Support and education for those with both ASD and ADHD AuDHD SUPPORT < Back AUTISM & ADHD OVERLAP WHAT IS AuDHD? AuDHD is a relatively new unofficial term that describes a person who has both autism and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Thus, it is a merging of the terms Autism and ADHD into AuDHD. Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) are both neurodevelopmental disorders that can affect a person's behavior, social interaction, and communication. It is essential to remember that treatment for AuDHD should be individualized to meet the specific needs of each person. We would love to provide a comprehensive evaluation and develop a treatment plan that fits you. STATISTICAL OVERLAP There is a significant overlap in symptoms between the… Show More

Communication Guide for Neurodiverse Couples. Learn to listen and talk with less frustration and more hope! NEURODIVERSE COMMUNICATION < Back SPEAKING DIFFERENT LANGUAGES? Why do we feel like we are speaking different languages when we try to talk to each other? Do your partner's words sound like "blah blah blah...", where you are not really hearing each other? What hijacks our ability to communicate effectively? Do your conversations sound like: Tammy: Look at me when I talk to you. Tim: I am trying to but you're not making any sense. You said to walk the dog as soon as I felt like it. I never felt like it. Tammy: You know that the dog needs a walk every day. Tim: But you never said that. Tammy: I've said that… Show More

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Amanda is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a mother of 4, plus 2 children from a blended partnership. She is currently working towards the completion of her doctoral degree in counseling education and supervision. Amanda specializes in working with couples and individuals who want to strengthen their lives and relationships through positive communication, conflict management, and improvement in intimacy as well as self-care, so they are able to continue to care for others. Using a non-judgmental, strength-based approach, Amanda guides couples in finding solutions to problems, while also maintaining a safe and supportive space where couples can communicate safely and openly about the fears that paralyze them, such as fear of loss, disappointment, rejection, and loss of self. Neurodiverse Couples Communication is important in every relationship, and it can be particularly challenging for a neurodiverse couple. Amanda believes that it is vital to identify solid communication strategies between partners, using specific techniques for handling relationship troubles, whether perpetual or solvable. These techniques encourage the understanding that emotions are important, there is no absolute reality, only two subjective ones, acceptance is crucial, and a development of fondness and admiration within the relationship. Amanda encourages couples to celebrate the small steps towards a larger goal and helps keep focus on what the couple can do to set themselves up to thrive. Parenting Neurodiverse Children Amanda has personal experience as a mother of a neurodivergent 13 year old, working through the white waters of concern for her child’s behavior and development, receiving the diagnosis of neurodiversity, and wondering what it means to parent a child who is neurodiverse. Parenting neurodivergent children can be exponentially intense. Amanda teaches parents positive parenting skills that encourage the use of “Why?” to address the child’s behavior, focusing on an understanding of the purpose that behavior serves the child and what they are trying to tell you. Allowing the behavior to inform what needs to be put into place ahead of time to help the child manage the particular challenge, and also ensuring that consequences are related to the behavior/issue as a last resort to addressing behavior. Amanda encourages parents to catch their child’s positive behaviors whenever possible and to name specifically what they see so as to encourage the positive behavior to reoccur. Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): Addiction Affair Recovery Major Life Transition Support, co-parenting, blended families, separation/divorce Parent Coaching Sex Therapy Clients: Couples and families Modalities: Coaching Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) Gottman Method Internal Family Systems (IFS) Solution Focused Brief (SFBT) Strength-Based Structural Family Therapy License: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT #150002 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Neurodiverse Couples, Cassandra Syndrome, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Betrayal/Affair Recovery, Sex/Physical Intimacy, Intimate Partner Violence, Christian, Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients Amanda Silvester Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Joseph Kaiser | Neurodiverse Couples Specialist My Story Born and raised in the Redwoods of Northern California, I spent two decades in the advertising industry as a creative director, art director, and copywriter collaborating on regional, national and global campaigns. As a creative director nothing was more thrilling then collaborating with other creatives. Nurturing diverse perspectives and personalities to create high impact campaigns was a source of great personal and professional inspiration. Later I founded two small businesses; one in tech accessories and another manufacturing active toys developed for neurodiverse, neurotypical, and other children with special needs. I am a US Patent holder and was honored with a Silver Clio Award 2002, Bronze Clio 2002 and published in Graphis Design Annual 2004 and American Graphic Design 2003. My goal is to empower growth through the use of dynamic evidence-based theories and therapeutic rapport. Though I love my work with individuals, I am particularly passionate about couples work and how it can lead to individual well being and familial harmony. For better or worse, our earliest programming teaches us what we think marriage 'should' be. The truth is, marriage is what we make of it. We are the creators and, although painful at times, it can also inspire and empower. I am a firm believer that people heal and grow in connection to others. Main Areas of Focus Neurodiverse Couples Some couples have yet to realize they are neurodiverse. When they finally do, a diagnosis can feel like a relief after years of pain and contention. One common complaint from a partner may be that they are being "gaslighted” by the neurodiverse partner; accused of being irrational and not having their experience or feelings validated. The neurodiverse partner can feel overwhelmed and misunderstood. Common differences in communication are logical vs. emotional, concrete vs. abstract, absolute vs. relative, and avoidant vs. insistent. The first step is to help couples identify just how differences in their wiring affect their interaction cycles. Next is to break blame and shame patterns and find acceptance in differences through a structured step by step process that helps you rediscover love and acceptance. Couples De-escalation and healthy communication are a crucial place to start but only one dimension of couples work. Uncovering deeper unspoken truths and patterns by creating an environment of trust and acceptance is at the core of the healing process. Exploring and validating each partner's unique experience is essential to connecting. I help clients work past blame and shame. Major life changes like the loss of a job, the arrival of a child, or grief and loss, can bring about a shift in dynamics. My goal is to help couples grow together instead of apart while retaining their own identity. I provide a structured approach to couples therapy using elements of EFT, Gottman Method, CBT, Attachment Theory, Relational Life Therapy, Internal Family Systems and more. Affair Recovery Unfortunately, affairs transcend race, culture, sexuality, age, and socio-economic background. Whether it be emotional or sexual, infidelity is traumatic. The betrayed partner can develop depression, anxiety, and symptoms similar to PTSD while the unfaithful partner can be plagued with guilt. My first step is crisis management to stabilize your lives so the therapeutic work can begin. Once the immediate crisis has settled, the real work begins. If partners are willing, compassionate, and persistent, it can be an opportunity for tremendous growth. Affairs may be a reflection of long-standing wounds or struggles that pre-dated the marriage as well as patterns that developed during the relationship. Understanding why the affair occurred is critical to getting on a productive path to affair recovery. Using a step-by-step process, I will compassionately steer couples through this difficult minefield. Parenting And Co-Parenting It is in the best interest of their children for parents to move from an adversarial relationship to a cooperative and collaborative one. After 15 years of parenting and co-parenting of his own, I leverage my training and personal experience to help couples develop co-parenting plans and maintain a safe, secure, nurturing environment for their children to thrive. When done successfully, co-parenting counseling can improve the child’s confidence and self-esteem. Individuals As a compassionate professional, I am committed to helping individuals find healing, growth, and relationship transformation. This begins with building rapport which I believe is the wellspring of effective psychotherapy. I work with challenges such as depression, stress or anxiety, self-esteem, and career transition. Whether it is the cycle of life, health crisis, a move, a loss, relational struggles or change of circumstances, we can become overwhelmed. All too often there is a confluence of things that happen all at once. We thought we could handle it all but our body and psyche say no. I have a compassionate, accepting, curious approach that melds joining the client with various therapeutic methodologies and evidence-based practices. Other Areas of Focus Neurodiverse Couples Therapy & Coaching Trauma informed therapy Depression & Anxiety Treatment Life transitions High stress jobs Discernment Counseling Trauma-informed Therapy Pre-marital Counseling Depression and Anxiety Grief, loss, and shame Clients Couples of all ages Couples of all ethnic backgrounds Adult Individuals. Men, Women High achievers Modalities Internal Family Systems (IFS) Emotionally Focuses Therapy (EFT) Narrative Therapy Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) Person-Centered Therapy Gottman Method Family Systems Positive Psychology Attachment-based Culturally Sensitive Existential Family Systems Humanistic Mindfulness Motivational License Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT #151271 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Addiction, Discernment, Betrayal/Affair Recovery, Sex/Physical Intimacy, LGBTQIA+, Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, ADHD, Blended Families, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Internal Family Systems, Eating & Autism, ND at Work, Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients Joseph Kaiser Take an Autism Test

By Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center You take your car in for an oil change every 5,000 miles. You see the dentist twice a year. You go for your annual physical to check your cholesterol and blood pressure. We do maintenance on everything that matters to us. We catch problems before they become disasters. Everything, that is , except the most complex thing in our lives: our relationship. In my practice at the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center , I see thousands of couples—usually one Autistic or ADHD partner and one Neurotypical partner—who are deeply in love but critically exhausted. They usually arrive at our door only after a breakdown. They have tried standard marriage counseling. They have tried "date nights." They have tried "listening more." But the conflict remains. Why? Because they are trying to run Windows software on a Mac operating system without an emulator. They don't need to try harder; they need a better map of their wiring. The Myth of "Meeting in the Middle" Standard relationship advice suggests that if you compromise, you will find peace. In a neurodiverse relationship, "meeting in the middle" often results in Mutual Masking . The Autistic/ADHD partner suppresses their sensory needs and stims to appear "attentive," leading to burnout. The Neurotypical partner suppresses their need for emotional reciprocity to avoid triggering a meltdown, leading to loneliness (often called the "Cassandra Syndrome"). This isn't a lack of love. It is a classic example of the Double Empathy Problem (Milton, 2012). Research shows that while autistic people communicate effectively with other autistic people, and neurotypicals with neurotypicals, the breakdown occurs between the two neurotypes. It is a translation error, not a character flaw. Introducing the Neurodiverse Relationship Check-Up To help couples stop guessing and start understanding, we developed the Neurodiverse Relationship Check-Up . This isn't a "Cosmopolitan Magazine" quiz. It is a clinical tool designed to map the specific friction points between two different nervous systems. It analyzes your relationship across three critical layers: Core Dynamics, Communication Style, and Sensory Profiles . Here is what we are looking for when you take the check-up: Layer 1: The Core Dynamic (Your Archetype) Based on our scoring logic, most couples fall into one of three "Survival Loops," or hopefully, the fourth "Secure" state. Type A: The Logic vs. Emotion Loop (The Cassandra Dynamic) The Pattern: One partner (often Neurotypical) pursues connection and emotional validation. The other partner (often Autistic/ADHD) retreats into facts, logic, and problem-solving to feel safe. The Internal Experience: Partner A: "I am lonely. I am screaming in a glass box. My feelings are treated as math problems." Partner B: "I am overwhelmed. I am trying to fix the problem to make them happy, but I am constantly told I am doing it wrong." The Science: This dynamic is fueled by Alexithymia (difficulty identifying feelings) and different processing speeds. The "Logic" partner needs time to process emotion; the "Emotion" partner needs immediate responsiveness to feel safe. Type B: Parallel Lives (Sensory Survival Mode) The Pattern: You have stopped fighting. In fact, you barely interact. You have become roommates who manage the logistics of a household but share no intimacy. The Internal Experience: You have learned that "Space = Safety." To avoid sensory overload or conflict, you drift apart. The Risk: This creates a stable but "dead" relationship. It is often a coping mechanism for Sensory Overload . One partner retreats to a cave (video games, hobbies) to regulate, leaving the other feeling abandoned. Type C: The High-Intensity Cycle The Pattern: Common in ADHD-ADHD or ADHD-Autistic pairings. The relationship is a rollercoaster of dopamine-fueled passion and chaotic, impulsive conflict. The Internal Experience: "We can't live with each other, and we can't live without each other." Executive function challenges lead to a chaotic home environment, where one person often gets stuck as the "Project Manager," breeding resentment. Type D: Bridging Differences (The Neuro-Secure Partnership) The Goal: This is what a healthy neurodiverse relationship looks like. The Shift: You have stopped trying to "fix" each other's brains. You practice Translation over Transformation . Curiosity First: "Are you regulated?" replaces "Why are you yelling?" Explicit Clarity: You say exactly what you mean, removing the anxiety of guesswork. Layer 2: Communication Style The check-up also acts as a mirror for how you miss each other. Mutual Masking is a major red flag we look for. This happens when both partners are walking on eggshells. Research by Lai et al. (2017) shows that "camouflaging" or masking leads to higher rates of anxiety and depression. If your relationship requires you to hide your autistic traits or your emotional needs to survive dinner, the relationship health score will drop. We also look for Silent Scripts . This occurs when you assume you know what your partner is thinking ("They are being quiet because they are mad at me"), rather than checking the facts ("They are quiet because they are socially tapped out"). Layer 3: The Sensory Profile This is the most overlooked aspect of couples therapy. We cannot talk about emotion without talking about biology. The Check-Up analyzes your Sensory Compatibility : Sound: Does one partner need music to focus while the other needs silence? Touch Saturation: By 8:00 PM, an Autistic partner may be "touched out" (tactile defensiveness). If the Neurotypical partner tries to hug them, they flinch. This is often interpreted as rejection, but it is actually sensory regulation . Co-Regulation: How do you calm down? One may need to pace and stim; the other may need to verbalize and process. Why Take the Check-Up? You cannot fix a dynamic you cannot name. The Neurodiverse Relationship Check-Up takes about 5 minutes. It provides you with a Relationship Health Score (0-100%) and a detailed breakdown of your Archetype. 0-40%: Needs Attention (Maladaptive patterns are dominant). 41-75%: Moderate Strain (You have tools, but are frequently triggered). 76-100%: Thriving (You are bridging differences successfully). This is not a diagnostic tool for Autism or ADHD. It is a diagnostic tool for the relationship itself . It is a starting point for a new kind of conversation—one based on neurology, not blame. [Take the Neurodiverse Relationship Check-Up Here] Stop guessing. Get the map. Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these statements may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners References & Further Reading Baron-Cohen, S., et al. (2001). The "Reading the Mind in the Eyes" Test revised version: a study with normal adults, and adults with Asperger syndrome or high-functioning autism. Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry . Crompton, C. J., et al. (2020). Neurotype-Matching, but Not Being Autistic, Influences Self and Observer Ratings of Interpersonal Rapport. Frontiers in Psychology . Lai, M. C., et al. (2017). Quantifying and exploring camouflaging in men and women with autism. Autism . Milton, D. E. M. (2012). On the ontological status of autism: the ‘double empathy problem’. Disability & Society . Mitchell, A., et al. (2021). Overcoming the Double Empathy Problem Within Pairs of Autistic and Non-autistic Adults Through the Contemplation of Serious Literature. Frontiers in Psychology . Stuss, D. T., & Alexander, M. P. (2000). Executive functions and the frontal lobes: a conceptual view. Psychological Research . Important Note: This check-up was developed internally by the clinical team at the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center based on our work with thousands of couples. While grounded in current research, this tool has not been statistically normed or validated as a psychometric instrument. Please treat the results as a "mirror" to spark conversation and insight, not as a standardized medical diagnosis. If you are seeking a formal evaluation, our clinical team can administer standardized, validated assessments upon request.* Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Tamala Takahashi Not accepting new clients See our other clinicians or Fill our our contact form to get matched About Tamala: Hi there! I was late-diagnosed ADHD (inattentive) at age 49. Two of my three adult children were also diagnosed with ADHD in their late teens/early 20’s. My oldest child is undiagnosed, however they are likely autistic/ADHD as well. My husband of 27 years is late-diagnosed with AuDHD (at age 48). After a fulfilling first career in nonprofit consulting, I decided to focus on helping couples heal and grow in their relationships. Today, I specialize in guiding couples to reconnect, improve communication, and build healthier, more fulfilling partnerships. I am sharing this with you because I believe it will help me understand and support you. I look forward to hearing from you. Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships Neurodiverse couples work is about building communication and coping skills that work best in this particular relationship while maintaining one’s autonomy and individual self. In neurodiverse relationships, clients may have difficulty understanding each other, may be unsure what is OK and not OK to do or say, may feel lonely or annoyed, and may feel like fights and conversations continue to go around and around without resolution. My goal with couples is to meet both individuals where they are at and to assist each individual identify their needs and wants, articulate them, and respond when their partner does the same. The couple decides where they want to go with the relationship and works best for them. And in this process, I hold space, grace, and validation for each individual’s experience in how they process the world as well as the emotional lessons they have learned from their past. You Are NOT Alone The neurodiverse experience can feel lonely. Whether you are neurodiverse or have a neurodiverse partner/family member, it can feel like you are expected to behave a certain way and say certain things, or that no matter how hard you try, you can’t do it right. Maybe you feel like there are things that just don’t make sense but nobody else can see it. That struggle can feel so lonely. My intention in therapy is to provide a space where you are no longer alone. Whether in couples or individual therapy, I am there to support you and hold space for your lived experiences. You Can Do This You have made it to this moment. Congratulations! But I’m guessing those coping skills you developed aren’t working as well anymore and you’re looking for something to help navigate life and relationships. The good news is that you can learn new skills that are more appropriate to your life now. You did it before, and you can do it again. I believe all of us have the capacity to heal and improve our inner lives. That said, it can sometimes be difficult to do this work alone, let alone know what to do at all. That’s where therapy can be a bridge to confidence and a calmer inner world . When humans work together interdependently, we can go further and do better than we can do alone. My position as a therapist is to support my clients in this journey to inner strength and groundedness . My Therapeutic Philosophy While it seems like today we have more understanding of (neuro)diversity, more grace and compassion for each other, and more freedom to move about the cabin without masking, we also live in the modern world where we witness folks’ lives on full display to be judged on social media, where we are told we can do anything yet can receive harsh criticism for not being perfect, and where there is a lingering feeling of uncertainty of the future. This mixed messaging can be destabilizing. In addition, our sense of self and perceptions of others are derived from a combination of our personal experiences (including trauma and triumphs), what we learned from our caretakers, the lessons from other authority figures, society’s messages, and our neurobiology. This mixture is unique to each individual. How we process information therefore has an impact on how we perceive and interact with ourselves and others. I believe a therapist’s role is to provide stability while the client(s) works through uncertainty, reality checks the lessons they learned in life, tries something new, and finds a healthy path to what it looks like for them to be grounded. The specifics will look different for each client(s), but all sessions are built around the principles of acceptance, patience, and kindness. I work collaboratively with the client(s) to identify areas of focus and what works best for them from their perspective. In our 50-min. sessions, therapy goals are usually a combination of gaining clarity, self-awareness, self-compassion, and coping skills. When working with couples or families, communication skills are a significant part of the work as well . Areas of focus Adult diagnosed/suspected ADHD/Autism/AuDHD ADHD/AuDHD with anxiety and depression Women/Non-binary with ADHD/AuDHD cPTSD and Trauma Adolescent diagnosed/suspected ADHD/Autism/AuDHD Parents of adolescent/adult neurodiverse children Childhood emotional neglect/emotional abuse Adult neurodiverse relationships with parents and other family members Empty nest/menopause transitions Multi-cultural relationships/families Intersection of neurodiversity and LGBTQ+ Young adult launching (college, early career, living away from parents, adult relationships) Self Esteem and Assertiveness Social media/video game addiction Religious/cult abuse recovery Modalities Client-centered Therapy Trauma Informed Therapy (CTP certified) Solution Focused Therapy Strengths-Based Approach Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) Somatic Therapy for Trauma Tarot Therapy Positive Psychology Relationship Anarchy approach: anti-hierarchical practices (everyone in the relationship is equal) anti-normativity (every relationship’s success criteria is unique to them) interdependency (partners can share feelings and needs openly and safely) individual autonomy (each partner is a complete human on their own) License & Certifications Registered Associate Marriage Family Therapist, AMFT Registered Professional Clinical Counselor Certified Trauma Professional (CTP) Education Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology, Antioch University of Los Angeles Employment Information Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc . Specialty Areas: Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, Sex/Physical Intimacy, Teens, ADHD, Emotional Intimacy, Communication, Not Accepting New Clients, Attachment, AuDHD, LGBTQIA+, Trauma Tamala Takahashi Take an Autism Test

Meet Emma and Lucas (not their real names) . After years of misunderstanding and failed attempts with therapists who didn’t grasp the nuances of their neurodiverse relationship, they’re at their breaking point. Their latest fight was the last straw : Emma felt dismissed when Lucas forgot their anniversary, and Lucas was overwhelmed by Emma’s emotional response. Emma threatens divorce. But it doesn’t mean very much because she never acts on it. They don’t know what to do. Desperation brought them to me with one GIGANTIC question: Should we try to save this relationship? On the Brink When a neurodiverse marriage is on the brink of falling apart, couples face the hardest choice of their lives. Here are some of the questions that haunt them: Is this a phase in marriage that will pass? Is this just a personal crisis? Do I even want to work on it? If I make a decision to work on it, how can I be confident that it is the right one for me, or for us? What have I missed? Do I have a blind spot? Is my neurodiverse partner capable of change? Am I? Is it fair for me to ask him/her to change if that's not who he/she really is? What happens to our children? Will they be better off with us staying together in an unhappy marriage? Do I really understand the downside of divorce? Whether to stay married or get divorced is a multi-layered decision process. One that will confound even the most discerning people. You will second guess yourself, ruminate over the decision, and even drive yourself to depression. Sometimes you'll be tempted to decide just to end the misery of uncertainty. Discernment Counseling: A Path Forward Fortunately, there’s a way to help couples get unstuck: Discernment Counseling. The goal of Discernment Counseling isn’t to solve your marital problems but to determine if they can be solved. We answer 2 questions: What would have to change to make this relationship work? Are we willing to sign up to work on the relationship for 6 months? The Big Difference: Unlike traditional couples counseling, which fights to save the marriage, Discernment Counseling focuses solely on helping couples decide what they want to do with their relationship. Ready to Take the Next Step? Get Started with a Discernment Counselor Nuts and Bolts of Discernment Counseling Discernment Counseling: Is a structured assessment process , not treatment. Is a brief, time-limited process, typically completed in five sessions or less. Slows down the impulse to act, encouraging a longer view of your marriage and a broader range of choices. Provides the key information needed to evaluate the relationship and take action—either to pursue a divorce or commit to a six-month course of intensive neuro-informed couples therapy. For neurodiverse couples, this information includes the input of a neuro-informed couples specialist who can explain what a 6-month therapy roadmap should look like for a neurodiverse couple. Identifies core areas each partner needs to work on , giving clarity on what each person needs to change. Answers the question: "Are you willing to work on changing your contributions to the marriage?" If both partners answer "yes" to this question, they move forward and start working on their relationship intensely. After six months, they revisit the question about whether to divorce, but by then, they have more knowledge and clarity about the true viability of their marriage. By the way, some couples just can’t sign up for 6 months. It’s just too long so we break it up into 2 blocks of 3 months each where we revisit discernment after the first block to make sure we’re on track. If either partner answers "no" , your discernment counselor will support you in a healthy separation process or find ways to make the best of the status quo. Beacon of Hope We understand how lonely and desperate couples feel when on the brink of separation or divorce. Discernment Counseling offers a beacon of hope. Couples who go through this process often feel much better, no matter what path they ultimately choose. It provides clarity, reduces uncertainty, and instills a sense of empowerment. There is always hope, and we are here to support you every step of the way. Meet Our Client Care Coordinator With heartfelt best wishes, Harry Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT, Clinical Director Founder Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Are You Sensitive to Noises, Textures, etc...? Want to better understand your sensory struggles? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and Take the SPM-2 Questionnaire Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

"Cassandra Syndrome" is a term that Dr. Tony Attwood first coined in his book, The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome . It describes a situation where an individual with Asperger's Syndrome (a form of autism spectrum disorder) is in a relationship with a neurotypical partner. The neurotypical partner often feels dismissed and unheard, leading to feelings of frustration, resentment, and even anger. Defining Neurodiversity and Neurotypical: Judy Singer, an Australian sociologist with autism, first coined the term "neurodiversity" in the late 1990s. The term is now used to describe the range of neurological differences within the population, including conditions like attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), dyslexia, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), autism spectrum disorder, and even some traumatic brain injuries (TBI). While there is no one-size-fits-all definition of "neurotypical," the term is generally used to describe individuals with no neurological disorders or differences. In other words, neurotypical people are considered "neurologically average." What is Autism Spectrum Disorder? Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a complex neurobehavioral condition that affects a person's ability to communicate, interact with others, and have typical motor and sensory behaviors. ASD is characterized by impaired social interaction, verbal and nonverbal communication issues, and unusual or repetitive behaviors. The medical community now recognizes that there is not one "type" of autism but rather a spectrum of symptoms and behaviors that differ significantly from person to person. Current research shares that men are four times more likely to be diagnosed with ASD than women. However, this number is changing as we become more aware of the prevalence of ASD in women and girls. Differences in Brain Wiring: What is fascinating is the brain differences between those on the autism spectrum and neurotypical individuals. The autistic brain is wired differently than the neurotypical, and this difference in wiring can account for many of the challenges and strengths that people with ASD face. For example, people with ASD tend to be very literal thinkers and may have difficulty understanding sarcasm, metaphors, or jokes. This literal thinking can also lead to strengths in attention to detail and pattern recognition. People with ASD may also have Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD), which means that their brain has difficulty processing sensory filtering information. This condition can lead to Sensory Overload, where an individual is bombarded with too much sensory input and becomes overwhelmed. While everyone's brain is wired differently, those with ASD tend to have more extreme differences in brain wiring than neurotypical individuals. These differences can account for many of the challenges and strengths that people with ASD face. What is Cassandra Syndrome? Cassandra syndrome is named after the Greek mythological figure cursed by Apollo. Apollo blessed her with the gift of foreseeing the future, but when she rejected his advances, he cursed her so that no one would believe her predictions. In other words, she had knowledge others didn't have, but she could not share it effectively. In neurodiverse relationships, one partner has a different way of processing information and communicating than the other, leading to misunderstandings and frustrating communication breakdowns. However, there are ways to decode Cassandra syndrome and improve communication in neurodiverse relationships. What Causes Cassandra Syndrome? There are a few different things that can cause Cassandra syndrome in neurodiverse relationships. Poor Understanding: One is simply a lack of understanding about how the other person processes information. Communicating can be challenging when we don't understand how someone else perceives the world effectively. Psychoeducation for both the neurodiverse partner and neurotypical is key in overcoming this challenge. Lack of Empathy: If we cannot see things from another person's perspective, it's easy to become wrapped up in our point of view and ignore their needs altogether. This concept is known as the empathy gap and significantly contributes to Cassandra syndrome. Different Communication Styles: Another reason Cassandra syndrome occurs is that people with ASD tend to communicate differently than neurotypical individuals. Those on the autism spectrum may not pick up on nonverbal cues, such as body language and tone of voice. They may also prefer to communicate in more literal, concrete terms, leading to miscommunication and frustration on both sides. Different Priorities: Another cause of Cassandra syndrome is that people with ASD often have different priorities than neurotypical individuals. This can lead to disagreements about what is important in a relationship and how to spend time together; it is vital to be understanding and patient as you learn about your partner's priorities. Differences in Social Skills: People with ASD often have challenges with social skills; this can make communicating difficult, leading to frustration and misunderstanding. However, there are many resources available to help improve social skills. With practice and patience, communication will improve over time. Diverse Learning Styles: We all have different ways that we learn and process information. Some are visual learners, while others are more auditory or kinesthetic. Communicating can be challenging when we don't understand someone else's learning style. Power Differential: Another cause of Cassandra syndrome is an imbalance of power in the relationship; this can result when one person feels like they are the only "normal" or the only one who understands what's happening. It's important to remember that both partners are equal and that each person's experience is valid. Cognitive Abilities: Lastly, Cassandra syndrome can be caused by a difference in cognitive abilities. People with ASD often have higher-than-average IQs, while neurotypical individuals may have average or lower-than-average IQs. This difference in cognitive abilities can lead to tension and conflict, as the neurodiverse individual may How to decode Cassandra Syndrome: If you think you might be experiencing Cassandra syndrome in your relationship, you can do a few things to help decode it. First, try to educate yourself about how your partner perceives the world and what their needs are. Reading books and articles and talking to professionals specializing in autism spectrum disorders is essential. Second, be understanding and patient as you communicate with your partner. They may not pick up on nonverbal cues or understand sarcasm, and it's important to be clear and direct. Self-esteem and patience are essential in decoding Cassandra syndrome. Third, learn about your partner's priorities and how they like to spend their time; this will help you understand their perspective and make communication easier. It's also important to be flexible and willing to compromise. Fourth, try to find ways to improve your social skills. There are many resources available online that can help with this. With practice, you'll be able to communicate better with your partner. Fifth, make an effort to connect with your partner on their level; perhaps you can become more involved in finding common interests or learning about things that are important to them. With time and patience, you can build a strong, supportive relationship. Sixth, manage your anxiety and stress levels, especially working some physical movement into your daily routine. When we're feeling overwhelmed, it can be challenging to communicate effectively. Try to take some time for yourself every day to relax and de-stress; this will help you be more patient and understanding with your partner. Lastly, remember that both partners are equal and that each person's experience is valid. Everyone has different needs and perspectives, so respecting each other's differences is essential. If you can do these things, you'll be on your way to decoding Cassandra syndrome in your relationship. Want to learn more about Cassandra Syndrome? We invite you to visit Believing Cassandra, our partner site dedicated to providing women with the support they need to heal and flourish in their relationships with neurodiverse partners. Believing Cassandra Getting Help: Cassandra syndrome can be frustrating and challenging, but there are ways to decode it and improve communication in your relationship. By educating yourself about how your partner perceives the world, being more empathetic towards their perspective, and managing any anxiety you may have, you can start rebuilding trust and communication in your relationship. There's no one-size-fits-all solution to decoding Cassandra Syndrome. It's essential to be flexible and adaptable as you navigate your relationship. You can build a strong bond with your partner. And if you think you or your partner may be experiencing Cassandra Syndrome, please reach out for help. We at the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center can provide you with the support and resources you need to decode this syndrome and improve communication in your relationship. Click Here To Match With An Expert Take an ASD/ADHD Screener Are you curious about whether or not you have autism/ADHD? 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Alexithymia Do you struggle to recognize and express emotions? Do you feel a bit confused whenever a friend asks "How are you?" Are you uncomfortable around others who are processing their emotions? Do you prefer to "live in your head?" If you answer is "I think so" to most of these you, are probably in the right place. WHAT IS ALEXITHYMIA? Alexithymia is a condition characterized by challenges in identifying, understanding, and expressing emotions. Individuals with alexithymia may find it difficult to recognize their own feelings or the feelings of others. This can lead to challenges in forming and maintaining relationships, as well as navigating various social situations. Our counseling group recognizes the unique needs of individuals with alexithymia and offers specialized support to help them navigate their emotional experiences. Do I suffer from Alexithymia? Wondering if you may have difficulty identifying and expressing emotions? Take our Alexithymia Questionnaire to gain insight into your emotional awareness and discover resources for support and growth. The button below will take you to our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment . There, you'll be able to take our Free Online Alexithymia Questionnaire and gain further insight. Alexithymia Questionnaire 7 SIGNS OF ALEXITHYMIA Difficulty Identifying Emotions: Individuals with alexithymia may struggle to label and identify their own emotions accurately. This can make it challenging to communicate their feelings to others. Limited Emotional Vocabulary: A restricted emotional vocabulary is a common sign of alexithymia. Expressing nuanced or complex emotions may be particularly challenging for individuals with this condition. Physical Symptoms in Response to Emotions: Some individuals with alexithymia may experience physical symptoms, such as headaches or stomach aches, in response to emotions because they may struggle to recognize and process them cognitively. Difficulty Describing Emotional Experiences: Describing emotional experiences in detail can be challenging for those with alexithymia. They may find it hard to articulate the subtle nuances of their feelings. Difficulty Distinguishing Between Emotions and Bodily Sensations: Alexithymic individuals may have difficulty distinguishing between emotional experiences and bodily sensations, leading to confusion about the source of their feelings. Limited Imaginative Processes Involving Feelings: Creativity and imaginative processes related to emotions may be limited in individuals with alexithymia. This can affect their ability to engage in activities that involve emotional expression. Difficulty Understanding Social Cues: Alexithymia can contribute to challenges in understanding and responding to social cues, making it harder for individuals to navigate social interactions effectively. Ready to get help? THERAPEUTIC APPROACH TO ALEXITHYMIA At our counseling group, our therapists adopt a compassionate and individualized approach to working with clients experiencing alexithymia. We understand that each person's journey is unique, and our goal is to create a supportive environment that fosters emotional exploration and growth. We employ a range of therapeutic techniques tailored to the needs of individuals with alexithymia, including: Emotion Identification Exercises: Therapists work collaboratively with clients to develop strategies for identifying and labeling emotions. This may involve using visual aids, journaling, or other creative methods. Mindfulness and Body Awareness: Building awareness of bodily sensations and mindfulness practices can help individuals with alexithymia connect with their emotional experiences on a physical level, fostering a deeper understanding of emotions. Narrative Therapy: Through narrative therapy, individuals can explore and articulate their emotional experiences through storytelling. This approach allows for a more comprehensive understanding of personal narratives and emotional landscapes. Social Skills Training: Therapists may incorporate social skills training to help clients enhance their ability to recognize and respond to social cues, improving their interpersonal relationships. Final Words Living with alexithymia can feel isolating, but understanding the condition is the first step toward meaningful growth and connection. By recognizing the signs and seeking support, individuals can begin to bridge the gap between their internal world and the emotional landscape of those around them. Our counseling group is here to provide guidance, helping you develop the tools to better identify, process, and express your emotions. Remember, emotional awareness is a journey—one that doesn't have to be traveled alone. Meet with our Client Care Coordinator Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Sex Therapy for Neurodiverse couples who are struggling to connect and want to learn how to increase intimacy in a safe, affirming environment. NEURODIVERSE SEX THERAPY < Back IGNITING THE SPARK IN YOUR NEURODIVERSE RELATIONSHIP Sexual intimacy is an important part of a couple’s relationship. Yet, it can feel like an unsurmountable challenge for neurodiverse couples to overcome. To make matters worse, sex often becomes so emotionally loaded that the couple will make an unspoken agreement that the topic is off limits for discussion. So, it should not be surprising that one study showed that 50% of neurodiverse couples had no sexual activity at all. Fortunately, with outside help, there is hope! Addressing the barriers to a healthy sex life with an understanding and acceptance of neurodiversity can set a couple on path to revive their sex life or… Show More

By Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center c It often starts with a child. A school raises concerns. A clinician names what’s been going on. And suddenly the family has a word for something they’ve been wrestling with for years: autism, ADHD, or both. Then something else happens—quietly, but powerfully. A parent starts recognizing themselves in the description. Not in a dramatic way. In a “this explains my whole life” way. And then the family zooms out. A sibling who has always been intense and rigid about routines. A grandparent who melts down when plans change, but calls it “just being practical.” An uncle who disappears for months, then reappears like nothing happened. A family culture that labels differences as laziness, selfishness, attitude, disrespect, or “you’re too sensitive.” This is one reason neurodiverse families feel so exhausted. They’re not only managing nervous systems. They’re managing interpretations. And those interpretations become the story everyone lives inside. If you want the science behind why this pattern shows up across generations —heritability, sibling recurrence, AuDHD overlap—read our deeper dive: The Genetic Ripple Effect The blunt truth Sometimes individual therapy helps a person feel steadier, but the home stays chaotic. Sometimes, couples therapy helps two people communicate better, but the family system keeps re-triggering the same fights. That’s not failure. That’s a mismatch in what’s being treated. If the pain lives in the family system, you have to work with the family. The science behind “it’s all over the family” Here’s what many families don’t hear clearly enough: neurodiversity often clusters in families. In a large prospective, international “younger sibling” research network, about 1 in 5 younger siblings of an autistic child developed autism as well. (PMC) And when there’s more than one older autistic sibling, the recurrence rate is higher—around 37% in those multiplex families. (PMC) Population-based research also shows autism risk is substantially higher in siblings, and still elevated in cousins, reflecting real genetic and family-system clustering. (PMC) ADHD shows a similar “runs in the family” pattern. Twin research consistently estimates ADHD is highly heritable (often around the mid-70% range). (Nature) And large registry studies show strong familial aggregation in siblings. (PubMed) So when families say, “Once we saw it in our kid, we started seeing it everywhere,” they’re not being dramatic. They’re noticing something real. (If you want a clearer explanation of what those numbers actually mean—and what they do not mean—read The Genetic Ripple Effect here: https://www.neurodiversecouplescounseling.com/post/genetic-ripple-effect-neurodiversity Why this matters clinically If neurodiversity is woven through the family tree, then the family’s habits, roles, and “default interpretations” get shaped around it. Here’s what that looks like in real life: One person functions by deep focus and routine, and gets labeled controlling. Another person functions by urgency and stimulation, and gets labeled irresponsible. A child melts down from sensory overload, and gets punished for “attitude.” A parent is chronically maxed out, and everyone assumes they’re angry or cold. Grandparents mean well, but invalidate neurodiversity and unintentionally intensify shame. The family isn’t lacking love. They’re lacking a shared map. Our model at Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center We use what we call an orchestrated family approach. Not “everyone in therapy forever.” Not “let’s drag the whole family into a room and hope for insight.” And definitely not “let’s blame the identified patient.” Instead, we work like this: Step 1: Start with the couple (the anchor) We typically begin with the couple because the couple is the hub. If the hub is dysregulated, everything spins off. In this phase we: Build a shared language for what’s happening in the home. Identify the repeating loops (the fight beneath the fight). Clarify differences in nervous system needs, pacing, and communication. Create a realistic home plan for transitions, conflict, and repair. This is where many families finally stop asking, “Who’s the problem?” And start asking, “What’s the pattern?” Step 2: Expand outward (the right people, at the right time) Then we add people when it’s clinically useful. That can include: Kids (young kids, teens, adult kids) Parents and step-parents Siblings Co-parents in blended situations Sometimes extended family (aunt/uncle/grandparent), when they’re a major driver of stress or misunderstanding This isn’t about attendance Step 3: Invitation-only, with a private on-ramp Let’s say this plainly: bringing a family member into therapy can feel intimidating. People worry: “They’ll judge me.” “They’ll gang up on me.” “I’ll get blamed.” “I’ll get exposed.” “I don’t even know what to say.” So we do it differently. Any new family member is invitation-only. And they meet with the therapist individually first. That first meeting is about safety, context, and voice. It’s where they get to say what they’ve been holding back—without being interrupted, corrected, or pathologized. Only after that do we consider joint sessions, and only if it actually serves the goals. Step 4: One lead clinician orchestrates the plan Many families already have support in place. A child has their own therapist. A parent has a coach. A teen has a skills group. Great. But without coordination, families can end up with: Mixed messages Competing strategies Different “truths” in different rooms Accidental undermining of progress at home. So we provide one primary clinician who holds the big picture. That clinician helps the family align the work so the home environment becomes coherent instead of chaotic. What changes when the system is treated When family therapy is done well in neurodiverse families, you start seeing shifts like: Less blame and more accuracy Fewer explosions because triggers are anticipated earlier Better transitions because the family plans for nervous systems, not just schedules Fewer “character verdicts” (“lazy,” “dramatic,” “cold,” “controlling”) More repair after conflict, not just avoidance or escalation Kids feeling less like the family problem and more like part of the family solution And over time, the biggest win is this: The family becomes safer for everyone’s brain. Ready to explore this? If you’re realizing “this isn’t just one person,” you’re probably right. Schedule a consultation here! Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these statements may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Resources & Further Reading Bazelmans, T., Charman, T., Bedford, R., et al. (2024). Mid-childhood autism sibling recurrence: A single-site longitudinal follow-up study. Autism Research. Chen, Q., Brikell, I., Lichtenstein, P., Serlachius, E., Kuja-Halkola, R., Sandin, S., Larsson, H., & D’Onofrio, B. M. (2017). Familial aggregation of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder. Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry. Faraone, S. V., & Larsson, H. (2019). Genetics of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Molecular Psychiatry. Ozonoff, S., Young, G. S., Bradshaw, J., et al. (2024). Familial recurrence of autism: Updates from the Baby Siblings Research Consortium. Pediatrics, 154(2), e2023065297. Sandin, S., Lichtenstein, P., Kuja-Halkola, R., Larsson, H., Hultman, C. M., & Reichenberg, A. (2014). The familial risk of autism. JAMA, 311(17), 1770–1777. Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center. (2026). Integrated neurodiverse family therapy Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center. (2026). When neurodiversity runs in the family: Why family therapy can do what couples therapy can’t [Blog post]. Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

When I counsel neurodiverse couples, it's pretty common to hear the allistic partner wonder out loud: "At the start of our relationship, I think my partner hid who he really was. I feel lied to." Ah, the exhilarating beginning of a relationship, where everything feels like a page taken out of a fairy tale. For our neurodiverse lovebirds, this time can be especially magical... and complex. 🎭 The Alluring Beginning: A Special Interest Affair Imagine being the center of someone's world, their "special interest". That's how many allistic partners feel when dating an autistic person. This intense focus can feel like the ultimate romantic dream. But here's the rub: during the dating phase, interactions are often limited, allowing the autistic partner to mask or adjust their behaviors more easily. It's like being a guest star in the most captivating play of your life. 🎭💘 The Masking Masquerade and the Distance Dance Not living together means you're not facing the day-to-day challenges that come with neurodiversity in a shared space. The allistic partner sees stability in the pursuing partner, which feels comforting and secure. And being the emotional guide for the relationship? It can make you feel valued and indispensable in the most heartwarming way. But Then... Reality Sets In As the relationship deepens and living together becomes a reality, the daily demands reveal themselves. The neurodiverse partner might feel overwhelmed by expectations that were never discussed, feeling a sense of betrayal by new, unspoken demands. On the flip side, the allistic partner might mourn the evaporation of the intense romance that once was, feeling as though the magic has dissipated into thin air. 💔 The Emotional Crossroads: Where Do We Go from Here? This is where the true adventure begins. Neuro-informed therapy isn't just a buzzword; it's a beacon of hope. Imagine a space where both partners learn to understand and appreciate the beauty of their differences. Where communication styles are not just acknowledged but celebrated. 🎉 In this tailored therapy approach, we delve deep into the art of masking, unmasking, and everything in between. We explore the dynamics of special interests and how they can be both a source of connection and misunderstanding. We provide tools and strategies for navigating the day-to-day realities of a neurodiverse relationship, turning potential pitfalls into stepping stones towards a stronger bond. 🛠️❤️ Together, we'll rediscover connection, not by returning to the past, but by creating a new, shared future. A future where both partners feel seen, heard, and valued for their authentic selves. Because at the end of the day, love isn't about changing each other. It's about growing together in understanding and acceptance. 💑🌱 Ready to explore what neuro-informed therapy can do for your relationship? Click Here To Match With An Expert Your love story deserves to be understood, celebrated, and nurtured. With warmth and hope, Harry Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT, PsyD Dr. Motro is a registered Marriage and Family Therapist #53452 and the Founder/Clinical Director of the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center. Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule With Whitney Take an ASD/ADHD Screener Are you curious about whether or not you have autism/ADHD? Want to learn more about yourself and take the first step towards deeper self-understanding? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and Take An ASD/ADHD Screener Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Want to test your communication skills? Look at the questions below and ask: "Do I say more of the ❌'s or ✅'s?" There’s no shame either way—just insight. Allistic to Autistic ❌ "Why aren't you listening to me?" ✅ "Did I catch you at a bad time to talk, or is something making this hard to take in?" ❌ "Can't you just be more flexible?" ✅ "What parts of our routine help you feel steady, and where could we build in some wiggle room together?" ❌ "Why don’t you care how I feel?" ✅ "I know you care in your own way—can you help me see how you usually show it?" Autistic to Allistic ❌ "Why are you always so emotional?" ✅ "Your feelings matter to me, even if I don’t always get it—can you walk me through what’s going on for you?" ❌ "Do we have to talk about this AGAIN?" ✅ "I know this is important to you. Can we find a rhythm for these talks that works better for both of us?" ❌ "Why can't you just say exactly what you mean?" ✅ "Sometimes I need things to be really direct. Can we figure out a way to meet in the middle?" So, how’d that quiz go? If you ended up with more ❌s than ✅s, don’t stress. You’re in good company—most couples do! These habits are super common and totally normal. The good news? They’re also things you can work on. Just noticing them is already a big step in the right direction. 🌟 Try This Week: Pick just one ✅ or "better way" question and ask your partner this weekend. Watch how even a small shift makes things better! And, yes, I know this might feel impossibly hard. That’s exactly why neurodiverse couples therapy exists. One of our neuro-informed therapists can help you both learn how to ask questions and connect in new ways that can transform your relationship. You've got this, Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Take the First Step 🔦 Spotlight on Liz McClanahan Specialties · Neurodiverse Couples Therapy · Autism & ADHD · Parenting Autistic Children · Intimacy, Sex, Affair Recovery · Anger Management · Life Transitions Professional Qualifications · Neurodiverse Couples Specialist · Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology from Azusa Pacific University (APU) · Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist Personal Experience · My husband is on the Autism Spectrum and received his diagnosis later in life. I am so proud of my 26-year marriage and the fact that we were able to reconcile after a divorce and remarry. · My two children are also on the Spectrum. They have taught me how differences can be intensely beautiful and frustrating at the same time. Learn more about Liz! Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel