Heal your neurodiverse relationhip on a couple's retreat with Barbara Lazarony, AMFT, Neurodiverse Couples Specialist Contact: Blaze@BlazeLazarony.com Phone: 707-400-5346 Book free consult with Barbara Neurodiverse Couples' Retreat with Barbara Lazarony Invest in Your Relationship: A Neurodiverse Couples' Retreat Can Help You Connect on a Deeper Level As neurodiverse couples, it can be hard to find time and space to explore your relationship. Our daily routines and responsibilities can get in the way of focusing on what matters most. That's why a couples retreat is the perfect way to carve out time and space to reconnect. It provides a safe, nurturing environment that allows both of you to step back, reflect and create a shared vision for your partnership. Gaining clarity on your feelings, goals, and values can help you each bring understanding, harmony, and an even deeper connection to each other – something worth investing in! Sharing Your Stories One of the most important aspects of any relationship is communication. Neurodiverse couples need to prioritize communication and understanding to build strong relationships. It is important for both partners to be open and honest about their individual needs and feelings, as well as be patient and accepting of one another's differences. Additionally, creating a safe space where each partner can express themselves without fear of judgment or criticism is essential. During a couples retreat, you will have the opportunity to get to know each other more deeply by discovering what makes the two of you unique. This could involve exploring childhood experiences or current struggles; all stories are valid! As a skilled couples facilitator, I will help you identify patterns in communication that might be holding your neurodiverse relationship back from reaching its full potential. Most importantly, I will guide you toward finding common ground so you can feel heard and respected. Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone Together A good couples retreat offers structured activities to facilitate a connection between partners through fun activities like trust-building exercises or creative projects. These out-of-the-box experiences reignite playfulness in the relationship and help people move away from their usual patterns into something new! It is also important for neurodiverse couples to focus on problem-solving together rather than assigning blame or feeling guilty for miscommunications; doing something new can support you in creating a new way of being together. Whether learning to dance together or participating in group discussions, these activities can bring about an understanding beyond words necessary for lasting harmony in any neurodiverse partnership. Creating A Shared Vision For The Future Finally, one of the main takeaways from attending a neurodiverse couples retreat should be gaining clarity on what you both want for the future of your partnership. With this newfound understanding comes a shared vision of what kind of relationship you would like to build - one that feels fulfilling both individually and collectively! It’s also essential to find ways to make time for shared hobbies and experiences that can help strengthen the connection between you in a neurodiverse relationship. Having a clear vision for your future helps clarify your roles within the partnership, which helps create harmony over time. Investing in a neurodiverse couples retreat can genuinely transform your relationship by providing structure and guidance around creating a meaningful connection with each other. It provides an opportunity for growth within yourself too. It gives insight into how both of you as individuals can come together as one unit to create something beautiful - something worth investing in! So, if you are ready to deepen your connection with your partner, let’s book your neurodiverse couples retreat today! ABOUT BARBARA LAZARONY Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, MA is a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #127882, Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor #10253, Transpersonal Coach, Certified Trauma Professional, Author & Speaker. Read Barbara's full bio here . Licenses Registered Associate, AMFT #127882 Registered Associate, APCC #10253 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Contact Blaze@BlazeLazarony.com Phone: 707-400-5346

Learn why an ASD diagnosis may or may not be helpful and how an adult assessment for Austism Spectrum Disorder is conducted. SELF DISCOVERY Self-Tests to Help Neurodiverse Partners Understand Themselves and Each Other Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Co-Occurring Neurodiverse Screeners HSP , Dyslexia, Rejection Sensitivity, OCD General Screeners Perfectionism , Anger Neurodiverse Relationship Check-Up Trait Wheel Exercises Autism ADHD AuDHD Autism Screeners: General Autism Screeners (Broad Traits) 1. Ritvo Autism & Asperger Diagnostic Scale (RAADS-14) Emphasis on internal experiences 14 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Autism Spectrum Quotient Test (AQ) Most common screener for Autism 50 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Additional test for Women: 3. Modified Girls Questionnaire for Autism Spectrum Condition (GQ-ASC) Designed for adult women, it identifies behaviors and abilities in women associated with autism 21 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Learn more about these tests here. Autism Screeners: Associated Feature Measures 1. Alexithymia (2 screeners) 1a. Online Alexithymia Questionnaire (OAQ-G2) Measures 7 factors related to emotions (see below) 37 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 1b. Toronto Alexithymia Scale (TAS-20) Identifies difficulties identifying and describing emotions, and distinguishing body sensations from emotions 20 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Burnout (3 screeners) 2a. Autistic Burnout Trait Inventory (ABTI-24) * Measures long-term burnout risk based on masking, stress, health strain, and recovery gaps over the past year. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2b. Autistic Burnout State Inventory (ABSI-24) * Assesses autistic burnout in terms of your energy, sensory overload, masking fatigue, and stamina over the past two weeks. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2c. Autistic Burnout Construct (ABO) Measures signs of Autistic Burnout—a state of intense physical, emotional, and cognitive exhaustion that can result from prolonged masking, unmet support needs, or sensory overwhelm. 8 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Autism Screeners: Domain-Specific Autism Screeners 1. Camouflaging Autistic Traits Questionnaire (CAT-Q) Detects masking, social compensation, and assimilation 25 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Adult Repetitive Behaviors Questionnaire-2 (RBQ-2A) Measures repetitive and restricted behaviors in adults 20 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 3. Extreme Demand Avoidance Questionnaire for Adults (EDA-QA) Assesses behaviors often associated with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) —or as some prefer, Persistent Drive for Autonomy —a profile seen in some autistic individuals. Explores regulation, flexible thinking, sensory coherence, and social perspective-taking. 26 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 4. The Monotropism Questionnaire Assesses for features indicating a monotropic cognitive style, the tendency to focus deeply on a limited number of interests at one time. 47 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. ADHD Screeners: General ADHD Screeners (Broad Traits) Recommendation: Take these 4 tests and then book a free consult . 1. Adult ADHD Self-Report Scale (ASRSv1.1) Commonly used self-assessment tool for adult ADHD 18 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Structured Adult ADHD Self-Test (SAAST) Covers concentration, impulsiveness, disorganization, and hyperactivity 22 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. ADHD Screeners Domain-Specific ADHD Screeners 1. Barratt Impulsiveness Scale (BIS-11) Focus on impulsivity traits 30 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Copeland Symptom List for Adult ADD Assesses 8 ADHD-related domains 63 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Learn more about these tests here. ADHD Screeners Associated Feature Measures 1. ADHD Sexual Intimacy Measure (ADHD-SIM-24) * Measures strengths and challenges across four subscales: Attention & Presence, Impulse Control & Risk, Boundaries & Consent, and Relationship Communication & Satisfaction.. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Co-Occurring Neurodiverse Screeners 1. Highly Sensitive Person Inventory (HSPI-24) * Designed for individuals seeking to better understand their level of sensitivity and emotional/sensory responsiveness. It measures four key traits commonly associated with high sensitivity: Depth of Processing, Overstimulation, Emotional Reactivity, and Sensitivity to Subtleties. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. The Dyslexia Questionnaire for Adults Assesses difficulties with reading, writing, and spelling that indicate dyslexia in adults 13 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 3. Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria Self-Assessment (RSD-24) * This self-assessment is designed for adults who want to better understand how rejection sensitivity may be affecting their emotions, relationships, and daily life. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 4. Obsessive Compulsive Inventory – Revised (OCI-R) Identifies the presence of obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors across six key areas—washing, checking, neutralizing, obsessing, ordering, and hoarding—offering insight into how they may be impacting daily life. 18 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. General Screeners 1. Perfectionism (2 screeners) 1a. Clinical Perfectionism Questionnaire (CPQ) Assesses patterns of goal-setting and self-evaluation to determine clinical perfectionism. 14 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 1b. Frost Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale (FMPS) Measures perfectionism across several dimensions, including concern over mistakes and organization. 35 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Clinical Anger Scale (CAS) Assesses the severity of anger as a symptom or condition. It can identify individuals who may benefit from anger management strategies or therapeutic interventions. 21 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Trait Wheel Exercises Three (3) available exercises. Each wheel turns complex traits into a simple visual map of your strengths and struggles. Want a quick overview of these wheels and their purpose? Click here. 1. Autism Trait Wheel Maps autistic traits across sensory processing, communication, focus, and emotional patterns using a dual-lens view of challenges and strengths. Visual Exercise — 12 Trait Wedges Want to learn more about this wheel? Click here. 2. ADHD Trait Wheel Highlights attention patterns, executive functioning, motivation, and hyperfocus while showing both difficulties and corresponding strengths. Visual Exercise — 10 Trait Wedges Want to learn more about this wheel? Click here. 3. AuDHD Trait Wheel Combines autistic and ADHD traits into one map, capturing overlap, contradictions, and the balance of overwhelm and creativity. Visual Exercise — 14 Trait Wedges Want to learn more about this wheel? Click here. Neurodiverse Relationship Check-Up Designed to decode your relationship dynamic. This 12-question screener helps identify unique strengths and pinpoint "translation gaps" affecting communication and connection. Click here. 1. Neurodiverse Relationship Check-Up Not sure what’s right for you? We offer a free consultation to help you figure it out—no pressure, just support. Check out the screeners and learn more at Adult Autism Assessments → Go to the Adult Autism Assesment Center For more self-discovery, join us at the Adult Autism Assessments: Services Overview (including pricing) Screening Tests (at no cost) ASD Assessment ADHD Assessment Dual Assessment (ADHD & ASD) Sensory Assessment Alexithymia Assessment Demand Avoidance Assessment *Disclaimer This questionnaire is designed to offer helpful insights and support self-reflection. It can be a useful starting point to increase understanding and many individuals find it valuable for identifying patterns and starting meaningful conversations—whether with a partner, therapist, or coach. That said, this tool is still in development and has not been validated through formal scientific research. While the questions are based on commonly reported experiences, the questionnaire’s reliability and accuracy have not been formally established. It is not intended to diagnose any condition or replace professional evaluation. For personalized guidance, we encourage you to consult with a neurodivergent-affirming clinician. ©2025 Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center, part of the New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this questionnaire may be reproduced, redistributed, or otherwise used without explicit written permission from the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center.

Neurodiverse Communication Counseling: With the help of a trained therapist, couples can learn to recognize their patterns, practice new strategies in a safe space, and strengthen understanding. Therapy that focuses on client strengths is especially helpful for neurodiverse communication as it helps partners identify and build on what they already do well, rather than focusing only on deficits.

Learn why an ASD diagnosis may or may not be helpful and how an adult assessment for Austism Spectrum Disorder is conducted. SELF DISCOVERY Self-Tests to Help Neurodiverse Partners Understand Themselves and Each Other Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Co-Occurring Neurodiverse Screeners HSP , Dyslexia, Rejection Sensitivity, OCD General Screeners Perfectionism , Anger Trait Wheel Exercises Autism ADHD AuDHD Autism Screeners: General Autism Screeners (Broad Traits) 1. Ritvo Autism & Asperger Diagnostic Scale (RAADS-14) Emphasis on internal experiences 14 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Autism Spectrum Quotient Test (AQ) Most common screener for Autism 50 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Additional test for Women: 3. Modified Girls Questionnaire for Autism Spectrum Condition (GQ-ASC) Designed for adult women, it identifies behaviors and abilities in women associated with autism 21 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Learn more about these tests here. Autism Screeners: Associated Feature Measures 1. Alexithymia (2 screeners) 1a. Online Alexithymia Questionnaire (OAQ-G2) Measures 7 factors related to emotions (see below) 37 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 1b. Toronto Alexithymia Scale (TAS-20) Identifies difficulties identifying and describing emotions, and distinguishing body sensations from emotions 20 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Burnout (3 screeners) 2a. Autistic Burnout Trait Inventory (ABTI-24) * Measures long-term burnout risk based on masking, stress, health strain, and recovery gaps over the past year. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2b. Autistic Burnout State Inventory (ABSI-24) * Assesses autistic burnout in terms of your energy, sensory overload, masking fatigue, and stamina over the past two weeks. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2c. Autistic Burnout Construct (ABO) Measures signs of Autistic Burnout—a state of intense physical, emotional, and cognitive exhaustion that can result from prolonged masking, unmet support needs, or sensory overwhelm. 8 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Autism Screeners: Domain-Specific Autism Screeners 1. Camouflaging Autistic Traits Questionnaire (CAT-Q) Detects masking, social compensation, and assimilation 25 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Adult Repetitive Behaviors Questionnaire-2 (RBQ-2A) Measures repetitive and restricted behaviors in adults 20 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 3. Extreme Demand Avoidance Questionnaire for Adults (EDA-QA) Assesses behaviors often associated with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) —or as some prefer, Persistent Drive for Autonomy —a profile seen in some autistic individuals. Explores regulation, flexible thinking, sensory coherence, and social perspective-taking. 26 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 4. The Monotropism Questionnaire Assesses for features indicating a monotropic cognitive style, the tendency to focus deeply on a limited number of interests at one time. 47 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. ADHD Screeners: General ADHD Screeners (Broad Traits) Recommendation: Take these 4 tests and then book a free consult . 1. Adult ADHD Self-Report Scale (ASRSv1.1) Commonly used self-assessment tool for adult ADHD 18 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Structured Adult ADHD Self-Test (SAAST) Covers concentration, impulsiveness, disorganization, and hyperactivity 22 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. ADHD Screeners Domain-Specific ADHD Screeners 1. Barratt Impulsiveness Scale (BIS-11) Focus on impulsivity traits 30 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Copeland Symptom List for Adult ADD Assesses 8 ADHD-related domains 63 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Learn more about these tests here. ADHD Screeners Associated Feature Measures 1. ADHD Sexual Intimacy Measure (ADHD-SIM-24) * Measures strengths and challenges across four subscales: Attention & Presence, Impulse Control & Risk, Boundaries & Consent, and Relationship Communication & Satisfaction.. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Co-Occurring Neurodiverse Screeners 1. Highly Sensitive Person Inventory (HSPI-24) * Designed for individuals seeking to better understand their level of sensitivity and emotional/sensory responsiveness. It measures four key traits commonly associated with high sensitivity: Depth of Processing, Overstimulation, Emotional Reactivity, and Sensitivity to Subtleties. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. The Dyslexia Questionnaire for Adults Assesses difficulties with reading, writing, and spelling that indicate dyslexia in adults 13 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 3. Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria Self-Assessment (RSD-24) * This self-assessment is designed for adults who want to better understand how rejection sensitivity may be affecting their emotions, relationships, and daily life. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 4. Obsessive Compulsive Inventory – Revised (OCI-R) Identifies the presence of obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors across six key areas—washing, checking, neutralizing, obsessing, ordering, and hoarding—offering insight into how they may be impacting daily life. 18 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. General Screeners 1. Perfectionism (2 screeners) 1a. Clinical Perfectionism Questionnaire (CPQ) Assesses patterns of goal-setting and self-evaluation to determine clinical perfectionism. 14 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 1b. Frost Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale (FMPS) Measures perfectionism across several dimensions, including concern over mistakes and organization. 35 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Clinical Anger Scale (CAS) Assesses the severity of anger as a symptom or condition. It can identify individuals who may benefit from anger management strategies or therapeutic interventions. 21 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Trait Wheel Exercises Three (3) available exercises. Each wheel turns complex traits into a simple visual map of your strengths and struggles. Want a quick overview of these wheels and their purpose? Click here. 1. Autism Trait Wheel Maps autistic traits across sensory processing, communication, focus, and emotional patterns using a dual-lens view of challenges and strengths. Visual Exercise — 12 Trait Wedges Want to learn more about this wheel? Click here. 2. ADHD Trait Wheel Highlights attention patterns, executive functioning, motivation, and hyperfocus while showing both difficulties and corresponding strengths. Visual Exercise — 10 Trait Wedges Want to learn more about this wheel? Click here. 3. AuDHD Trait Wheel Combines autistic and ADHD traits into one map, capturing overlap, contradictions, and the balance of overwhelm and creativity. Visual Exercise — 14 Trait Wedges Want to learn more about this wheel? Click here. Not sure what’s right for you? We offer a free consultation to help you figure it out—no pressure, just support. Check out the screeners and learn more at Adult Autism Assessments → Go to the Adult Autism Assesment Center For more self-discovery, join us at the Adult Autism Assessments: Services Overview (including pricing) Screening Tests (at no cost) ASD Assessment ADHD Assessment Dual Assessment (ADHD & ASD) Sensory Assessment Alexithymia Assessment Demand Avoidance Assessment *Disclaimer This questionnaire is designed to offer helpful insights and support self-reflection. It can be a useful starting point to increase understanding and many individuals find it valuable for identifying patterns and starting meaningful conversations—whether with a partner, therapist, or coach. That said, this tool is still in development and has not been validated through formal scientific research. While the questions are based on commonly reported experiences, the questionnaire’s reliability and accuracy have not been formally established. It is not intended to diagnose any condition or replace professional evaluation. For personalized guidance, we encourage you to consult with a neurodivergent-affirming clinician. ©2025 Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center, part of the New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this questionnaire may be reproduced, redistributed, or otherwise used without explicit written permission from the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center.

Expert counseling for neurodiverse couples. Our strength based approach to Autism, ADHD, and AuDHD can transform your relationship. Love on the Spectrum Autism. ADHD. AuDHD. We help neurodiverse couples & individuals connect and thrive. What kind of help are you looking for? Couples Therapy Individual Therapy Autism & ADHD Assessments World's Largest Neurodiverse therapy service. 100% Online. You’ve probably heard of autism. You’ve likely heard of ADHD. But what happens when someone experiences both at once? That’s AuDHD —and it’s more common than many people realize.. What is AuDHD? Learn More about AuDHD How it works Tell Us about You Share a few quick details so we can understand your neurodiverse experience — whether you're navigating autism, ADHD, or both. Get Your Perfect Match We’ll pair you with a specialist experienced in autism , ADHD , or AuDHD — within 24 hours. Start Your Healing Journey! Schedule your FREE consultation and start building the understanding and connection your relationship deserves. 1 2 3 Get Started Now! Use our Trait Wheels to better understand yourself. Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel We are experts in autism , ADHD & neurodiversity . Why risk being misunderstood? Our team understands the challenges that the neurodiverse community faces when seeking help. Autism, ADHD or AuDHD...we dedicate our lives to supporting you. Meet The Team Neuro-Informed vs Traditional Therapy

Do you want a relationship that feels stable, connected, and genuinely fulfilling? Maybe you’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, had the late-night talks, and tried to “figure it out” together. Here’s the twist: You’re not going to get there with logic alone. And emotions—on their own—won’t carry you across the finish line either. You could lay out every communication strategy... Use every neurodiverse relationship tool... Follow every single Instagram tip on emotional intelligence... …and still find yourselves looping through the same painful patterns. Why? Because logic might get you 10% of the way there. Emotion? Another 10%. But the other 80%? That’s where the magic lives: Curiosity. Acceptance. Vulnerability. And yeah—curiosity may have killed the cat… but it just might save your relationship. Real transformation begins when your partner shows up with genuine curiosity—not to fix you, but to know you. That’s when you feel like you matter—like you’re not just being heard, but truly wanted. That kind of presence invites you to show up more fully—without the mask, without the defenses— and feel accepted just as you are. This is exactly what neurodiverse couples therapy is designed to do. It creates the kinds of moments that shift everything: When shutdowns are met with patience and warmth—not pressure. When pain is allowed to exist in the open—without judgment or fixing. When effort, even the quiet kind, is truly seen and honored. Because this isn’t about winning an argument. It’s about feeling understood. Feeling safe. Feeling loved. And the beautiful part? You don’t have to figure it all out on your own. We’re here to walk with you—into something more honest, more connected, and more possible than you thought. Take the First Step Warmly, Harry Motro Clinical Director, Adult Autism Assessment Center and Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Let's get started today! 🔦 Spotlight on Lea Choi Specialties Neurodiverse Couples Counseling ADHD & Autism Relationship Coaching Emotional Regulation Executive Functioning Support Complex Parenting Challenges Multicultural & Intercultural Relationships LGBTQIA+, Poly & Kink-Affirming Learn more about Lea! Did you miss the last Blog? Click Here to Read Now! Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Cassie Clayton, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Cassie Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Meet Sara and Mark. Mark is autistic and, in our third therapy session, his struggles with alcohol became the BIG topic of discussion. For years, alcohol use sent their relationship on a rollercoaster of misunderstandings and pain. Whenever Sarah’s parents visited or Mark’s work became overwhelming, Mark would secretly drink. However, it wasn’t secret enough. Sarah would pick up on subtle clues, confront Mark, who would feel defensive and ashamed and would completely shut down. Sarah never understood why Mark drank and viewed his struggle as a personality flaw. Mark didn't want to drink, yet he couldn't find another way to cope. And he hated Sarah telling him what to do. It was painful for both of them! Fortunately, they didn't give up. Instead, they tried neuro-informed therapy. In our work together, they could finally stop blaming each other and take a deeper look at themselves. They learned to look beyond the alcohol to the underlying stressors. Eventually, they quit seeing each other as the enemy and started working towards an addiction-free relationship. Surprising Stats 📊 When it comes to substance use and autism, the conversation is far from straightforward. A recent study by the Autism Research Centre in Cambridge examined this issue using a mix of surveys and in-depth responses. Here's what they found: Less Frequent Autistic Use: Only 16% of autistic adults reported drinking on three or more days per week, compared to 22% of their non-autistic peers. Just 4% of autistic adults reported binge-drinking, compared to 8% of non-autistic adults. Male & Female #’s: Autistic males are less likely to have ever smoked or used drugs compared to non-autistic males. There were no significant differences in substance use patterns between autistic and non-autistic females . B ehind the Numbers: The Real Story of Autism & Addiction 🗣️ Despite the lower rates of substance use overall, the qualitative data tells a different story: Self-Medication: Autistic individuals were nearly nine times more likely to use recreational drugs to manage autism-related symptoms like sensory overload and mental focus . Many also used substances to mask their autism, a practice known as camouflaging. Mental Health: Autistic adults were over three times more likely to use substances to manage mental health symptoms, including anxiety, depression, dealing with past trauma, and suicidal thoughts . While some found relief and reduced their prescribed medication doses, others faced significant risks. High Risk: Autistic individuals are over four times more likely to report substance use related to dependence and managing suicidal thoughts . Working Together in Neurodiverse Couples Therapy for Addiction 🤔 Here are five key insights and steps to support your relationship: Recognize the Overlap 🔀: Understand that autistic partners may use substances to cope with sensory overload, social anxiety, or other challenges. A cknowledge this unique interplay between autism and addiction, how it shows up in your relationship, and break the shame cycle which is based on misunderstanding. Personalized Treatment Plans 📝: Develop both individual and couples treatment plans that consider the specific needs of the autistic and allistic partners. This may include sensory-friendly environments and transparent addiction recovery plans. Developing Shared Language 💬 : For neurodiverse couples dealing with addiction, creating a shared language is crucial. This includes practicing "recovery check-in’s" where partners discuss their progress and setbacks. I t's important to differentiate between a slip (a single instance of substance use) and a relapse (a return to previous patterns of substance use). By fostering clear communication, couples can address feelings of shame and vulnerability openly, which helps in supporting each other through recovery. Professional Support 🩺: Work with our therapists who are experienced in both autism and addiction. Specialized strategies tailored to neurodiverse couples can be more effective. Build a Support Network 👥: When appropriate, engage family and friends in the treatment process. Their support creates a stable environment crucial for recovery. Alternative Coping Mechanisms 🌟: Encourage healthy coping mechanisms, such as hobbies or physical activities, that provide relief without substance use. Stay Connected 💬 We're here to help you navigate the complexities of neurodiverse relationships. If you have any questions or need support, don't hesitate to reach out. Let's continue to learn and grow together! Harry Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT, Clinical Director Founder Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Think You Might be on the Autism Spectrum? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and Take the RITVO Diagnostic Scale Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Autism and ADHD in Asian communities I’m Jenny—Chinese American, bilingual in Mandarin and English, and neurodivergent. I know what it’s like to grow up in a culture where therapy is shunned. In my Chinese and Taiwanese culture, therapy is often seen as a sign of weakness or a source of shame—something that causes a person to "lose face." Self-reflection may feel like betrayal. I spent years trying to fit into 2 cultures, staying quiet, and keeping the peace. That mindset cost me my energy and parts of myself I’m still reclaiming. Now I work with clients who are tired of masking, tired of translating their needs, and tired of being misunderstood—even by people they love. If you’re neurodivergent and Asian, you’ve probably felt caught between two worlds as well. Honor your culture, or honor your nervous system. I’m here to tell you: you don’t have to choose. Collaborate and celebrate. Our team— Lea Choi , Daniel Chung , Maring Higa , Nancy Rushing , and me —brings lived experience with Chinese, Taiwanese, Japanese, Filipino, and Korean cultures. We also have lived experience with Autism, ADHD, AuDHD, and the relationship challenges that come with different ways of processing the world we live in. If you feel like you're not "enough" in your own skin, you're not alone. We don’t do stereotypes. We don’t do shame and blame. We do neuro-informed therapy, cultural context, and practical tools for building connection. We do it in a way that doesn’t cost you your identity. Ready to be seen, heard, and understood? 👉 Schedule a confidential consult Warmly, Jenny Pan Culturally Sensitive Therapist for Neurodivergent Clients at Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Learn more about Jenny! Get Matched with a Therapist © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these statements may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

You’ve seen top 10 lists before. You might roll your eyes. Too generic. Too fluffy. Doesn’t apply. We get it. But this one’s different. It’s built for your relationship. A neurodiverse relationship. The Big 10 for Neurodiverse Relationships Don’t assume silence means disinterest. Sometimes it means overload. Ask, don’t guess. Fight the confusion, not each other. You’re wired differently, not broken. Say what you really mean. Neurotypical hints don’t work here. Take breaks when you’re flooded. Then come back. Always come back. Ask for the connection you need. Don’t wait for it to show up by magic. Celebrate your partner’s effort, not just results. What looks small may be huge. Touch…if it’s wanted. Check first. Respect sensory needs. Ask, “What makes today easier?” Daily micro-tweaks beat grand fixes. Goals and dreams can look different. But they still need to be shared. Choose kindness before clarity. You can always explain more later. We could spend a full session on each one. And maybe we will. But you may not even need us. Pick one a day. Sit with it. Let it shift the way you show up. That one small change? It might change everything. Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Get Matched with a Therapist 🔦 Spotlight on Shea Davis Specialties Neurodiverse Couples Cassandra Syndrome Support Communication Addiction, Trauma, Betrayal Recovery Blended Families Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse) Emotionally Focused Therapy Internal Family Systems Personal Experience Lived 24 Years in a Neurodiverse Marriage. I know the highs and heartbreaks of a relationship where love is real—but miscommunication is constant. That lived experience grounds the way I support couples navigating similar dynamics. Parented a Brilliant, Struggling Neurodivergent Son. As a mom and advocate, I learned to interpret, adapt, and create safety for a child the world didn’t always understand. That shaped my deep respect for nervous system differences and co-regulation. Rebuilt After Addiction, Trauma & Betrayal. I’ve walked through collapse and come out the other side—with hard-earned insight into recovery, boundaries, and how to rebuild relationships rooted in mutual safety. Learn more about Shea! © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these statements may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Hello Neurodiverse Couples Community! 🌈 Think you understand autism? What if there’s another way to see it? Could it be a framework rooted in how our brains work moment-to-moment? Predictive processing is a fascinating model that shows how we all, autistic or not, navigate the world by creating internal “blueprints” or expectations. These mental maps help us anticipate what’s coming, sparing us from reinterpreting every situation from scratch. For autistic individuals, these blueprints can be especially detailed, offering stability but also creating challenges when the world doesn’t line up. Watch or listen instead of reading — this video covers the same topic in a more personal, conversational way. Educational use only — not therapy or advice. Therapy for CA residents · Coaching worldwide. If in crisis, call 988 (U.S.) 🔍 What is Predictive Processing? At its core, predictive processing is the brain’s way of making sense of the world by forming mental “blueprints” based on past experiences and current sensory information. Everyone’s brain operates this way. Here’s how it works: The brain starts with a hypothesis about what’s likely to happen, drawing from previous experiences and the current context. Then, as sensory information comes in , it compares reality to the blueprint, looking for alignment. When there’s a prediction error — a mismatch between expectation and experience—the brain adjusts its internal model, gradually improving accuracy for future predictions. This prediction process helps us avoid the exhausting task of re-evaluating each new experience from scratch, saving energy and helping us move smoothly through life. For autistic individuals, these mental maps tend to be highly detailed and specific, creating a strong sense of stability but also less flexibility when unexpected events arise. This approach is both adaptive and protective; by continually refining its “blueprint,” the brain creates a sense of predictability in a world that might otherwise feel overwhelming. Understanding these blueprints can help partners communicate and interact in ways that feel safe, supportive, and genuinely aligned with each other. 🌐 Predictive Processing in Action: A Real-Life Example Imagine you and your autistic partner plan to meet friends at a new restaurant. Here’s how their brain might process this experience through three possible “vectors”: Physical Experience Matches the Blueprint: Your partner anticipates a quiet restaurant, familiar food, and a small group of friends. When reality aligns with this expectation, they feel calm, their internal blueprint stays steady, and the experience is positive. Experience Deviates Within Tolerance: The restaurant is a bit noisier than expected, or there’s a delay in seating. While these details don’t perfectly match their mental map, they’re still within a “zone of tolerance.” These small variations are manageable, and their blueprint can adjust, allowing the overall experience to stay comfortable. Experience Challenges the Blueprint: Now imagine the restaurant is crowded, music is loud, and the menu is unfamiliar. This situation directly conflicts with their blueprint, which can feel jarring or overwhelming. Their brain struggles to reconcile these differences, leading to anxiety or withdrawal as they try to process the experience. For autistic individuals , these mental maps are often very specific, and the world is examined in finer detail, and with heightened sensitivity to sensory input. Large deviations from the mental blueprint can lead to overload or frustration. And, for their partners, understanding these reactions as part of a finely tuned map helps partners create more supportive and understanding interactions. 💡 How Predictive Processing Challenges Traditional Autism Views Traditional approaches to autism often focus on observable traits—like social challenges or repetitive actions—and view these as isolated behaviors to “manage.” Predictive processing shifts the focus inward, showing how behaviors reflect an internal logic. Instead of viewing these behaviors as “quirks,” we start asking: “How does this person’s unique blueprint provide stability in a complex world?” This perspective encourages a new kind of respect for each person’s natural mental structure, guiding us to support these patterns rather than attempt to change them. 🛠️ Practical Interventions: Putting Predictive Processing to Work Our neuro-informed specialists understand how predictive processing shapes your relationship. With this understanding, we design interventions that embrace and work with each partner’s unique blueprint, enhancing connection. Mapping Communication Styles: Everyone’s mental map is different, and uncovering each partner’s communication style is key. We help you both understand these maps so you can communicate in ways that resonate, without feeling forced or uncomfortable. Routine Flexibility & Adaptation: Routines offer a sense of stability, particularly for autistic individuals, but flexibility is essential too. We work with couples to craft routines that provide predictability without feeling rigid, balancing the needs of both partners. Emotional Calibration Based on Predictive Maps: Emotions often reflect how much a situation matches or deviates from each person’s mental blueprint. We teach couples how to recognize and adjust to each other’s emotional cues, bringing alignment without misunderstandings. Making Detail Focus a Tool for Clarity: Many autistic individuals notice specific details that others might overlook. We help partners use these details to enhance communication and add depth to their conversations, seeing this focus as a strength. Creating Safe Predictive Spaces: Establishing predictable, shared “safe spaces”—whether routines, rituals, or specific activities—grounds the relationship, helping both partners feel secure within the relationship even amid external changes. Aligning Expectations & Checking In: Misaligned expectations can create frustration. Our specialists guide you in regular check-ins, allowing each partner to align their mental maps and navigate experiences together with trust and openness. 🧭 Ready to Explore the Depths of Your Relationship? Imagine if understanding each other wasn’t about “fixing” but about uncovering the hidden logic behind your partner’s world. Are you ready to see their experiences in a new way—and let them see yours? When you’re ready, our neuro-informed specialists will be there to help. Warmly, Harry Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT, Clinical Director Founder Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center 🔦 Spotlight on Nancy Rushing If your relationships or personal journey feel overwhelmed by the complexities of neurodiversity, Nancy Rushing is the specialist who truly understands the nuances of being both an HSP and navigating life with ADHD. With her lived experience as a neurodivergent individual and a parent of two highly sensitive children, Nancy brings a compassionate, firsthand perspective to her work, helping clients feel seen and supported. Nancy’s superpower? She uncovers the deeper emotional patterns and attachment needs that shape relationships and individual experiences, whether you’re navigating anxiety, sensory sensitivities, or the unique dynamics of neurodiverse partnerships. With her integrative therapeutic approach, Nancy combines evidence-based modalities like CBT, EFT, and trauma-informed care to tailor sessions to your unique challenges. Together, you’ll discover tools to break free from repetitive cycles, gain clarity and confidence, and build relationships that honor both individuality and connection . Contact Nancy Today! Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Think You May be Masking Your Autistic Traits? The Camouflaging Autistic Traits Questionnaire (CAT-Q) may be used to identify autistic individuals who do not currently meet diagnostic criteria due to their ability to mask. Take the CAT-Q Test Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

ADHD Women THE OVERLOOKED SYMPTOMS OF ADHD IN WOMEN Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) affects people of all genders and ages, but the symptoms in adult women often go unrecognized or misdiagnosed. This is due to a lack of understanding about how ADHD manifests in women and the assumption that it only affects boys and men. The symptoms of ADHD in women can include forgetfulness, distractibility, disorganization, impulsivity, and emotional dysregulation. Women with ADHD are often labeled as “scatter-brained” or “flaky,” but these symptoms can have a significant impact on their daily lives and relationships. UNDERSTANDING ADHD SYMPTOMS IN WOMEN AND CELEBRATING THEIR STRENGTHS It is important to note that ADHD is not just a disorder of deficits and challenges, but also of strengths and positives. Many women with ADHD possess unique talents and abilities, such as creativity, resilience, and adaptability. They are often highly intuitive, compassionate, and empathetic. Women with ADHD are also known for their ability to hyper-focus on tasks that they find interesting or enjoyable, leading to great success in areas they are passionate about. Our therapists recognize and celebrate these strengths while working with clients to manage their symptoms and build on their talents. Through therapy, women with ADHD can learn to channel their strengths and manage their challenges to achieve success and fulfillment in all areas of their lives. MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT WOMEN WITH ADHD There are many misconceptions about ADHD that prevent women from receiving the support they need. For example, ADHD is often stereotyped as a disorder that only affects young boys and is associated with hyperactivity. In r e ality, many women with ADHD may not have been diagnosed until adulthood, as their symptoms can be less visible than those of men and may manifest in different ways. Moreover, ADHD is not just about hyperactivity, but also involves difficulties with attention, impulsivity, and executive functioning. Unfortunately, these misconceptions can lead to feelings of shame, guilt, and isolation among women with ADHD. At our therapy site, we strive to educate our clients and the broader community about the realities of ADHD in women, and work to dispel harmful myths and stereotypes. We believe that everyone deserves access to accurate information and compassionate support. Curious if your experiences align with ADHD traits in women? Autism Screener for Adult Women THERAPEUTIC APPROACHES FOR WOMEN WITH ADHD We offer a range of therapeutic approaches for women with ADHD, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), mindfulness-based approaches, and coaching. CBT is particularly effective for ADHD, as it helps clients to identify and change negative thought patterns and behaviors that contribute to ADHD symptoms. We also provide practical tools and resources to help clients manage their symptoms on a day-to-day basis. A HOLISTIC APPROACH TO ADHD THERAPY Our therapists take a holistic approach to therapy for women with ADHD. We recognize that ADHD can impact many aspects of a woman's life, from hormone fluctuations to work and relationships. We work with clients to identify their unique challenges and develop strategies for managing symptoms in all areas of their lives. We also explore the impact of ADHD on their relationships, and help them to build stronger, healthier connections with loved ones. 10 STEPS FOR THERAPEUTIC SUPPORT Welcome to our guide on supporting women with ADHD! If you're living with ADHD or supporting someone who is, these tips are designed to help you navigate everyday life with more ease and confidence. Here are 10 practical steps to make things a bit smoother. 1. Learn About ADHD Understanding ADHD is the first step. Learn how it affects women, especially since it can look different compared to men. Find out about the common signs, like distractibility, impulsivity, and emotional swings. Don't hesitate to ask for resources to understand more. 2. Get a Full Picture It's not just about ADHD symptoms. Take the time to explore your personal history, family background, and other health factors. This can help you and your therapist understand the complete picture and tailor the best support for you. 3. Focus on Your Strengths You have amazing skills and talents! Women with ADHD often have creativity, empathy, and adaptability. Let's build on those strengths to boost your confidence and resilience. 4. Create a Custom Plan One-size-fits-all doesn't work here. Your treatment plan should be unique, just like you. It might include behavioral strategies, therapy, or medication, depending on your needs and preferences. Your goals are the focus. 5. Learn Practical Skills Let's get practical. Learn ways to manage your time, get organized, and handle your emotions. These skills can make a big difference in reducing stress and chaos. 6. Make Your Space Work for You Your environment matters. Make changes to your surroundings that reduce distractions and help you stay on track. This could mean decluttering, setting up routines, or finding tools that keep you focused. 7. Try Mindfulness Mindfulness techniques can help with focus and keeping calm. Deep breathing, meditation, and grounding exercises are great ways to manage stress and impulsivity. 8. Work with Your Healthcare Team If you're taking medication, make sure it's working for you without too many side effects. Stay in touch with your doctor and therapist to keep everything in check. 9. Build Your Support Team Having a solid support system is crucial. Connect with family, friends, or support groups who understand and encourage you. Don't be afraid to speak up about what you need at work or home. 10. Stay Flexible and Adaptable ADHD can change over time. Keep an eye on what’s working and what’s not, and don't be afraid to switch things up. Regular check-ins with your therapist can help you stay on track and celebrate your progress. We hope these steps help you feel more in control and supported. Remember, you're not alone, and there's a whole community here to help you thrive. ADHD TREATMENT FOR GIRLS VS. WOMEN Treatment for ADHD women differs from that for girls, as women have unique challenges related to hormonal changes, relationships, and career demands. Our therapists are trained to work with adult women specifically, and tailor treatment to their individual needs and circumstances. NEED PRACTICAL SKILLS? Our clients inevitably ask about learning practical skills. More specifically, it is important to find ways to navigate everyday tasks and challenges that can sometimes feel overwhelming with ADHD. Here are some detailed tips to help you master these skills and make your day-to-day life easier: Time Management ADHD can make it tricky to keep track of time. Try using visual timers or alarms to stay on schedule. Break tasks into smaller chunks and set specific deadlines. A calendar app or planner can also help you keep an eye on upcoming events, appointments, and deadlines. Organizational Tools A cluttered space can lead to a cluttered mind. Keep things simple by using clear containers and labeling them. Create designated spots for keys, bags, and other essentials. If you need extra help, consider a professional organizer or apps that guide you through organization steps. Task Lists and Prioritization To-do lists are your friend. Write down tasks and cross them off as you complete them. You can use a bullet journal or a digital app for this. Prioritize tasks by importance and urgency. This way, you can focus on what really matters without feeling overwhelmed Minimize Distractions Distractions can be a major hurdle. Try working in a quiet space or using noise-canceling headphones. Keep your phone and other electronics on "do not disturb" while working on important tasks. Browser extensions that block distracting websites can also be useful. Develop Routines Consistent routines can be a game-changer. Establish daily habits for mornings, evenings, and even meals. When routines are in place, your brain doesn't have to work as hard to remember what comes next. This can make your day flow more smoothly. Practice Emotional Regulation ADHD often comes with intense emotions. Learn techniques to manage these moments, like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or grounding exercises. Keep a journal to track your feelings and identify triggers. This can help you respond to emotions instead of reacting impulsively. Build in Breaks Breaks are essential to avoid burnout. Use the Pomodoro Technique or a similar approach to work in short bursts with breaks in between. During breaks, do something enjoyable, like stretching, walking, or listening to music. This helps you stay refreshed and focused. Seek Support and Accountability You're not in this alone. Share your plans with a friend or family member who can help keep you on track. Join support groups or online communities for people with ADHD to exchange tips and encouragement. Learning practical skills takes time and practice. Start with small steps, and don't be too hard on yourself if things don't go perfectly. The key is finding what works for you and sticking with it. With these skills, you'll be better equipped to manage ADHD and enjoy a more balanced and organized life. CURIOUS IF YOU ARE ADHD? Curious if your experiences align with ADHD traits in women? Take our ADHD Screening for Women to gain insights, recognize patterns, and explore supportive resources tailored to your unique journey. The button below will take you to our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment . There, you'll be able to take our Free Online Adult ADHD Screener and gain further insight. Adult ADHD Screener for Women FINAL WORDS Our therapists are dedicated to providing compassionate and effective therapy for women with ADHD. We understand the challenges that come with a diagnosis of ADHD, and work with clients to develop strategies and tools to manage symptoms and improve their overall quality of life. If you think you may have ADHD or have been diagnosed and are seeking support, please contact us to learn more about our services Meet with our Client Care Coordinator Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

OCD vs Autism Is it OCD or autism? On the surface, they can look the same. Repeating routines. Fixating on details. Needing things a certain way. But the “why” behind those behaviors is totally different. With OCD, the ritual is about shutting down scary, intrusive thoughts. With autism, the ritual is about creating comfort, predictability, and balance. Miss that difference, and the relationship takes a hit. Because what looks like “helping” can actually backfire. When partners accommodate OCD compulsions, symptoms often get worse. But when partners support autistic routines, it often lowers stress and builds connection. See the difference? One needs gentle challenge. The other needs respectful support. That’s why it’s so important to sort out what’s what. Studies show OCD shows up in autistic people anywhere from 10% to over 30%, depending on how you measure it. So don’t assume—it’s more common than you think. Here are your next steps: Read our full article about how OCD and autism intersect. Screen for OCD traits with the OCI-R (Obsessional Compulsive Inventory—Revised) . And if you’re wondering about autism itself, check out our Autism & Related Screeners . Bring your results into therapy, and we’ll untangle what’s OCD, what’s autism, and how to handle both without getting stuck in the cycle. Less confusion. More clarity. Better connection. [Click here to schedule a session today] Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these statements may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. 🔦 Spotlight on Malori Evans Specialties Neurodiverse Couples OCD and Autism LGBTQIA+ Addiction Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse) Sex/Physical Intimacy Emotional Intimacy ADHD, Autism Trauma-Informed Internal Family Systems Life Experience Living with autism and ADHD, raising two kids, and married to a neurodiverse partner — I understand firsthand the beauty and challenges that come with neurodiverse relationships. As a queer woman in recovery, I bring compassion and authenticity to my work, creating a safe space for clients to explore their own stories of healing and connection. I combine evidence-based approaches with lived experience, helping couples and families turn differences into deeper understanding, resilience, and love. Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT # 153124, Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Get Booked with Malori Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners References Aymerich, C. (2024). Prevalence and Correlates of the Concurrence of Autism and Other Disorders. PMC. Retrieved from https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11048346/ Dell’Osso, L. (2025). Autism spectrum disorder, social anxiety and obsessive-compulsive symptoms: Prevalence in children. BMC Psychiatry. BioMed Central Lamothe, H. (2022). Clinical characteristics of adults suffering from high-functioning ASD with OCD. Journal of Affective Disorders. ScienceDirect Meta-analysis: prevalence of OCD in ASD youth: 11.6% (CI 6.9%–18.8%). PubMed Conditions comorbid to autism – OCD comorbidity up to ~30%. Wikipedia. Wikipedia Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Meet Emma and Lucas (not their real names) . After years of misunderstanding and failed attempts with therapists who didn’t grasp the nuances of their neurodiverse relationship, they’re at their breaking point. Their latest fight was the last straw : Emma felt dismissed when Lucas forgot their anniversary, and Lucas was overwhelmed by Emma’s emotional response. Emma threatens divorce. But it doesn’t mean very much because she never acts on it. They don’t know what to do. Desperation brought them to me with one GIGANTIC question: Should we try to save this relationship? On the Brink When a neurodiverse marriage is on the brink of falling apart, couples face the hardest choice of their lives. Here are some of the questions that haunt them: Is this a phase in marriage that will pass? Is this just a personal crisis? Do I even want to work on it? If I make a decision to work on it, how can I be confident that it is the right one for me, or for us? What have I missed? Do I have a blind spot? Is my neurodiverse partner capable of change? Am I? Is it fair for me to ask him/her to change if that's not who he/she really is? What happens to our children? Will they be better off with us staying together in an unhappy marriage? Do I really understand the downside of divorce? Whether to stay married or get divorced is a multi-layered decision process. One that will confound even the most discerning people. You will second guess yourself, ruminate over the decision, and even drive yourself to depression. Sometimes you'll be tempted to decide just to end the misery of uncertainty. Discernment Counseling: A Path Forward Fortunately, there’s a way to help couples get unstuck: Discernment Counseling. The goal of Discernment Counseling isn’t to solve your marital problems but to determine if they can be solved. We answer 2 questions: What would have to change to make this relationship work? Are we willing to sign up to work on the relationship for 6 months? The Big Difference: Unlike traditional couples counseling, which fights to save the marriage, Discernment Counseling focuses solely on helping couples decide what they want to do with their relationship. Ready to Take the Next Step? Get Started with a Discernment Counselor Nuts and Bolts of Discernment Counseling Discernment Counseling: Is a structured assessment process , not treatment. Is a brief, time-limited process, typically completed in five sessions or less. Slows down the impulse to act, encouraging a longer view of your marriage and a broader range of choices. Provides the key information needed to evaluate the relationship and take action—either to pursue a divorce or commit to a six-month course of intensive neuro-informed couples therapy. For neurodiverse couples, this information includes the input of a neuro-informed couples specialist who can explain what a 6-month therapy roadmap should look like for a neurodiverse couple. Identifies core areas each partner needs to work on , giving clarity on what each person needs to change. Answers the question: "Are you willing to work on changing your contributions to the marriage?" If both partners answer "yes" to this question, they move forward and start working on their relationship intensely. After six months, they revisit the question about whether to divorce, but by then, they have more knowledge and clarity about the true viability of their marriage. By the way, some couples just can’t sign up for 6 months. It’s just too long so we break it up into 2 blocks of 3 months each where we revisit discernment after the first block to make sure we’re on track. If either partner answers "no" , your discernment counselor will support you in a healthy separation process or find ways to make the best of the status quo. Beacon of Hope We understand how lonely and desperate couples feel when on the brink of separation or divorce. Discernment Counseling offers a beacon of hope. Couples who go through this process often feel much better, no matter what path they ultimately choose. It provides clarity, reduces uncertainty, and instills a sense of empowerment. There is always hope, and we are here to support you every step of the way. Meet Our Client Care Coordinator With heartfelt best wishes, Harry Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT, Clinical Director Founder Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Are You Sensitive to Noises, Textures, etc...? Want to better understand your sensory struggles? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and Take the SPM-2 Questionnaire Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel