"Cassandra Syndrome" is a term that Dr. Tony Attwood first coined in his book, The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome . It describes a situation where an individual with Asperger's Syndrome (a form of autism spectrum disorder) is in a relationship with a neurotypical partner. The neurotypical partner often feels dismissed and unheard, leading to feelings of frustration, resentment, and even anger. Defining Neurodiversity and Neurotypical: Judy Singer, an Australian sociologist with autism, first coined the term "neurodiversity" in the late 1990s. The term is now used to describe the range of neurological differences within the population, including conditions like attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), dyslexia, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), autism spectrum disorder, and even some traumatic brain injuries (TBI). While there is no one-size-fits-all definition of "neurotypical," the term is generally used to describe individuals with no neurological disorders or differences. In other words, neurotypical people are considered "neurologically average." What is Autism Spectrum Disorder? Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a complex neurobehavioral condition that affects a person's ability to communicate, interact with others, and have typical motor and sensory behaviors. ASD is characterized by impaired social interaction, verbal and nonverbal communication issues, and unusual or repetitive behaviors. The medical community now recognizes that there is not one "type" of autism but rather a spectrum of symptoms and behaviors that differ significantly from person to person. Current research shares that men are four times more likely to be diagnosed with ASD than women. However, this number is changing as we become more aware of the prevalence of ASD in women and girls. Differences in Brain Wiring: What is fascinating is the brain differences between those on the autism spectrum and neurotypical individuals. The autistic brain is wired differently than the neurotypical, and this difference in wiring can account for many of the challenges and strengths that people with ASD face. For example, people with ASD tend to be very literal thinkers and may have difficulty understanding sarcasm, metaphors, or jokes. This literal thinking can also lead to strengths in attention to detail and pattern recognition. People with ASD may also have Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD), which means that their brain has difficulty processing sensory filtering information. This condition can lead to Sensory Overload, where an individual is bombarded with too much sensory input and becomes overwhelmed. While everyone's brain is wired differently, those with ASD tend to have more extreme differences in brain wiring than neurotypical individuals. These differences can account for many of the challenges and strengths that people with ASD face. What is Cassandra Syndrome? Cassandra syndrome is named after the Greek mythological figure cursed by Apollo. Apollo blessed her with the gift of foreseeing the future, but when she rejected his advances, he cursed her so that no one would believe her predictions. In other words, she had knowledge others didn't have, but she could not share it effectively. In neurodiverse relationships, one partner has a different way of processing information and communicating than the other, leading to misunderstandings and frustrating communication breakdowns. However, there are ways to decode Cassandra syndrome and improve communication in neurodiverse relationships. What Causes Cassandra Syndrome? There are a few different things that can cause Cassandra syndrome in neurodiverse relationships. Poor Understanding: One is simply a lack of understanding about how the other person processes information. Communicating can be challenging when we don't understand how someone else perceives the world effectively. Psychoeducation for both the neurodiverse partner and neurotypical is key in overcoming this challenge. Lack of Empathy: If we cannot see things from another person's perspective, it's easy to become wrapped up in our point of view and ignore their needs altogether. This concept is known as the empathy gap and significantly contributes to Cassandra syndrome. Different Communication Styles: Another reason Cassandra syndrome occurs is that people with ASD tend to communicate differently than neurotypical individuals. Those on the autism spectrum may not pick up on nonverbal cues, such as body language and tone of voice. They may also prefer to communicate in more literal, concrete terms, leading to miscommunication and frustration on both sides. Different Priorities: Another cause of Cassandra syndrome is that people with ASD often have different priorities than neurotypical individuals. This can lead to disagreements about what is important in a relationship and how to spend time together; it is vital to be understanding and patient as you learn about your partner's priorities. Differences in Social Skills: People with ASD often have challenges with social skills; this can make communicating difficult, leading to frustration and misunderstanding. However, there are many resources available to help improve social skills. With practice and patience, communication will improve over time. Diverse Learning Styles: We all have different ways that we learn and process information. Some are visual learners, while others are more auditory or kinesthetic. Communicating can be challenging when we don't understand someone else's learning style. Power Differential: Another cause of Cassandra syndrome is an imbalance of power in the relationship; this can result when one person feels like they are the only "normal" or the only one who understands what's happening. It's important to remember that both partners are equal and that each person's experience is valid. Cognitive Abilities: Lastly, Cassandra syndrome can be caused by a difference in cognitive abilities. People with ASD often have higher-than-average IQs, while neurotypical individuals may have average or lower-than-average IQs. This difference in cognitive abilities can lead to tension and conflict, as the neurodiverse individual may How to decode Cassandra Syndrome: If you think you might be experiencing Cassandra syndrome in your relationship, you can do a few things to help decode it. First, try to educate yourself about how your partner perceives the world and what their needs are. Reading books and articles and talking to professionals specializing in autism spectrum disorders is essential. Second, be understanding and patient as you communicate with your partner. They may not pick up on nonverbal cues or understand sarcasm, and it's important to be clear and direct. Self-esteem and patience are essential in decoding Cassandra syndrome. Third, learn about your partner's priorities and how they like to spend their time; this will help you understand their perspective and make communication easier. It's also important to be flexible and willing to compromise. Fourth, try to find ways to improve your social skills. There are many resources available online that can help with this. With practice, you'll be able to communicate better with your partner. Fifth, make an effort to connect with your partner on their level; perhaps you can become more involved in finding common interests or learning about things that are important to them. With time and patience, you can build a strong, supportive relationship. Sixth, manage your anxiety and stress levels, especially working some physical movement into your daily routine. When we're feeling overwhelmed, it can be challenging to communicate effectively. Try to take some time for yourself every day to relax and de-stress; this will help you be more patient and understanding with your partner. Lastly, remember that both partners are equal and that each person's experience is valid. Everyone has different needs and perspectives, so respecting each other's differences is essential. If you can do these things, you'll be on your way to decoding Cassandra syndrome in your relationship. Want to learn more about Cassandra Syndrome? We invite you to visit Believing Cassandra, our partner site dedicated to providing women with the support they need to heal and flourish in their relationships with neurodiverse partners. Believing Cassandra Getting Help: Cassandra syndrome can be frustrating and challenging, but there are ways to decode it and improve communication in your relationship. By educating yourself about how your partner perceives the world, being more empathetic towards their perspective, and managing any anxiety you may have, you can start rebuilding trust and communication in your relationship. There's no one-size-fits-all solution to decoding Cassandra Syndrome. It's essential to be flexible and adaptable as you navigate your relationship. You can build a strong bond with your partner. And if you think you or your partner may be experiencing Cassandra Syndrome, please reach out for help. We at the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center can provide you with the support and resources you need to decode this syndrome and improve communication in your relationship. Click Here To Match With An Expert Take an ASD/ADHD Screener Are you curious about whether or not you have autism/ADHD? 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Alexithymia Do you struggle to recognize and express emotions? Do you feel a bit confused whenever a friend asks "How are you?" Are you uncomfortable around others who are processing their emotions? Do you prefer to "live in your head?" If you answer is "I think so" to most of these you, are probably in the right place. WHAT IS ALEXITHYMIA? Alexithymia is a condition characterized by challenges in identifying, understanding, and expressing emotions. Individuals with alexithymia may find it difficult to recognize their own feelings or the feelings of others. This can lead to challenges in forming and maintaining relationships, as well as navigating various social situations. Our counseling group recognizes the unique needs of individuals with alexithymia and offers specialized support to help them navigate their emotional experiences. Do I suffer from Alexithymia? Wondering if you may have difficulty identifying and expressing emotions? Take our Alexithymia Questionnaire to gain insight into your emotional awareness and discover resources for support and growth. The button below will take you to our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment . There, you'll be able to take our Free Online Alexithymia Questionnaire and gain further insight. Alexithymia Questionnaire 7 SIGNS OF ALEXITHYMIA Difficulty Identifying Emotions: Individuals with alexithymia may struggle to label and identify their own emotions accurately. This can make it challenging to communicate their feelings to others. Limited Emotional Vocabulary: A restricted emotional vocabulary is a common sign of alexithymia. Expressing nuanced or complex emotions may be particularly challenging for individuals with this condition. Physical Symptoms in Response to Emotions: Some individuals with alexithymia may experience physical symptoms, such as headaches or stomach aches, in response to emotions because they may struggle to recognize and process them cognitively. Difficulty Describing Emotional Experiences: Describing emotional experiences in detail can be challenging for those with alexithymia. They may find it hard to articulate the subtle nuances of their feelings. Difficulty Distinguishing Between Emotions and Bodily Sensations: Alexithymic individuals may have difficulty distinguishing between emotional experiences and bodily sensations, leading to confusion about the source of their feelings. Limited Imaginative Processes Involving Feelings: Creativity and imaginative processes related to emotions may be limited in individuals with alexithymia. This can affect their ability to engage in activities that involve emotional expression. Difficulty Understanding Social Cues: Alexithymia can contribute to challenges in understanding and responding to social cues, making it harder for individuals to navigate social interactions effectively. Ready to get help? THERAPEUTIC APPROACH TO ALEXITHYMIA At our counseling group, our therapists adopt a compassionate and individualized approach to working with clients experiencing alexithymia. We understand that each person's journey is unique, and our goal is to create a supportive environment that fosters emotional exploration and growth. We employ a range of therapeutic techniques tailored to the needs of individuals with alexithymia, including: Emotion Identification Exercises: Therapists work collaboratively with clients to develop strategies for identifying and labeling emotions. This may involve using visual aids, journaling, or other creative methods. Mindfulness and Body Awareness: Building awareness of bodily sensations and mindfulness practices can help individuals with alexithymia connect with their emotional experiences on a physical level, fostering a deeper understanding of emotions. Narrative Therapy: Through narrative therapy, individuals can explore and articulate their emotional experiences through storytelling. This approach allows for a more comprehensive understanding of personal narratives and emotional landscapes. Social Skills Training: Therapists may incorporate social skills training to help clients enhance their ability to recognize and respond to social cues, improving their interpersonal relationships. Final Words Living with alexithymia can feel isolating, but understanding the condition is the first step toward meaningful growth and connection. By recognizing the signs and seeking support, individuals can begin to bridge the gap between their internal world and the emotional landscape of those around them. Our counseling group is here to provide guidance, helping you develop the tools to better identify, process, and express your emotions. Remember, emotional awareness is a journey—one that doesn't have to be traveled alone. Meet with our Client Care Coordinator Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Sex Therapy for Neurodiverse couples who are struggling to connect and want to learn how to increase intimacy in a safe, affirming environment. NEURODIVERSE SEX THERAPY < Back IGNITING THE SPARK IN YOUR NEURODIVERSE RELATIONSHIP Sexual intimacy is an important part of a couple’s relationship. Yet, it can feel like an unsurmountable challenge for neurodiverse couples to overcome. To make matters worse, sex often becomes so emotionally loaded that the couple will make an unspoken agreement that the topic is off limits for discussion. So, it should not be surprising that one study showed that 50% of neurodiverse couples had no sexual activity at all. Fortunately, with outside help, there is hope! Addressing the barriers to a healthy sex life with an understanding and acceptance of neurodiversity can set a couple on path to revive their sex life or… Show More

By Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center c It often starts with a child. A school raises concerns. A clinician names what’s been going on. And suddenly the family has a word for something they’ve been wrestling with for years: autism, ADHD, or both. Then something else happens—quietly, but powerfully. A parent starts recognizing themselves in the description. Not in a dramatic way. In a “this explains my whole life” way. And then the family zooms out. A sibling who has always been intense and rigid about routines. A grandparent who melts down when plans change, but calls it “just being practical.” An uncle who disappears for months, then reappears like nothing happened. A family culture that labels differences as laziness, selfishness, attitude, disrespect, or “you’re too sensitive.” This is one reason neurodiverse families feel so exhausted. They’re not only managing nervous systems. They’re managing interpretations. And those interpretations become the story everyone lives inside. If you want the science behind why this pattern shows up across generations —heritability, sibling recurrence, AuDHD overlap—read our deeper dive: The Genetic Ripple Effect The blunt truth Sometimes individual therapy helps a person feel steadier, but the home stays chaotic. Sometimes, couples therapy helps two people communicate better, but the family system keeps re-triggering the same fights. That’s not failure. That’s a mismatch in what’s being treated. If the pain lives in the family system, you have to work with the family. The science behind “it’s all over the family” Here’s what many families don’t hear clearly enough: neurodiversity often clusters in families. In a large prospective, international “younger sibling” research network, about 1 in 5 younger siblings of an autistic child developed autism as well. (PMC) And when there’s more than one older autistic sibling, the recurrence rate is higher—around 37% in those multiplex families. (PMC) Population-based research also shows autism risk is substantially higher in siblings, and still elevated in cousins, reflecting real genetic and family-system clustering. (PMC) ADHD shows a similar “runs in the family” pattern. Twin research consistently estimates ADHD is highly heritable (often around the mid-70% range). (Nature) And large registry studies show strong familial aggregation in siblings. (PubMed) So when families say, “Once we saw it in our kid, we started seeing it everywhere,” they’re not being dramatic. They’re noticing something real. (If you want a clearer explanation of what those numbers actually mean—and what they do not mean—read The Genetic Ripple Effect here: https://www.neurodiversecouplescounseling.com/post/genetic-ripple-effect-neurodiversity Why this matters clinically If neurodiversity is woven through the family tree, then the family’s habits, roles, and “default interpretations” get shaped around it. Here’s what that looks like in real life: One person functions by deep focus and routine, and gets labeled controlling. Another person functions by urgency and stimulation, and gets labeled irresponsible. A child melts down from sensory overload, and gets punished for “attitude.” A parent is chronically maxed out, and everyone assumes they’re angry or cold. Grandparents mean well, but invalidate neurodiversity and unintentionally intensify shame. The family isn’t lacking love. They’re lacking a shared map. Our model at Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center We use what we call an orchestrated family approach. Not “everyone in therapy forever.” Not “let’s drag the whole family into a room and hope for insight.” And definitely not “let’s blame the identified patient.” Instead, we work like this: Step 1: Start with the couple (the anchor) We typically begin with the couple because the couple is the hub. If the hub is dysregulated, everything spins off. In this phase we: Build a shared language for what’s happening in the home. Identify the repeating loops (the fight beneath the fight). Clarify differences in nervous system needs, pacing, and communication. Create a realistic home plan for transitions, conflict, and repair. This is where many families finally stop asking, “Who’s the problem?” And start asking, “What’s the pattern?” Step 2: Expand outward (the right people, at the right time) Then we add people when it’s clinically useful. That can include: Kids (young kids, teens, adult kids) Parents and step-parents Siblings Co-parents in blended situations Sometimes extended family (aunt/uncle/grandparent), when they’re a major driver of stress or misunderstanding This isn’t about attendance Step 3: Invitation-only, with a private on-ramp Let’s say this plainly: bringing a family member into therapy can feel intimidating. People worry: “They’ll judge me.” “They’ll gang up on me.” “I’ll get blamed.” “I’ll get exposed.” “I don’t even know what to say.” So we do it differently. Any new family member is invitation-only. And they meet with the therapist individually first. That first meeting is about safety, context, and voice. It’s where they get to say what they’ve been holding back—without being interrupted, corrected, or pathologized. Only after that do we consider joint sessions, and only if it actually serves the goals. Step 4: One lead clinician orchestrates the plan Many families already have support in place. A child has their own therapist. A parent has a coach. A teen has a skills group. Great. But without coordination, families can end up with: Mixed messages Competing strategies Different “truths” in different rooms Accidental undermining of progress at home. So we provide one primary clinician who holds the big picture. That clinician helps the family align the work so the home environment becomes coherent instead of chaotic. What changes when the system is treated When family therapy is done well in neurodiverse families, you start seeing shifts like: Less blame and more accuracy Fewer explosions because triggers are anticipated earlier Better transitions because the family plans for nervous systems, not just schedules Fewer “character verdicts” (“lazy,” “dramatic,” “cold,” “controlling”) More repair after conflict, not just avoidance or escalation Kids feeling less like the family problem and more like part of the family solution And over time, the biggest win is this: The family becomes safer for everyone’s brain. Ready to explore this? If you’re realizing “this isn’t just one person,” you’re probably right. Schedule a consultation here! Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these statements may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Resources & Further Reading Bazelmans, T., Charman, T., Bedford, R., et al. (2024). Mid-childhood autism sibling recurrence: A single-site longitudinal follow-up study. Autism Research. Chen, Q., Brikell, I., Lichtenstein, P., Serlachius, E., Kuja-Halkola, R., Sandin, S., Larsson, H., & D’Onofrio, B. M. (2017). Familial aggregation of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder. Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry. Faraone, S. V., & Larsson, H. (2019). Genetics of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Molecular Psychiatry. Ozonoff, S., Young, G. S., Bradshaw, J., et al. (2024). Familial recurrence of autism: Updates from the Baby Siblings Research Consortium. Pediatrics, 154(2), e2023065297. Sandin, S., Lichtenstein, P., Kuja-Halkola, R., Larsson, H., Hultman, C. M., & Reichenberg, A. (2014). The familial risk of autism. JAMA, 311(17), 1770–1777. Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center. (2026). Integrated neurodiverse family therapy Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center. (2026). When neurodiversity runs in the family: Why family therapy can do what couples therapy can’t [Blog post]. Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

When I counsel neurodiverse couples, it's pretty common to hear the allistic partner wonder out loud: "At the start of our relationship, I think my partner hid who he really was. I feel lied to." Ah, the exhilarating beginning of a relationship, where everything feels like a page taken out of a fairy tale. For our neurodiverse lovebirds, this time can be especially magical... and complex. 🎭 The Alluring Beginning: A Special Interest Affair Imagine being the center of someone's world, their "special interest". That's how many allistic partners feel when dating an autistic person. This intense focus can feel like the ultimate romantic dream. But here's the rub: during the dating phase, interactions are often limited, allowing the autistic partner to mask or adjust their behaviors more easily. It's like being a guest star in the most captivating play of your life. 🎭💘 The Masking Masquerade and the Distance Dance Not living together means you're not facing the day-to-day challenges that come with neurodiversity in a shared space. The allistic partner sees stability in the pursuing partner, which feels comforting and secure. And being the emotional guide for the relationship? It can make you feel valued and indispensable in the most heartwarming way. But Then... Reality Sets In As the relationship deepens and living together becomes a reality, the daily demands reveal themselves. The neurodiverse partner might feel overwhelmed by expectations that were never discussed, feeling a sense of betrayal by new, unspoken demands. On the flip side, the allistic partner might mourn the evaporation of the intense romance that once was, feeling as though the magic has dissipated into thin air. 💔 The Emotional Crossroads: Where Do We Go from Here? This is where the true adventure begins. Neuro-informed therapy isn't just a buzzword; it's a beacon of hope. Imagine a space where both partners learn to understand and appreciate the beauty of their differences. Where communication styles are not just acknowledged but celebrated. 🎉 In this tailored therapy approach, we delve deep into the art of masking, unmasking, and everything in between. We explore the dynamics of special interests and how they can be both a source of connection and misunderstanding. We provide tools and strategies for navigating the day-to-day realities of a neurodiverse relationship, turning potential pitfalls into stepping stones towards a stronger bond. 🛠️❤️ Together, we'll rediscover connection, not by returning to the past, but by creating a new, shared future. A future where both partners feel seen, heard, and valued for their authentic selves. Because at the end of the day, love isn't about changing each other. It's about growing together in understanding and acceptance. 💑🌱 Ready to explore what neuro-informed therapy can do for your relationship? Click Here To Match With An Expert Your love story deserves to be understood, celebrated, and nurtured. With warmth and hope, Harry Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT, PsyD Dr. Motro is a registered Marriage and Family Therapist #53452 and the Founder/Clinical Director of the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center. Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule With Whitney Take an ASD/ADHD Screener Are you curious about whether or not you have autism/ADHD? Want to learn more about yourself and take the first step towards deeper self-understanding? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and Take An ASD/ADHD Screener Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Want to test your communication skills? Look at the questions below and ask: "Do I say more of the ❌'s or ✅'s?" There’s no shame either way—just insight. Allistic to Autistic ❌ "Why aren't you listening to me?" ✅ "Did I catch you at a bad time to talk, or is something making this hard to take in?" ❌ "Can't you just be more flexible?" ✅ "What parts of our routine help you feel steady, and where could we build in some wiggle room together?" ❌ "Why don’t you care how I feel?" ✅ "I know you care in your own way—can you help me see how you usually show it?" Autistic to Allistic ❌ "Why are you always so emotional?" ✅ "Your feelings matter to me, even if I don’t always get it—can you walk me through what’s going on for you?" ❌ "Do we have to talk about this AGAIN?" ✅ "I know this is important to you. Can we find a rhythm for these talks that works better for both of us?" ❌ "Why can't you just say exactly what you mean?" ✅ "Sometimes I need things to be really direct. Can we figure out a way to meet in the middle?" So, how’d that quiz go? If you ended up with more ❌s than ✅s, don’t stress. You’re in good company—most couples do! These habits are super common and totally normal. The good news? They’re also things you can work on. Just noticing them is already a big step in the right direction. 🌟 Try This Week: Pick just one ✅ or "better way" question and ask your partner this weekend. Watch how even a small shift makes things better! And, yes, I know this might feel impossibly hard. That’s exactly why neurodiverse couples therapy exists. One of our neuro-informed therapists can help you both learn how to ask questions and connect in new ways that can transform your relationship. You've got this, Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Take the First Step 🔦 Spotlight on Liz McClanahan Specialties · Neurodiverse Couples Therapy · Autism & ADHD · Parenting Autistic Children · Intimacy, Sex, Affair Recovery · Anger Management · Life Transitions Professional Qualifications · Neurodiverse Couples Specialist · Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology from Azusa Pacific University (APU) · Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist Personal Experience · My husband is on the Autism Spectrum and received his diagnosis later in life. I am so proud of my 26-year marriage and the fact that we were able to reconcile after a divorce and remarry. · My two children are also on the Spectrum. They have taught me how differences can be intensely beautiful and frustrating at the same time. Learn more about Liz! Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Looking Back Through Two Lenses Every relationship is made up of two unique perspectives . For neurodiverse couples, those perspectives may sometimes feel as if they come from entirely different worlds. But rather than seeing this as a challenge, consider it an opportunity. Taking time to reflect on the past year allows you to view your relationship through two distinct lenses, appreciating and learning from your differences. Reflection fosters curiosity, deepens understanding, and strengthens connection. Even if your relationship doesn’t feel ready for this kind of shared reflection right now, there’s still value in the process. You can explore your thoughts privately, with a trusted friend, or in therapy. Reflection helps nurture personal growth and paves the way for relational growth too. Your Reflection Blueprint 🌟 Now, take a moment to reflect on your year with these thoughtful questions. Each prompt is designed to help you uncover insights and set intentions for the year ahead. Highlights and Challenges ✨ What was the single best thing that happened this past year? What was the most challenging, and how did you navigate it? What brought unexpected joy into your life? What obstacles taught you something important? Personal Growth 🌱 How did you grow emotionally, spiritually, or physically? What unique strengths helped you tackle challenges? If you had to describe your year in one phrase, what would it be? Work and Time Management 🕒 What energized you most in your work or daily life? What drained your energy, and how could you shift that next year? How did your unique ways of thinking lead to creative solutions? Relationships and Connection 🤝 How connected or disconnected did you feel with your partner this year? What was one meaningful moment you shared together? How did your neurodiversity shape your relationship, positively or negatively? What is something your partner did that you’re grateful for? Couples-Specific Reflections ❤️ In what ways did your differences create opportunities for growth and learning? What was a moment when your perspectives clashed, and how did you handle it? How can you create space to better understand each other’s lens in the year ahead? What do you each need from the relationship moving forward? The Power of Curiosity and Acceptance 💡 When reflecting together, aim to be curious rather than critical. Each of you brings a unique lens to your relationship. For neurodiverse couples, exploring these lenses—whether shaped by autism, allistic norms, or other experiences—can turn conflicts into opportunities for connection. Curiosity fosters acceptance, and acceptance strengthens bonds. Even when your perspectives seem far apart, choosing to stay open can draw you closer. What If Sharing Feels Too Hard? 🌱 Not all relationships feel ready for this level of sharing, and that’s okay. If it feels too hard right now, let your partner know this is something you’d like to work toward. In the meantime, consider sharing your reflections with a trusted friend, family member, or therapist. Our neuro-informed specialists can help create a safe space for these conversations, making it easier for both partners to feel seen and understood. The Reflective Pause Effect in Relationships ❤️ The Reflective Pause Effect , supported by psychological research, shows that intentional reflection strengthens relationships by enhancing understanding and connection. For neurodiverse couples, this practice becomes a bridge to appreciating each other’s unique lenses and experiences. To take advantage of this effect: Set aside regular time for reflection. Identify how your differences shape communication. Seek guidance from therapy to deepen mutual understanding. By embracing this intentional practice, you can turn your differences into strengths, building a relationship rooted in empathy, curiosity, and shared growth. Click Here to Schedule! Wishing you clarity, connection, and compassion as you move into the new year! Warmly, Harry Motro Clinical Director 🔦 Spotlight on Liz McClanahan Specialties Neurodiverse Couples Therapy Autism & ADHD Parenting Autistic Children Intimacy, Sex Affair Recovery Anger Management Life Transitions Depression, Anxiety, Mood Disorders, Personality Disorders Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist Professional Qualifications Neurodiverse Couples Specialist Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology from Azusa Pacific University (APU) Dedicated to helping neurodiverse couples improve communication, reduce conflict, and increase intimacy. Life Experience Diagnosed with ADHD at age 17 Married 26 years to a neurodivergent husband Mother of three neurodivergent children: Age 21 – Autism/ADHD/twice exceptional, Age 18 – ADHD, Age 13 – Autism/ADHD Proud parent of LGBTQ+ identifying children Caregiver to parents diagnosed with cancer through treatment and end-of-life care Contact Liz Today! Did you miss the last Blog? Click Here to Read Now! Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Cassie Clayton, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Cassie Think You May be Have ADHD? The Structured Adult ADHD Self-Test (SAAST) may be used to identify adults who may have undiagnosed ADHD Take the SAAST Test Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Ever feel like your partner is in their own private world, intensely fascinated by certain topics or hobbies? This intense focus is known as monotropism , and it's quite common among our neurodiverse friends! Is Monotropism a "Theory"? Yes! Unlike traditional views that pathologize autism as a disorder, monotropism theory suggests that autistic individuals possess a focused attention system , giving them the ability to concentrate intensely on a limited number of interests, thoughts, or activities at any given time. At t he Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center , we embrace the beauty of these unique attention styles. Monotropism isn't just a trait - it can be a superpower that offers depth, passion, and consistency in neurodiverse relationships. Why Should This Matter to You? Understanding the role of monotropism in your relationship can revolutionize how you connect and communicate with your partner. Here are some ways that Monotropism can help your relationship thrive: - Depth of Knowledge: Embrace the profound insights and expertise your partner brings into your lives. - Passion and Dedication: Appreciate their unwavering commitment to what they love – maybe it's a hobby... or you! - Consistency and Reliability: Count on their steadfast focus where it counts. But let's be real— monotropism can also pose challenges in flexibility, communication, and emotional connectivity. Here's How Our Therapists Can Help You Overcome the Challenges: - Set Clear Boundaries: We guide partners in establishing when to dive deep into personal interests and when to prioritize shared activities or relationship duties. This includes building in transition time so a shift of focus is not abrupt. - Adapt Communication Strategies: We'll help you find new ways to communicate that respect each other's focus styles, improving your mutual understanding. - Avoid Demand Avoidance: We also take special care to address potential triggers for demand avoidance, working to create an environment that feels collaborative rather than coercive. - Foster Emotional Intimacy: We provide strategies that assist both partners in expressing their needs and feelings more effectively, deepening your emotional connection. - Enhance Appreciation: We help you see the unique advantages of your partner's focus as strengths in your relationship. Next Steps For Individuals: If all of this information has you reflecting on your own fascinations and whether or not you have a monotropic style of cognition, take our Monotropism Questionnaire . It's designed to uncover how you and your partner's focus styles mesh or clash, paving the way for tailored strategies that strengthen your bond. For Couples: Understanding the dual impact of monotropism—its advantages and challenges—can profoundly transform neurodiverse relationships. We are dedicated to guiding couples through understanding and adapting to these dynamics, fostering a supportive and empathetic relationship. Ready to deepen your connection and understanding? Click Here To Match With An Expert All the best, Harry Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT, PsyD Dr. Motro is a registered Marriage and Family Therapist #53452 and the Founder/Clinical Director of the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center. Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Take an ASD/ADHD Screener Are you curious about whether or not you have autism/ADHD? Want to learn more about yourself and take the first step towards deeper self-understanding? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and Take an ASD/ADHD Screener Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

No two brains are the same. Our therapists are here to help you recognize and celebrate your neurological differences so you can better understand yourself and/or your partner. YOUR BRAIN < Back OUR BEAUTIFUL BRAINS UNHELPFUL NARRATIVES Many couples arrive in neurodiverse couples therapy with one or both of the following stories: Neurotypical Partner: "They don't' care about me" or "He just can't give me what I need." Autistic Partner : "I'm a failure." or "My partner is overly emotional." We are here to tell you that you are both mistaken. If you don't understand the problem you are trying to solve, it is virtually impossible to solve it. First, the root problem is that your brains are wired differently. Second, you are reaching conclusions based on your experiences of your partner's behaviors, not is what is happening inside. Third, once you begin… Show More

Group therapy for Neurodiverse couples who are looking for a supportive setting to learn strategies for stronger communication and connection. NEURODIVERSE COUPLES GROUP < Back FEELING ALONE IN YOUR NEURODIVERSE RELATIONSHIP? Join us for Different Minds, One Heart: A Neurodiverse Couples Group Our group goal is to provide a safe space for you to speak with other neurodiverse couples about how neurodiversity affects your relationship. Most couples quickly realize that their issues sound similar to everyone else's. This helps lessen the shame and stress you may be feeling and, hopefully, be more open to learning new ways to change and grow. Furthermore, a group can inspire awareness and change that individual therapy or solo work cannot. Group dynamics can provide different perspectives and experiences, and these dynamics can be powerful as you explore a greater awareness of your neurodiversity.… Show More

Neurodiverse Communication TIP: Want answers fast? Check out our 📄 Quick Guide on Communication in Neurodiverse Relationships for key facts, FAQs , and why you should choose us. SPEAKING DIFFERENT LANGUAGES? Why do we feel like we are speaking different languages when we try to talk to each other? Do your partner's words sound like "blah blah blah...", where you are not really hearing each other? What hijacks our ability to communicate effectively? Do your conversations sound like: Tammy: "Look at me when I talk to you." Tim: "I am trying to but you're not making any sense. You said to walk the dog as soon as I felt like it. I never felt like it." Tammy: "You know that the dog needs a walk every day." Tim: "But you never said that." Tammy: "I've said that a million times. You just don't listen." I don't know of ONE neurodiverse couple who doesn't fall into this type of communication trap.. The root issue is: "We don't see the world the way the world is...we see the world the way WE are". We will continue to miscommunicate until we become aware of our different COMMUNICATION STYLES. WHAT'S YOUR COMMUNICATION STYLE? The neurodiverse and neurotypical communication styles can be broken down as follows: Logical vs. Emotional Concrete vs Abstract Absolutist vs. Relative Avoidant vs. Insistent Furthermore, we send and receive information through the following filters : our expectations and stereotypes, our wounds or defensiveness, our past experiences, and our mood at the moment. It is clear that many powerful forces color the way we hear our partner and express ourselves. COMMUNICATION STRATEGIES Our therapists are equipped with special tools and strategies to support you as you learn to communicate across the neurodivide. Some of the common strategies include: RECOGNIZE PATTERNS WITHOUT BLAME As a result of communication style differences and personal filters (as mentioned above), every couple will eventually fall into unproductive communication patterns. The first step to work on the unproductive pattern is to take an honest look at the pattern WITHOUT blaming each other. We encourage the framework to be: the " couple versus the pattern" , as opposed to " me against you ". With this team approach, the couple will learn how to describe the pattern in a clear way so they both agree what's happening. Next, they learn to recognize when the pattern starts and how to pause together and notice it. And, then they commit to ways to change the pattern when it happens in real life. CREATE TIME TO PROCESS Autism Spectrum (AS) partners often require additional time to process the issue at hand, especially if change is associated with the topic. To lessen the impact of processing times, the couples should collaborate to lessen the pressure for a quick response. An example of this could include sharing topics in advance. Also, talk times should be scheduled so that each partner has the energy to fully engage in the conversation. BITE-SIZED CONVERSATIONS Neurodiverse couples often need structure in their communications. Although this may initially seem cumbersome, many couples save HUGE amounts of time over the long term by communicating well up front. An example of breaking communication into steps is as follows: understanding the other's point of view, exploring the other partner's point of view, being clear about the feelings involved, being clear about the goal or request, brainstorming options, agreeing to try an approach, reviewing how it went, and affirming each other's efforts throughout the process. STARTING WELL Neurodiverse couples do well to avoid criticism and defensive . To do so, before you jump into the content of the conversation, introduce your topic with: a clear statement of your intention to be constructive , and your commitment to place a higher importance on the relationship than individual issues. Agree that you will pause the conversation if one person feels criticized. If the criticism/defensiveness pattern happens, reassure the partner and address these feelings before resuming the talk about content. BE CLEAR ABOUT DESIRES Let go of the fantasy that your partner should read your mind. "Theory of Mind" is regularly over-estimated in a typical relationship and even more problematic in a neurodiverse one. We encourage you to think of a strong relationship as one where: each person knows what they need, each partner can express that need with kindness and clarity to the other partner, the other partner truly considers it, the other partner lets the person making the request KNOW that he/she considered it, and the other partner feels free to explore and negotiate the request and then say yes or no. PUT IT IN WRITING By the way, clarity is often served by putting thoughts and feelings in writing. Many couples find it helpful to write out your thoughts before a conversation and, after reflecting on those thoughts, read them to your partner. Also, it can be helpful to take notes when listening. FIND TIME TO TALK If you rarely talk to each other, we suggest that you turn your communication into a new set of "habits" . The couple can work together to systematically build conversation into your daily routine. This may start out feeling forced but, with practice, will begin to feel organic and rewarding. Begin this process by making small adjustments to your schedules. Block regular times on your calendar (every day). Find bits of downtime and commit to talking to each other. Don't do this too fast because that may lead you to feel overly discouraged by inevitable failures. Rather, go slow and have small successes that encourage you. Examples of "small" ways to communication include: Agree to 3-minute greetings when you depart in the morning (even if you are working in the same house and going to different rooms). Pick one meal per day and have each person initiate a conversation on a topic. Get up 10 minutes earlier than usual so you can share your plans for that day. If you watch TV together, after it ends, take 10 minutes to share your thoughts about the show. For 10 minutes before going to sleep, try some ‘pillow talk’ to share thoughts that are sitting with you as you end your day. NON-VERBAL COMMUNICATION There is a well-known quote that says: "Someone with Autism has taught me that love needs no words." In the midst of learning all the skills discussed above, please remember that there are many ways to love someone. We hope that you always remain open to all kinds of expressions of love and appreciation. DOUBLE EMPATHY PROBLEM The Double Empathy Problem is a concept that has been gaining more attention in recent years, particularly in relation to Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). It refers to the idea that both neurotypical individuals and autistic individuals may struggle to understand each other’s perspectives, leading to communication breakdowns and misunderstandings. ORIGINS The Double Empathy Problem was first proposed by Damian Milton, a researcher and autistic activist, in his 2012 paper “On the Ontological Status of Autism: The ‘Double Empathy Problem’”. Milton argued that the traditional approach to autism research and intervention, which focuses on identifying and treating deficits in autistic individuals, fails to take into account the role of social and cultural context in shaping communication and interaction. According to Milton, both neurotypical and autistic individuals have their own unique sets of social and communicative norms, and failure to understand and accommodate for these differences can lead to mutual misunderstandings. IMPLICATIONS FOR AUTISM The Double Empathy Problem has important implications for how we think about and approach autism. One of the key implications is that interventions that focus solely on changing autistic behavior and communication may not be effective in improving social interactions with neurotypical individuals. Instead, it may be necessary to work on improving understanding and accommodation of autistic communication styles and social norms by neurotypical individuals as well. Furthermore, the Double Empathy Problem challenges the traditional notion that autistic individuals are inherently deficient in social skills or empathy. Rather, it suggests that social communication difficulties may arise from a lack of mutual understanding and accommodation between individuals with different communication styles and norms. OUR APPROACH In order to address the Double Empathy Problem, we propose. These include: Increasing your awareness: Raising your awareness about the Double Empathy Problem and the unique communication styles and social norms of autistic individuals can help to improve understanding and accommodation by neurotypical partners Collaborative communication: Encouraging collaborative communication and co-construction of meaning, where both parties work together to create shared understanding, can help to bridge communication gaps and reduce misunderstandings. Neurodiversity acceptance: Embracing neurodiversity and recognizing the value of different communication styles and social norms can help to promote greater understanding and accommodation of our autistic partners. GETTING STARTED We would love to create a safe place for you to break the painful patterns of the past and communicate in a new way. Please fill out our contact form and we will be glad to connect you with one of our team members. Meet with our Client Care Coordinator Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Addiction & Neurodiversity: A Different Path to Healing Are you autistic or ADHD? And struggling with substance addiction? Does it feel like everyone trying to "help" is speaking a language you don’t understand? You’ve probably sat in the rooms. You’ve heard the lectures. You’ve been told to "surrender your defects" or "just sit with the feeling." But when you try to sit with the feeling, your skin crawls. It is easy to look at a failed stint in rehab and think, "This system is broken, so why bother?" It’s also easy to internalize the failure and think, "I'm just looking for excuses to bail." But there is a third option. The problem likely isn't your willingness, and it isn't necessarily that "recovery is broken." The problem is that you are trying to run a standard operating system on a computer that wasn't built for it. You don’t get to opt out of recovery, but you do need to opt into a method that speaks your brain’s language. If you are Autistic or ADHD, your path to sobriety needs to look different because your brain is different. We don’t just treat the addiction. We treat the sensory overload, the dopamine starvation, and the exhaustion of masking that drove you to the substance in the first place. The Reality: You Are Not Alone It is easy to feel like the "black sheep" when traditional rehab doesn’t work, but the data proves that neurodivergent people face a statistically higher risk of addiction—not because they are "bad," but because they are coping with a world not built for them. The ADHD Risk: Research shows that adults with ADHD are three times more likely to struggle with a substance use disorder than the general population.¹ The connection is so strong that nearly 25% of all adults seeking treatment for alcohol or substance abuse have undiagnosed ADHD.² [1] The Autistic Connection: While some studies show autistic adults drink less frequently, they are significantly more vulnerable when they do. Autistic adults are nearly nine times more likely than their neurotypical peers to use recreational drugs specifically to manage unwanted mental health symptoms.³ The "Why" Matters: For neurotypical people, addiction is often about seeking a "high." For neurodivergent people, it is almost always about seeking relief —from sensory pain, social anxiety, or a brain that won't turn off.⁴ Anecdotally, this feels low. It feels like half the people in the rooms have ADHD. But that's just the rooms I've been in. Why Traditional Treatment Often Fails Most rehabs and outpatient programs are designed for neurotypical brains. For the neurodivergent mind, these standard practices can inadvertently cause harm rather than healing: Group Therapy Overload: Being forced to make sustained eye contact and share deep trauma in a circle of strangers is often overwhelming. For many, this causes autistic shutdown or panic, rather than a therapeutic breakthrough. Abstract Concepts: Phrases like "turning it over" or "spiritual awakening" can be vague and frustrating for literal thinkers. Neurodivergent clients often need concrete, logical, and actionable tools—not metaphors.⁵ Executive Dysfunction: Demanding a client "just show up on time" or "keep a daily journal" without support ignores the reality of executive function challenges. Without scaffolding for time blindness or task paralysis, these demands just create more shame.⁵ The Neurodiverse Difference: Why It Happens We look deeper at the function the behavior serves, rather than just the behavior itself. 1. The Sensory Shield (Autism) For many Autistic people, alcohol or opioids function as a "chemical volume knob." They dampen the noise of fluorescent lights, scratchy clothes, and crowded rooms. You aren't seeking a party; you are seeking a moment of silence in a loud world. 2. The Dopamine Hunt (ADHD) The ADHD brain is chemically starved for dopamine. Stimulants or high-risk behaviors (gambling, gaming) temporarily fix this deficit. It’s not a lack of discipline; it’s a desperate attempt to feel "normal" and focused for the first time. 3. The Masking Trap Socializing is exhausting. Alcohol is often "liquid courage," suppressing social anxiety and making it easier to "mask" (mimic neurotypical social cues). The trap is believing you are only lovable when you are intoxicated. The Whole Picture: Integrating Biology & Life Experience We want to be clear: Neurodivergence is usually not the only reason for addiction. Trauma, grief, family history, and environmental stressors are powerful drivers of substance abuse for everyone, regardless of their neurology. We do not ignore these factors. In fact, they are often deeply intertwined with the experience of growing up neurodivergent in a world that didn't understand you. However, if we treat the trauma but ignore your biology, the foundation of recovery remains unstable. You can heal your past, but if your nervous system is still constantly overwhelmed or starved for dopamine, the urge to self-medicate will return. Can I still go to 12-Step Programs (AA/NA)? Absolutely. We are not "anti-12-step." In fact, for many Autistic and ADHD individuals, the community and structure of programs like AA can be lifesaving— if the right accommodations are in place. Recovery works best when you have two parallel tracks: 1. Community Support: Utilizing groups like AA/NA for fellowship, but finding a format that works for you. This might mean "sharing" through writing, finding smaller neuro-affirming groups, or realizing that you don't have to perform your trauma verbally to be "working the steps." 2. Brain-Based Treatment: Working with a specialist to manage the physiological drivers of addiction—sensory regulation, executive function support, and dopamine management—so that you aren't fighting your own biology to stay sober. Our Approach: Neuro-Informed Recovery We believe in adaptation, not deprivation . We don't just take the coping mechanism away; we build a life that is sustainable without it. Sensory-Safe Spaces: We welcome stimming and offer low-stimulation on-line environments. Concrete & Logical: We use Internal Family Systems (IFS) and CBT , mapping out your brain logically rather than relying on abstract spiritual concepts. Executive Scaffolding: We help you build sobriety systems that account for time blindness and task paralysis—using visual anchors and routine building, not just "willpower." Meet Our Neuro-Informed Addiction Specialists Recovery looks different when your therapist has walked the path. Malori Evans, AMFT & APCC AuDHD & Substance Use Specialist Malori is a powerhouse of insight. Identifying as AuDHD (Autistic + ADHD) and a queer woman in recovery from addiction, she knows the journey from the inside out. Malori formerly worked as a physician, giving her a deep biological understanding of how substances impact the body and brain. She specializes in helping clients who use substances to cope with sensory overwhelm and burnout . Her "Relationship Anarchy" and anti-hierarchical approach creates a safe space where you are the expert on your own experience. Jory Wilson, AMFT Neurodiverse Couples & Sex Addiction Specialist Jory brings a powerful, lived perspective to his work. As a therapist with ADHD who is in a neurodiverse marriage himself, Jory understands the unique shame spiral that comes with "feeling different." He specializes in Sex Addiction and Betrayal Recovery , helping couples navigate the wreckage of compulsive behaviors. Jory uses a compassionate, non-judgmental approach to help partners understand that "acting out" is often a maladaptive attempt to regulate an overwhelmed nervous system. He integrates spirituality and science to help you rebuild trust. Shea Davis, AMFT Trauma & Addiction Recovery Specialist Shea’s wisdom comes from the trenches. Years ago, she walked into a 12-step meeting broken by addiction, emotional depletion, and a lifetime of "pushing through." She knows firsthand that for neurodivergent people, addiction is often a survival strategy to manage a world that feels too loud and too demanding. Shea doesn't just teach recovery; she lives it. She helps clients move past the shame of their past and build a recovery that honors their unique wiring, teaching you how to self-soothe without the substance. Meet with our Client Care Coordinator References Bunford, N., Evans, S. W., & Wymbs, F. (2015). ADHD and substance use disorders: Developmental aspects and the impact of stimulant treatment. The American Journal on Addictions , 24(7), 569–577. Link to Article Kessler, R. C., Adler, L., Barkley, R., et al. (2006). The prevalence and correlates of adult ADHD in the United States: Results from the National Comorbidity Survey Replication. American Journal of Psychiatry , 163(4), 716–723. Link to Article Sizoo, B., van den Brink, W., Koeter, M., van der Gaag, R. J., & van der Feltz-Cornelis, C. M. (2010). Treatment seeking adults with autism or ADHD and co-morbid substance use disorder: Prevalence, risk factors and functional disability. Drug and Alcohol Dependence , 107(1), 44–50. Link to Article Weir, E., Allison, C., & Baron-Cohen, S. (2021). The association between autistic traits and substance use: A systematic review. The Lancet Psychiatry , 8(8), 673–683. Link to Article Wilens, T. E., & Morrison, N. R. (2011). The intersection of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder and substance abuse. Current Opinion in Psychiatry , 24(4), 280–285. Link to Article Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Maybe your teen is melting down every night after school.Or they’re totally shut down. Or both. They’ve been labeled sensitive, dramatic, and disrespectful.But what if that’s not the full story? What if your teen is autistic—and no one caught it? This happens all the time. Especially with bright kids. Especially with girls. Especially with kids who seem “fine” at school but fall apart at home. Autism in teens doesn’t always look like people expect. They might be social, but always on edge. They might seem easygoing, but they’re secretly exhausted. They might follow the rules, but be filled with anxiety. They’ve learned to mask. To mimic.To survive. But now the mask is slipping. And you’re seeing the cost. That’s where we come in. We help autistic teens figure out what’s really going on. We walk them through a gentle, thoughtful self-discovery process. We're not focused on a diagnosis. We give them a chance to understand their brain, their needs, and their strengths. We help parents finally connect the dots. And we give the whole family a way forward. Visit TeensUnmask.com to learn more. You’ll find screeners, support, and a team that truly gets it. Because the earlier they understand themselves, the more they can thrive on their own terms. Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center and TeensUnmask | Therapy for Autistic Teens Get Matched with a Therapist Wondering what’s going on beneath the surface? A screener can help you and your teen understand things more clearly—take one from the options below: Teen Autism Screeners: Teens Ages 13-15 Autism Screener Teens Ages 16+ Autism Screener Teen ADHD Screeners: Teens Ages 13-15 ADHD Screener Teens Ages 16+ ADHD Screener 🔦 Spotlight on Malori Evans Malori Evans (Autistic/ADHD) “Your emotions aren’t too much. They’re trying to tell you something.” Malori gets that the world often treats sensitive people like they’re the problem—but that’s not how she sees it. She works with teens who feel everything deeply: the anger, the anxiety, the “why am I crying again?” moments. Her therapy style is warm, curious, and validating—she’s not here to fix you. She’s here to help you understand what’s underneath and feel less alone in the process. If you’ve ever been told you’re “too much,” Malori might be exactly who you need to meet. Learn more about Malori! © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these statements may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel