is beautiful. Supporting Coparents and Blended Families in Neurodiverse Contexts Blending families is never simple. When you add neurodivergence—whether in a parent or child—it introduces a whole other layer of complexity. From sensory needs to emotional regulation, from time blindness to executive functioning struggles, the everyday logistics of parenting can feel overwhelming. I help parents and stepparents: Co-parent with empathy across households and neurotypes Build trust with stepchildren while respecting boundaries Manage uneven transitions between two homes Support neurodivergent children who feel misunderstood in blended environments Navigate parallel parenting, emotional dysregulation, and the grief of “family ideal” myths This isn’t just theoretical for me—it’s lived. And I bring that experience to every session with compassion, clarity, and hope. When Cultural Identity and Neurodivergence Collide In some couples, one partner is navigating the world through a neurodivergent lens while also carrying the weight of cultural expectations, family loyalty, or identity struggles. That’s been my lived experience—and it’s a frequent reality in the clients I serve. That is why I offer individuals and couples in Mandarin (and Chinglish) - to provide a space that feels more natural and deeply connecting for clients with similar cultural backgrounds. I am passionate about supporting multicultural and mixed-background couples in navigating the complexities of identity, language, and communication. Some of the challenges I help couples face include: Cultural pressure to “save face” conflicting with the need to set emotional boundaries Differences in how love, care, or conflict are expressed across cultural or neurological lines A neurodivergent partner who struggles with social norms while their partner fears community judgment One partner taught to suppress emotional needs, the other wired for direct expression or sensory regulation I help couples slow down, translate, and build shared meaning in a way that honors both their brains and their backgrounds. The goal isn’t assimilation—it’s authentic connection. My Book I’m proud to be a co-author of Asian American Chronicles: Tales of Mental Health & Hope, written with my professor and classmates. It’s a heartfelt, honest look at the intersection of cultural identity and emotional well-being. For anyone who’s felt caught between expectations and authenticity, I hope it brings comfort and connection. Healing Trauma & Relational Wounds with EMDR In addition to talk therapy, I am trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), a trauma-focused approach that helps the brain re-process painful experiences so they no longer feel as overwhelming, intrusive, or defining. I use EMDR with clients who are navigating: Complex PTSD rooted in childhood or relational trauma Betrayal trauma, affairs, and repeated relationship ruptures Chronic shame, self-blame, and “never enough” narratives Experiences of racism, bullying, or cultural invalidation that still echo in the present Because many of my clients are neurodivergent, highly sensitive, or carrying cultural and family expectations, I tailor EMDR to honor pacing, sensory needs, and safety. That can look like: Spending extra time preparing your nervous system and building trust Using clear stop signals, check-ins, and collaborative choice at every step Integrating body awareness, imagery, and resourcing that fit your cultural and personal story The goal isn’t to erase what happened. It’s to lessen the emotional “charge” of those memories, so they no longer run your relationships from the shadows—and you can respond from clarity and self-compassion instead of survival mode. Specialties Neurodiverse & Neurotypical Couples Counseling Complex PTSD Divorce, Parenting & Blended Family Work Betrayal & Affairs Recovery Work Multicultural Relationship Challenges LGBTQ+ Affirming and Relationship Support Modalities Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) Gottman Method (Level 1) EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Brainspotting (Phase 1) Traditional Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) & TEAM-CBT Trauma-Informed Therapy Existential Centered Therapy PREPARE/ENRICH assessment tool for premarital, marital or enrichment counseling Education M.A. Marriage and Family Therapy, Western Seminary B.S. Finance & Accounting, New York University License & Employment Information Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, #155590 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Specialty Areas: Neurodiverse Couples, Trauma, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), LGBTQIA+, Betrayal/Affair Recovery, Divorce, Multicultural Challenges, Cassandra Syndrome, Communication, CBT, Brainspotting, Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients, Assessment, Attachment, ADHD, AuDHD, IFS, Christian, Discernment, Autism, Internal Family Systems, Life Transitions, ND at Work, Sex/Physical Intimacy, Emotion Focused Therapy Jenny Pan Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Joseph Kaiser | Neurodiverse Couples Specialist My Story Born and raised in the Redwoods of Northern California, I spent two decades in the advertising industry as a creative director, art director, and copywriter collaborating on regional, national and global campaigns. As a creative director nothing was more thrilling then collaborating with other creatives. Nurturing diverse perspectives and personalities to create high impact campaigns was a source of great personal and professional inspiration. Later I founded two small businesses; one in tech accessories and another manufacturing active toys developed for neurodiverse, neurotypical, and other children with special needs. I am a US Patent holder and was honored with a Silver Clio Award 2002, Bronze Clio 2002 and published in Graphis Design Annual 2004 and American Graphic Design 2003. My goal is to empower growth through the use of dynamic evidence-based theories and therapeutic rapport. Though I love my work with individuals, I am particularly passionate about couples work and how it can lead to individual well being and familial harmony. For better or worse, our earliest programming teaches us what we think marriage 'should' be. The truth is, marriage is what we make of it. We are the creators and, although painful at times, it can also inspire and empower. I am a firm believer that people heal and grow in connection to others. Main Areas of Focus Neurodiverse Couples Some couples have yet to realize they are neurodiverse. When they finally do, a diagnosis can feel like a relief after years of pain and contention. One common complaint from a partner may be that they are being "gaslighted” by the neurodiverse partner; accused of being irrational and not having their experience or feelings validated. The neurodiverse partner can feel overwhelmed and misunderstood. Common differences in communication are logical vs. emotional, concrete vs. abstract, absolute vs. relative, and avoidant vs. insistent. The first step is to help couples identify just how differences in their wiring affect their interaction cycles. Next is to break blame and shame patterns and find acceptance in differences through a structured step by step process that helps you rediscover love and acceptance. Couples De-escalation and healthy communication are a crucial place to start but only one dimension of couples work. Uncovering deeper unspoken truths and patterns by creating an environment of trust and acceptance is at the core of the healing process. Exploring and validating each partner's unique experience is essential to connecting. I help clients work past blame and shame. Major life changes like the loss of a job, the arrival of a child, or grief and loss, can bring about a shift in dynamics. My goal is to help couples grow together instead of apart while retaining their own identity. I provide a structured approach to couples therapy using elements of EFT, Gottman Method, CBT, Attachment Theory, Relational Life Therapy, Internal Family Systems and more. Affair Recovery Unfortunately, affairs transcend race, culture, sexuality, age, and socio-economic background. Whether it be emotional or sexual, infidelity is traumatic. The betrayed partner can develop depression, anxiety, and symptoms similar to PTSD while the unfaithful partner can be plagued with guilt. My first step is crisis management to stabilize your lives so the therapeutic work can begin. Once the immediate crisis has settled, the real work begins. If partners are willing, compassionate, and persistent, it can be an opportunity for tremendous growth. Affairs may be a reflection of long-standing wounds or struggles that pre-dated the marriage as well as patterns that developed during the relationship. Understanding why the affair occurred is critical to getting on a productive path to affair recovery. Using a step-by-step process, I will compassionately steer couples through this difficult minefield. Parenting And Co-Parenting It is in the best interest of their children for parents to move from an adversarial relationship to a cooperative and collaborative one. After 15 years of parenting and co-parenting of his own, I leverage my training and personal experience to help couples develop co-parenting plans and maintain a safe, secure, nurturing environment for their children to thrive. When done successfully, co-parenting counseling can improve the child’s confidence and self-esteem. Individuals As a compassionate professional, I am committed to helping individuals find healing, growth, and relationship transformation. This begins with building rapport which I believe is the wellspring of effective psychotherapy. I work with challenges such as depression, stress or anxiety, self-esteem, and career transition. Whether it is the cycle of life, health crisis, a move, a loss, relational struggles or change of circumstances, we can become overwhelmed. All too often there is a confluence of things that happen all at once. We thought we could handle it all but our body and psyche say no. I have a compassionate, accepting, curious approach that melds joining the client with various therapeutic methodologies and evidence-based practices. Other Areas of Focus Neurodiverse Couples Therapy & Coaching Trauma informed therapy Depression & Anxiety Treatment Life transitions High stress jobs Discernment Counseling Trauma-informed Therapy Pre-marital Counseling Depression and Anxiety Grief, loss, and shame Clients Couples of all ages Couples of all ethnic backgrounds Adult Individuals. Men, Women High achievers Modalities Internal Family Systems (IFS) Emotionally Focuses Therapy (EFT) Narrative Therapy Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) Person-Centered Therapy Gottman Method Family Systems Positive Psychology Attachment-based Culturally Sensitive Existential Family Systems Humanistic Mindfulness Motivational License Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT #151271 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Addiction, Discernment, Betrayal/Affair Recovery, Sex/Physical Intimacy, LGBTQIA+, Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, ADHD, Blended Families, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Internal Family Systems, Eating & Autism, ND at Work, Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients Joseph Kaiser Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Neurodiverse Couples One of the many tricks the human mind likes to play is convincing us that: "I am the only one.” More specifically, we often tell ourselves: "I am the only one who… thinks like this, acts like this, looks like this, struggles with this kind of thinking." For those experiencing the challenges of navigating a neurodiverse relationship, it can feel isolating. That was most certainly true for me in my neurodiverse marriage. There was tremendous power for my wife and I in naming our neurodiversity. This allowed us to feel seen and affirmed. Even though we struggled with our communication, our daily habits, our differences, and our life together, our understanding gave us a path forward. This allowed us to begin to see one another with compassion and grace. Hi, I am Jory Wilson, a dedicated couples counselor with a focus on supporting neurodiverse couples. `I help couples with the dynamics of relationships where one or both partners are neurodivergent. My practice is built on a deep appreciation for the complexities of neurodiversity, including Autism Spectrum Disorder, ADHD, and sensory processing differences, and how these aspects influence relationship interactions. My holistic approach not only addresses the challenges but also highlights the strengths that neurodiversity brings into relationships. My objective is to empower couples to gracefully manage their differences and to build robust, resilient partnerships that celebrate both individuality and unity. ADHD Support: Work, Life & Relationships Because I navigate the world with an ADHD brain, I understand that its impact extends far beyond a messy desk or a forgotten appointment. I know how ADHD ripples through every layer of life—from the pressure to perform at work while battling "imposter syndrome," to the sensory overwhelm that can make social gatherings exhausting, to the unique dynamics it creates inside a marriage. I support clients in understanding how their neurodivergence shows up in the boardroom, at the dinner table, and in their inner emotional world, helping to untangle the complexities of navigating a world designed for neurotypical brains. My approach goes much deeper than just "executive function" hacks or to-do lists. We will explore the nuanced reality of the ADHD experience, including the intense emotional waves, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), and the dopamine-seeking behaviors that often get misunderstood as laziness or lack of care. Whether it is navigating the shame spiral of "not doing enough" or managing the burnout that comes from years of masking, I provide a space where you do not have to translate your brain to be understood. Ultimately, my goal is to help you move from fighting your brain to working with it. While we will certainly tackle practical strategies for organization and focus, we will also look for the unique strengths inherent in your wiring—your creativity, your ability to hyperfocus, and your deep capacity for empathy. I want to help you build a life and relationships that honor your authentic self, rather than trying to fit a neurodivergent square peg into a neurotypical round hole. Sex Addiction and Neurodiversity In addition to my focus on neurodiverse relationships, I have developed a specialization in addressing the complexities of sex addiction within these unique partnerships. Understanding that sex addiction can present distinct challenges in the context of neurodiversity, I approach therapy with sensitivity to the nuances of how neurodivergent traits can intersect with addictive behaviors. My goal is to help individuals and couples navigate the intricacies of sex addiction by fostering healthy communication, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding trust. I employ a compassionate, non-judgmental approach, blending therapeutic techniques such as IFS (Internal Family Systems), EFT (Emotion-Focused Therapy) and mindfulness-based strategies to support recovery and healing. My work with neurodiverse couples and individuals facing sex addiction is rooted in the belief that every person and relationship has the capacity for growth and transformation. By creating a supportive and understanding environment, I aim to empower my clients to explore their behaviors, understand the underlying causes of addiction, and develop coping mechanisms that align with their values and relationship goals. Recognizing the importance of tailored interventions, I collaborate closely with each client to craft personalized treatment plans that address both neurodiversity and sex addiction, working towards a future where both individuals and their relationships can thrive. Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (Candidate) What is a CSAT? Certified Sex Addiction Therapists (CSAT) are professionals who have taken supplementary training to treat individuals experiencing unwanted or compulsive sexual behaviors, or sex addiction. CSATs take a deep dive into the root of the compulsive behavior, in many cases it is trauma, and provide a step-by-step guide to healing both the behavior and the wound it is protecting. Couples Retreats & Intensives I'm also passionate about helping couples in crisis find their way back to each other through innovative intensive sessions. My approach combines evidence-based therapeutic modalities with intuitive guidance, providing a powerful alternative to therapy (a process that can take months to years). Intensives are designed to be efficient and highly effective, providing tangible improvements in a rapid amount of time. Whether your relationship is on the brink of divorce, navigating trauma, or just stuck in unhelpful cycles, participating in an intensive with your partner can be a great way to jumpstart your healing journey. My Personal Story In a world that told me I needed to pick myself up by my bootstraps and tough it out I decided, after not being able to stuff emotions any longer, to go a different route. I left my career to focus on healing the deep wounds that I was not even able to name. That led to personal and couples therapy that forever changed my life for the better. I was so profoundly impacted by my experiences in therapy that I wondered if I could participate in the healing journey for others the way my therapist did for me. I decided to pursue a career in psychotherapy in efforts to extend the hand of compassion that was so lovingly extended to me. Make no mistake about it, the work of change is the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but it is also the most rewarding. I am living proof that couples therapy can have a profound impact on a relationship. My wife and I are living some of the most present and grateful years of our life as we raise a child together. We both entered our relationship with wounds that run incredibly deep, but the courageous work of change can heal in ways that I never imagined. If that is true in my life, then it is true for you as well. Specialties Sex Addiction Internet Addiction Affair Recovery Trauma OCD Modalities IFS (Internal Family Systems) EFT (Emotion-Focused Therapy) Person Centered Therapy Trauma Informed Therapy Clients Couples Individuals Teens Families Group Therapy License and Employment Registered Associate Marriage Family Therapist, AMFT # 145913 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Neurodiverse Couples, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Sex/Physical Intimacy, Communication, Betrayal/Affair Recovery, Addiction, Emotion Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Christian, Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients, IFS, General Couples Coaching, Emotional Regulation, Couples Retreats/Intensives, Trauma Jory Wilson Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are autistic, have ADHD, or are otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help! < Back Jen Terrell | Neurodiverse Couples Specialist At a Glance: My Journey & Experience Specialist in Neurodiverse Processing & Communication – Helps partners navigate differences in sensitivity, sensory load, and emotional expression, fostering connection across neurotypes. Trauma-Informed, Nervous-System-Centered – Prioritizes regulation before resolution so communication and repair can actually land. Autism, ADHD, and Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)–Informed Care – Helps clients understand their sensitivity, manage sensory and emotional overload, and develop regulation tools that make daily life and relationships more sustainable. 28 Years Married – Brings long-term partnership perspective to real-world issues like rupture, repair, routines, and seasons of closeness/distance. Mother of Four – Parent of four children (ages 13 to 17) with decades of lived experience; helps parents understand behavior through a sensory and regulation lens and build connection through practical routines and repair. Culturally & Biculturally Fluent (Korean/American) – Welcomes bicultural families, immigrants, and intergenerational dynamics; builds bridges without forcing assimilation. Betrayal & Trust Repair – Experienced in helping couples recover from relational injuries (ranging from major betrayals to quiet accumulations of hurt). Healing for Neurodiverse Couples Welcome! I believe that every neurodiverse couple needs a clear, repeatable way to stay connected without burning out. My approach is to translate different communication styles, reduce avoidable overload, and design a rhythm of togetherness and solitude that keeps both partners regulated enough to connect. Partners often speak different “native languages”—one may be more literal, direct, and energy‑limited; the other more inferential, fast‑paced, and socially tuned. We’ll get specific about time (how you start/stop, transition, and reunite), communication (how bids are sent and received), and environment (sensory factors that either drain or refuel), with an eye on roles, fairness, and repair. Here are core practices we’ll build together: Communication mapping & translation: turn missed bids into clear asks; bridge literal ↔ inferential styles; agree on scripts and hand signals for “I’m flooding” and “please be concrete.” Time design: set a predictable cadence of together/alone; use “parallel play” and low‑demand connection; build entry/exit rituals so reunions don’t derail. Sensory‑aware connection : plan dates and talks around noise/light/texture limits; negotiate eye‑contact and touch preferences; create a quiet‑connection menu. Executive‑function scaffolding: externalize plans with shared calendars/boards; define task hand‑offs; use time‑blindness tools and realistic transition buffers. Repair rituals: slow down escalations with step‑by‑step time‑outs; separate intent from impact; use brief apology/repair templates and scheduled do‑overs. Role clarity & fairness: make invisible labor visible; rebalance loads in weekly check‑ins; document “how we do it” for recurring friction points. Intimacy agreements: map bids for affection/sexuality; create a pressure‑free intimacy menu and consent signals so closeness feels safe, not demanding. Who I Work With If you’re seeking a relational, trauma-informed, nervous-system-centered approach—and you want practical steps that protect the dignity of both partners—you’re in the right place. Neurodiverse couples and individuals who want to better understand their brains and strengthen their connection. Partners caught in protest–withdraw, collapse–escalate, or silence–pursuit cycles Highly sensitive clients who feel overwhelmed or chronically misunderstood Couples facing communication breakdowns and trust ruptures Families navigating bicultural, immigrant, and intergenerational dynamics If you want a relational, trauma‑informed, nervous‑system‑centered approach—with practical steps that protect the dignity of both partners—I’d be honored to work with you. Personal Story Between Worlds (Bicultural Roots) I’m the first‑generation daughter of a Korean immigrant mother and an American father. From the start, I translated more than words—decoding emotion, catching the rules no one said out loud, and learning how to belong in two cultures that didn’t always speak to each other. Fluent in the Unsaid (Alexithymic Parent) In our home, the loudest things were often unspoken. My dad—late‑identified with alexithymia—showed love in steady, practical ways, but emotional words rarely appeared. I became fluent in tone, timing, and tension. In sessions, that means I track micro‑shifts in breath, eyes, and posture so people feel understood even before the words come. I help partners name what they’re experiencing without shame or minimization, so truth lands without doing more harm. Highly Sensitive, Not Fragile (HSP) As a kid, I over‑functioned—anticipating needs, smoothing conflict, and carrying more than I could hold. Adulthood asked me to refine that sensitivity into a strength. Today I honor bandwidth, set clear boundaries, and use sensitivity as a precise instrument for connection. In practice, we pace the work to what your nervous systems can actually tolerate and design environments—sensory, time, and tasks—that support connection rather than sabotage it. (If HSP is new—or you’d like a quick read and a brief screener— here’s a short guide . Twenty‑Eight Years Married I’ve been married for 28 years. Long‑term love isn’t a straight line; it moves through seasons. I’ve lived chapters of deep connection and chapters that required grit, mercy, humor, and repair. That history shapes my lens. I respect the real cycle of closeness, distance, rupture, and repair. I focus on daily design—routines, roles, and transitions—that make safety repeatable. My hope is honest, not naïve: change is possible when it’s practiced, not just promised. And I carry a bias toward repair in real time rather than perfection in theory. Steady When Sessions Feel Intense Couples therapy can feel pressure‑filled—voices tighten, bodies brace, and it can seem like everything is on the line. This is a space where I feel at home. Years of leading through real‑world crises taught me how to stay calm, keep dignity intact, and guide two good people back to each other when the moment feels impossible. In the room, I slow reactivity so thinking can return, I name the pattern that’s hijacking the conversation, and I help you find the next caring step you can actually do. From Othering to Belonging Growing up in a Northern California suburb, I often felt like an outsider—present but out of sync. That experience sharpened my empathy for anyone who feels “too much,” “too little,” or simply “different.” In couples work, that becomes bridge‑building: not assimilation to one partner’s style, but a third way where both people are understood and supported. Why This Matters in Therapy This background means I translate across neurotypes and cultures so messages land as intended. I privilege nervous‑system reality over willpower so change is sustainable. And I protect the dignity of both partners while we practice new moves in the room. What to Expect in Session Clients describe my style as warm, steady, and clear. I am direct without shaming and structured without being rigid. We will name what is actually happening between you, not just what you wish were happening. We will practice in the room so you don’t have to build new habits alone at home. We will keep an eye on sensory load, processing speed, and executive‑function bandwidth so that plans are doable, not performative. And when repairs are needed, we will do them well—at a pace your bodies can tolerate—so trust has a chance to grow again. Neurodiversity & Identity I’m proud to be neurodiverse. I’m unequivocally a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and—when you look through the lens of how autism often presents in women—my profile includes strong autistic traits alongside very high camouflaging. That matches my lived experience: I feel deeply, notice quickly, and learned early to “blend in” to keep connection. I also experience meaningful sensory differences, so I pay close attention to sound, light, and tactile load—for myself and for my clients. Because I’m wired this way, I intuitively understand the push–pull dynamics many neurodiverse couples face, and I know how to translate, pace, and design safety so both partners can actually meet. Parenting Across Neurotypes I love being a mom of four precious children—ages 27 to 13. Parenting four different humans taught me more about neurodiversity than any textbook. Each child brought a distinct nervous system, sensory profile, and way of connecting. Strategies that soothed one could overwhelm another. I learned—sometimes the hard way—that what looks like “defiance” or “avoidance” is often a nervous system protecting itself from overload. I also learned that the same moment can require very different responses: one child needed quiet and deep pressure to come back online; another needed movement and a time‑boxed plan; a third needed humor and a snack before words; a fourth needed space and a predictable check‑in. That lived education is the backbone of my work with parents. In my work with parents, I translate behavior through a regulation and sensory lens, build routines that actually fit a family’s bandwidth, and protect connection while setting clear, sustainable boundaries. Structure and tenderness are not opposites; they’re partners. Decode: meltdown vs. shutdown; sensory overload vs. “oppositional”; lagging skills vs. willful refusal. Design: mornings, transitions, homework flow, screen‑time limits, and recovery plans after overwhelm. Co‑regulate: simple scripts, breath/grounding cues, sensory kits, and repair rituals after conflict. Boundaries: a few clear rules, visual cues, choices inside limits, and plans for high‑stress moments. Special Focus: Betrayal Healing Betrayal shows up in every relationship in one form or another—sometimes large and obvious, sometimes quiet and cumulative. However it appears, it wounds safety and reshapes the story two people tell about each other. My focus is to slow reactivity, put clear words to the harm, and build a steady, compassionate repair process that honors truth, restores safety, and rebuilds trust over time. This work is careful and paced to what bodies can tolerate; it’s not performative, and it’s not rushed. Training & Approaches My work is grounded in relational neuroscience—the brain is social and changes through co‑regulation. Insight matters, but change sticks through repeated, attuned moments of safety. I integrate: Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) — reference: PACT Institute Internal Family Systems (parts work) — reference: IFS Institute Polyvagal‑informed regulation work — reference: Polyvagal Institute Somatic tracking and attunement — reference: Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute Attachment science for couples (EFT) — reference: ICEEFT Trauma‑informed principles — reference: SAMHSA Research‑based communication and repair tools — reference: The Gottman Institute License &Employment Information Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, #155583 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Specialty Areas: Neurodiverse Couples, Highly Sensitive People (HSP), Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Betrayal/Affair Recovery, Communication, Multicultural Challenges, Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients, ADHD, Blended Families, Cassandra Syndrome, Life Transitions, Teens, Trauma Jen Terrell Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are autistic, have ADHD, or are otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help! < Back Jamison Haase Neurodivergent-Affirming Therapist for Couples, Individuals, and Parents Who I Am: Act One: Small-Town Beginnings, Big-Hearted Lessons Jamison grew up in a tiny Minnesota town where the family rule was similar to so many others: feelings stay under wraps. Substance abuse, depression, and shame shaped a household that looked picture-perfect from the outside but ran on unspoken pain. Labeled “flaky” and “irresponsible,” Jamison spent years believing those words defined him—while quietly building hard-won empathy for anyone who feels misunderstood. Act Two: Hollywood Hustle Armed with a BFA in acting (1997), Jamison spent nearly 25 years on Los Angeles sets, eventually founding an on-camera school that helped hundreds of performers find their voice. Coaching actors taught him to read subtext and body language, hold space for others’ emotions, and spot the moment a story shifts—skills that now power his therapy work. Act Three: Therapy & a Late-Bloom Diagnosis After COVID, passion for showbiz faded and Jamison pivoted to mental health. While earning his Masters in Marriage & Family Therapy, he finally discovered the real reason he felt so out of sync in life: undiagnosed ADHD. Almost overnight, decades of shame melted, and a new mission emerged: help others rewrite their own misunderstood stories. Neurodiverse Couples Building a life with different neurotypes can feel like two radios tuned to separate stations—lots of volume, little clarity. Jamison’s 15-year marriage has lived that static and found the harmony, giving him lived wisdom he now shares with partners who are: Untangling Misinterpretations – When “You don’t care” really means “My brain processes differently.” Stuck in Blame-Shutdown Cycles – Swapping criticism and withdrawal for curiosity and repair. Hungry for Real Connection – Replacing scripts that never worked with communication that finally lands. How He Helps Name the Neurology – Understanding ADHD, autism, or AuDHD removes moral judgment and guilt. Create Accommodations – Practical systems for time, tasks, and sensory needs keep love from drowning in logistics. Reignite Intimacy – Emotionally Focused and Gottman-informed tools rebuild trust and warmth. With the right map, neurodiverse relationships don’t just survive—they become some of the most creative, resilient partnerships around. Neurodiverse Parenting Jamison and his wife are raising two energetic kids—one gifted, gloriously neurodiverse child and one future world-builder who keeps everyone laughing. Every school form, bedtime routine, and sensory storm doubles as on-the-job training. What He Knows Firsthand The confusion of trying discipline strategies that implode on an ADHD brain. The heartbreak of watching a gifted child mask until they burn out. The joy of seeing strengths shine when accommodations finally fit. In Parent-Focused Therapy, He Helps Caregivers: Decode Behaviors – Is it defiance, overwhelm, or an executive-function gap? Build Family Systems – Morning routines, homework plans, and shutdown-recovery scripts that actually work. Protect the Parent-Child Bond – Navigating shame, grief, and guilt so love stays front and center. Jamison believes children thrive when adults understand the brain behind the behavior—and when families trade “fixing” for celebrating unique wiring. Men, Neurodiversity, & A New Masculinity Growing up in rural Minnesota, Jamison absorbed a clear script: real men keep quiet, push through, never show weakness, or almost any emotion outside of anger. When undiagnosed ADHD amplified distraction, frustration, and shame, the result was an unhealthy mixture of anger and self-doubt that no one—least of all Jamison—could safely name. That powder keg eventually sent him to therapy, where he discovered two liberating truths: 1) masculinity isn’t one size fits all, and 2) neurodiverse brains often process emotion, stress, and sensory input in ways the old script never even considered. Late diagnosis reframed his struggles, and helped redefine masculinity as less about “manning up” and more about showing up —vulnerably, authentically, and in full technicolor neurodiversity. Today, Jamison helps other men rewrite that script. Whether clients are wrestling with ADHD-fueled impulsivity, autistic social fatigue, or the quiet dread of “never enough,” he offers a space where strength and sensitivity coexist—where tears, laughter, and profanity can all live in the same sentence. In Men’s Work, Jamison Guides Clients to: Decode Emotional Overload – separating neurological overwhelm from “weakness.” Transform Shutdowns & Outbursts – mapping triggers, building regulation tools, and practicing direct requests instead of silent resentment. Cultivate Shame-Resilience – replacing self-berating narratives with self-compassion rooted in accurate brain science. Align Identity with Values – moving from inherited roles to consciously chosen definitions of partner, father, friend, and man. Because masculinity doesn’t need to be torn down – it needs a broader definition that includes every neurotype, every emotion, and every voice. Trauma, Overwhelm, & EMDR Jamison is trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), a research-backed approach that helps the brain reprocess painful experiences so they stop running the show in the present. He uses EMDR with clients whose lives are shaped by: Old shame stories that won’t loosen their grip. Medical, relational, or childhood trauma that still lives in the body. Freeze, flight, or shutdown responses that feel automatic and out of proportion. Because many neurodivergent clients process information visually, somatically, or in “high-def” detail, Jamison tailors EMDR to honor sensory needs, pacing, and consent at every step. That can mean more preparation, slower sets, clear stop signals, and lots of collaboration about what feels safe. The goal isn’t to erase the past. It’s to take the charge out of it—so flashbacks become memories, triggers soften, and people can respond from choice instead of reflex. Specialties & Approach Late-identified ADHD & Autism in adults Neurodiverse couples communication & intimacy Executive-function coaching for real life Men’s issues & redefining masculinity Attachment & trauma-informed, person-centered care Emotionally Focused Therapy Gottman-inspired skills Somatic & creative techniques EMDR-informed trauma work License &Employment Information Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, #151355 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Specialty Areas: Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, ADHD, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Emotional Regulation, Attachment, Communication, Family Conflict, Emotional Intimacy, Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients, Blended Families, Discernment, General Couples Coaching, Sex/Physical Intimacy, Cassandra Syndrome, Trauma Jamison Haase Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back About: Dr. Motro has made working with neurodiverse community the centerpiece of his life. He has extensive personal experiences with neurodiversity and believes that typical couples counseling falls far short for neurodiverse couples. Accordingly, he has dedicated his practice to providing life-changing counseling for these special but often misunderstood couples. His background includes the following: he spent his earlier work life in technology and then chose a second career in helping others, he is the founder and clinical director of the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center where he collaborates with other therapists equally dedicated to the neurodiverse community. he has collaborated with his team to develop specialized tools to assist neurodiverse couples, he serves as an adjunct graduate school psychology professor where he has incorporated neurodiverse couples counseling into the teaching curriculum, he is a clinical supervisor of other neurodiverse couples therapists, he serves on non-profit boards including, New Path Couples Therapy and Therapy in Motion. he has been married 40 years and the proud parent of adult children , and he has received specialized couples training at the Master's & Doctoral levels. His interest in neurodiverse couples is rooted in his personal life, his prior work in technology, and because his psychology practice is based in Silicon Valley, a neurodiversity hot spot. NEURODIVERSE COUPLES: Most neurodiverse couples start off woefully uninformed about their differences and how to support and accept each other. This misinformation leads to misunderstanding, which eventually morphs into the belief that the other partner is purposely cruel or simply uncaring. Emotional walls come up and intimacy fades and then dies. The most important part of our work in therapy is to free you from this painful blame and shame cycle. We work to gradually reframe how you understand and see each other, reshaping your patterns, and allowing a new relationship to blossom. You can read more on his approach to Neurodiversity at: https://www.harrymotro.com/therapy-for-neurodiverse-couples . Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): General Couples Therapy Affair Recovery Sex addiction Modalities: Trauma-focused Neurodiverse Couples Therapy , Emotion Focused Therapy, Imago Therapy, Gottman, Person-Centered, Existential, Couples-Based CBT, Behavioral, Internal Family Systems, Experiential, Positive Psychology Clients: Couples and Families only License: California / LMFT53452 Contact Harry Specialty Areas: Christian, ND at Work, Discernment, Internal Family Systems, Emotion Focused Therapy Harry Motro Take an Autism Test