Menopause and Neurodiverse Relationships: How to Adapt Menopause is finally being talked about in the open. That conversation is overdue. Because the symptoms can rock a relationship, especially a neurodiverse one. First, the trend you’re hearing about. Overall, U.S. divorce rates have fallen since 1990...but divorces after age 50 have more than doubled. Media are calling this “menodivorce,” and surveys suggest many women perceive perimenopause/menopause as a factor. What’s happening in bodies and brains. Perimenopause can span years, with fluctuating estrogen driving hot flashes, sleep disruption, mood shifts, brain fog, and changes in libido and vaginal comfort. Those symptoms are real, common, and treatable. Why neurodiverse couples feel this harder. Autistic and ADHD partners often rely on sleep regularity, predictable sensory input, and stable routines to keep regulation and communication online. Perimenopause adds heat surges, night sweats, light sleep, and pain, which amplify sensory load and executive-function strain. Emerging research shows many autistic adults report menopause as a “perfect storm”—more sensory sensitivity, more dysregulation, and feeling poorly supported by care systems. ADHD adds another layer. Hormonal fluctuation can alter attention, working memory, and mood; some studies tie symptom spikes to estrogen changes, while other newer data are mixed. Translation for relationships: even stable couples can suddenly feel like strangers for a season. How this shows up between partners. Missed bids for connection rise when one partner is exhausted, in pain, or heat-spiking at 2 a.m.; the other partner may misread withdrawal as disinterest. Sex gets complicated when desire drops, arousal hurts, or sleep is wrecked. Conflict ramps when executive bandwidth shrinks and both partners are running on fumes. What actually helps (neuro-informed and practical). —Get a medical plan, not myths. Ask your medical doctor about menopausal hormone therapy (MHT) pros/cons, non-hormonal options, localized estrogen for genitourinary pain, and sleep treatment. —Protect sleep like it’s oxygen. Separate duvets, phase-shift bedtimes, occasional solo-sleep nights during hot-flash clusters, and a cooling plan (fans, breathable bedding). —Reduce sensory load. Cool rooms, loose layers, dimmed evenings, predictable routines, and a “quick-exit” cue during overwhelm for the autistic/ADHD partner. —Normalize your experiences. Name the stage: “We’re in perimenopause; symptoms come in waves; our job is to co-regulate and adapt.” —Adjust the intimacy script. Prioritize comfort and connection over performance; schedule “low-pressure” touch; use lubricants and pain-reducing strategies; revisit what “good sex” means. Five quick shifts for individuals (from overwhelm to connection) ✔️ Flag it fast. “I’m heat-spiking and foggy; two minutes to cool, then I’m with you.” ✔️ Name the state, not the story. “One sentence: I’m flooded and want to reconnect, not fight.” ✔️ Micro-cool + reset. Cold water on wrists/neck, 90 seconds of breathing, lights down, then turn to your partner. ✔️ Timebox and return. If you need a focus block, set 20–40 minutes and announce your return out loud at the exact minute. ✔️ Make one bid. “Three-minute check-in now?” Five quick shifts for couples (protect the “we”) ✔️ On-/off-ramp script. “I feel a wave; two minutes to land, then I’m back.” “I’m back—can we reconnect now or in five?” ✔️ Temperature + sleep pact. Agree on cooling tools and flexible sleep arrangements during bad weeks. ✔️ Witness window. 2–5 minutes: share one update; partner asks two curious questions—then stop. ✔️ Pain-aware intimacy. Use warm-ups, generous lube, positions that reduce friction, and a permission slip to pause. ✔️ Debrief 3×3 weekly. Three things that helped, three that hurt, three tweaks—pick one to try. Bottom line. Menopause isn’t the villain, but unmanaged symptoms and missed meaning can crush connection. Neurodiverse couples can absolutely adapt with the right medical care, sensory supports, and communication tools. Little by little works. [Click here to schedule a session today] Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these statements may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. 🔦 Spotlight on Shea Davis Specialties Neurodiverse Couples Cassandra Syndrome Support Communication Addiction, Trauma, Betrayal Recovery Blended Families Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse) Emotionally Focused Therapy Internal Family Systems Life Experience Lived 24 Years in a Neurodiverse Marriage. I know the highs and heartbreaks of a relationship where love is real—but miscommunication is constant. That lived experience grounds the way I support couples navigating similar dynamics. Parented a Brilliant, Struggling Neurodivergent Son. As a mom and advocate, I learned to interpret, adapt, and create safety for a child the world didn’t always understand. That shaped my deep respect for nervous system differences and co-regulation. Rebuilt After Addiction, Trauma & Betrayal. I’ve walked through collapse and come out the other side—with hard-earned insight into recovery, boundaries, and how to rebuild relationships rooted in mutual safety. Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT # 154799, Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Get Booked with Shea! Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners References ADDitude. (2025, September 18). Hormonal fluctuations may worsen ADHD symptoms. https://www.additudemag.com/hormonal-fluctuations-adhd-symptoms-menopause/Additude Brady, M. J., et al. (2024). “A perfect storm”: Autistic experiences of menopause and the need for support. Autism in Adulthood, 6 (3), 248–260. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11135000/ PMC Chapman, L., et al. (2025). 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Monotropism IS MONOTROPISM A THEORY? Yes. Coined by autistic scholars Dinah Murray and Wenn Lawson, Monotropism Theory challenges traditional views of autism by reframing autistic behaviors as adaptive responses and assets rather than deficits. Unlike traditional views that pathologize autism as a disorder, monotropism theory suggests that autistic individuals possess a focused attention system, giving them the ability to concentrate intensely on a limited number of interests, thoughts, or activities at any given time. This focus style can significantly shape how individuals perceive and interact with the world around them, affecting their personal and interpersonal dynamics, especially in a neurodiverse couple. Watch or listen instead of reading — this video covers the same topic in a more personal, conversational way. Educational use only — not therapy or advice. Therapy for CA residents · Coaching worldwide. If in crisis, call 988 (U.S.) KEY FEATURES OF MONOTROPISM THEORY Recognition of Strengths: Monotropism highlights the strengths associated with intense focus and specialized knowledge in autistic individuals. Rather than viewing their focused interests as restrictive or problematic, monotropism acknowledges these as valuable assets that can be harnessed and cultivated. Tailored Support: Therapeutic interventions and educational approaches can be tailored to accommodate and leverage an individual's monotropic attention style. By incorporating their interests and strengths into learning and developmental activities, support can be more effective and engaging. Respect for Individuality: Monotropism underscores the importance of respecting the individuality and autonomy of autistic individuals. By recognizing and valuing their unique patterns of attention and sensory experiences, society can create more inclusive environments that honor diversity. THE ADVANTAGES OF MONOTROPISM Depth of Knowledge: Individuals who exhibit monotropic attention often develop an impressive depth of knowledge and expertise in their areas of interest. This can bring a unique perspective and richness to relationships and conversations. Passion and Dedication: The intensity of focus often translates into a high level of commitment and passion, whether in personal projects or other aspects of life, including aspects of the relationship that align with their interests. Consistency and Reliability: Monotropic attention can also mean that once committed, individuals can be remarkably consistent and reliable in their areas of focus, providing a stable foundation in parts of the relationship. CHALLENGES OF MONOTROPISM IN RELATIONSHIPS While there are benefits, monotropism can also present challenges in relationships: Limited Flexibility: The intense focus on specific interests can sometimes lead to difficulties in shifting attention towards other necessary aspects of life, including relationship needs. Communication Gap: Partners may find it challenging to engage with each other if their interests do not overlap, potentially leading to feelings of isolation or misunderstanding. Emotional Connectivity: The focus on particular interests might result in missed emotional cues from the partner, which can hinder the emotional connectivity and responsiveness that are vital in a relationship. Our therapy sessions are designed to: Enhance Appreciation: Recognize and value the advantages of monotropism, using them as strengths that can enrich the relationship. Adapt Communication Strategies: Develop tailored communication methods that consider the unique attentional focus, improving interaction and mutual understanding. Foster Emotional Intimacy: Create strategies to help both partners express their needs and feelings effectively, enhancing emotional connections despite differing focus styles. IMPLICATIONS FOR INDIVIDUAL THERAPY When working with one of our clinicians on a one on one basis, we can focus on: Embracing Interests : Instead of attempting to redirect or suppress an autistic individual's interests, therapists can incorporate these passions into therapeutic activities. By leveraging the individual's intrinsic motivations, therapy becomes more engaging and meaningful, fostering a deeper connection and collaboration between the client and therapist. Building on Strengths : Monotropism theory encourages therapists to identify and capitalize on the strengths associated with intense focus and specialized knowledge. Therapeutic interventions can be structured to leverage these strengths, empowering the individual to develop skills, achieve goals, and navigate challenges more effectively. Creating Supportive Environments : Recognizing the impact of sensory sensitivities, therapists strive to create environments that accommodate the individual's unique sensory needs. By minimizing sensory overload and providing sensory-friendly spaces, therapy sessions become more conducive to engagement and participation. In essence, monotropism theory highlights the importance of embracing neurodiversity and recognizing the inherent strengths and capabilities of autistic individuals. By aligning therapeutic practices with the principles of monotropism, therapists can foster a supportive and empowering environment that honors the individuality and potential of each client. Does Monotropism theory affect me? Curious about how your focus and interests shape your experience of the world? Take our Monotropism Questionnaire to explore how deeply focused attention patterns may align with autistic traits and strengths. The button below will take you to our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment . There, you'll be able to take our Free Online Monotropism Questionnaire and gain further insight. Monotropism Questionnaire BEGIN YOUR JOURNEY WITH US Understanding the dual impact of monotropism—its advantages and challenges—can profoundly transform neurodiverse relationships. At Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center, we are dedicated to guiding couples through understanding and adapting to these dynamics, fostering a supportive and empathetic relationship. If you’re ready to deepen your understanding and connection, we invite you to book an appointment with us today. Meet with our Client Care Coordinator Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

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Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Tamala Takahashi Not accepting new clients See our other clinicians or Fill our our contact form to get matched About Tamala: Hi there! I was late-diagnosed ADHD (inattentive) at age 49. Two of my three adult children were also diagnosed with ADHD in their late teens/early 20’s. My oldest child is undiagnosed, however they are likely autistic/ADHD as well. My husband of 27 years is late-diagnosed with AuDHD (at age 48). After a fulfilling first career in nonprofit consulting, I decided to focus on helping couples heal and grow in their relationships. Today, I specialize in guiding couples to reconnect, improve communication, and build healthier, more fulfilling partnerships. I am sharing this with you because I believe it will help me understand and support you. I look forward to hearing from you. Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships Neurodiverse couples work is about building communication and coping skills that work best in this particular relationship while maintaining one’s autonomy and individual self. In neurodiverse relationships, clients may have difficulty understanding each other, may be unsure what is OK and not OK to do or say, may feel lonely or annoyed, and may feel like fights and conversations continue to go around and around without resolution. My goal with couples is to meet both individuals where they are at and to assist each individual identify their needs and wants, articulate them, and respond when their partner does the same. The couple decides where they want to go with the relationship and works best for them. And in this process, I hold space, grace, and validation for each individual’s experience in how they process the world as well as the emotional lessons they have learned from their past. You Are NOT Alone The neurodiverse experience can feel lonely. Whether you are neurodiverse or have a neurodiverse partner/family member, it can feel like you are expected to behave a certain way and say certain things, or that no matter how hard you try, you can’t do it right. Maybe you feel like there are things that just don’t make sense but nobody else can see it. That struggle can feel so lonely. My intention in therapy is to provide a space where you are no longer alone. Whether in couples or individual therapy, I am there to support you and hold space for your lived experiences. You Can Do This You have made it to this moment. Congratulations! But I’m guessing those coping skills you developed aren’t working as well anymore and you’re looking for something to help navigate life and relationships. The good news is that you can learn new skills that are more appropriate to your life now. You did it before, and you can do it again. I believe all of us have the capacity to heal and improve our inner lives. That said, it can sometimes be difficult to do this work alone, let alone know what to do at all. That’s where therapy can be a bridge to confidence and a calmer inner world . When humans work together interdependently, we can go further and do better than we can do alone. My position as a therapist is to support my clients in this journey to inner strength and groundedness . My Therapeutic Philosophy While it seems like today we have more understanding of (neuro)diversity, more grace and compassion for each other, and more freedom to move about the cabin without masking, we also live in the modern world where we witness folks’ lives on full display to be judged on social media, where we are told we can do anything yet can receive harsh criticism for not being perfect, and where there is a lingering feeling of uncertainty of the future. This mixed messaging can be destabilizing. In addition, our sense of self and perceptions of others are derived from a combination of our personal experiences (including trauma and triumphs), what we learned from our caretakers, the lessons from other authority figures, society’s messages, and our neurobiology. This mixture is unique to each individual. How we process information therefore has an impact on how we perceive and interact with ourselves and others. I believe a therapist’s role is to provide stability while the client(s) works through uncertainty, reality checks the lessons they learned in life, tries something new, and finds a healthy path to what it looks like for them to be grounded. The specifics will look different for each client(s), but all sessions are built around the principles of acceptance, patience, and kindness. I work collaboratively with the client(s) to identify areas of focus and what works best for them from their perspective. In our 50-min. sessions, therapy goals are usually a combination of gaining clarity, self-awareness, self-compassion, and coping skills. When working with couples or families, communication skills are a significant part of the work as well . Areas of focus Adult diagnosed/suspected ADHD/Autism/AuDHD ADHD/AuDHD with anxiety and depression Women/Non-binary with ADHD/AuDHD cPTSD and Trauma Adolescent diagnosed/suspected ADHD/Autism/AuDHD Parents of adolescent/adult neurodiverse children Childhood emotional neglect/emotional abuse Adult neurodiverse relationships with parents and other family members Empty nest/menopause transitions Multi-cultural relationships/families Intersection of neurodiversity and LGBTQ+ Young adult launching (college, early career, living away from parents, adult relationships) Self Esteem and Assertiveness Social media/video game addiction Religious/cult abuse recovery Modalities Client-centered Therapy Trauma Informed Therapy (CTP certified) Solution Focused Therapy Strengths-Based Approach Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) Somatic Therapy for Trauma Tarot Therapy Positive Psychology Relationship Anarchy approach: anti-hierarchical practices (everyone in the relationship is equal) anti-normativity (every relationship’s success criteria is unique to them) interdependency (partners can share feelings and needs openly and safely) individual autonomy (each partner is a complete human on their own) License & Certifications Registered Associate Marriage Family Therapist, AMFT Registered Professional Clinical Counselor Certified Trauma Professional (CTP) Education Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology, Antioch University of Los Angeles Employment Information Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc . Specialty Areas: Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, Sex/Physical Intimacy, Teens, ADHD, Emotional Intimacy, Communication, Not Accepting New Clients Tamala Takahashi Take an Autism Test

ADHD Women THE OVERLOOKED SYMPTOMS OF ADHD IN WOMEN Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) affects people of all genders and ages, but the symptoms in adult women often go unrecognized or misdiagnosed. This is due to a lack of understanding about how ADHD manifests in women and the assumption that it only affects boys and men. The symptoms of ADHD in women can include forgetfulness, distractibility, disorganization, impulsivity, and emotional dysregulation. Women with ADHD are often labeled as “scatter-brained” or “flaky,” but these symptoms can have a significant impact on their daily lives and relationships. UNDERSTANDING ADHD SYMPTOMS IN WOMEN AND CELEBRATING THEIR STRENGTHS It is important to note that ADHD is not just a disorder of deficits and challenges, but also of strengths and positives. Many women with ADHD possess unique talents and abilities, such as creativity, resilience, and adaptability. They are often highly intuitive, compassionate, and empathetic. Women with ADHD are also known for their ability to hyper-focus on tasks that they find interesting or enjoyable, leading to great success in areas they are passionate about. Our therapists recognize and celebrate these strengths while working with clients to manage their symptoms and build on their talents. Through therapy, women with ADHD can learn to channel their strengths and manage their challenges to achieve success and fulfillment in all areas of their lives. MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT WOMEN WITH ADHD There are many misconceptions about ADHD that prevent women from receiving the support they need. For example, ADHD is often stereotyped as a disorder that only affects young boys and is associated with hyperactivity. In r e ality, many women with ADHD may not have been diagnosed until adulthood, as their symptoms can be less visible than those of men and may manifest in different ways. Moreover, ADHD is not just about hyperactivity, but also involves difficulties with attention, impulsivity, and executive functioning. Unfortunately, these misconceptions can lead to feelings of shame, guilt, and isolation among women with ADHD. At our therapy site, we strive to educate our clients and the broader community about the realities of ADHD in women, and work to dispel harmful myths and stereotypes. We believe that everyone deserves access to accurate information and compassionate support. Curious if your experiences align with ADHD traits in women? Autism Screener for Adult Women THERAPEUTIC APPROACHES FOR WOMEN WITH ADHD We offer a range of therapeutic approaches for women with ADHD, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), mindfulness-based approaches, and coaching. CBT is particularly effective for ADHD, as it helps clients to identify and change negative thought patterns and behaviors that contribute to ADHD symptoms. We also provide practical tools and resources to help clients manage their symptoms on a day-to-day basis. A HOLISTIC APPROACH TO ADHD THERAPY Our therapists take a holistic approach to therapy for women with ADHD. We recognize that ADHD can impact many aspects of a woman's life, from hormone fluctuations to work and relationships. We work with clients to identify their unique challenges and develop strategies for managing symptoms in all areas of their lives. We also explore the impact of ADHD on their relationships, and help them to build stronger, healthier connections with loved ones. 10 STEPS FOR THERAPEUTIC SUPPORT Welcome to our guide on supporting women with ADHD! If you're living with ADHD or supporting someone who is, these tips are designed to help you navigate everyday life with more ease and confidence. Here are 10 practical steps to make things a bit smoother. 1. Learn About ADHD Understanding ADHD is the first step. Learn how it affects women, especially since it can look different compared to men. Find out about the common signs, like distractibility, impulsivity, and emotional swings. Don't hesitate to ask for resources to understand more. 2. Get a Full Picture It's not just about ADHD symptoms. Take the time to explore your personal history, family background, and other health factors. This can help you and your therapist understand the complete picture and tailor the best support for you. 3. Focus on Your Strengths You have amazing skills and talents! Women with ADHD often have creativity, empathy, and adaptability. Let's build on those strengths to boost your confidence and resilience. 4. Create a Custom Plan One-size-fits-all doesn't work here. Your treatment plan should be unique, just like you. It might include behavioral strategies, therapy, or medication, depending on your needs and preferences. Your goals are the focus. 5. Learn Practical Skills Let's get practical. Learn ways to manage your time, get organized, and handle your emotions. These skills can make a big difference in reducing stress and chaos. 6. Make Your Space Work for You Your environment matters. Make changes to your surroundings that reduce distractions and help you stay on track. This could mean decluttering, setting up routines, or finding tools that keep you focused. 7. Try Mindfulness Mindfulness techniques can help with focus and keeping calm. Deep breathing, meditation, and grounding exercises are great ways to manage stress and impulsivity. 8. Work with Your Healthcare Team If you're taking medication, make sure it's working for you without too many side effects. Stay in touch with your doctor and therapist to keep everything in check. 9. Build Your Support Team Having a solid support system is crucial. Connect with family, friends, or support groups who understand and encourage you. Don't be afraid to speak up about what you need at work or home. 10. Stay Flexible and Adaptable ADHD can change over time. Keep an eye on what’s working and what’s not, and don't be afraid to switch things up. Regular check-ins with your therapist can help you stay on track and celebrate your progress. We hope these steps help you feel more in control and supported. Remember, you're not alone, and there's a whole community here to help you thrive. ADHD TREATMENT FOR GIRLS VS. WOMEN Treatment for ADHD women differs from that for girls, as women have unique challenges related to hormonal changes, relationships, and career demands. Our therapists are trained to work with adult women specifically, and tailor treatment to their individual needs and circumstances. NEED PRACTICAL SKILLS? Our clients inevitably ask about learning practical skills. More specifically, it is important to find ways to navigate everyday tasks and challenges that can sometimes feel overwhelming with ADHD. Here are some detailed tips to help you master these skills and make your day-to-day life easier: Time Management ADHD can make it tricky to keep track of time. Try using visual timers or alarms to stay on schedule. Break tasks into smaller chunks and set specific deadlines. A calendar app or planner can also help you keep an eye on upcoming events, appointments, and deadlines. Organizational Tools A cluttered space can lead to a cluttered mind. Keep things simple by using clear containers and labeling them. Create designated spots for keys, bags, and other essentials. If you need extra help, consider a professional organizer or apps that guide you through organization steps. Task Lists and Prioritization To-do lists are your friend. Write down tasks and cross them off as you complete them. You can use a bullet journal or a digital app for this. Prioritize tasks by importance and urgency. This way, you can focus on what really matters without feeling overwhelmed Minimize Distractions Distractions can be a major hurdle. Try working in a quiet space or using noise-canceling headphones. Keep your phone and other electronics on "do not disturb" while working on important tasks. Browser extensions that block distracting websites can also be useful. Develop Routines Consistent routines can be a game-changer. Establish daily habits for mornings, evenings, and even meals. When routines are in place, your brain doesn't have to work as hard to remember what comes next. This can make your day flow more smoothly. Practice Emotional Regulation ADHD often comes with intense emotions. Learn techniques to manage these moments, like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or grounding exercises. Keep a journal to track your feelings and identify triggers. This can help you respond to emotions instead of reacting impulsively. Build in Breaks Breaks are essential to avoid burnout. Use the Pomodoro Technique or a similar approach to work in short bursts with breaks in between. During breaks, do something enjoyable, like stretching, walking, or listening to music. This helps you stay refreshed and focused. Seek Support and Accountability You're not in this alone. Share your plans with a friend or family member who can help keep you on track. Join support groups or online communities for people with ADHD to exchange tips and encouragement. Learning practical skills takes time and practice. Start with small steps, and don't be too hard on yourself if things don't go perfectly. The key is finding what works for you and sticking with it. With these skills, you'll be better equipped to manage ADHD and enjoy a more balanced and organized life. CURIOUS IF YOU ARE ADHD? Curious if your experiences align with ADHD traits in women? Take our ADHD Screening for Women to gain insights, recognize patterns, and explore supportive resources tailored to your unique journey. The button below will take you to our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment . There, you'll be able to take our Free Online Adult ADHD Screener and gain further insight. Adult ADHD Screener for Women FINAL WORDS Our therapists are dedicated to providing compassionate and effective therapy for women with ADHD. We understand the challenges that come with a diagnosis of ADHD, and work with clients to develop strategies and tools to manage symptoms and improve their overall quality of life. If you think you may have ADHD or have been diagnosed and are seeking support, please contact us to learn more about our services Meet with our Client Care Coordinator Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Learn why an ASD diagnosis may or may not be helpful and how an adult assessment for Austism Spectrum Disorder is conducted. SELF DISCOVERY Self-Tests to Help Neurodiverse Partners Understand Themselves and Each Other Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Co-Occurring Neurodiverse Screeners HSP , Dyslexia, Rejection Sensitivity, OCD General Screeners Perfectionism , Anger Neurodiverse Relationship Check-Up Trait Wheel Exercises Autism ADHD AuDHD Autism Screeners: General Autism Screeners (Broad Traits) 1. Ritvo Autism & Asperger Diagnostic Scale (RAADS-14) Emphasis on internal experiences 14 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Autism Spectrum Quotient Test (AQ) Most common screener for Autism 50 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Additional test for Women: 3. Modified Girls Questionnaire for Autism Spectrum Condition (GQ-ASC) Designed for adult women, it identifies behaviors and abilities in women associated with autism 21 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Learn more about these tests here. Autism Screeners: Associated Feature Measures 1. Alexithymia (2 screeners) 1a. Online Alexithymia Questionnaire (OAQ-G2) Measures 7 factors related to emotions (see below) 37 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 1b. Toronto Alexithymia Scale (TAS-20) Identifies difficulties identifying and describing emotions, and distinguishing body sensations from emotions 20 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Burnout (3 screeners) 2a. Autistic Burnout Trait Inventory (ABTI-24) * Measures long-term burnout risk based on masking, stress, health strain, and recovery gaps over the past year. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2b. Autistic Burnout State Inventory (ABSI-24) * Assesses autistic burnout in terms of your energy, sensory overload, masking fatigue, and stamina over the past two weeks. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2c. Autistic Burnout Construct (ABO) Measures signs of Autistic Burnout—a state of intense physical, emotional, and cognitive exhaustion that can result from prolonged masking, unmet support needs, or sensory overwhelm. 8 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Autism Screeners: Domain-Specific Autism Screeners 1. Camouflaging Autistic Traits Questionnaire (CAT-Q) Detects masking, social compensation, and assimilation 25 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Adult Repetitive Behaviors Questionnaire-2 (RBQ-2A) Measures repetitive and restricted behaviors in adults 20 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 3. Extreme Demand Avoidance Questionnaire for Adults (EDA-QA) Assesses behaviors often associated with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) —or as some prefer, Persistent Drive for Autonomy —a profile seen in some autistic individuals. Explores regulation, flexible thinking, sensory coherence, and social perspective-taking. 26 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 4. The Monotropism Questionnaire Assesses for features indicating a monotropic cognitive style, the tendency to focus deeply on a limited number of interests at one time. 47 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. ADHD Screeners: General ADHD Screeners (Broad Traits) Recommendation: Take these 4 tests and then book a free consult . 1. Adult ADHD Self-Report Scale (ASRSv1.1) Commonly used self-assessment tool for adult ADHD 18 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Structured Adult ADHD Self-Test (SAAST) Covers concentration, impulsiveness, disorganization, and hyperactivity 22 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. ADHD Screeners Domain-Specific ADHD Screeners 1. Barratt Impulsiveness Scale (BIS-11) Focus on impulsivity traits 30 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Copeland Symptom List for Adult ADD Assesses 8 ADHD-related domains 63 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Learn more about these tests here. ADHD Screeners Associated Feature Measures 1. ADHD Sexual Intimacy Measure (ADHD-SIM-24) * Measures strengths and challenges across four subscales: Attention & Presence, Impulse Control & Risk, Boundaries & Consent, and Relationship Communication & Satisfaction.. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Co-Occurring Neurodiverse Screeners 1. Highly Sensitive Person Inventory (HSPI-24) * Designed for individuals seeking to better understand their level of sensitivity and emotional/sensory responsiveness. It measures four key traits commonly associated with high sensitivity: Depth of Processing, Overstimulation, Emotional Reactivity, and Sensitivity to Subtleties. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. The Dyslexia Questionnaire for Adults Assesses difficulties with reading, writing, and spelling that indicate dyslexia in adults 13 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 3. Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria Self-Assessment (RSD-24) * This self-assessment is designed for adults who want to better understand how rejection sensitivity may be affecting their emotions, relationships, and daily life. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 4. Obsessive Compulsive Inventory – Revised (OCI-R) Identifies the presence of obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors across six key areas—washing, checking, neutralizing, obsessing, ordering, and hoarding—offering insight into how they may be impacting daily life. 18 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. General Screeners 1. Perfectionism (2 screeners) 1a. Clinical Perfectionism Questionnaire (CPQ) Assesses patterns of goal-setting and self-evaluation to determine clinical perfectionism. 14 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 1b. Frost Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale (FMPS) Measures perfectionism across several dimensions, including concern over mistakes and organization. 35 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Clinical Anger Scale (CAS) Assesses the severity of anger as a symptom or condition. It can identify individuals who may benefit from anger management strategies or therapeutic interventions. 21 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Trait Wheel Exercises Three (3) available exercises. Each wheel turns complex traits into a simple visual map of your strengths and struggles. Want a quick overview of these wheels and their purpose? Click here. 1. Autism Trait Wheel Maps autistic traits across sensory processing, communication, focus, and emotional patterns using a dual-lens view of challenges and strengths. Visual Exercise — 12 Trait Wedges Want to learn more about this wheel? Click here. 2. ADHD Trait Wheel Highlights attention patterns, executive functioning, motivation, and hyperfocus while showing both difficulties and corresponding strengths. Visual Exercise — 10 Trait Wedges Want to learn more about this wheel? Click here. 3. AuDHD Trait Wheel Combines autistic and ADHD traits into one map, capturing overlap, contradictions, and the balance of overwhelm and creativity. Visual Exercise — 14 Trait Wedges Want to learn more about this wheel? Click here. Neurodiverse Relationship Check-Up Designed to decode your relationship dynamic. This 12-question screener helps identify unique strengths and pinpoint "translation gaps" affecting communication and connection. Click here. 1. Neurodiverse Relationship Check-Up Not sure what’s right for you? We offer a free consultation to help you figure it out—no pressure, just support. Check out the screeners and learn more at Adult Autism Assessments → Go to the Adult Autism Assesment Center For more self-discovery, join us at the Adult Autism Assessments: Services Overview (including pricing) Screening Tests (at no cost) ASD Assessment ADHD Assessment Dual Assessment (ADHD & ASD) Sensory Assessment Alexithymia Assessment Demand Avoidance Assessment *Disclaimer This questionnaire is designed to offer helpful insights and support self-reflection. It can be a useful starting point to increase understanding and many individuals find it valuable for identifying patterns and starting meaningful conversations—whether with a partner, therapist, or coach. That said, this tool is still in development and has not been validated through formal scientific research. While the questions are based on commonly reported experiences, the questionnaire’s reliability and accuracy have not been formally established. It is not intended to diagnose any condition or replace professional evaluation. For personalized guidance, we encourage you to consult with a neurodivergent-affirming clinician. ©2025 Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center, part of the New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this questionnaire may be reproduced, redistributed, or otherwise used without explicit written permission from the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center.

Special therapy and support for ADHD women. No more feeling misunderstood. We'd love to help! ADHD WOMEN < Back THE OVERLOOKED SYMPTOMS OF AHDH IN WOMEN Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) affects people of all genders and ages, but the symptoms in adult women often go unrecognized or misdiagnosed. This is due to a lack of understanding about how ADHD manifests in women and the assumption that it only affects boys and men. The symptoms of ADHD in women can include forgetfulness, distractibility, disorganization, impulsivity, and emotional dysregulation. Women with ADHD are often labeled as “scatter-brained” or “flaky,” but these symptoms can have a significant impact on their daily lives and relationships. UNDERSTANDING ADHD SYMPTOMS IN WOMEN AND CELEBRATING THEIR STRENGTHS It is important to note that ADHD is not just… Show More

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Neurotypical Partner Support Lisa's primary focus is supporting Neurotypical/Allistic Partners through her Couples Retreats/Intensives & support groups. For more information on Lisa's partner support, click here . Couples Retreats & Intensives Lisa is passionate about helping couples in crisis find their way back to each other through innovative intensive sessions. Her approach combines evidence-based therapeutic modalities with intuitive guidance, providing a powerful alternative to therapy (a process that can take months to years). Her intensives are designed to be efficient and highly effective, providing tangible improvements in a rapid amount of time. Whether your relationship is on the brink of divorce, navigating trauma, or just stuck in unhelpful cycles, intensives with Lisa can be a great option for you. Personal Experience Lisa is personally familiar with divergence in how each partner experiences the world and communicates, being married for 18 years to someone from a different culture and race than her own. She is a mom of two boys - 13 and 18. As the daughter of a diplomat, a multicultural experience was integral to Lisa's early life and has continued since, as reflected in her multiethnic/interracial marriage. While a neurodiverse relationship means that one or both partners are on the autism spectrum, deeply understanding how to bridge relationship barriers comes from her personal relationship experience. Furthermore, having the experience of personally overcoming Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Lisa is equipped with wisdom and education to guide healing and transformation. Neurodiverse Coaching Approach Lisa specializes in neurodiverse couple coaching. Her expertise is grounded in neurodivergent communication and attachment science, which is informed by the scientific study of human development and bonding, integrated with insights from emotional processing neuroscience. Through her compassionate and insightful guidance, Lisa supports neurodiverse couples on their journey from feelings of exhaustion and hopelessness toward achieving their desired outcomes around communication and connection. Her unique approach is characterized by a profound empathy and understanding that individuals can become entangled in self-deception, outdated coping mechanisms, beliefs, and habits that, while once protective, may no longer serve their current needs. Lisa's coaching helps couples navigate these challenges, fostering an environment of ease and understanding that paves the way for growth and reconnection. Formal Training Lisa is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and a seasoned couples coaching professional. Her expertise results from being trained by Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes as a certified life coach, her graduate-level education in Marriage and Family Therapy (Delta Kappa Pi), and her undergrad in Transpersonal Psychology. Cloe Madanes is one of the originators of the strategic therapy approach and founded the Family Therapy Institute of Washington, D.C., and the Family Therapy Center of Maryland. Her pioneering work laid the foundation of many of the most effective approaches and techniques used in couples therapy. Publications: Lisa is a published author: Inner Sanctum: Your Most Empowering Resource This book is a transformative journey from inner turmoil to authentic self-realization. This book isn't just about healing; it's a guide to realigning with your core truth through introspection and transcendence. Anzaldua delves deep into how our perceptions, shaped by unresolved experiences and conditioning, often lead to emotional suffering and repetitive life patterns. Through her powerful narrative, she illustrates that liberation lies not in changing who we are but in becoming more attuned to our true selves. "Inner Sanctum" offers a unique blend of psychological insights and spiritual wisdom, demonstrating how breaking free from our ingrained narratives can lead to profound emotional relief and a richer life experience. Anzaldua's approach is about appreciating ourselves, including our habits and fears, and understanding their origins as coping mechanisms that once served us but may no longer be beneficial. The book outlines practical methods and transformative practices, supported by scientific evidence and spiritual teachings, to help readers embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment. With its focus on unbecoming what we are not and revealing the layers of our authentic selves, "Inner Sanctum" is more than a self-help book; it's an invitation to a life of expanded awareness, where personal growth and spiritual expansion converge. It's a guide to appreciating the brilliance of our true nature, transcending limitations, and aligning with our deepest truths for a fulfilled and meaningful existence. Lisa has several articles on Medium.com . Specialties in addition to Neurodiversity: Couples Retreats/Intensives Cassandra Support - Group and Individual Ongoing Traumatic Relationship Stress Trauma Bond Toxic Shame Narcissist / Empath Dynamic (Personal Healing) ASD / Allistic Couples Counseling and Coaching General Couples Coaching Family Conflict Life Transitions Transformational Coaching Integrative Spiritual Therapy Internal Family Systems Emotionally Focused Therapy (couples and individual). License: Registered Associate, AMFT#132097 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Couples Retreats/Intensives, Cassandra Syndrome Support, Ongoing Relationship Trauma, Trauma Bonds, ASD/Allistic Couples, General Couples Coaching, Family Conflict, Life Transitions, Internal Family Systems, Transformational Coaching, Integrative Spiritual Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, IFS, EFT, Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients Lisa Marie Anzaldua Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Alyssa Bayus Neurodiverse Couples Specialist | Associate Marriage and Family Therapist My Story Childhood: Reading the Room Early My parents divorced when I was born, so I grew up moving between homes, rhythms, and emotional climates. From an early age I learned to listen closely—to notice the small cues, the shifts in tone, the unspoken needs. That constant translating between worlds became its own kind of training, teaching me how to understand and attune to the nervous systems around me. It’s from that place of lived experience that this work first took root. Marriage: Lessons from the Inside I spent more than twenty years in a marriage that became a deep teacher for me—showing me so much about attachment, conflict, boundaries , and the tender truth that real change only lasts when both people are willing to look inward and try new patterns together. T hose years softened and steadied me. They made me practical, grounded, and clear about what truly helps people grow and stay connected. And when that marriage ended, the divorce became its own initiation. I had to start again—slowly, honestly, and with a courage I didn’t know I had. That experience didn’t harden me; it expanded me. It taught me that rebuilding is possible, that beginning again can be an act of wisdom, and that life after loss can be deeply alive and meaningful. Motherhood: Immersed in Neurodiversity I’m the parent of three wonderful kids who each learn and relate differently. ADHD is the loudest drumbeat in our home— time blindness, task initiation, emotional intensity, sleep shifts, school demands , and the constant need to right-size expectations. We’ve chased accurate diagnoses, weighed medication trade-offs, and rebuilt routines as they grew. Autism is also part of our extended family, so I understand the sensory and communication layers that shape daily life. I don’t treat neurodiversity as theory; I live it. How I Help Neurodiverse Couples I work with couples where one or both partners are autistic or ADHD. The goal is simple: reduce friction, increase connection, and build systems that fit your actual brains. What we map together Communication styles and processing speeds (literal vs. inferential, fast vs. deliberate). Sensory profiles (sound, light, touch, pacing) and how they affect conflict and intimacy. Executive-function load: who’s cueing, who’s tracking, and what regularly gets dropped. Stress cycles: masking, overwhelm, shutdown, and how each partner signals “I’m done.” What we build Effective rituals for connection, conflict repair, and de-escalation that either partner can start. Division-of-labor plans tied to energy and executive function, not wishful thinking. Conversation “lane markers”: slow starts, structured turns, timeouts that don’t feel like rejection. Sensory-informed intimacy plans (pressure/tempo/context/aftercare) that make closeness easier to reach. Burnout buffers : predictable recovery windows, transition cues, and re-entry scripts. A shared language for differences so misunderstandings stop turning into character judgments. How we work in session Short, plain language; concrete skills; measurable follow-through. One page of “what we’re trying” each week—small, repeatable, testable. Accountability and empathy in the same room. Methods I draw from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) The Gottman Method Neurodiversity-informed psychoeducation and skills training Habit and routine design based on executive-function science Results you can expect Fewer blowups, faster resets. Less guessing, more predictable connection. Systems that survive real weeks, not fantasy ones. Parenting Support for ADHD and Autism Parenting neurodivergent kids is a moving target. I help you trade shame and “shoulds” for fit and function. Core tools we focus on: Executive-function scaffolds: externalize plans (visual schedules, timers, “next two steps” lists), create “ready states,” and use time anchors to cut decision fatigue. Motivation and momentum: short horizons, immediate feedback, two-minute starts, novelty cycles without turning life into a prize hunt. Regulation and meltdowns: map heat zones, co-regulate first, solve later; keep debriefs brief and blame-free. Sensory and environment: identify triggers, build predictable retreats, and translate “won’t” into “can’t yet under these conditions.” School/IEP/504 : write short, winnable requests; design a weekly homework rhythm that anticipates energy dips. Family load: rotate the “primary executive” role, write silent defaults (what happens if nobody cues), and use micro-handoffs. Outcome Calmer days, more follow-through, and systems you can keep when life gets busy. Money and Relationships Before becoming a therapist, I worked as a financial planner and advisor. The biggest problems weren’t math—they were meaning: safety, control, freedom, fairness, respect. Executive-function differences and processing mismatches add extra friction. I will help you lower it. What we do Build a shared language : turn “too much spending” into specific thresholds, categories, and timeframes. Separate values from methods so you stop arguing about tools and start aligning on what matters. Protect the relationship: clear roles, cool-off rules for high-stakes purchases, and scheduled repair talks. Result Money stops running the relationship. You get calm, clarity, and a plan that sticks. Sexual Addiction and Betrayal Although this bio centers neurodiversity, I also work with couples facing sexual acting out and betrayal using a structured pathway that prioritizes safety for the betrayed partner and accountability for the acting-out partner. If that’s your situation, ask about my dedicated track. Faith and Mindfulness I was raised in both Catholic and Protestant traditions and now consider myself spiritual. I value mindfulness and welcome couples from all faith backgrounds—and none. Your values lead the work. Personal Interests Golf keeps me present. Pickleball brings energy and fun. Horseback riding sharpens the nonverbal listening I use every day in therapy. I have fostered over 50 dogs and I love all animals. Education and Training M.A., Marriage and Family Therapy, National University, 2009 B.A., Sociology, Ithaca College, 1994 License & Employment Information Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT #158340 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers If You’re Ready If you want less friction and more connection—with systems that fit your brains and your life—I’m ready when you are. Specialty Areas: Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients, Neurodiverse Couples, Emotional Intimacy, Communication, Betrayal/Affair Recovery, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Emotion Focused Therapy Alyssa Bayus Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Specialties and Certifications Neurodiverse Couples General Couples Therapy Depression and Anxiety Christian Couples Counseling Affair Recovery Parenting Grief Life Experience J oyfully married for 20 years, with a relationship that's grown stronger through dedication and mutual support, and a proud father to my young adult daughter. Over 25 years of work in non-profit organizations including urban youth, churches, and schools Adjunct graduate school professor teaching courses on the integration of psychology and spirituality Earlier career in the hospitality and semiconductor industries Education in psychology, theology, and spirituality at the Master & Doctoral levels About Dan Daniel Chung has over twenty years of wide-ranging experience working with people in all stages of life. He is a creative, dedicated therapist who is passionate about helping individuals, couples, and families by coming alongside them, listening with empathy, helping to make sense of their concerns and needs, and providing vital tools to grow and thrive in life. Daniel focuses on providing a safe, nurturing, and judgment-free space that enables clients to heal and positively progress by fostering their agency to empower them to leverage their positive qualities toward lasting, satisfying, and harmonious relationships. He believes in holistic healing toward emotional, spiritual, and relational wellness that activates the mind, body, and spirit, and usher into deeper self-realization, purposeful living, better conflict management, and healthier coping skills over stress and grief. Neurodiverse Relationships Understanding the Neurodiverse Pain and Peace Cycles 💡 In neurodiverse relationships, the Pain Cycle can be especially challenging, as differences in communication styles, emotional expression, and sensory needs often amplify misunderstandings. Daniel helps couples recognize and interrupt these destructive cycles by: Identifying neurodiversity-related triggers that lead to feelings of blame, shame, or isolation. Bridging communication gaps by teaching partners to translate their emotional needs into language that both neurodivergent and neurotypical partners can understand. With his guidance, couples move toward the Peace Cycle, fostering trust, safety, and connection by: Developing shared tools for calm, respectful interactions that honor each partner’s unique needs. Building habits of empathetic listening to navigate differences without judgment or frustration. By teaching couples how to understand and manage their pain and peace cycles through a neurodiverse lens, Daniel equips them to deepen their relationship and embrace each other’s strengths. Enhancing Connection through Neurodiverse Collaboration 🤝 Daniel’s trauma-informed and client-centered approach creates a safe space for neurodiverse couples to explore their unique dynamics. He empowers couples to grow through: Open conversations about neurodiversity , helping partners express their needs and challenges in a non-critical environment. Practicing vulnerability , especially for neurodivergent partners who may find expressing emotions or needs more complex. By fostering collaboration, Daniel helps couples: Set realistic, shared goals that accommodate neurodiverse needs. Strengthen their relationship through teamwork, building a resilient partnership that honors each individual’s contributions. Through his compassionate guidance, neurodiverse couples gain the skills to navigate their differences and cultivate a relationship grounded in mutual respect and understanding. Navigating the Unique Challenges of Neurodiverse Relationships 🌟 For neurodiverse couples, challenges often arise from differences in how partners process and express emotions, manage sensory input, or approach social interactions. Daniel helps couples by: Promoting self-awareness : Encouraging neurodivergent partners to understand how their sensory sensitivities or executive functioning differences impact the relationship, while helping neurotypical partners appreciate these unique perspectives. Focusing on strengths : Highlighting the unique skills and insights each partner brings to the relationship. Providing practical strategies : Offering tailored tools to help neurodiverse couples navigate everyday challenges, such as managing overstimulation or scheduling meaningful quality time. Daniel believes that by embracing neurodiversity, couples can turn perceived obstacles into opportunities for growth and connection. Dan's Neuro-Informed Therapeutic Approach Daniel’s therapeutic approach is neuro-informed, trauma-sensitive, and client-centered , supporting clients in their healing journey while honoring the unique needs of neurodivergent individuals and their partners. He creates a working alliance rooted in empathy, acceptance, openness, and flexibility, ensuring that the therapeutic process is accessible and tailored to diverse neurodiverse experiences. Daniel’s work is informed by his deep understanding of how neurodiversity intersects with emotional and relational patterns. He provides tools and strategies that are practical and sensitive to sensory, communication, and executive functioning differences. Having worked with clients from diverse cultures, ethnicities, and neurodiverse profiles, Daniel relates to clients with authenticity, compassion, humility, and sensitivity. He strives to create a safe and empowering space where all clients feel seen, understood, and supported. My Therapeutic Modalities Daniel incorporates the following neuro-informed approaches into his work: Trauma-Informed Therapy : Acknowledging how trauma manifests differently in neurodivergent individuals and tailoring interventions accordingly. Restoration Therapy : Helping clients recognize and reshape destructive relational cycles, particularly those impacted by neurodiverse dynamics. Emotion-Focused Therapy : Supporting partners in expressing and interpreting emotions in ways that bridge neurodiverse communication styles. Brief Solution-Focused Therapy : Offering actionable, goal-oriented strategies that align with each client’s cognitive and sensory preferences. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) : Adapting CBT techniques to accommodate the thought processes and learning styles of neurodiverse individuals. Experiential Therapy : Using creative, hands-on techniques that honor sensory needs and promote meaningful emotional exploration. Adult Autism & ADHD Assessments Daniel specializes in providing neurodiversity-supportive assessments and therapeutic services designed to help individuals reach their full potential. His comprehensive approach includes administering questionnaires, engaging in discussions, making observations, and using tools such as the MIDAS-2 and SRS-2 for Autism, as well as the CAARS and Brown EF/A scales for ADHD. Daniel works collaboratively with clients to explore their unique traits and understand the value of a diagnosis in fostering success and fulfillment. Daniel also offers guidance, resources, and support to individuals and their families throughout the assessment process. By taking a holistic view, he identifies each person’s strengths and challenges from multiple perspectives. His goal is to serve as an ally, helping clients navigate the assessment journey and discover pathways to growth, progress, and lasting change. In his experience, Daniel’s clients have found the assessment process to be a transformative opportunity for self-discovery, leading to greater understanding and acceptance of themselves and fostering empathy in their relationships. Whether confirming or ruling out a diagnosis, Daniel emphasizes that neurodiversity is not a defect but a unique set of traits accompanied by gifts and areas for growth. With the right tools, clients can build essential skills to improve social, professional, and personal relationships. Clients Couples Individuals Families Adults Adolescents License Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapy #149769 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Emotion Focused Therapy, Neurodiverse Couples, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Christian, Betrayal/Affair Recovery, Emotional Intimacy, Assessment, Communication, Not Accepting New Clients Daniel Chung Take an Autism Test

Twice Exceptional Children UNDERSTANDING THE MISUNDERSTOOD: SUPPORTING TWICE EXCEPTIONAL CHILDREN At our neurodiverse therapy center, we know how deeply our couples care about their twice exceptional (2e) children. These kids possess both exceptional abilities and learning differences, often leading to misunderstandings and mislabeling within society. As it is our desire to support the whole family, we want to help the children too. Thus, some of our team members have specialized in caring for twice exceptional children. These therapists work hard to comprehend the unique challenges faced by 2e children and to provide effective support they need to empower them to thrive. On this page , we explore various aspects of twice exceptionality, shedding light on emotional intensity, executive functioning concerns, and the intersection of giftedness with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD/ADD), anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), depression, and specific learning disabilities. Additionally, we discuss the importance of advocating for appropriate educational placements and acceleration for these exceptional children. EMOTIONAL INTENSITY & EMOTIONAL REGULATION: UNLEASHING THE POWER OF EMOTIONS Twice exceptional children often experience emotional intensity, characterized by heightened sensitivity and depth of emotions. However, this emotional intensity can sometimes lead to challenges in emotional regulation. Our therapists provide a safe and supportive environment where 2e children can explore and express their emotions. Through evidence-based interventions, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and mindfulness techniques, we assist them in developing effective emotional regulation strategies. By nurturing their emotional well-being, we empower 2e children to harness the power of their emotions and thrive. EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING CONCERNS: UNLEASHING POTENTIAL THROUGH SKILL DEVELOPMENT Executive functioning refers to a set of cognitive skills that enable individuals to plan, organize, focus, regulate behavior, and manage time effectively. Many twice exceptional children face difficulties in this area, impacting their academic performance and daily functioning. Our therapists conduct comprehensive assessments to understand the specific executive functioning challenges faced by each child. With this knowledge, they design personalized interventions that address organization, time management, task initiation, and problem-solving skills. By cultivating these executive functioning abilities, we equip 2e children with the tools necessary to unlock their full potential. NAVIGATING DUAL EXCEPTIONALITIES GIFTED & AUTISM/ASPBERGER'S (ASD) The co-occurrence of giftedness and Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) presents unique challenges and opportunities. Our therapists specialize in understanding the intersection of these dual exceptionalities. They provide individualized support that acknowledges the strengths of gifted 2e children with ASD, such as their focused interests and attention to detail, while addressing the social and communication difficulties they may encounter. Through social skills training, sensory integration techniques, and personalized educational strategies, our therapists empower 2e children with ASD to navigate their world with confidence and resilience. GIFTED & ADHD/ADD The combination of giftedness and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD/ADD) brings forth unique strengths and challenges. Our therapists employ a multi-faceted approach to support 2e children in balancing their hyperfocus and challenges with attention regulation. Through tailored interventions, including behavioral strategies, self-monitoring techniques, and adaptive learning environments, we help these children channel their intense focus while managing impulsivity and improving organizational skills. By understanding their individual needs, we empower 2e children with ADHD/ADD to thrive academically and personally. GIFTED & ANXIETY/OCD The combination of giftedness and anxiety, including obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), presents unique challenges that require a holistic approach to intervention. Our therapists provide a supportive and compassionate environment where 2e children with anxiety and OCD can explore their thoughts and fears. Through evidence-based therapies, such as exposure and response prevention (ERP) and cognitive restructuring, we assist them in developing coping mechanisms to manage their anxiety and reduce OCD-related behaviors. Additionally, our therapists work collaboratively with families and educators to create a nurturing and accommodating environment that supports the emotional well-being of these children while fostering their academic and personal growth. GIFTED & DEPRESSION Gifted 2e children may be susceptible to experiencing depression due to a combination of their intense emotions, perfectionistic tendencies, and the challenges they face in navigating their exceptionalities. Our therapists offer a safe space for these children to express their emotions and explore the underlying causes of their depressive symptoms. Through a range of therapeutic techniques, including cognitive restructuring, supportive counseling, and creative expression, we empower them to develop resilience, self-compassion, and effective coping strategies. Our goal is to help these children build a strong foundation of emotional well-being and thrive in all aspects of their lives. GIFTED & LEARNING DISABILITIES (DYSLEXIA, DYSCALCULIA, DYSGRAPHIA) Twice exceptional children often face specific learning disabilities, such as dyslexia, dyscalculia, or dysgraphia, alongside their giftedness. Our therapists understand the unique learning profiles of these children and employ individualized approaches to support their academic growth. Through targeted interventions, such as multi-sensory learning techniques, assistive technologies, and specialized instructional strategies, we help 2e children overcome their learning challenges while fostering their exceptional abilities. By nurturing their strengths and providing the necessary accommodations, we enable them to reach their full potential academically and develop a positive self-identity as learners. ENSURING AN OPTIMAL EDUCATION: ADVOCATING FOR TWICE EXCEPTIONAL CHILDREN Advocating for appropriate educational placement and support is crucial for 2e children to thrive academically and socially. Our therapists work closely with families, educators, and school administrators to advocate for individualized education plans (IEPs), gifted programs, acceleration, and other necessary accommodations. By providing comprehensive assessments, educational consultation, and ongoing collaboration, we ensure that the educational environment is conducive to the unique needs and abilities of 2e children. Our goal is to create a supportive and nurturing educational experience that fosters their growth, maximizes their potential, and celebrates their neurodiversity. Further Help Looking for more information? At our sister site, Parenting Autism Therapy Center , we are dedicated to helping parents of neurodiverse children gain the proper insight, and knowledge, to help their children and family thrive. Click the link below to be directed to that site. Visit our Parenting Site FINAL WORDS At our neurodiverse therapy center, we recognize and embrace the unique strengths and challenges faced by twice exceptional children. Our therapists provide specialized support that addresses emotional intensity, executive functioning concerns, and the intersection of giftedness with various exceptionalities. Through evidence-based interventions, personalized approaches, and collaboration with families and educators, we empower these exceptional children to overcome obstacles, develop resilience, and unlock their full potential. By embracing neurodiversity and nurturing the unique talents and abilities of 2e children, we create a world where they can thrive and make meaningful contributions. 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Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Stephen is a creative, dedicated, and passionate therapist with a background in behavioral health, education, and social services. He has wide-ranging experience working with people in all stages of life, helping them to become happier and healthier as individuals, in couples, and in families. He integrates art therapy to enable couples to connect emotionally and intimately. Strength, resiliency, and connection are essential elements of a lasting, satisfying, and harmonious relationship. Stephen believes that these are the building blocks for healing, forgiveness, and positive progress. He provides a safe, nurturing, and judgement-free space where couples can explore resolutions to a current problem, prevent an exacerbation of problems, or simply provide support for a couple experiencing a period of transition or increased stress. Stephen facilitates the discovery of fresh energy to create a healthy emotional connection. His approach is nurturing , thus enabling clients to engage with the healing power of their own personal symbols. This entails fostering self-agency to empower them to leverage their positive qualities in order to become more free, powerful, happy, and healthy. In addition to strength-based work, his therapeutic approach is trauma-informed in order to support clients in their process of trauma integration and healing. He provides treatment that activates the body, mind, and brain with expressive methods that are engaging and empowering. Stephen has worked with people of diverse culture and ethnicity. He brings the ability to relate to clients with authentic knowledge and sensitivity to culture and ethnicity. In particular, he has experience with interracial couples. NEURODIVERSE RELATIONSHIPS: Expertise Stephen offers expertise in supporting your unique neurodiverse relationship. He empathizes with the often-challenging themes that give rise to relationship stress: the dearth of emotional reciprocity and the challenge of maintaining meaningful balance with your partner and others in your life. Stephen provides a safe space enable you to share your feelings and expectations. He believes the willingness to improve communication and to be open to be open to managing expectations and finding solutions becomes the foundation of increasing trust in your relationship. Compassion and Insight Stephen presents a compassionate and understanding approach to neurodiverse couples’ therapy. This enables you both to gain fresh understanding and perspective. He helps nurture awareness in each partner of their own individual patterns, from these insights he invites adjustments to enable both partners to get more out of their relationship. The neurotypical partner gains insight that the neurodiverse retreat into safe behaviors and routine, is not a rejection but is a consequence of the Defense Mode. The defense mode being one hallmark coping strategy of the neurodiverse individual. Stephen supports the neurotypical partner process feelings of abandonment, frustration, and grief. Catharsis and forgiveness in both partners enable openness to positive feelings and increased self-esteem. Making Sense of Neurodiversity It is important that you both make sense of your neurodivergent partner’s behaviors. You may have pondered why anxiety can be a problem for your neurodiverse partner. Stephen shows you how anxiety can lead to impulsivity, melt-downs, rage, and withdrawal, all negatively impacting the relationship. More importantly he supports you both to strategize, problem-solve and better connect to make progress on the challenges to your special relationship. Fresh Perspectives By offering a fresh perspective, Stephen helps you both positively revaluate your relationship. He offers structure and effective tools to use, this enables reengagement and motivation for your partnership. Such understanding enables collaboration to use your combined strengths and resilience. Stephen believes that neurodiverse people have numerous assets such as loyalty, honesty, intelligence, strong values, the ability to work hard, generosity, and humor. He is passionate in using these qualities to bring you closer together. Communication Stephen supports effective communication and step-by-step actions to grow the loving connection you both deserve. This sensitive, nurturing process, enables neurodiverse individuals and their partners to feel supported in dealing with their communication challenges. The discontent in neurodiverse partnerships that comes from the lack of initiation of connection will be assuaged by enabling you both to safely verbalize your needs. Stephen’s will work with you on a relationship schedule. Your relationship schedule will ensure quality time is set aside to meet both your needs. Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): Children Couples’ relationships Separation and Divorce Parent and child conflicts Depression and Anxiety Trauma and Stress Grief and loss and shame Forgiveness and Self-forgiveness Modalities: Internal Family Systems, Emotion Focused Therapy, Jungian Therapy, Humanistic Therapy, Trauma-Informed Therapy Clients: Couples and Families, Adults, Adolescents, Children License: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT #149714 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Autism, Neurodiverse Couples, Emotional Intimacy, Trauma-Informed, Communication, Internal Family Systems, Emotion Focused Therapy, Accepting New Individual Clients Only Stephen Robertson Take an Autism Test

Quick Guide - Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Tip: Want more resources? 📖 Read our Article on Neurodiverse Couples Counseling for an overview of challenges, therapy approaches, and more. 📖 Visit our Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) Page if you have a specific question about our services you'd like an answer to. KEY FACTS The “Neurodiversity Magnet” : Many autistic and neurotypical partners feel an immediate and powerful attraction towards each other and their differences . Autistic partners are often admired for their focus, intelligence, and stability, while neurotypical partners are valued for their social skills and support. This can feel like being “pulled together like magnets.” When Differences Become Challenges : Over time, those same differences can cause misunderstandings . Couples may feel like they are speaking “different languages,” leading to trust issues, arguments, distance, or struggles with parenting and intimacy. Yes, Empathy Is Possible : Some people wrongly believe that autistic partners cannot feel love or empathy. In reality, they do feel empathy—they just may show it in different ways ( Double Empathy Problem ). With the right tools, both partners can better understand and connect with each other. Therapy That Works : Research shows that couples who participate in solution-focused therapy show an increase in “solution talk” and positive reinforcement , which helps partners move away from blame and start expressing emotions more openly (McDowell et al., 2023). Change Takes Time, But It Happens : Autism is not a “fixed” condition. With patience and the right kind of therapy, many couples see progress and grow closer over time—leading to relationships that feel more relaxed, connected, and rewarding. ABOUT US With a team of over 30 therapists, we are the largest practice dedicated exclusively to supporting neurodiverse individuals and couples. Our Approach: We use a neurodiverse counseling model that is tailored to each couple. This model involves focusing on the challenges that often create distance—such as communication breakdowns, sensory sensitivities, and differences in social or executive functioning. Rather than turning these differences into blame or criticism, we help partners reframe them as opportunities to build empathy, strengthen teamwork, and create a more connected relationship. Our neurodiverse counseling model often integrates strengths-based, neuro-affirming strategies that emphasize safety, communication, and mutual understanding. We complete over 16,000 sessions a year , giving us a deep well of experience supporting neurodiverse couples and individuals on their journey toward connection and growth. Our Team: Our experts are deeply compassionate and dedicated to helping neurodiverse couples thrive. Three things set our team apart: Ongoing Specialized Training – Every therapist receives weekly training on neurodiversity-focused content, ensuring our approaches stay current and effective. Collaborative Case Support – We hold weekly case consultations and supervision so that no couple’s challenges are handled in isolation—your therapist has a full team behind them. Continuous Professional Growth – All team members pursue ongoing continuing education in neurodiverse relationships, keeping us at the forefront of best practices. Insurance — We are insurance-friendly. As an out-of-network provider, we will send you a Superbill for therapy services that you can submit to your insurance company for potential reimbursement. Please know that we do NOT bill insurance directly or participate as an in-network provider. For more information, please visit the "Insurance/Fee" section on our FAQ page. Diagnosis optional — You don’t need a diagnosis to participate. If you’re in California and want to explore an autism or ADHD diagnosis, our team can help. A quick note on crises — We’re not a crisis service. If you’re ever in immediate danger, call 911 . For urgent mental health support, call or text 988 . Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center is part of New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. WHO WE HELP We support neurodiverse couples nationwide through online therapy or coaching. We support couples who are navigating neurodiversity in any capacity. Some common issues include: Autism/ADHD differences Cassandra Syndrome Support Highly Sensitive People Parenting and co-parenting challenges Intimacy (both physical and emotional) Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Recurring discussions about “tone,” initiative, alexithymia , or intimacy Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) LEARN MORE 📖 Read our Article on Neurodiverse Couples Counseling for an overview of challenges, therapy approaches, and more. 📖 Visit our Neurodiverse Couples Counseling FAQ for practical details about our services. Last reviewed: Aug 26, 2025 • Authors: Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT (Clinical Director) and Jasmyne Mena (Director of Clinical Research & Scientific Communications) GETTING STARTED We would love to create a safe place for you to break the painful patterns of the past and communicate in a new way. Please fill out our contact form and we will be glad to connect you with one of our team members. 10 secrets of happy neurodiverse couples… . (2024, September 4). BPS; The British Psychological Society. https://www.bps.org.uk/psychologist/10-secrets-happy-neurodiverse-couples Calderoni, S., Billeci, L., Narzisi, A., Brambilla, P., Retico, A., & Muratori, F. (2016). Rehabilitative Interventions and Brain Plasticity in Autism Spectrum Disorders: Focus on MRI-Based Studies. Frontiers in Neuroscience , 10 . https://doi.org/10.3389/fnins.2016.00139 McDowell, C. N., Bryant, M. E., & Parker, M. L. (2023). Decoding Neurodiverse Couples Therapy: A Solution-Focused Approach. Sexuality & Disability , 41 (2), 255–273. https://doi-org.libproxy.csudh.edu/10.1007/s11195-022-09765-9 Milton, D., Waldock, K. E., & Keates, N. (2023). Autism and the ‘double empathy problem.’ In F. Mezzenzana & D. Peluso (Eds.), Conversations on empathy: Interdisciplinary perspectives on imagination and radical othering (pp. 78–97). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9781003189978-6 Mitchell, P., Sheppard, E., & Cassidy, S. (2021). Autism and the double empathy problem: Implications for development and mental health. British Journal of Developmental Psychology, 39(1), 1–18. https://doi.org/10.1111/bjdp.12350 Taylor, E. C., Livingston, L. A., Clutterbuck, R. A., Callan, M. J., & Shah, P. (2023). Psychological strengths and well-being: Strengths use predicts quality of life, well-being and mental health in autism. Autism : the international journal of research and practice , 27 (6), 1826–1839. https://doi.org/10.1177/13623613221146440 Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel