< Back Robin is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has graduated with a Master's in Clinical Psychology from Notre Dame de Namur University in Belmont, CA. She has a background in behavioral health, education, transitional youth, addiction and recovery services, and suicide prevention. She has worked with couples who have adult children struggling with ASD, ADHD, addiction, depression, and anxiety . She has experience working in diverse cultures and backgrounds in outpatient clinics, large healthcare systems, and private practices. She believes everyone has a voice and deserves to feel safe, respected, and heard. Robin encourages her clients to connect by offering a safe, nurturing environment, enabling clients to feel supported and valued. Life experience With 30 years of marriage and parenting four children. Robin's personal experience has given her a unique perspective to help her clients explore, reconnect, and rediscover their "sparkle." She understands the challenges of working, parenting, and finding time for self-care while strengthening personal and professional relationships. ​ Working with couples She works with couples, individuals, and family systems to develop improved communication, respect, and love. She helps couples and individuals through life transitions such as a new home, first child, loss of career, or loss of a loved one by exploring coping skills to reduce stressors and move towards healing. In addition, Robin works with couples to become more self-aware of their behavior and how it affects their loved ones. ​ Robin's approach to therapy Robin's approach is humanistic and creates a safe and non-judgmental environment for her clients to communicate openly. She has worked with families and children by guiding her clients towards rewarding and harmonious connections. She specializes in working with couples and individuals who want to improve their relationships, reduce stress, and make realistic goals with solution-focused therapy, positive communication, self-awareness, and self-care. Robin uses evidence-based therapeutic approaches by helping her clients to focus on building solutions by providing emotional and psychological safety to foster positive motivation and change. NEURODIVERSE RELATIONSHIPS The Basics: Neurodiverse couples have one partner that is neurotypical and one partner who has a diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and/or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Neurodiverse couples can have different communication styles and perspectives, making intimate and loving relationships a challenge. However, neurodiverse couples can grow together by finding meaningful connections, focusing on their preferences, and learning to understand each other better. ​ Based on the goals of the Neurodiverse couple, Robin will help support stronger relationships and work on problem-solving skills. Couples will learn to focus on new ways to celebrate each other, reconnect, and interpret intention successfully. Through acceptance, education, and self-awareness, couples will practice relating to each other to create a more harmonious relationship. Common Symptoms: In adults, some common symptoms of ASD might look like: having difficulties interpreting facial expressions, interpreting body language, or understanding the social cues of others. Regulating emotions during conversations, reflecting emotions through vocal inflection, and engaging in repetitive behaviors might be challenging for someone with ASD. In addition, individuals with ASD may have specific and/or extreme interests and routines. The interests of individuals on the spectrum may seem obsessive, such as spending large amounts of time engaging in only certain activities under certain circumstances. Difference Turned into Strength: With these challenges, how can neurodiverse couples expand and enhance their relationship? Neurodiverse couples can use their different perspectives as strengths to shift away from conflict and understand each other’s thoughts and perspectives. Because everyone sees the world differently, a neurodiverse couple has a unique perspective. Each partner has a different way of thinking, different brain wiring, and experiences. While the neurodiverse couple may face challenges, having different ways of viewing situations and experiences can bring new and comprehensive perspectives. Neurodiverse couples can develop an awareness of their unique perspectives and accept their differences as a value rather than an annoyance . For example, each partner can see different ways of interacting or completing tasks. Working out tasks together can be an opportunity rather than a challenge for the neurodiverse couple to work together to become more tolerant of each other’s way of thinking. Having both shared and individual interests can encourage the neurodiverse couple’s autonomy and enhance the quality of life. Through acceptance and commitment, the neurodiverse couple can see each other through a new lens. Trust and Emotional Safety: Couples therapy can help the neurodiverse couple by finding how to deepen trust and understand how each partner views their experiences. By creating emotional safety and acceptance, couples therapy can help the neurodiverse couple to develop goals. Bringing importance to each partner and their intentions allows the neurodiverse couple to focus on their differences as a strength. Acceptance and commitment can help to increase feelings of compassion, connection, love, and happiness. Specialties Neurodiverse Counseling (ASD and ADHD) Couples and individual life transitions Discernment Counseling Pre-marital Counseling Depression and Anxiety Grief, loss, and shame Self-forgiveness Clients Couples, Elder Couples, Individuals Modalities Solution Focused Therapy (SFBT), Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Family System Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Person-Centered Therapy, Humanistic Approach License Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT #149872 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Assessment, ADHD, Discernment, Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, Addiction, Cassandra Syndrome Support, DBT, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse) Robin Greenblat Take an Autism Test

< Back My Neurodiversity ​​ I was diagnosed with ADHD later in life, while I was in graduate school learning about neurodiversity. I am a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) I am raising two Highly Sensitive Children (HSC). Specialties and Certifications ​​ Neurodiverse Couples Specialist ADHD, Autism, AuDHD, Sensory Sensitivities and Processing Sex Anxiety and Depression Parenting Children (Neurodivergent and Neurotypical) Social Anxiety Intimate Partner Abuse Perfectionism/High-Achievement Grief Chronic Illness/Caregiving Support Languages Spoken ​​ English Mandarin Chinese ​ Life Experience Born and raised in the South—in Louisiana and Texas—by immigrant Chinese parents, both of whom are neurodivergent. Experienced various neurodiverse relationships through family, friends, partnerships, teaching, parenting and counseling. I have been an Early Childhood Educator for over 10 years with direct experience working with children ages 4-17. Before attending graduate school, I was a stay-at-home parent for 8 years. I have been teaching yoga since 2011 and enjoy creating classes that bridge the mind-body connection in yoga with psychoeducation.​ ​​​ Multicultural Competencies Intergenerational Trauma Immigrant/Refugee Trauma Second-Generation Immigrants- Bicultural/Multicultural BIPOC LBGTQIA+ Bilingual: Mandarin Chinese My Therapeutic Approach My approach is client-centered and tailored to your unique needs, incorporating an integrative approach based on our interactions over time that include: Neurodivergent-Informed Cognitive Behavioral (CBT) Dialectical Behavioral (DBT) Emotionally Focused (EFT) Trauma-Informed Solution-Focused Attachment-Based More about Nancy ​​ ​ I really enjoy making connections with people and am a naturally curious and inquisitive person. I am an avid animal lover and advocate for the benefits of the bond between neurodivergent children and animals, drawing especially from firsthand experience. I have perfect pitch and can identify notes in any song I hear immediately and can play the song on piano. This gift is linked to neurodivergent individuals, and a gift that I hid from others for most of my life, while I was still masking. Hi, I'm Nancy. I'm glad we connected today! I want to acknowledge how difficult it can be to take this first step in your journey in understanding more about yourself, your partner, and your relationship—especially if you’re at a crossroad. It takes courage to cross an unknown journey. You might be feeling hopeless, pessimistic, confused, and possibly filled with anger and angst about your relationship, especially when you notice recurring patterns—repeating the same conversations, and experiencing the same interactions, thoughts and emotions. In each of our personal journeys, we metaphorically travel a path and face various obstacles along the road— let’s call these life’s “challenges”. Sometimes, these obstacles can make us feel stuck, pressure us to turn back, confront them aimlessly, repeat familiar patterns, or find a new path and direction. Obstacles are an essential part of a journey, just as the challenges we face in our life experience are unique and contribute to growth and transformation . Without these hurdles, it would be difficult to gain insight into our strengths, understand ourselves and the world around us, and develop the resilience needed to navigate life’s challenges. Each obstacle we encounter shapes our character, deepens our understanding, and ultimately enriches our experience, making the journey more meaningful and rewarding. The goal of our therapy sessions is to help you explore and harness the power of perspective and the choices you make, leading to acceptance and understanding around your unique challenges. I aim to assist you in finding the right tools to gain insight and effectively navigate the obstacles along your life’s path. Additionally, I want to help you, and your partner reconnect and intertwine your paths, enabling you to continue the journey and create meaningful destinations together. My Story I am a child of Chinese Immigrant parents, born and raised in the south—specifically Louisiana and Texas. My neurodivergent journey started when I lost my mom in 2019 and discovered that she had undiagnosed mental health issues and was also neurodivergent. Witnessing the disconnect and misunderstandings that happen in a neurodivergent relationship helped me realize that every person wants to be loved and wants to love others. Every person deserves to be loved and longed for, the way they need and understand love to be. Since childhood, I have been extremely curious and inquisitive by nature and have a passion to learn about and understand others. I am a HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) and was late-diagnosed ADHD during graduate school while I was studying about neurodiversity and discovered that my perceived anxiety was an excess of complex thoughts in my mind that was misdiagnosed as generalized anxiety. It took the right therapist to connect me to this understanding and acceptance. My passion is to support others on their neurodivergent journey—to help them discover their authentic selves embrace their unique differences and build meaningful connections in their relationships. I have been living in the Bay Area for 17 years, married for 13 years, and have two neurodivergent children who are 7 and 9 years old. When I am not spending time with my family, I enjoy teaching yoga, exercising, cooking, having meaningful conversations and experiences with others, and being an avid animal lover. OBSTACLES FACED BY NEURODIVERGENT COUPLES: Communication Differences – How do you express yourself, interpret what your partner is saying, and understand their message: Are you feeling misunderstood? Sensory Sensitivities – Are there feelings of being uncomfortable or overwhelmed by sensory stimuli such as sounds, lights and textures that prevent you or your partner from processing feelings or engaging with each other? Emotional Processing – Is it difficult to recognize, interpret, and manage emotions during emotional experiences? Do you and your partner respond in a way that is challenging for each other? Contrasting Perspectives -Do you and your partner have different views on issues or, see them differently? Social Expectations - How do you and your partner navigate societal or cultural expectations in your relationship, and what impact do these expectations have on your interactions? Routine & Flexibility - How do you and your partner handle changes to your routines or plans, and what effect does this have on your relationship? Support Needs - How do you and your partner express and respond to each other's needs for support, and what challenges do you face in meeting these needs effectively? Other Areas of Focus (in addition to neurodiversity) Sex Anxiety and Depression Parenting Children (Neurodivergent and Neurotypical) Social Anxiety Intimate Partner Abuse Perfectionism/High-Achievement Grief Chronic Illness/Caregiving Support Clients Couples Individuals Families License Registered AMFT # 149167 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc . Specialty Areas: ADHD, Autism, Intimate Partner Violence, Emotion Focused Therapy, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Neurodiverse Couples, Sex/Physical Intimacy, Emotional Intimacy Nancy Rushing Take an Autism Test

< Back Helping Someone like Myself When I think about the kind of work I want to do as a therapist, I think about my younger self and how much easier my life would have been if I knew then what I know now about my neurodivergence. If you’re at a stage in your life where you’re trying to navigate your differences in an allistic world, you’ve come to the right place. As someone with AuDHD (Autism and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) , I felt like there was something wrong with me for most of my life. Now I’ve learned to appreciate, cope with, and embrace my differences. And now I want to help you do the same. ​ My Story ​ I grew up in Northern California, under the poverty line. In a family struggling with finances, doctor visits were scarce, and psychiatry visits were nearly out of the question. ADHD AND ME Though I was able to get my ADHD diagnosis relatively young, not much changed for me and the crippling differences I felt from the rest of society. With ADHD medication not being a good fit for me, it seemed this diagnosis was a dead end at the time. I wish I had known more back then and would have kept exploring my neurodivergence as it would have likely led me to my autism diagnosis much sooner. FIGHTING BACK Instead, I spent the majority of my life trying to push through a world that felt like it was fighting back at me. Much of my life was spent disassociating or with severe panic attacks from under or over-stimulation. As an adult, I finally began seeking mental health help after a lifelong battle with depression. Though I saw some benefits from my depression and anxiety treatments, it felt like a band-aid on the real issue. I spent years in therapy with dozens of different therapists. MY AUTISM DIAGNOSIS It wasn’t until I was told to explore an autism diagnosis that things changed for me. During this time, I was also in school. I received my Bachelor's Degree at Chico State University before moving down to Southern California to complete my Master's of Arts in Counseling Psychology in San Diego. During this time, I was learning more about psychology and my passion continued to grow for the human mind, specifically neurodivergence. Finally, receiving my autism diagnosis was like a breath of fresh air. MASK COMES OFF Since coming to terms with my autism, I have learned to unmask, reconnect with my inner child, and develop unique coping skills beyond breathing and meditation, skills that actually work for me. Through this journey, I have become a better partner, friend, daughter, and sister. For the first time in my life, I am able to meet myself with kindness. My journey here was tumultuous, but I hope because of my journey, I can help you learn about your neurodivergence and guide you to becoming a better version of yourself along the way, too. ​ NEURO-INCLUSIVE NOURISHMENT ​ Binge, Restrict, & Purge Cycles In elementary school, I put myself on my first diet. Mimicking what I saw around me, I grew up in a house where there was constant dieting which affected me heavily. I was aware of my body, weight, and every aspect of my beauty as a result. My relationship with eating disorders changed in many ugly ways from middle school through my undergrad program. With hard work and lots of help, I was able to overcome my many battles surrounding binge, restrict, and purge cycles. I want to use my both personal and professional experience to help you heal your relationship with food and create a more positive body image. ARFID Data shows there is an overlap of neurodivergence and ARFID (Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder). Many people believe that ARFID is a disorder that only affects children, but this is simply not true. As an Autistic woman with ARFID, I am very aware of how sensory issues can negatively affect your ability to eat regularly and get adequate nutrition. Overcoming sensory issues is hard, but you only get one body. Maintaining regular caloric intake with diverse nutrition is vital in keeping our body healthy. Let's work together to overcome this and keep our bodies healthy and happy. ​ To read more about Neuro-inclusive Nourishment, click here. Certifications & Education Board registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #139592 (supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, clinical director). Master’s of Arts in Counseling Psychology from National University in San Diego. Neurodiverse Specialist Co-Founder of She Rocks the Spectrum Neuro-inclusive Nourishment Specialist ​ DBT/CBT/EMDR The therapeutic modalities I am trained in and use are: Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) for trauma processing. ​ Group Facilitator I run our She Rocks Friendship Group . Read more here. When I am not working with my clients here at She Rocks the Spectrum, I host small groups which are designed for those with social anxiety, neurodivergence, and members of the LGBTQ+. ​ COMMON GROUND I am a trained CommonGround Specialist. CommonGround is a program created by Pat Deegan, which was developed to help promote advocacy and independence for those with mental health issues.Clients Neurodiverse women Autistic, ADHD, Highly Sensitive Neurodiverse clients with eating struggles Modalities Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) for trauma processing CBT/DBT License Associate Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, #139592 (supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , clinical director) Specialty Areas: LGBTQIA+, ADHD, Autism, Kink/Poly-Affirmed, Eating & Autism, Teens, Assessment, DBT, ND at Work, Neurodiverse Couples, AuDHD Lauren Florio Take an Autism Test

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< Back My Story ​ I grew up in a family and culture that does not encourage seeking help from others because it is perceived as a sign of weakness. However, seeking help at the right time is actually a strength because pain and mistakes can be avoided. After college, I worked as an occupational therapist and found myself falling in love in the helping profession. I am frequently drawn to couples work in my social circle. While exploring my second career path, I want to formalize my experience in couples counseling to help people outside my social circle. I want to share not only my knowledge and skill but also my experience in the ups and downs of marriage and life. ​ My Strength Being married for more than 20 years and a mother of one young adult child and two teenagers, I understand the unhealthy cycle in marriage as well as the emotional struggles in parenting. I am experienced in working with neurodiverse couples, cross-cultural marriages, couples with depression, addiction, anger issues, and affair recovery. Helping families move to healthier relationships is what I profoundly care. ​ NEURODIVERSE COUPLES: Intimate relationship is challenging for neurodiverse couples who have very different perspectives, communication styles, and personalities than each other. My previous work as an occupational therapist enhances my empathy and professional understanding towards couples facing neurodiversity issues. ​ Neurology affects how a person thinks, feels, speaks, and believes. It also make an impact on an intimate relationship when it affects every conversation a couple has, how they make decisions together, and how to raise kids together. ​ During couple relationship coaching, I take these factors into account to help improve communication and intimacy in the neurodiverse relationship. ​ Diagnosis is not necessary but it is sometimes helpful for deeper understanding leading to more appropriate therapeutic approach. These online assessments are optional for you: ​ Autism Spectrum Quotient (33-50 = possible AS) Empathy Quotient (< 30 = possible AS) Ritvo Autism & Asperger Diagnostic Scale (RAADS-14 ) (>13 = possible AS) Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): cross-cultural couples relationships parent-child conflicts spiritual formation in couples ​ Languages: Fluent in English and Cantonese Clients: couples and families, adults, adolescents, healthcare workers, church or community leaders Modalities: Emotion Focused Therapy, Person-Centered, Neuro-biology, Family Systems, Trauma-informed, Somatic therapy, integrative (holistic) psychotherapy, Dialectical Behavioral. ​ License: Registered Associate, MFTA #122672 Supervised by Claudio Silva, LMFT #82582 Specialty Areas: Christian, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Sex/Physical Intimacy, Neurodiverse Couples Bassy Lee Take an Autism Test

< Back Stephen is a creative, dedicated, and passionate therapist with a background in behavioral health, education, and social services. He has wide-ranging experience working with people in all stages of life, helping them to become happier and healthier as individuals, in couples, and in families. He integrates art therapy to enable couples to connect emotionally and intimately. Strength, resiliency, and connection are essential elements of a lasting, satisfying, and harmonious relationship. Stephen believes that these are the building blocks for healing, forgiveness, and positive progress. He provides a safe, nurturing, and judgement-free space where couples can explore resolutions to a current problem, prevent an exacerbation of problems, or simply provide support for a couple experiencing a period of transition or increased stress. Stephen facilitates the discovery of fresh energy to create a healthy emotional connection. His approach is nurturing , thus enabling clients to engage with the healing power of their own personal symbols. This entails fostering self-agency to empower them to leverage their positive qualities in order to become more free, powerful, happy, and healthy. ​ In addition to strength-based work, his therapeutic approach is trauma-informed in order to support clients in their process of trauma integration and healing. He provides treatment that activates the body, mind, and brain with expressive methods that are engaging and empowering. ​ Stephen has worked with people of diverse culture and ethnicity. He brings the ability to relate to clients with authentic knowledge and sensitivity to culture and ethnicity. In particular, he has experience with interracial couples. ​ NEURODIVERSE RELATIONSHIPS: ​ Expertise Stephen offers expertise in supporting your unique neurodiverse relationship. He empathizes with the often-challenging themes that give rise to relationship stress: the dearth of emotional reciprocity and the challenge of maintaining meaningful balance with your partner and others in your life. Stephen provides a safe space enable you to share your feelings and expectations. He believes the willingness to improve communication and to be open to be open to managing expectations and finding solutions becomes the foundation of increasing trust in your relationship. ​ Compassion and Insight Stephen presents a compassionate and understanding approach to neurodiverse couples’ therapy. This enables you both to gain fresh understanding and perspective. He helps nurture awareness in each partner of their own individual patterns, from these insights he invites adjustments to enable both partners to get more out of their relationship. The neurotypical partner gains insight that the neurodiverse retreat into safe behaviors and routine, is not a rejection but is a consequence of the Defense Mode. The defense mode being one hallmark coping strategy of the neurodiverse individual. Stephen supports the neurotypical partner process feelings of abandonment, frustration, and grief. Catharsis and forgiveness in both partners enable openness to positive feelings and increased self-esteem. ​ Making Sense of Neurodiversity It is important that you both make sense of your neurodivergent partner’s behaviors. You may have pondered why anxiety can be a problem for your neurodiverse partner. Stephen shows you how anxiety can lead to impulsivity, melt-downs, rage, and withdrawal, all negatively impacting the relationship. More importantly he supports you both to strategize, problem-solve and better connect to make progress on the challenges to your special relationship. ​ Fresh Perspectives By offering a fresh perspective, Stephen helps you both positively revaluate your relationship. He offers structure and effective tools to use, this enables reengagement and motivation for your partnership. Such understanding enables collaboration to use your combined strengths and resilience. Stephen believes that neurodiverse people have numerous assets such as loyalty, honesty, intelligence, strong values, the ability to work hard, generosity, and humor. He is passionate in using these qualities to bring you closer together. ​ Communication Stephen supports effective communication and step-by-step actions to grow the loving connection you both deserve. This sensitive, nurturing process, enables neurodiverse individuals and their partners to feel supported in dealing with their communication challenges. The discontent in neurodiverse partnerships that comes from the lack of initiation of connection will be assuaged by enabling you both to safely verbalize your needs. Stephen’s will work with you on a relationship schedule. Your relationship schedule will ensure quality time is set aside to meet both your needs. Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity):​ Children Couples’ relationships Separation and Divorce Parent and child conflicts Depression and Anxiety Trauma and Stress Grief and loss and shame Forgiveness and Self-forgiveness Modalities: Internal Family Systems, Emotion Focused Therapy, Jungian Therapy, Humanistic Therapy, Trauma-Informed Therapy ​ Clients: Couples and Families, Adults, Adolescents, Children ​ License: Registered Associate, MFTA #126705 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Autism, Neurodiverse Couples, Emotional Intimacy, Trauma-Informed, Communication, Internal Family Systems, Emotion Focused Therapy Stephen Robertson Take an Autism Test

< Back Living Neurodiversity I live in a neurodiverse family every day. My husband is on the Autism Spectrum and received his diagnosis later in life. I am so proud of my 26-year marriage and the fact that we were able to reconcile after a divorce and remarry. My two children are also on the Spectrum . They have taught me how differences can be intensely beautiful and frustrating at the same time. Having a neurodiverse marriage and parenting my preteen son and adult daughter give me a unique point of view to better understand and empathize with my clients and their challenges in a way that simply cannot be taught in books. ​ Podcast Listen to Liz discuss Neurodiversity on the Neurodiverse Love Podcast Understanding You “When you meet one person with Autism, you’ve met one person with Autism.” - Dr. Stephen Shore, autistic professor, author, ​ Everyone is different, every couple is unique. As a therapist, my goal is to understand you and your distinct relationship. Just because I have personal experience with neurodiversity does not mean I am automatically an expert on your relationship. I aim to learn who you are and how you relate to your partner in your own unique way. I can provide a safe, non-judgmental, empathetic space for couples to come together on a healing journey and work towards accomplishing their relationship goals. Over time, a couple’s relationship may start to break down when neurodivergent differences turn into dysfunctional patterns resulting in disagreements, loneliness, hopelessness, and pain. The good news is that there is hope, I help couples navigate their relational patterns, bridge communication gaps, and facilitate an understanding and honoring of the couple’s differences. ​ Neurotypical Partner Challenges As an NT partner myself, I empathize with the pain that can come from communication break down and misunderstandings in a neurodiverse relationship. In the past, I felt that no one understood what I was going through, including therapists who lacked neurodiverse training or experience. This only compounded my pain and thoughts that my marriage could not get any better. My spouse and I have since learned how to make our marriage work in our own way. I understand him and his needs the best way that I can and vice versa . For this reason, I am passionate about helping couples do the same. I can offer a beacon of hope for couples because I know change within a relationship is possible. Neurodiverse Couple Challenges There are some unique aspects of how the AS brain processes and expresses information that differs from the NT brain; although this may bring tremendous advantages in certain areas of life, it can make relating to others and everyday activities difficult and stressful for both partners. Topics which are common in neurodiverse couples that I work with include: Alexithymia - a person has difficulty identifying and expressing emotions Executive functioning capabilities - cognitive processes Sensory issues - identifying when AS partner feels overstimulated Masking- AS partner has high-stress levels while trying to “pass” as neurotypical Transitions - AS partner has high-stress levels transitioning to different topics or activities ·Communication - both partners misunderstand each other’s behavior and needs Defense mode - understanding flight, fight, or freeze mode and how to cope Past emotional wounds - AS partner not feeling accepted, being bullied, or internalizing negative labels from the neurotypical society (trauma) Empathy - AS partner may struggle to understand how their partner is feeling These aspects of the Neurodiverse partner do not make that person good or bad. My job is to help you bridge the gaps that exist between you ; in emotional processing, getting things done (executive function), managing the world you live in (sensory issues), making transitions, communicating, reacting to each other (with less defensiveness), and healing wounds. Neurodiverse Parenting Parenting is not easy! Perhaps you, your spouse, or your children are on the Autism Spectrum, and you feel stuck, frustrated, sad, lost, and don’t know where to turn for help. I have over 24 years of personal experience with raising Autistic children alongside my AS spouse. Neurodiverse families have parenting issues specific to them that an experienced therapist is trained to treat. I work with couples to cope with the complexities of parenting. As parents, we all want our children to be successful, happy, and healthy. Some families have the added stress of co-parenting in a blended family or parallel parenting. I am here to listen, understand, and coach parents to navigate high conflict situations, build their parenting skills, and create a family environment where each family member can thrive. Whether your goals are to reduce conflict, reduce stress, or increase communication; I guide parents through techniques aimed at building a stronger relationship with their children and creating the results desired. ​ Education and Licensing I am a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and a Neurodiverse Couples Coach. I earned my master’s degree in Clinical Psychology from Azusa Pacific University (APU). My professional career is dedicated to helping neurodiverse couples to heal emotional wounds, improve communication, reduce conflict, and increase intimacy. Areas of Focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): General Couples Therapy Intimacy, Sex Affair Recovery Anger Management Divorce Life Transitions Families including Parenting, Co-Parenting, Blended Families Depression, Anxiety, Mood Disorders, Personality Disorders Clients Couples, Families, Men, Women Modalities Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Narrative Therapy, Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT), Person-Centered Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Family System Therapy, Positive Psychology, Trauma-informed Therapy License Registered Associate Marriage & Family Therapist, AMFT #133330 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. ​ Specialty Areas: ADHD, Autism, Discernment, Internal Family Systems, Neurodiverse Couples, ND at Work, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Emotional Intimacy Liz McClanahan Take an Autism Test

< Back About Tamala: Hi there! I was late-diagnosed ADHD (inattentive) at age 49. Two of my three adult children were also diagnosed with ADHD in their late teens/early 20’s. My oldest child is undiagnosed, however they are likely autistic/ADHD as well. My husband of 27 years is late-diagnosed with AuDHD (at age 48). I am a survivor of childhood emotional neglect and abuse. This is common among the neurodiverse as even the most well-meaning parents may not have the appropriate tools to support their children. It’s also common for those parents to have been neurodiverse as well, with their own experience of neglect and abuse, handing down their generational trauma. Soon after having been diagnosed with ADHD, I became an empty nester. My first career as a non-profit and professional development consultant was cut short by COVID, so I decided to go back to school and become a therapist focusing on trauma recovery. I am sharing this with you because I believe it will help me understand and support you. I look forward to hearing from you. Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships Neurodiverse couples work is about building communication and coping skills that work best in this particular relationship while maintaining one’s autonomy and individual self. In neurodiverse relationships, clients may have difficulty understanding each other, may be unsure what is OK and not OK to do or say, may feel lonely or annoyed, and may feel like fights and conversations continue to go around and around without resolution. My goal with couples is to meet both individuals where they are at and to assist each individual identify their needs and wants, articulate them, and respond when their partner does the same. The couple decides where they want to go with the relationship and works best for them. And in this process, I hold space, grace, and validation for each individual’s experience in how they process the world as well as the emotional lessons they have learned from their past. You Are NOT Alone The neurodiverse experience can feel lonely. Whether you are neurodiverse or have a neurodiverse partner/family member, it can feel like you are expected to behave a certain way and say certain things, or that no matter how hard you try, you can’t do it right. Maybe you feel like there are things that just don’t make sense but nobody else can see it. That struggle can feel so lonely. My intention in therapy is to provide a space where you are no longer alone. Whether in couples or individual therapy, I am there to support you and hold space for your lived experiences. You Can Do This You have made it to this moment. Congratulations! But I’m guessing those coping skills you developed aren’t working as well anymore and you’re looking for something to help navigate life and relationships. The good news is that you can learn new skills that are more appropriate to your life now. You did it before, and you can do it again. I believe all of us have the capacity to heal and improve our inner lives. That said, it can sometimes be difficult to do this work alone, let alone know what to do at all. That’s where therapy can be a bridge to confidence and a calmer inner world . When humans work together interdependently, we can go further and do better than we can do alone. My position as a therapist is to support my clients in this journey to inner strength and groundedness . ​ My Therapeutic Philosophy While it seems like today we have more understanding of (neuro)diversity, more grace and compassion for each other, and more freedom to move about the cabin without masking, we also live in the modern world where we witness folks’ lives on full display to be judged on social media, where we are told we can do anything yet can receive harsh criticism for not being perfect, and where there is a lingering feeling of uncertainty of the future. This mixed messaging can be destabilizing. In addition, our sense of self and perceptions of others are derived from a combination of our personal experiences (including trauma and triumphs), what we learned from our caretakers, the lessons from other authority figures, society’s messages, and our neurobiology. This mixture is unique to each individual. How we process information therefore has an impact on how we perceive and interact with ourselves and others. I believe a therapist’s role is to provide stability while the client(s) works through uncertainty, reality checks the lessons they learned in life, tries something new, and finds a healthy path to what it looks like for them to be grounded. The specifics will look different for each client(s), but all sessions are built around the principles of acceptance, patience, and kindness. I work collaboratively with the client(s) to identify areas of focus and what works best for them from their perspective. In our 50-min. sessions, therapy goals are usually a combination of gaining clarity, self-awareness, self-compassion, and coping skills. When working with couples or families, communication skills are a significant part of the work as well . ​ Areas of focus Adult diagnosed/suspected ADHD/Autism/AuDHD ADHD/AuDHD with anxiety and depression Women/Non-binary with ADHD/AuDHD cPTSD and Trauma Adolescent diagnosed/suspected ADHD/Autism/AuDHD Parents of adolescent/adult neurodiverse children Childhood emotional neglect/emotional abuse Adult neurodiverse relationships with parents and other family members Empty nest/menopause transitions Multi-cultural relationships/families Intersection of neurodiversity and LGBTQ+ Young adult launching (college, early career, living away from parents, adult relationships) Self Esteem and Assertiveness Social media/video game addiction Religious/cult abuse recovery ​ Modalities Client-centered Therapy Trauma Informed Therapy (CTP certified) Solution Focused Therapy Strengths-Based Approach Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) Somatic Therapy for Trauma Tarot Therapy Positive Psychology Relationship Anarchy approach: anti-hierarchical practices (everyone in the relationship is equal) anti-normativity (every relationship’s success criteria is unique to them) interdependency (partners can share feelings and needs openly and safely) individual autonomy (each partner is a complete human on their own) ​License & Certifications ​Registered Associate Marriage Family Therapist, AMFT Registered Professional Clinical Counselor Certified Trauma Professional (CTP) Education Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology, Antioch University of Los Angeles Employment Information Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc . Specialty Areas: Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, Sex/Physical Intimacy, Teens, ADHD, Emotional Intimacy Tamala Takahashi Take an Autism Test

< Back Welcome. I’m glad you landed here. I know you’re wondering if maybe, just maybe, there’s help available to make life feel a little (or even a lot) easier. Did you search “autism”, “ASD,” “Spectrum”, “ADHD,” or something similar to find us? As the parent of neurodiverse 16-year-old boy/girl twins, let me tell you I know how that feels. I can assure you, there is hope. You have it within yourself to meet the challenges that you face. And there is help here, either with me or one of my colleagues. You’ve made that important first step – you’ve Googled and scrolled the web and found us: a practice that cares deeply about the unique difficulties that sometimes make you feel alone. You are not alone. ​ Neurodiversity ​ “I know of nobody who is purely autistic or purely neurotypical. Even God had some autistic moments, which is why the planets all spin” – Jerry Newport. Your Life is Not a Label ​ Diversity is the one thing we all have in common, and neurodiversity is part of what makes the mosaic of humanity so rich. If you used neurodiversity terms to find us, you already know that what makes us unique can drive attraction and connection, but can also contribute to misunderstanding and confusion. Our goal is NOT to help the neurodiverse “fit into” the neurotypical world. While a square peg can probably be forced into a round hole, that might only work by damaging or changing the peg. Instead, we seek to build upon the strengths and strategies that each person brings when creating attachments with those around them. We honor each person’s uniqueness by creating a respectful, nonjudgmental space that will allow a safe place for growth and connection to flourish, both inside and outside the therapeutic experience. Neurodiverse Couples Closeness and intimacy are integral to a healthy relationship. Life’s demands can take their toll on how a couple connects physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. Any couple may start to feel disconnected in some or all of these areas leading to feelings of loneliness and isolation. For individuals who differ in their neurodiversity, this difference may require more focused attention to build and maintain intimacy. Showing up for each other means honoring each partner’s strengths and needs. In therapy, we will identify goals and patterns of interaction and work collaboratively to create new communication patterns that grow from a place of open-heartedness and connection. Neurodivergent Parenting For a moment imagine what it is like for a child to have one adult after another bending down and speaking to them with impatience, frustration, and annoyance in their faces and voices. Imagine how overwhelming this is for a child who already experiences heightened sensory and emotional sensitivity. Bridging the generation gap can be challenging for parents and children whose brains work in similar ways, it can be even more tricky when it feels like you are speaking different languages through the filter of neurodiversity. We are a team supporting your needs and concerns as a parent while honoring your child’s singular experience. OTHER AREAS Infertility, ART, and Post-partum depression ​ Nothing is more natural than having a child, except when it isn’t. Julie understands when the journey to parenthood does not go as anticipated. From fertility treatments to childbirth to post-partum depression, things have a way of defying best-laid plans. The process of becoming parents and the feelings around parenthood can be complicated and have a profound impact on your intimate relationships. Sandwich Generation ​ You are in the Sandwich Generation if you are caring for both children and aging parents. Squeezed in the middle, are you juggling the delicate and demanding tasks of caring for everyone but yourself? Is it any surprise your relationship is also suffering? Julie is particularly versed in supporting clients who have become caregivers for parents or spouses experiencing dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease. Co-parenting ​ Sharing a parenting relationship is among the most enduring experiences in life. Even after the dissolution of a marriage, connection through children remains. When one co-parent is neurodivergent there may be additional communication and executive function challenges that further complicate this delicate relationship. Creatives and Highly Sensitive Individuals ​ Before making this career transition Julie worked for decades in the arts. In her current practice, Julie specializes in working with writers, actors, musicians, and other individuals who identify as “highly sensitive.” About Julie I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Santa Monica, California. Born and raised in the Midwest, I lived in New York City for 20 years. Before becoming a therapist, I was a freelance writer and worked in film, theatre, and nonprofit arts and education. I am the parent of a couple of 16-year old neurodiverse comedians. Long interested in people who “see differently,” I wrote a children’s book about color blindness, Erik the Red Sees Green . The first person in my family to go to college, I received a B.A. from Johns Hopkins University, then New York University, leaving a Ph.D. program at NYU to start working in the arts. I graduated summa cum laude with an M.A. in Marriage and Family Therapy from Touro University Worldwide and am currently enrolled in a Doctor of Psychology (Psy.D) program at California Southern University concentrating on counseling and neurodiversity. Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): ​ Affair Recovery Ambiguous Grief Caregiver Support Co-Parenting Couples Counseling Creative Support Divorce Recovery Infertility Kink-Aware LGBTQIA+ Allied Life Transitions Parent Coaching Poly Friendly Sex Therapy​ Sex Positive Modalities: Coaching Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) Existential Therapy Experiential Therapy Internal Family Systems (IFS) Narrative Therapy Polyvagal Theory Psychodynamic Trauma-Informed Therapy​ Clients Couples Individuals Families ​ License Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT #149338 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. ​ Specialty Areas: Blended Families, Cassandra Syndrome Support, Kink/Poly-Affirmed, Discernment, LGBTQIA+, Buddist - Spiritual, Neurodiverse Couples, Affairs, Autism, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse) Julie Anderson Take an Autism Test

< Back Neurodiverse Couples: What is often missing from traditional couples counseling is the acknowledgment of diversity in neurotype, culture, career, and family dynamics. Drawing on my own personal experiences, which involve navigating the complexities of cultural adaptation, major career transitions, and my own neurodiverse marriage, I am dedicated to supporting couples in similar situations. Our approach is rooted in acknowledging and celebrating these diversities, while working collaboratively with couples to create a harmony and synergy unique to them. In our sessions, we delve into the intersectionality of neurodiversity, culture, career, and family influences, with the goal of fostering a holistic approach to your relationship dynamic. Together, we explore the intricate interplay of these factors, creating a space where understanding, resilience, and celebration of differences form the foundation for lasting connections. To put it simply: It’s impossible to truly know someone without acknowledging what makes them different. And as the old adage goes... to know someone is to love someone. This is a therapy experience that not only acknowledges the diverse facets of your relationship, but also embraces them as catalysts for growth and harmony. My Roots: I am a first generation Egyptian-American lawyer turned therapist with ADHD and autism. My younger self struggled with the pressure to conform both culturally and neurotypically. I believed that I would only have a healthy life and happy relationships if I forced myself to be “normal.” I later learned that celebratory self-acceptance opens the door to meaningful connections. I now take pride in my neurodivergence. So much so, that if given the option, I wouldn’t switch brains. Even if it would have definitely made my childhood and adolescence easier. Why? Because my neurodiversity connects me to a community of resilient and amazing folks. It’s now my life’s mission as a therapist to support and celebrate other neurodiverse individuals and couples . This world wasn’t designed with our needs in mind, but this world is made better because we’re in it. You deserve to feel seen and understood, too. ​ NEURO-INCLUSIVE NOURISHMENT ​ The Paradox of Food Food is paradoxical. It’s necessary for survival, yet can feel like torture. It’s deeply personal, yet everyone around you has an opinion. It’s supposedly simple, and yet it’s often complicated. Food can simultaneously feel fun and connecting, and yet dangerous and isolating.For the neurodiverse mind, this paradox is understandably frustrating and overwhelming. Eating “properly” felt like a full time job that I never had enough energy for thanks to sensory issues, executive dysfunction, and the shame for not conforming to the “societal norm.” Societal Expectations Because, of course, the media, family, friends, peers and literal strangers, have a lot to say about our food and our bodies. It’s incessant, aggravating, contradicting, and completely unrealistic. It doesn’t take into account your specific history, trauma, medical needs, culture, neurotype, or preferences! So let’s opt out of those societal expectations, and figure out what you need together. Without judgment, without coercion, and with lots of empathy, because I’ve lived the struggle too. A nourished body and a peaceful mind are possible. ​ To read more about Neuro-inclusive Nourishment, click here. ​ Certificates Board registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #141520 (supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , clinical director) Certified in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Certified in Brainspotting (for trauma therapy) She Rocks the Spectrum Therapist Neuro-inclusive Nourishment Specialist Education Masters of Science, Marriage and Family Therapy - San Diego State University Post-Baccalaureate Psychological Science Program - University of California, Irvine Juris Doctor - Georgetown University Law Center Bachelor of Arts, Political Science - University of California, Los Angeles ​ Clients Neurodiverse women Autistic, ADHD, Highly Sensitive People Neurodiverse clients with eating struggles Neurodiverse couples Modalities In my therapy practice, I use and am trained in the following client-centered modalities as they align with my belief in the significance of emotions, personal narratives, and the mind-body connection in healing and personal growth: Emotionally Focused Therapy Brainspotting (for trauma therapy) Internal Family Systems Narrative Therapy License Associate Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, #139592 (supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , clinical director) Specialty Areas: Kink/Poly-Affirmed, Assessment, ADHD, Autism, Eating & Autism, Teens, Sex/Physical Intimacy, Brainspotting, Neurodiverse Couples, Internal Family Systems, LGBTQIA+, AuDHD, Emotional Intimacy Monica Attia Take an Autism Test

< Back Specialties and Certifications ​​ Neurodiverse Couples General Couples Therapy Depression and Anxiety Christian Couples Counseling Affair Recovery Parenting Grief Life Experience ​​ J oyfully married for 20 years, with a relationship that's grown stronger through dedication and mutual support, and a proud father to my young adult daughter. Over 25 years of work in non-profit organizations including urban youth, churches, and schools Adjunct graduate school professor teaching courses on the integration of psychology and spirituality Earlier career in the hospitality and semiconductor industries Education in psychology, theology, and spirituality at the Master & Doctoral levels My Therapeutic Approach Daniel’s therapeutic approach is trauma-informed to support clients in their process of healing and client-centered to create a working alliance with empathy, acceptance, openness, and flexibility. Daniel has worked with people of diverse cultures and ethnicities and has the ability to relate to clients with authenticity, compassion, humility, and sensitivity. Trauma-Informed Therapy Restoration Therapy Emotion Focused Therapy Brief Solution Focused Therapy Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Experiential Therapy About Dan Daniel Chung has over twenty years of wide-ranging experience working with people in all stages of life. He is a creative, dedicated therapist who is passionate about helping individuals, couples, and families by coming alongside them, listening with empathy, helping to make sense of their concerns and needs, and providing vital tools to grow and thrive in life. Daniel focuses on providing a safe, nurturing, and judgment-free space that enables clients to heal and positively progress by fostering their agency to empower them to leverage their positive qualities toward lasting, satisfying, and harmonious relationships. He believes in holistic healing toward emotional, spiritual, and relational wellness that activates the mind, body, and spirit, and usher into deeper self-realization, purposeful living, better conflict management, and healthier coping skills over stress and grief. Neurodiverse Relationships Most neurodiverse couples are uninformed about their differences and how to support each other which can lead to misunderstanding, challenges in communication, the lack of emotional reciprocity, and failure to maintain a meaningful balance between partners and with others. Daniel works with neurodiverse couples to nurture awareness in each partner of their painful cycle of blame, shame, control, and escape, to enhance their understanding of selves and each other, and help reshape their patterns to reflect increased love and trust in the relationship by offering structure and practical tools to make progress on the challenges to their special relationship. He aims to provide a space that enables vulnerability, honesty, and collaboration to gain a fresh understanding and perspective of the neurodivergent partner’s behaviors and the neurotypical partner’s feelings, and use combined strengths and resilience. Clients Couples Individuals Families Adults Adolescents License Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapy #149769 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Emotion Focused Therapy, Neurodiverse Couples, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Christian, Affairs, Emotional Intimacy Daniel Chung Take an Autism Test

< Back Neurodiverse Couples C ounseling I love working with neurodiverse couples. Every couple I work with is unique and complex. The therapy process is creative, surprising and never boring. There is no one size fits all. How do you take two people who love each other, but whose minds, bodies, nervous systems and brains interpret the world and express themselves in very different ways, toward mutual understanding and connection? That is what we figure out together. “What we have here is a failure to communicate” - movie ‘Cool Hand Luke’ ​ Multifaceted Communication Breakdown By the time most neurodiverse couples seek counseling, patterns of defensiveness and disconnection have become entrenched. Even if some areas of the relationship are going well, others may be going really poorly. ​ Bids for connection have been unanswered, signs and signals that you are feeling unhappy or distressed have been missed, and attempts to discuss problems have gone sideways and caused despair, unkindness and avoidance. ​ You may find yourselves in a reinforcing negative loop of misunderstanding and hurt that becomes more and more convincing… ‘my partner doesn’t understand me, they don’t care about me, my needs don’t matter to them, they are selfish, they are controlling, they don’t like me, they want things from me I’m not capable of giving, they are going to leave me, this is not a healthy relationship, we are doomed.’ ​ Communication Reconstruction The good news is that just like patterns can form, patterns can also change. Even if both of you are still exactly who you are, the way you perceive each other and interact with each other can get much better. You can develop: More accurate narratives about each other. Increased understanding of what’s driving the other person’s behavior. More clarity about what each of you need. More emotional safety and connection. More sensory safety. Calmer and more cooperative conflict resolution. More respect for each other’s priorities. Better physical intimacy. More fun. More love! ​ Depth and Practicality We can go as deep as you want to go in the therapy. I have extensive training and clinical experience in trauma-focused work that allows each of you to identify and shift any of your own patterns that may be interfering with the health of your relationship. These patterns develop through a lifetime of being misunderstood or not having your needs met or respected. The patterns are held in your thoughts, behaviors, nervous system, mind and body. ​ I am also happy to keep things practical and help you with day to day stuff like division of labor, basic communication, finances/budgeting, parenting and trip planning. ​ Often clients choose to do a combination of deeper work and practical skill building. Your feedback about what’s helpful or not helpful guides the direction we take. ​ Life Stressors and Your Relationship Relationships do not take place in a bubble. My work with couples can include supporting you as a couple with a range of life stressors: Addiction (substance use and behavioral) Problems with food and eating Dealing with narcissistic or toxic people in your lives Deciding whether to have a child or more children Fertility issues Postpartum anxiety and depression Anxiety and depression associated with the menopause transition Chronic illness or medical problems Career transitions Aging parents Death of loved ones Children going through crises or developmental challenges Balancing time between athletics, special interests and relationships Managing difficult interpersonal aspects of your work environment ​ Can I see you individually? Can you see my partner individually? As part of the couples work, I do meet one on one with each person as needed or wanted. Because those sessions are part of the couples counseling framework, not everything you share will be kept confidential from your partner. Individual counseling, on the other hand, offers you full confidentiality. If you or your partner prefer to see me for individual counseling (I am not able to see both of you for individual counseling), I can offer you a referral to another team member for the couples counseling. ​ Individual Therapy for Neurodivergent Adults I love working one on one with clients who identify as ‘neuro-different’. Every client is beautifully unique and complex. I never offer a one size fits all. What you need, what you want, and what actually helps you is what the therapy is all about. ​ Why does life feel so hard for me sometimes? For neurodivergent people, there can be a wide gap between the things that come easily and magnificently and the things that are incredibly difficult, painful and overwhelming. ​ There can also be a gap between our intentions and motivations and how others perceive those intentions and motivations. ​ These gaps can cause us to experience rage, anxiety, shame, self-blame, an unstable self-concept, intense frustration, confusion, self-doubt, hopelessness, and despair. ​ They can also lead to patterns of alienation, not only from others, but from ourselves. ​ They can lead to burnout, depression and use of substances or behaviors that numb us from our pain. There also may be chronic pain or illness. ​ What can help me? We identify patterns in your mind, body, nervous system and brain, many of which may be adaptive responses to being misunderstood or not getting your needs met or respected throughout your lifetime. ​ You are supported to move toward: More compassionate and accurate narratives about yourself. Improved capacity to honor the needs of your body. Practical strategies for nervous system regulation. Communication and life skills that support you in your life goals and relationship goals. Establishing relationships with people who treat you respectfully and setting boundaries with those who do not. ​ We go deep and we stay practical. ​ We deal with whatever relationship or life stressors that you bring to the table. ​ (For information about my work with Neurotypical people in relationships with neurodivergent people, please see https://www.believing-cassandra.com ) Specialty Areas: Neurodiverse Couples, Cassandra Syndrome Support, Sex/Physical Intimacy, Communication, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Eating & Autism, Affairs Danielle Grossman Take an Autism Test

< Back Specialties and Certifications ​​ Neurodiverse Couples Specialist Neurodiverse Parenting Specialist Life Transitions Postpartum Depression Birthing Trauma Spirituality/Christianity Grief and Loss IEPs/Special Education LGBTQ+ - Affirming Parenting ​ Life Experience Diagnosed with ADHD at age 17 Married 23 years to neurodivergent husband Proud mother of 3 neurodivergent kids: age 21 Autism/ADHD/twice exceptional, age 18 ADHD, age 13 Autism/ADHD Proud mother to LGBTQ+ identifying kids Care giver to 2 parents diagnosed with cancer through treatment end of life ​​​ Education Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology Bachelor’s Degree in Interdisciplinary Behavioral Studies​ ​ More about Whitney ​​ ​ Parent liaison to SELPA (Special Education Local Plan Area) Yoga instructor/massage therapist informed in Mind-Body Connection Founded and facilitated a women's support group & moms with neurodiverse kids Hello, I'm glad you're here! I am a passionate neurodivergent therapist with a lifetime of personal experience navigating the complexities of neurodivergence for myself and within my own family. I bring my own real-life perspective to my practice and to my clients. My own journey as a child of, a sibling to, the parent of and partner to neurodivergent and Queer individuals has profoundly shaped my understanding and awareness of the myriads of struggles, surprises, pivots and beautiful moments within a neurodiverse family. I specialize in working with couples, families and individuals that are navigating similar paths. Whether you are seeking support for a neurodivergent child/ren, managing a relationship with a neurodivergent partner, or exploring your own identity, I provide a safe, non-judgmental environment to express, explore and grow. My Story Childhood: I grew up in Southern California in a loving, but troubled family. I experienced an alcoholic parent, a mentally ill sibling, divorce, an abusive stepparent, more divorce. When I was 13, my sister, my only sibling, passed away leaving my small family awash in terrible pain and stigma. I credit my wonderful mother, a social worker, who insisted always that I be in therapy and participate in support groups, with enabling me to live a healthy and successful life. The Power of Therapy: I am an avid proponent of therapy and believe in its powerful transformative potential. Being in therapy during my childhood and teens helped me to see past my circumstances to envision, and become the wife, mother, daughter and friend I am today; throughout my life I've utilized therapy to optimize my relationships and quality of life. Therapy is a gift everyone deserves! Life & Neurodivergence Experiences: I obtained my bachelor’s degree in interdisciplinary behavioral studies but was quickly lured into the corporate entertainment industry where I worked until I left to be a stay-at-home mom. I've been married to my neurodivergent husband for 23 years and together we are guiding our 3 neurodivergent kids (21, 18 & 13) into adulthood. Each one of our children present and identify differently including Autism, ADHD, twice exceptional, gifted, and multiple learning differences. My eldest child was born 11 weeks pre-term and spent 2 months in the NICU. My Healing Journey: I was diagnosed with ADHD at 17, albeit, very much left to my own devices to manage my symptoms. At the time of my diagnosis the only available "treatment" was stimulant medication which had too many side effects for me to tolerate. I was able to carve out a system for myself, primarily through the guidance of my mother, who also had ADHD and through her own trial and error, had learned to maximize her symptoms. Later in life when perimenopause kicked my symptoms back up to a new extreme, I found myself once again struggling to stabilize, and lacking professionals to appropriately advise me. I decided, in part, to become a therapist when I realized the industry was sorely lacking in professionals to help guide me and my family through our ever-evolving needs. Now, as a neurodivergent woman going through menopause, I find myself yet again on a new frontier for myself, and within my marriage. SUPPORTING NEURODIVERSE COUPLES: Let's face it, coupling is hard, and most couples struggle repeatedly through the course of their relationship. In fact, I don't believe I've ever met a couple that hasn't been met with hard times. When one or more partners are also neurodiverse, there may be many other presenting dynamics for which typical therapy, or other avenues of conflict resolution cannot or did not address. If you or your partner have been diagnosed with a unique neurotype and have not found a resolution - I can help you. I am a passionate therapist diagnosed with ADHD at age 17 and married for 23 years to my neurodivergent husband. I utilize my personal experience in connecting with and helping others on a similar path. Do you and your partner struggle to share the same perspectives? Do you feel there is a lack of emotional connectivity? Do sensory issues interfere with your daily interactions? Do you feel misunderstood, devalued or neglected? You or your partner's neurodiversity may be playing a significant role in your difficulties. I understand the unique challenges and strengths that neurodivergent couples bring to their relationships and am dedicated to supporting such couples navigate their journey together. My approach is compassionate, inclusive, trauma and attachment informed, utilizing various modalities to enhance communication, emotional expression and mutual discovery with humor and empathy. I endeavor to create a safe and loving environment for couples to explore, learn about and embrace each other in a new and more effective way. Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity) Neurodiverse Parenting Depression and Anxiety LGBTQ+ - Affirming Therapy Life Transitions IEPs and Special Education Spirituality/Christianity Grief and Loss Clients Couples Individuals Families License Registered AMFT # 142202 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc Specialty Areas: ADHD, Autism, Christian, LGBTQIA+, Neurodiverse Couples, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Teens, Emotional Intimacy, Cassandra Syndrome Support, Sex/Physical Intimacy Whitney Schneider Take an Autism Test

< Back Neurodiverse Couples Insurmountable Problems? Being in a relationship where one, or both, partners has a neurodiversity can present unique challenges that may seem insurmountable at times . Perhaps you and your partner have been struggling to connect, and you're not sure how to move forward. You may feel like you're speaking different languages, that your partner doesn't understand you, or that you can't find common ground. ​ I've worked with many couples in similar situations, and I've seen firsthand the toll it can take on both partners and the relationship. One partner may feel like they're always walking on eggshells, trying to avoid triggering their partner's sensitivities, while the other partner may feel like they're constantly being criticized or misunderstood. Communication may break down, leaving both partners feeling frustrated, alone, and disconnected. ​ Perspective Taking to Bridge the Gap With the right support and guidance, it's possible to create a safe and loving partnership that enables each of you to thrive and grow. As a neurodiverse couples’ therapist, my goal is to help you both understand each other's perspectives and needs , and to find ways to bridge the gap between you . I'll work with you to identify areas of strength in your relationship, as well as areas that need improvement. We'll explore strategies to build empathy, trust, and communication skills, and we'll develop tools to manage conflict and build resilience. ​ I approach therapy with a focus on collaboration, compassion, and cultural sensitivity. I believe that each person and relationship is unique, and I strive to create a safe and non-judgmental space where you can explore your experiences and feelings without fear of criticism or rejection. I'll work with you to tailor our sessions to your specific needs and goals, and we'll work at a pace that feels comfortable for you both. ​ If you're struggling in your relationship and feel like you're at a crossroads, I encourage you to reach out for support. Together, we can work towards building a stronger, more connected partnership that brings out the best in each of you. ​ Parenting Neurodiverse Children, including ADHD, Autism, Anxiety, OCD, Giftedness, and Twice Exceptional (2e) As a parent, you seek insightful solutions for your unique child rather than labels and generalizations. You may have long recognized that your child differs from other children. Despite seeking answers in parenting books and receiving advice from friends and family members, you have yet to find lasting solutions to your child's behavior. In fact, some of the advice may have even caused setbacks or worked as temporary band-aids, at best. You may be in awe of your child's unique talents in certain areas, but at the same time, perplexed by their inability to complete certain basic tasks. You may observe uneven patterns in your child's development, leaving you uncertain about how to set appropriate expectations. To Push or Back off? You may wonder how much to push your child to their full potential and when that pushing may be jeopardizing their mental health or pushing them farther away. You may notice that teachers, friends, and family unfairly judge your child, leading to a negative impact on their self-esteem and sense of worth. It's possible that you have already enrolled your child in various programs or interventions, but you are still searching for a more comprehensive understanding of how to best support your child and your family. You may be hesitant to seek help, out of concern that a professional may not be able to perceive your child's uniqueness and individuality in the same way that you do. Toll on Relationships Meanwhile, this struggle with meeting your child’s needs can be taking a toll on your relationship with your partner and other children. You’ve been struggling to meet everyone else’s need in the family at the expense of your own and you recognize you need a better strategy. “Beneath every behavior there is a feeling. And beneath every feeling there is a need. And when we meet that need rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom. ” My Approach When working with families, I strive to integrate a personalized, emotion-focused approach with evidence-based research and best practices . This approach allows us to create a meaningful connection and work together towards positive change. I create a comprehensive and tailored plan of action that takes into account your family’s and your child's unique strengths and challenges, without solely relying on labels and diagnoses. I work with parents every step of the way and help them discover the “why” beneath their child’s behavior and guide them toward positive changes. I offer specific guidance to help parents engage with their children in ways that tap into their intrinsic motivation for growth and success. My approach is founded upon evidence-based neuropsychology, curiosity, thoroughness, and clinical integrity, to help your child and the family reach their full potential. In our work together, you will come away with a nuanced and individualized roadmap that is tailored to your child's unique needs, allowing you to make current and future decisions that are suited to their individuality. I am a firm believer that therapy has the power to unlock the world-changing potential of the neurodiverse mind, and I am committed to helping your child achieve their full potential. ​ Read more about our care for Twice-Exceptional Children . Specialties and Certifications Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor Neurodiverse Parenting Specialist Neurodiverse Couples Specialist Kids and Teens Therapist Cassandra Syndrome Specialist ADHD, OCD, and Anxiety Specialist ​ Life Experience Associate Psychotherapist at Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center and Autism Parenting Therapy Center. Training with Dr. Harry Moto, Clinical Director and Founder. Clinical training - The Center for Professional Counseling of Los Angeles. Trained from a psychodynamic, depth-oriented clinical theoretical orientation, integrating alternative modalities as needed such as family systems theory, attachment theory, and CBT/DBT/ACT. Clinical training - Outreach Concern. Work with children, teens, and families as a school-based mental health therapist at multiple school sites. Handle a diverse caseload of students with behavioral, social, emotional, and academic needs. Incorporate a strengths-based orientation to foster academic growth and help students reach their personal potential, both inside and outside the classroom. Graduate Research Associate working alongside Dr. Shelly Harrell in her Culture, Wisdom, and Resilience Lab. My primary focus was the development of a unique application designed specifically for mental health therapists. This innovative tool enables therapists to incorporate quotes from thought leaders into their therapy practices, promoting greater wisdom, insight, and resilience among their clients. Prior President, CFO, COO, and Founder of various tech companies, startups, and non-profit organizations. Learnings from the corporate world helped shape my passion for understanding people’s behaviors, motivations, and drives. These experiences have equipped me with a unique perspective and skill set that I bring to my work as a mental health therapist. ​ Education Bachelor of Science, Massachusetts Institute of Technology Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology with an Emphasis on Marriage & Family Therapy, Pepperdine University Other Areas of Focus High Achievers Tech Executives, Corporate Executives Midlife and Life Transitions First Generation, Immigrants and Children of Immigrants Trilingual: Farsi (Persian), Spanish, and English Clients Individuals Couples Families Teens/Kids Modalities Psychodynamic/depth-oriented psychology EFT (emotion focused therapy for couples) IFS (internal family systems) CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) including ACT and DBT Family Systems Dynamics Solution focused therapy License Registered Associate Marriage & Family Therapist, MFTA #138180 California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) Psi Chi, the international honor society in psychology. Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy, Inc. Specialty Areas: LGBTQIA+, Muslim background, Kink/Poly-Affirmed, Addiction, Assessment, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Teens, ND at Work, Neurodiverse Couples, ADHD, Autism, Buddist - Spiritual, Cassandra Syndrome Support, Discernment, Internal Family Systems Leila Pirnia Take an Autism Test