Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Specialties and Certifications Neurodiverse Couples General Couples Therapy Depression and Anxiety Christian Couples Counseling Affair Recovery Parenting Grief Life Experience J oyfully married for 20 years, with a relationship that's grown stronger through dedication and mutual support, and a proud father to my young adult daughter. Over 25 years of work in non-profit organizations including urban youth, churches, and schools Adjunct graduate school professor teaching courses on the integration of psychology and spirituality Earlier career in the hospitality and semiconductor industries Education in psychology, theology, and spirituality at the Master & Doctoral levels About Dan Daniel Chung has over twenty years of wide-ranging experience working with people in all stages of life. He is a creative, dedicated therapist who is passionate about helping individuals, couples, and families by coming alongside them, listening with empathy, helping to make sense of their concerns and needs, and providing vital tools to grow and thrive in life. Daniel focuses on providing a safe, nurturing, and judgment-free space that enables clients to heal and positively progress by fostering their agency to empower them to leverage their positive qualities toward lasting, satisfying, and harmonious relationships. He believes in holistic healing toward emotional, spiritual, and relational wellness that activates the mind, body, and spirit, and usher into deeper self-realization, purposeful living, better conflict management, and healthier coping skills over stress and grief. Neurodiverse Relationships Understanding the Neurodiverse Pain and Peace Cycles 💡 In neurodiverse relationships, the Pain Cycle can be especially challenging, as differences in communication styles, emotional expression, and sensory needs often amplify misunderstandings. Daniel helps couples recognize and interrupt these destructive cycles by: Identifying neurodiversity-related triggers that lead to feelings of blame, shame, or isolation. Bridging communication gaps by teaching partners to translate their emotional needs into language that both neurodivergent and neurotypical partners can understand. With his guidance, couples move toward the Peace Cycle, fostering trust, safety, and connection by: Developing shared tools for calm, respectful interactions that honor each partner’s unique needs. Building habits of empathetic listening to navigate differences without judgment or frustration. By teaching couples how to understand and manage their pain and peace cycles through a neurodiverse lens, Daniel equips them to deepen their relationship and embrace each other’s strengths. Enhancing Connection through Neurodiverse Collaboration 🤝 Daniel’s trauma-informed and client-centered approach creates a safe space for neurodiverse couples to explore their unique dynamics. He empowers couples to grow through: Open conversations about neurodiversity , helping partners express their needs and challenges in a non-critical environment. Practicing vulnerability , especially for neurodivergent partners who may find expressing emotions or needs more complex. By fostering collaboration, Daniel helps couples: Set realistic, shared goals that accommodate neurodiverse needs. Strengthen their relationship through teamwork, building a resilient partnership that honors each individual’s contributions. Through his compassionate guidance, neurodiverse couples gain the skills to navigate their differences and cultivate a relationship grounded in mutual respect and understanding. Navigating the Unique Challenges of Neurodiverse Relationships 🌟 For neurodiverse couples, challenges often arise from differences in how partners process and express emotions, manage sensory input, or approach social interactions. Daniel helps couples by: Promoting self-awareness : Encouraging neurodivergent partners to understand how their sensory sensitivities or executive functioning differences impact the relationship, while helping neurotypical partners appreciate these unique perspectives. Focusing on strengths : Highlighting the unique skills and insights each partner brings to the relationship. Providing practical strategies : Offering tailored tools to help neurodiverse couples navigate everyday challenges, such as managing overstimulation or scheduling meaningful quality time. Daniel believes that by embracing neurodiversity, couples can turn perceived obstacles into opportunities for growth and connection. Dan's Neuro-Informed Therapeutic Approach Daniel’s therapeutic approach is neuro-informed, trauma-sensitive, and client-centered , supporting clients in their healing journey while honoring the unique needs of neurodivergent individuals and their partners. He creates a working alliance rooted in empathy, acceptance, openness, and flexibility, ensuring that the therapeutic process is accessible and tailored to diverse neurodiverse experiences. Daniel’s work is informed by his deep understanding of how neurodiversity intersects with emotional and relational patterns. He provides tools and strategies that are practical and sensitive to sensory, communication, and executive functioning differences. Having worked with clients from diverse cultures, ethnicities, and neurodiverse profiles, Daniel relates to clients with authenticity, compassion, humility, and sensitivity. He strives to create a safe and empowering space where all clients feel seen, understood, and supported. My Therapeutic Modalities Daniel incorporates the following neuro-informed approaches into his work: Trauma-Informed Therapy : Acknowledging how trauma manifests differently in neurodivergent individuals and tailoring interventions accordingly. Restoration Therapy : Helping clients recognize and reshape destructive relational cycles, particularly those impacted by neurodiverse dynamics. Emotion-Focused Therapy : Supporting partners in expressing and interpreting emotions in ways that bridge neurodiverse communication styles. Brief Solution-Focused Therapy : Offering actionable, goal-oriented strategies that align with each client’s cognitive and sensory preferences. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) : Adapting CBT techniques to accommodate the thought processes and learning styles of neurodiverse individuals. Experiential Therapy : Using creative, hands-on techniques that honor sensory needs and promote meaningful emotional exploration. Adult Autism & ADHD Assessments Daniel specializes in providing neurodiversity-supportive assessments and therapeutic services designed to help individuals reach their full potential. His comprehensive approach includes administering questionnaires, engaging in discussions, making observations, and using tools such as the MIDAS-2 and SRS-2 for Autism, as well as the CAARS and Brown EF/A scales for ADHD. Daniel works collaboratively with clients to explore their unique traits and understand the value of a diagnosis in fostering success and fulfillment. Daniel also offers guidance, resources, and support to individuals and their families throughout the assessment process. By taking a holistic view, he identifies each person’s strengths and challenges from multiple perspectives. His goal is to serve as an ally, helping clients navigate the assessment journey and discover pathways to growth, progress, and lasting change. In his experience, Daniel’s clients have found the assessment process to be a transformative opportunity for self-discovery, leading to greater understanding and acceptance of themselves and fostering empathy in their relationships. Whether confirming or ruling out a diagnosis, Daniel emphasizes that neurodiversity is not a defect but a unique set of traits accompanied by gifts and areas for growth. With the right tools, clients can build essential skills to improve social, professional, and personal relationships. Clients Couples Individuals Families Adults Adolescents License Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapy #149769 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Emotion Focused Therapy, Neurodiverse Couples, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Christian, Betrayal/Affair Recovery, Emotional Intimacy, Assessment, Communication, Not Accepting New Clients Daniel Chung Take an Autism Test

Twice Exceptional Children UNDERSTANDING THE MISUNDERSTOOD: SUPPORTING TWICE EXCEPTIONAL CHILDREN At our neurodiverse therapy center, we know how deeply our couples care about their twice exceptional (2e) children. These kids possess both exceptional abilities and learning differences, often leading to misunderstandings and mislabeling within society. As it is our desire to support the whole family, we want to help the children too. Thus, some of our team members have specialized in caring for twice exceptional children. These therapists work hard to comprehend the unique challenges faced by 2e children and to provide effective support they need to empower them to thrive. On this page , we explore various aspects of twice exceptionality, shedding light on emotional intensity, executive functioning concerns, and the intersection of giftedness with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD/ADD), anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), depression, and specific learning disabilities. Additionally, we discuss the importance of advocating for appropriate educational placements and acceleration for these exceptional children. EMOTIONAL INTENSITY & EMOTIONAL REGULATION: UNLEASHING THE POWER OF EMOTIONS Twice exceptional children often experience emotional intensity, characterized by heightened sensitivity and depth of emotions. However, this emotional intensity can sometimes lead to challenges in emotional regulation. Our therapists provide a safe and supportive environment where 2e children can explore and express their emotions. Through evidence-based interventions, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and mindfulness techniques, we assist them in developing effective emotional regulation strategies. By nurturing their emotional well-being, we empower 2e children to harness the power of their emotions and thrive. EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING CONCERNS: UNLEASHING POTENTIAL THROUGH SKILL DEVELOPMENT Executive functioning refers to a set of cognitive skills that enable individuals to plan, organize, focus, regulate behavior, and manage time effectively. Many twice exceptional children face difficulties in this area, impacting their academic performance and daily functioning. Our therapists conduct comprehensive assessments to understand the specific executive functioning challenges faced by each child. With this knowledge, they design personalized interventions that address organization, time management, task initiation, and problem-solving skills. By cultivating these executive functioning abilities, we equip 2e children with the tools necessary to unlock their full potential. NAVIGATING DUAL EXCEPTIONALITIES GIFTED & AUTISM/ASPBERGER'S (ASD) The co-occurrence of giftedness and Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) presents unique challenges and opportunities. Our therapists specialize in understanding the intersection of these dual exceptionalities. They provide individualized support that acknowledges the strengths of gifted 2e children with ASD, such as their focused interests and attention to detail, while addressing the social and communication difficulties they may encounter. Through social skills training, sensory integration techniques, and personalized educational strategies, our therapists empower 2e children with ASD to navigate their world with confidence and resilience. GIFTED & ADHD/ADD The combination of giftedness and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD/ADD) brings forth unique strengths and challenges. Our therapists employ a multi-faceted approach to support 2e children in balancing their hyperfocus and challenges with attention regulation. Through tailored interventions, including behavioral strategies, self-monitoring techniques, and adaptive learning environments, we help these children channel their intense focus while managing impulsivity and improving organizational skills. By understanding their individual needs, we empower 2e children with ADHD/ADD to thrive academically and personally. GIFTED & ANXIETY/OCD The combination of giftedness and anxiety, including obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), presents unique challenges that require a holistic approach to intervention. Our therapists provide a supportive and compassionate environment where 2e children with anxiety and OCD can explore their thoughts and fears. Through evidence-based therapies, such as exposure and response prevention (ERP) and cognitive restructuring, we assist them in developing coping mechanisms to manage their anxiety and reduce OCD-related behaviors. Additionally, our therapists work collaboratively with families and educators to create a nurturing and accommodating environment that supports the emotional well-being of these children while fostering their academic and personal growth. GIFTED & DEPRESSION Gifted 2e children may be susceptible to experiencing depression due to a combination of their intense emotions, perfectionistic tendencies, and the challenges they face in navigating their exceptionalities. Our therapists offer a safe space for these children to express their emotions and explore the underlying causes of their depressive symptoms. Through a range of therapeutic techniques, including cognitive restructuring, supportive counseling, and creative expression, we empower them to develop resilience, self-compassion, and effective coping strategies. Our goal is to help these children build a strong foundation of emotional well-being and thrive in all aspects of their lives. GIFTED & LEARNING DISABILITIES (DYSLEXIA, DYSCALCULIA, DYSGRAPHIA) Twice exceptional children often face specific learning disabilities, such as dyslexia, dyscalculia, or dysgraphia, alongside their giftedness. Our therapists understand the unique learning profiles of these children and employ individualized approaches to support their academic growth. Through targeted interventions, such as multi-sensory learning techniques, assistive technologies, and specialized instructional strategies, we help 2e children overcome their learning challenges while fostering their exceptional abilities. By nurturing their strengths and providing the necessary accommodations, we enable them to reach their full potential academically and develop a positive self-identity as learners. ENSURING AN OPTIMAL EDUCATION: ADVOCATING FOR TWICE EXCEPTIONAL CHILDREN Advocating for appropriate educational placement and support is crucial for 2e children to thrive academically and socially. Our therapists work closely with families, educators, and school administrators to advocate for individualized education plans (IEPs), gifted programs, acceleration, and other necessary accommodations. By providing comprehensive assessments, educational consultation, and ongoing collaboration, we ensure that the educational environment is conducive to the unique needs and abilities of 2e children. Our goal is to create a supportive and nurturing educational experience that fosters their growth, maximizes their potential, and celebrates their neurodiversity. Further Help Looking for more information? At our sister site, Parenting Autism Therapy Center , we are dedicated to helping parents of neurodiverse children gain the proper insight, and knowledge, to help their children and family thrive. Click the link below to be directed to that site. Visit our Parenting Site FINAL WORDS At our neurodiverse therapy center, we recognize and embrace the unique strengths and challenges faced by twice exceptional children. Our therapists provide specialized support that addresses emotional intensity, executive functioning concerns, and the intersection of giftedness with various exceptionalities. Through evidence-based interventions, personalized approaches, and collaboration with families and educators, we empower these exceptional children to overcome obstacles, develop resilience, and unlock their full potential. By embracing neurodiversity and nurturing the unique talents and abilities of 2e children, we create a world where they can thrive and make meaningful contributions. 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Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Stephen is a creative, dedicated, and passionate therapist with a background in behavioral health, education, and social services. He has wide-ranging experience working with people in all stages of life, helping them to become happier and healthier as individuals, in couples, and in families. He integrates art therapy to enable couples to connect emotionally and intimately. Strength, resiliency, and connection are essential elements of a lasting, satisfying, and harmonious relationship. Stephen believes that these are the building blocks for healing, forgiveness, and positive progress. He provides a safe, nurturing, and judgement-free space where couples can explore resolutions to a current problem, prevent an exacerbation of problems, or simply provide support for a couple experiencing a period of transition or increased stress. Stephen facilitates the discovery of fresh energy to create a healthy emotional connection. His approach is nurturing , thus enabling clients to engage with the healing power of their own personal symbols. This entails fostering self-agency to empower them to leverage their positive qualities in order to become more free, powerful, happy, and healthy. In addition to strength-based work, his therapeutic approach is trauma-informed in order to support clients in their process of trauma integration and healing. He provides treatment that activates the body, mind, and brain with expressive methods that are engaging and empowering. Stephen has worked with people of diverse culture and ethnicity. He brings the ability to relate to clients with authentic knowledge and sensitivity to culture and ethnicity. In particular, he has experience with interracial couples. NEURODIVERSE RELATIONSHIPS: Expertise Stephen offers expertise in supporting your unique neurodiverse relationship. He empathizes with the often-challenging themes that give rise to relationship stress: the dearth of emotional reciprocity and the challenge of maintaining meaningful balance with your partner and others in your life. Stephen provides a safe space enable you to share your feelings and expectations. He believes the willingness to improve communication and to be open to be open to managing expectations and finding solutions becomes the foundation of increasing trust in your relationship. Compassion and Insight Stephen presents a compassionate and understanding approach to neurodiverse couples’ therapy. This enables you both to gain fresh understanding and perspective. He helps nurture awareness in each partner of their own individual patterns, from these insights he invites adjustments to enable both partners to get more out of their relationship. The neurotypical partner gains insight that the neurodiverse retreat into safe behaviors and routine, is not a rejection but is a consequence of the Defense Mode. The defense mode being one hallmark coping strategy of the neurodiverse individual. Stephen supports the neurotypical partner process feelings of abandonment, frustration, and grief. Catharsis and forgiveness in both partners enable openness to positive feelings and increased self-esteem. Making Sense of Neurodiversity It is important that you both make sense of your neurodivergent partner’s behaviors. You may have pondered why anxiety can be a problem for your neurodiverse partner. Stephen shows you how anxiety can lead to impulsivity, melt-downs, rage, and withdrawal, all negatively impacting the relationship. More importantly he supports you both to strategize, problem-solve and better connect to make progress on the challenges to your special relationship. Fresh Perspectives By offering a fresh perspective, Stephen helps you both positively revaluate your relationship. He offers structure and effective tools to use, this enables reengagement and motivation for your partnership. Such understanding enables collaboration to use your combined strengths and resilience. Stephen believes that neurodiverse people have numerous assets such as loyalty, honesty, intelligence, strong values, the ability to work hard, generosity, and humor. He is passionate in using these qualities to bring you closer together. Communication Stephen supports effective communication and step-by-step actions to grow the loving connection you both deserve. This sensitive, nurturing process, enables neurodiverse individuals and their partners to feel supported in dealing with their communication challenges. The discontent in neurodiverse partnerships that comes from the lack of initiation of connection will be assuaged by enabling you both to safely verbalize your needs. Stephen’s will work with you on a relationship schedule. Your relationship schedule will ensure quality time is set aside to meet both your needs. Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): Children Couples’ relationships Separation and Divorce Parent and child conflicts Depression and Anxiety Trauma and Stress Grief and loss and shame Forgiveness and Self-forgiveness Modalities: Internal Family Systems, Emotion Focused Therapy, Jungian Therapy, Humanistic Therapy, Trauma-Informed Therapy Clients: Couples and Families, Adults, Adolescents, Children License: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT #149714 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Autism, Neurodiverse Couples, Emotional Intimacy, Trauma-Informed, Communication, Internal Family Systems, Emotion Focused Therapy, Accepting New Individual Clients Only Stephen Robertson Take an Autism Test

Quick Guide - Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Tip: Want more resources? 📖 Read our Article on Neurodiverse Couples Counseling for an overview of challenges, therapy approaches, and more. 📖 Visit our Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) Page if you have a specific question about our services you'd like an answer to. KEY FACTS The “Neurodiversity Magnet” : Many autistic and neurotypical partners feel an immediate and powerful attraction towards each other and their differences . Autistic partners are often admired for their focus, intelligence, and stability, while neurotypical partners are valued for their social skills and support. This can feel like being “pulled together like magnets.” When Differences Become Challenges : Over time, those same differences can cause misunderstandings . Couples may feel like they are speaking “different languages,” leading to trust issues, arguments, distance, or struggles with parenting and intimacy. Yes, Empathy Is Possible : Some people wrongly believe that autistic partners cannot feel love or empathy. In reality, they do feel empathy—they just may show it in different ways ( Double Empathy Problem ). With the right tools, both partners can better understand and connect with each other. Therapy That Works : Research shows that couples who participate in solution-focused therapy show an increase in “solution talk” and positive reinforcement , which helps partners move away from blame and start expressing emotions more openly (McDowell et al., 2023). Change Takes Time, But It Happens : Autism is not a “fixed” condition. With patience and the right kind of therapy, many couples see progress and grow closer over time—leading to relationships that feel more relaxed, connected, and rewarding. ABOUT US With a team of over 30 therapists, we are the largest practice dedicated exclusively to supporting neurodiverse individuals and couples. Our Approach: We use a neurodiverse counseling model that is tailored to each couple. This model involves focusing on the challenges that often create distance—such as communication breakdowns, sensory sensitivities, and differences in social or executive functioning. Rather than turning these differences into blame or criticism, we help partners reframe them as opportunities to build empathy, strengthen teamwork, and create a more connected relationship. Our neurodiverse counseling model often integrates strengths-based, neuro-affirming strategies that emphasize safety, communication, and mutual understanding. We complete over 16,000 sessions a year , giving us a deep well of experience supporting neurodiverse couples and individuals on their journey toward connection and growth. Our Team: Our experts are deeply compassionate and dedicated to helping neurodiverse couples thrive. Three things set our team apart: Ongoing Specialized Training – Every therapist receives weekly training on neurodiversity-focused content, ensuring our approaches stay current and effective. Collaborative Case Support – We hold weekly case consultations and supervision so that no couple’s challenges are handled in isolation—your therapist has a full team behind them. Continuous Professional Growth – All team members pursue ongoing continuing education in neurodiverse relationships, keeping us at the forefront of best practices. Insurance — We are insurance-friendly. As an out-of-network provider, we will send you a Superbill for therapy services that you can submit to your insurance company for potential reimbursement. Please know that we do NOT bill insurance directly or participate as an in-network provider. For more information, please visit the "Insurance/Fee" section on our FAQ page. Diagnosis optional — You don’t need a diagnosis to participate. If you’re in California and want to explore an autism or ADHD diagnosis, our team can help. A quick note on crises — We’re not a crisis service. If you’re ever in immediate danger, call 911 . For urgent mental health support, call or text 988 . Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center is part of New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. WHO WE HELP We support neurodiverse couples nationwide through online therapy or coaching. We support couples who are navigating neurodiversity in any capacity. Some common issues include: Autism/ADHD differences Cassandra Syndrome Support Highly Sensitive People Parenting and co-parenting challenges Intimacy (both physical and emotional) Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Recurring discussions about “tone,” initiative, alexithymia , or intimacy Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) LEARN MORE 📖 Read our Article on Neurodiverse Couples Counseling for an overview of challenges, therapy approaches, and more. 📖 Visit our Neurodiverse Couples Counseling FAQ for practical details about our services. Last reviewed: Aug 26, 2025 • Authors: Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT (Clinical Director) and Jasmyne Mena (Director of Clinical Research & Scientific Communications) GETTING STARTED We would love to create a safe place for you to break the painful patterns of the past and communicate in a new way. Please fill out our contact form and we will be glad to connect you with one of our team members. 10 secrets of happy neurodiverse couples… . (2024, September 4). BPS; The British Psychological Society. https://www.bps.org.uk/psychologist/10-secrets-happy-neurodiverse-couples Calderoni, S., Billeci, L., Narzisi, A., Brambilla, P., Retico, A., & Muratori, F. (2016). Rehabilitative Interventions and Brain Plasticity in Autism Spectrum Disorders: Focus on MRI-Based Studies. Frontiers in Neuroscience , 10 . https://doi.org/10.3389/fnins.2016.00139 McDowell, C. N., Bryant, M. E., & Parker, M. L. (2023). Decoding Neurodiverse Couples Therapy: A Solution-Focused Approach. Sexuality & Disability , 41 (2), 255–273. https://doi-org.libproxy.csudh.edu/10.1007/s11195-022-09765-9 Milton, D., Waldock, K. E., & Keates, N. (2023). Autism and the ‘double empathy problem.’ In F. Mezzenzana & D. Peluso (Eds.), Conversations on empathy: Interdisciplinary perspectives on imagination and radical othering (pp. 78–97). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9781003189978-6 Mitchell, P., Sheppard, E., & Cassidy, S. (2021). Autism and the double empathy problem: Implications for development and mental health. British Journal of Developmental Psychology, 39(1), 1–18. https://doi.org/10.1111/bjdp.12350 Taylor, E. C., Livingston, L. A., Clutterbuck, R. A., Callan, M. J., & Shah, P. (2023). Psychological strengths and well-being: Strengths use predicts quality of life, well-being and mental health in autism. Autism : the international journal of research and practice , 27 (6), 1826–1839. https://doi.org/10.1177/13623613221146440 Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Group therapy for Neurodiverse couples who are looking for a supportive setting to learn strategies for stronger communication and connection. NEURODIVERSE COUPLES GROUP < Back FEELING ALONE IN YOUR NEURODIVERSE RELATIONSHIP? Join us for Different Minds, One Heart: A Neurodiverse Couples Group Our group goal is to provide a safe space for you to speak with other neurodiverse couples about how neurodiversity affects your relationship. Most couples quickly realize that their issues sound similar to everyone else's. This helps lessen the shame and stress you may be feeling and, hopefully, be more open to learning new ways to change and grow. Furthermore, a group can inspire awareness and change that individual therapy or solo work cannot. Group dynamics can provide different perspectives and experiences, and these dynamics can be powerful as you explore a greater awareness of your neurodiversity.… Show More

What is AuDHD? You’ve probably heard of autism . You’ve likely heard of ADHD . But what happens when you live with both—at the same time? That’s AuDHD , a combination of Autism and ADHD. It’s more common than most people realize, and it can feel like your brain is constantly flipping between two operating systems—each with its own needs, quirks, and frustrations. ➤ Maybe you love routine… but you can’t stick to one. ➤ Maybe your brain hyper-focuses for hours… but also forgets to eat lunch. ➤ Maybe one day you crave social interaction, and the next, you want to hide from the world. If this sounds familiar, you might be AuDHD—and you’re definitely not alone. Think you might be AuDHD? Let's chat now! How AuDHD Shows Up in Daily Life Living with both ADHD and autism can feel like a push-pull between competing needs. Here are a few ways this might look in real life: You crave structure (autistic trait) but struggle to follow routines (ADHD trait) You hyperfocus on creative ideas but forget deadlines or appointments You want to socialize like an ADHD brain… but the sensory overwhelm of autism kicks in You’re masking constantly—managing both autistic traits and ADHD impulsivity Want someone who actually gets this? Schedule a free consultation with a neurodiverse-affirming therapist. Is AuDHD a real term? AuDHD isn’t an official diagnosis in the DSM—but it’s a real experience for many people. It describes someone who meets criteria for both Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) . Both are neurodevelopmental conditions. Both can affect how you think, socialize, feel emotions, and process the world. And when they overlap, it creates a very specific experience that deserves tailored understanding. ADHD vs Autism: What’s the Difference? While there’s overlap, the core traits of autism and ADHD come from different places: Autism Traits ADHD Traits Difficulty with social communication Difficulty with attention/focus Repetitive behaviors & routines Impulsivity and hyperactivity Deep, specific interests Easily bored, jumps between ideas They can look similar on the outside—but the reason behind the behavior often differs. Examples: Trouble with friendships? ➤ Could be autistic social fatigue or ADHD impulsivity. Struggling to focus? ➤ Could be autistic deep-focus on a special interest or ADHD distractibility. Sensory issues? ➤ Both can have them—but the triggers and intensity vary. Need a clear answer? We offer evaluations that consider both autism and ADHD. How Common Is AuDHD? Research shows that: 30% to 80% of autistic individuals also show signs of ADHD 20% to 50% of those with ADHD may also have autistic traits Scientists believe both may share genetic and neurological roots—affecting brain areas tied to social connection, attention, and emotional regulation. Translation: You're not imagining it. You're not broken. You're wired differently—and that matters. Curious where you fall? Schedule a call with our Care Coordinator. Whole-Person Support for AuDHD Adults and Couples Living and loving with both autism and ADHD isn’t a “flaw” to be corrected—it’s a wiring difference that shapes everything from morning routines to midnight heart-to-hearts. We meet you (and, if you choose, your partner) right there, offering care that’s practical, trauma-informed, and relationship-centered. Important: We don’t believe in "fixing" you to be neurotypical. Therapy should help you function in the world—without losing who you are. ➤ Healing Old Hurts Many AuDHD adults carry scars from being misunderstood or pressured to “act normal.” We use gentle, body-based and talk-therapy methods to calm the nervous system, release stuck memories, and rebuild self-worth—without asking you to change who you are. ➤ Strengthening Your Connection AuDHD dynamics spark both creativity and friction. We guide couples to: read each other’s signals (hyper-focus vs. distraction, sensory highs & lows) blend comfort needs with closeness turn misfires into teamwork create rituals that protect connection—even on chaotic days Partners can also work one-on-one to polish their side of the dance. ➤ Social Skills Support Thriving at Work and Home Missed emails, forgotten laundry, buzzing ideas that never land—sound familiar? We blend practical planning, workplace advocacy, and gentle accountability so your brilliance shines without nonstop masking. ➤ Social Skills Support New Tools That Stick From emotion-regulation drills to values-based goal setting and mindful-movement breaks, we customize skills practice to fit your wiring—no alphabet-soup jargon required. ➤ Medication (When Appropriate) When focus boosters or calming supports might help, we team up with your prescriber to fine-tune a plan that respects your goals and your neurology. Note: We don’t prescribe, but we can coordinate with your provider. Looking for a treatment plan that actually fits? Let’s build it together. You Might Be AuDHD If… ( A mini self-checklist ) ➤ You love structure, but forget what day it is ➤ You hyper-fixate and procrastinate—sometimes at the same time ➤ You bounce between social butterfly and hermit mode ➤ You’ve spent years masking—and you're exhausted ➤ You’ve been told you're “too much” and also “not enough” Check off a few? That’s reason enough to reach out. Let’s talk. You Deserve to Be Understood If you’ve been misdiagnosed, misunderstood, or told to “just try harder,” you’re not alone. Living with AuDHD can feel overwhelming—but it’s also an opportunity to understand yourself in a deeper, more compassionate way. Get matched with a therapist who gets AuDHD. Start with a screener → Share Your Info → Free consult → Personalized support You’re not too much. You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. You’re just wired differently—and you deserve care that honors that. Ready to Get Started? Click Here! 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Sex Therapy for Neurodiverse couples who are struggling to connect and want to learn how to increase intimacy in a safe, affirming environment. NEURODIVERSE SEX THERAPY < Back IGNITING THE SPARK IN YOUR NEURODIVERSE RELATIONSHIP Sexual intimacy is an important part of a couple’s relationship. Yet, it can feel like an unsurmountable challenge for neurodiverse couples to overcome. To make matters worse, sex often becomes so emotionally loaded that the couple will make an unspoken agreement that the topic is off limits for discussion. So, it should not be surprising that one study showed that 50% of neurodiverse couples had no sexual activity at all. Fortunately, with outside help, there is hope! Addressing the barriers to a healthy sex life with an understanding and acceptance of neurodiversity can set a couple on path to revive their sex life or… Show More

OCD vs Autism autism friendly stress relief Overload is real, not rude. Your mind and body are off-line. More words won’t regulate; breath will. Use breath as first aid. Start solo. Do it together when you're ready. It’s quick, concrete, and science-backed. Here’s exactly how. First, name it with a cue you both agree on. Try: "breath break," “red light,” “reset,” “time-in,” “quiet minute,” “buffer,” or “storm pause.” The cue means to stop talking, and start the breath exercise. Pick one of two ways to breathe: Option A — Physiological Sigh for fast relief. Two short inhales through the nose, then one long, unhurried exhale through the mouth. Repeat for 1–3 minutes. Research: Daily cyclic sighing has better results than mindfulness for improving mood in a randomized trial. Option B — Resonance Breathing for deeper regulation. 4 seconds in, 6 seconds out Repeat for 2–5 minutes. Research: This pace reliably boosts vagal activity and steadies the system. If breathing together feels hard, you’re not failing—you’re flooded. Say, “I need two minutes to breathe on my own,” to settle your system. Then decide if you can come back together. Remember that co-regulation is a skill you can work on in therapy.Solo regulation is a valid step on the way there. Make it autism-friendly. Keep it simple. Minimize noise and distraction. Tailor the environment so it's sensory-safe. Use a visual pacer (see the example below). When and if you’re ready, do it side-by-side. Hand-in-hand or shoulder-to-shoulder, and match pace. Gentle partner touch increases respiratory and heart-rate coupling under stress. Do your breath work before tough talks.And after, especially if you feel revved up. Do it nightly to lower your baseline. Two minutes of breath work every day can save hours of spiraling later.Need help working on this with your partner? [Click here to schedule a session today] Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Note 1: For a short video explaining the “Physiological Sigh”: https://youtu.be/rBdhqBGqiMc?si=MohtB6FddBw3C8rS&t=7 Note 2: For visual guides to breathing: https://duffthepsych.com/anxietygif/ https://healthymonday.com/stress-management/6-gifs-to-help-you-relax © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these statements may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. 🔦 Spotlight on Shea Davis Specialties Neurodiverse Couples Cassandra Syndrome Support Communication Addiction, Trauma, Betrayal Recovery Blended Families Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse) Emotionally Focused Therapy Internal Family Systems Life Experience Lived 24 Years in a Neurodiverse Marriage. I know the highs and heartbreaks of a relationship where love is real—but miscommunication is constant. That lived experience grounds the way I support couples navigating similar dynamics. Parented a Brilliant, Struggling Neurodivergent Son. As a mom and advocate, I learned to interpret, adapt, and create safety for a child the world didn’t always understand. That shaped my deep respect for nervous system differences and co-regulation. Rebuilt After Addiction, Trauma & Betrayal. I’ve walked through collapse and come out the other side—with hard-earned insight into recovery, boundaries, and how to rebuild relationships rooted in mutual safety. Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT # 154799, Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Get Booked with Shea! Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Autistic Men FROM SHAME TO ACCEPTANCE “Normal is an ideal. But it’s not reality. Reality is brutal, it’s beautiful, it’s every shade between black and white, and it’s magical. Yes, magical. Because every now and then, it turns nothing into something.” ― Tara Kelly, Harmonic Feedback FIRST PRIORITY Our first priority is to be able to see the beauty of our differences . This journey may require rethinking a life of experiencing negative messages from society. This rethinking process must operate in the background of all the more tactical work that is done as it is critical to be able to show up in a way that is less defensive and more whole. SECOND PRIORITY Once this primary work is underway, a secondary goal of many of our autistic clients is to increase the ability to meet the needs of the neurotypical partner AND, at the same time, stay true to himself . It is a delicate balance, one that our therapy team will support you in. Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel EXAMPLE THERAPY ROADMAP When we work together, we will review the list below and together construct a session-by-session roadmap of our work together. STRENGTHS Identify your strengths and build a plan on how to leverage them in your relationship. Make peace with your Asperger traits. SENSORY PROCESSING Understand your sensory processing system. In basic terms, your sensory processing system is how your brain detects, prioritizes, and remembers what is happening around you and inside of you. Explore strategies to manage your sensory sensitivities so you can express them to your partner and build a management plan together. Learn ways to recognize, decompress, and communicate with your partner when you reach sensory overload/overwhelm and enter " defense mode". NON-LITERAL THINKING Learning alternatives to literal thinking and deciphering non-verbal communication . Executive Function Addressing executive function issues which may exist. “Tuning out” is a typical coping strategy of an autism profile. When this happens, one's partner understandably does not feel acknowledged or listened to. We explore lots of ways to address the needs of both partners to increase connection without overwhelming either partner. More specifically, we typically work on: Planning and organization skills Initiating tasks Multi-tasking versus one task at a time Self-monitoring Completing undesirable tasks Setting and communicating timetables We're here to help. Contact Us Now! PARTNERSHIP MINDSET Shifting one's worldview from a “ bachelor state of mind” to one of partnership or parent. Clearly identify differences in your primary relationship and ways to bridge the gap. Set your relationship goals that are consistent with your values and identity Prioritize Change Identify the absolutely most important behaviors and/or traits you want to work on because they are valuable to both of you (not all of them!). CONCRETE ACTION PLAN Build a plan to break goals into understandable concrete steps and a timetable for action that does not feel pressured. Determine the best approach for each skill/goal ; whether to learn by rote, by deeper understanding or by trial and error. Have a social skills mentor / accountability partner (not your partner!) Practice, practice, practice Learn how to collect and accept feedback (without freaking out or feeling shame, criticism or defensiveness). Once you've met initial goals, add a long-term maintenance plan to your roadmap. Learn to genuinely enjoy the journey. The efforts put in by the autistic partner are usually greatly appreciated by the neurotypical partner. That is why integrated therapy (couples plus individual therapy) can be so powerful. Wondering if you have Autistic traits? Curious about how autism may shape your experiences as a man? Take our Autism Screener to explore traits, gain insights, and access resources tailored to your unique strengths and challenges. The button below will take you to our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment . There, you'll be able to take our Free Online Adult Autism Screener and gain further insight. Adult Autism Screener In addition to support from the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center, we now have a site, Therapy 4 Autistic Men , dedicated to the unique needs of autistic men. Here, we: provide autism-focused & neurodivergent-affirming therapy help you feel safe, supported, and heard with compassion work with you to reduce anxiety, depression, masking & autistic burnout help with Autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (diagnosis available) work to lift self-esteem offer solutions for family conflict share strategies for work or school support for LGBTQIA+, transgender, nonbinary, and BIPOC clients offer support groups to help men find serenity and reduce frustration Our team members are: autistic and allistic (both perspectives can be helpful), men and women (yes, some of our male clients prefer a female therapist), athiest, agnostic, spiritual, people with deep faith, and single, divorced, in a committed relationship and married. Please feel free to get in touch via our contact form . Meet with our Client Care Coordinator Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Just Sit Next to Me! 😳 A few months ago, a client told me a story… (details changed for privacy) I stared at the towering stack of paperwork on my desk. Sweat beaded on my forehead as my heart raced. It wasn’t just the workload—it was the silence in the room. No one to bounce ideas off, no one to share the load. That day, I felt the hill of my life steepen, my energy drain. Then my partner popped in, cracked a joke, and sat beside me. Suddenly, the stack shrank—not in size, but in weight. I could breathe again. That’s when I realized: my brain wasn’t built to tackle this solo. Then we talked about Social Baseline Theory and autism. He said it hit him like a lightning bolt—and it’s been sparking insights ever since. 🌟 Wired for Connection, Not Solo Flights Humans don’t just crave connection—we’re engineered for it. Our brains assume we’ve got a crew, a tribe, a partner-in-crime. Social Baseline Theory (SBT) says it loud and clear: togetherness isn’t a bonus—it’s our baseline. When we’re linked up, life’s hills flatten, pain dulls, and energy flows. ● Studies show it: holding a loved one’s hand slashes pain perception. ● Even picturing a friend makes a steep climb feel doable. But here’s the kicker: this isn’t just for neurotypicals. Us neurodiverse folks—especially those with autism—feel this wiring too. It’s just that the world’s chaos can make it harder to plug in. 🧠 Social Baseline Theory: The Brain’s Quiet Expectation 🤝 What’s the Big Idea? SBT, cooked up by James Coan , flips the script: connection isn’t something our brains “turn on.” It’s the default. Alone? That’s when the alarm bells ring—everything gets tougher, scarier, heavier. ⚡ Proof in the Pudding Picture this: you’re eyeing a hill. Solo, it’s Mount Everest. With a pal, it’s a gentle slope. Brain scans back it up—connection literally lightens the load on our neurons. For us neurodiverse folks, though, it’s not always that simple. The same crowd that resources a neurotypical brain might zap ours dry. 🌈 Neurodiversity Meets SBT: Same Need, Trickier Path 🎨 Difference, Not Deficit Autism doesn’t mean we’re less human—we’re just wired with a unique rhythm. SBT still applies : we thrive with trusted connection. But crowded rooms or unpredictable chats? They can fry our circuits instead of fueling us. 🛠️ The Double Bind We need people—yet people can overwhelm. Familiarity becomes our superpower: a steady partner or a quiet co-worker can shift everything. Masking to fit in, though? That’s not connection—it’s camouflage, and it exhausts us. ● Ever notice how body doubling—someone just being there—unlocks focus? ● Or how a text thread feels safer than a loud party? Our brains still scream for belonging. We just dance to a different beat to find it. 🛠️ Interventions: How We Help You Harness Suffering Our neuro-informed specialists get it: connection isn’t one-size-fits-all. We don’t peddle vague “just talk more” nonsense. We dig into your wiring—your unique social baseline—and build from there. 🪄 What We Do Differently ● Decode Your Signals: We spot what fills your tank (a silent ally?) and what drains it (small talk hell?). ● Craft Safe Zones: We guide you to predictable, low-pressure connections that recharge, not overload . ● Ditch the Mask: We help you trade exhausting fakery for real, sustainable bonds. Imagine a life where your brain’s need for “together” doesn’t clash with your need for calm. That’s our mission: helping you find your people, your way. 🏋️♀️ Exercise: Map Your Social Baseline Ready to explore your own connection needs? Try this 6-step sparkler—it’s quick, punchy, and revealing. Pinpoint a Tough Moment: Think of a time recently when life felt steep or heavy. What were you facing? Solo or Supported? Were you alone or with someone? Jot down how that felt in your body. Spot Your Energy Shift: Recall a moment someone’s presence eased the load. Who was it? What did they do? Name Your Drain: What social stuff (noise, unpredictability) saps you most? Be specific. Find Your Sweet Spot: What kind of connection lifts you—quiet company, a text, a hug? List 3 ideas. Test It Out: Pick one from #5 and try it this week. Notice how your hill changes. No fluff—just a roadmap to your brain’s secret sauce. 🎯 The Takeaway: Connection’s Your Superpower SBT wasn’t built with autism in mind, but it still sings our tune. We’re not broken—we’re different, and we still need each other. The trick? Finding the right flavor of togetherness that fuels you, not frazzles you. You’re not alone in this dance. Let’s choreograph it together. Let's get started today! Warmly, Harry Motro Clinical Director Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Key Resources for Deepening Understanding For those eager to explore further, here are three valuable resources, each offering unique insights into SBT: ● Foundational Paper: The paper Social Baseline Theory: The Social Regulation of Risk and Effort introduces SBT, explaining how social relationships are integral to brain function and affect our perception of risk and effort. It’s a comprehensive starting point for understanding the theory’s core concepts. ● Current State Review: The article Social baseline theory: State of the science and new directions updates readers on recent developments, including new empirical findings and theoretical advancements, making it ideal for seeing how SBT has evolved. ● Cognitive Extension: The paper Cognitive Processes Unfold in a Social Context: A Review and Extension of Social Baseline Theory explores how SBT applies to cognitive functions like vision, memory, and attention, offering a deeper understanding of its broad implications, which might be unexpected for those focusing solely on emotion regulation. These links will take you straight into the heart of SBT—whether you’re after the science, the updates, or just a fresh take. Happy exploring! 🔦 Spotlight on Lea Choi Specialties Neurodiverse Couples Counseling ADHD & Autism Relationship Coaching Emotional Regulation Executive Functioning Support Complex Parenting Challenges Multicultural & Intercultural Relationships LGBTQIA+, Poly & Kink-Affirming Identity & Self-Exploration Life Experience Lived Experience in a Neurodiverse Relationship – Navigated firsthand the challenges of differing communication styles, sensory needs, and emotional processing. Bridging the Gap Between Neurotypes – Learned how to shift from misinterpretation and frustration to mutual understanding and connection. From Isolation to Communication – Overcame years of feeling unseen by developing relationship strategies that work for both partners, not just one. Reframing Love & Connection – Discovered that love isn’t always verbal—it can be expressed through small, meaningful actions. Understanding Sensory Overload & Emotional Regulation Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy University of Vermont – M.A. English Literature (2008) University of Cincinnati – B.A. English Literature (2002) Contact Lea Today! Did you miss the last Blog? Click Here to Read Now! Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Cassie Clayton, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Cassie Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Heather Emerson-Young Not accepting new clients See our other clinicians or Fill our our contact form to get matched At a Glance: My Journey & Experience Specialist in Neurodiverse Relationships – Supporting couples where one or both partners are autistic or neurodivergent Lived Experience in a Neurodiverse Marriage – Understanding firsthand the challenges and strengths of ND/NT relationships Mother of Two Unique Children – Parenting an 18-year-old and a 13-year-old, each with their own beautiful way of thinking, learning, and experiencing the world Diverse Educational Background – Master’s in Marriage & Family Therapy, degrees in Communication, and a Doctorate in Education Experience Across Multiple Fields – Over five years in nonprofit work supporting the unhoused, LGBTQ+ communities, and individuals with learning disabilities Dedicated Educator – Adjunct professor at community college, undergraduate, and graduate levels Neurodiversity-Affirming Therapist – Using evidence-based and strength-focused approaches to support clients Creating a Safe, Affirming Space for Neurodivergent Clients As a therapist, I am passionate about creating a compassionate, affirming, and effective space for neurodivergent individuals and couples. Too often, traditional therapy focuses on “fixing” neurodivergence rather than embracing it as a valid and valuable way of being. I specialize in working with autistic individuals, ADHDers, and neurodiverse couples by tailoring therapy to their specific needs. My approach is rooted in neurodiversity-affirming, evidence-based modalities that help clients navigate challenges while celebrating their strengths. Supporting Neurodiverse Couples 💑 Relationships where one or both partners are neurodivergent can be incredibly fulfilling—but they also come with unique challenges. Many couples feel stuck in cycles of miscommunication, emotional disconnect, and frustration , not realizing that neurological differences play a major role in these struggles. I help neurodiverse couples: Bridge Communication Gaps – Understanding how neurodivergence affects emotional expression and processing Navigate Sensory & Emotional Overload – Recognizing shutdowns, meltdowns, and coping mechanisms Reduce Conflict & Misinterpretations – Shifting from blame to understanding and finding shared strategies Create a Relationship that Works for Both Partners – Moving beyond "normal" expectations to embrace a neurodiverse love language My personal experience in a neurodiverse marriage allows me to deeply relate to these challenges. I know how isolating it can feel when both partners struggle to communicate effectively. Therapy is a judgment-free space where we explore new ways to foster connection, not by changing who you are, but by understanding each other better. Healing from C-PTSD As a Neurodivergent Individual Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) often stems from repeated relational trauma—experiences of neglect, emotional invalidation, or chronic stress in environments that felt unsafe. For neurodivergent individuals, these wounds can be compounded by a lifetime of being misunderstood, masked, or forced to conform to neurotypical expectations. I specialize in working with autistic and ADHD individuals who struggle with the lingering effects of C-PTSD, helping them rebuild a sense of safety, self-compassion, and authentic self-expression. My approach integrates polyvagal-informed therapy, somatic work, and neurodiversity-affirming techniques to support emotional regulation and healing from trauma in ways that align with each client’s unique neurotype. As a Neurodiverse Couple In relationships, unhealed C-PTSD can create painful cycles of miscommunication and emotional disconnect. A neurodivergent partner may struggle with hypervigilance, emotional shutdowns, or difficulty accessing and expressing emotions, while their partner might feel confused, rejected, or unable to offer the “right” kind of support. I help couples recognize how trauma responses—such as withdrawal, conflict avoidance, or emotional flooding—are not signs of a failing relationship, but rather deeply ingrained survival mechanisms. Together, we work on fostering mutual understanding, co-regulation strategies, and communication tools that help both partners feel safe, heard, and connected. Healing C-PTSD is not just about reducing distress—it’s about reclaiming the ability to fully show up in relationships with trust, authenticity, and resilience. Specialties: Neurodivergent & Neurotypical Couples Autistic Individuals & Family Members ADHD & Executive Functioning Support Complex Trauma & PTSD Substance Use & Co-Occurring Disorders Complex Parenting Challenges Identity & Self-Acceptance Who I Work With Couples – Navigating ND/NT and ND/ND relationships Individuals – Supporting autistic adults, ADHDers, and those exploring identity Teens & Families – Helping families adjust to neurodivergent needs Group Therapy – Community-based neurodiversity support Therapeutic Modalities Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) – Adapted for executive function and emotional regulation Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) – Building distress tolerance and interpersonal effectiveness Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) – Encouraging values-driven living Polyvagal Theory & Somatic Approaches – Supporting nervous system regulation Internal Family Systems (IFS) – Integrating different internal experiences Strength-Based & Person-Centered Therapy – Empowering clients by focusing on their unique strengths My Story When I fell in love with my husband, I was drawn to his brilliant mind, his unique perspective on the world, and his quiet depth of emotion . His neurodivergence wasn’t a barrier—it was one of the things I loved most about him. But over time, our differences became difficult to navigate. Where We Struggled When I needed to talk through an issue, he would retreat into silence —not because he didn’t care, but because conflict overwhelmed him. I misread his need for space as rejection , which led to resentment and loneliness. We both felt unheard and misunderstood, trapped in a cycle of miscommunication. For a long time, I didn’t know how to reach him. I worried that our love was slipping away. How Therapy Changed Everything It wasn’t until we sought therapy that I began to understand: His withdrawal wasn’t about me—it was about sensory overload and emotional regulation. He needed structured ways to communicate , not spontaneous emotional processing. I needed reassurance and engagement, even in small ways, to feel connected. Through therapy, we: Developed new communication tools – He practiced verbalizing when he needed space, and I learned how to give him time without feeling abandoned. Created s hared coping strategies – We found structured ways to process emotions without overwhelm. Rekindled our connection – By embracing our neurodivergent differences instead of fighting them. This experience reshaped how I approach couples therapy. I want to help others avoid the years of pain and confusion we went through and find strategies that truly work for their unique relationship. Let's Work Together Whether working with individuals or couples, I believe therapy should be a collaborative and affirming journey where clients feel heard, understood, and validated. My goal is to provide the tools and insights needed to honor neurodivergent ways of thinking and being while fostering authentic and meaningful relationships. If you or someone you know is seeking an affirming therapeutic space, I would be honored to support that journey. Please feel free to reach out for a consultation to learn more about my approach. Education & Professional Background Master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy Bachelor’s and master’s degrees in communication Doctorate in Education Worked in non-profit organizations for over 5 years including working with the unhoused, LQBTQ+ support organizations, and school learning disability programs An adjunct community college, undergraduate, and graduate school professor Credentials Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT #154676 Bachelor’s and master’s degrees in communication Doctorate in Education Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Specialty Areas: ADHD, ASD/Allistic Couples, Addiction, Assessment, AuDHD, Autism, Communication, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Trauma-Informed, DBT, CBT, ACT, IFS, Emotional Intimacy, Not Accepting New Clients Heather Emerson-Young Take an Autism Test

Neurodiverse Communication TIP: Want answers fast? Check out our 📄 Quick Guide on Communication in Neurodiverse Relationships for key facts, FAQs , and why you should choose us. SPEAKING DIFFERENT LANGUAGES? Why do we feel like we are speaking different languages when we try to talk to each other? Do your partner's words sound like "blah blah blah...", where you are not really hearing each other? What hijacks our ability to communicate effectively? Do your conversations sound like: Tammy: "Look at me when I talk to you." Tim: "I am trying to but you're not making any sense. You said to walk the dog as soon as I felt like it. I never felt like it." Tammy: "You know that the dog needs a walk every day." Tim: "But you never said that." Tammy: "I've said that a million times. You just don't listen." I don't know of ONE neurodiverse couple who doesn't fall into this type of communication trap.. The root issue is: "We don't see the world the way the world is...we see the world the way WE are". We will continue to miscommunicate until we become aware of our different COMMUNICATION STYLES. WHAT'S YOUR COMMUNICATION STYLE? The neurodiverse and neurotypical communication styles can be broken down as follows: Logical vs. Emotional Concrete vs Abstract Absolutist vs. Relative Avoidant vs. Insistent Furthermore, we send and receive information through the following filters : our expectations and stereotypes, our wounds or defensiveness, our past experiences, and our mood at the moment. It is clear that many powerful forces color the way we hear our partner and express ourselves. COMMUNICATION STRATEGIES Our therapists are equipped with special tools and strategies to support you as you learn to communicate across the neurodivide. Some of the common strategies include: RECOGNIZE PATTERNS WITHOUT BLAME As a result of communication style differences and personal filters (as mentioned above), every couple will eventually fall into unproductive communication patterns. The first step to work on the unproductive pattern is to take an honest look at the pattern WITHOUT blaming each other. We encourage the framework to be: the " couple versus the pattern" , as opposed to " me against you ". With this team approach, the couple will learn how to describe the pattern in a clear way so they both agree what's happening. Next, they learn to recognize when the pattern starts and how to pause together and notice it. And, then they commit to ways to change the pattern when it happens in real life. CREATE TIME TO PROCESS Autism Spectrum (AS) partners often require additional time to process the issue at hand, especially if change is associated with the topic. To lessen the impact of processing times, the couples should collaborate to lessen the pressure for a quick response. An example of this could include sharing topics in advance. Also, talk times should be scheduled so that each partner has the energy to fully engage in the conversation. BITE-SIZED CONVERSATIONS Neurodiverse couples often need structure in their communications. Although this may initially seem cumbersome, many couples save HUGE amounts of time over the long term by communicating well up front. An example of breaking communication into steps is as follows: understanding the other's point of view, exploring the other partner's point of view, being clear about the feelings involved, being clear about the goal or request, brainstorming options, agreeing to try an approach, reviewing how it went, and affirming each other's efforts throughout the process. STARTING WELL Neurodiverse couples do well to avoid criticism and defensive . To do so, before you jump into the content of the conversation, introduce your topic with: a clear statement of your intention to be constructive , and your commitment to place a higher importance on the relationship than individual issues. Agree that you will pause the conversation if one person feels criticized. If the criticism/defensiveness pattern happens, reassure the partner and address these feelings before resuming the talk about content. BE CLEAR ABOUT DESIRES Let go of the fantasy that your partner should read your mind. "Theory of Mind" is regularly over-estimated in a typical relationship and even more problematic in a neurodiverse one. We encourage you to think of a strong relationship as one where: each person knows what they need, each partner can express that need with kindness and clarity to the other partner, the other partner truly considers it, the other partner lets the person making the request KNOW that he/she considered it, and the other partner feels free to explore and negotiate the request and then say yes or no. PUT IT IN WRITING By the way, clarity is often served by putting thoughts and feelings in writing. Many couples find it helpful to write out your thoughts before a conversation and, after reflecting on those thoughts, read them to your partner. Also, it can be helpful to take notes when listening. FIND TIME TO TALK If you rarely talk to each other, we suggest that you turn your communication into a new set of "habits" . The couple can work together to systematically build conversation into your daily routine. This may start out feeling forced but, with practice, will begin to feel organic and rewarding. Begin this process by making small adjustments to your schedules. Block regular times on your calendar (every day). Find bits of downtime and commit to talking to each other. Don't do this too fast because that may lead you to feel overly discouraged by inevitable failures. Rather, go slow and have small successes that encourage you. Examples of "small" ways to communication include: Agree to 3-minute greetings when you depart in the morning (even if you are working in the same house and going to different rooms). Pick one meal per day and have each person initiate a conversation on a topic. Get up 10 minutes earlier than usual so you can share your plans for that day. If you watch TV together, after it ends, take 10 minutes to share your thoughts about the show. For 10 minutes before going to sleep, try some ‘pillow talk’ to share thoughts that are sitting with you as you end your day. NON-VERBAL COMMUNICATION There is a well-known quote that says: "Someone with Autism has taught me that love needs no words." In the midst of learning all the skills discussed above, please remember that there are many ways to love someone. We hope that you always remain open to all kinds of expressions of love and appreciation. DOUBLE EMPATHY PROBLEM The Double Empathy Problem is a concept that has been gaining more attention in recent years, particularly in relation to Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). It refers to the idea that both neurotypical individuals and autistic individuals may struggle to understand each other’s perspectives, leading to communication breakdowns and misunderstandings. ORIGINS The Double Empathy Problem was first proposed by Damian Milton, a researcher and autistic activist, in his 2012 paper “On the Ontological Status of Autism: The ‘Double Empathy Problem’”. Milton argued that the traditional approach to autism research and intervention, which focuses on identifying and treating deficits in autistic individuals, fails to take into account the role of social and cultural context in shaping communication and interaction. According to Milton, both neurotypical and autistic individuals have their own unique sets of social and communicative norms, and failure to understand and accommodate for these differences can lead to mutual misunderstandings. IMPLICATIONS FOR AUTISM The Double Empathy Problem has important implications for how we think about and approach autism. One of the key implications is that interventions that focus solely on changing autistic behavior and communication may not be effective in improving social interactions with neurotypical individuals. Instead, it may be necessary to work on improving understanding and accommodation of autistic communication styles and social norms by neurotypical individuals as well. Furthermore, the Double Empathy Problem challenges the traditional notion that autistic individuals are inherently deficient in social skills or empathy. Rather, it suggests that social communication difficulties may arise from a lack of mutual understanding and accommodation between individuals with different communication styles and norms. OUR APPROACH In order to address the Double Empathy Problem, we propose. These include: Increasing your awareness: Raising your awareness about the Double Empathy Problem and the unique communication styles and social norms of autistic individuals can help to improve understanding and accommodation by neurotypical partners Collaborative communication: Encouraging collaborative communication and co-construction of meaning, where both parties work together to create shared understanding, can help to bridge communication gaps and reduce misunderstandings. Neurodiversity acceptance: Embracing neurodiversity and recognizing the value of different communication styles and social norms can help to promote greater understanding and accommodation of our autistic partners. GETTING STARTED We would love to create a safe place for you to break the painful patterns of the past and communicate in a new way. Please fill out our contact form and we will be glad to connect you with one of our team members. Meet with our Client Care Coordinator Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Adela Stone Not accepting new clients See our other clinicians or Fill our our contact form to get matched Adela is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who graduated with an MA in Clinical Counseling. She also has a Master’s degree in Journalism which she received in Europe where she is from. She speaks three languages and understands the need to tailor therapy based on cultural backgrounds. Her experience as an immigrant helps Adela to empathize with her client’s life challenges, and her early parental and spousal losses enable her to connect with others in mourning. It has also boosted her resilience and given her a worldview atypical for her age. She has gone through a big marital challenge herself during her current second marriage and has undergone couples therapy. She is now a part of a blended family which enables her to understand some of the tricky dynamics of step parenting. NEURODIVERSE COUPLES: The most common complaint of a neurotypical person in partnership with a neurodiverse person is the partner's rigidity. Often, the individuals in this type of relationship suffered attachment injuries. Making Sense of Differences I can help you shed light on some of your partner's behaviors and make sense of the hurt, misunderstanding and resentment you may feel. It is normal to go through grieving: for the past of your relationship that wasn't neurotypical as well as for the future of your union that will be always be a bit different. Your brains aren't wired the same way. Neuroscience research show us that People with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) may appear stuck or have shutdowns or meltdowns because they are often in a state of overwhelm in which someone with Asperger's is scared, frustrated, or angry, as well as withdrawn. This state is often referred to as Defense Mode. Defense Mode I can help you understand the Defense Mode that a neurodivergent person often employs so that you can help yourself or your partner from shutting down so often. Perhaps you know what the signs of Defense Mode are by now. The neurodivergent partner isn't trying to be mean. In fact, they are doing the best they can with the emotional resources they have, AND they can do better: for the sake of both of you as human beings worthy of love and acceptance, and for the sake of the future of your relationship. There are ways to help yourself or your loved one come out of Defense Mode. The two fundamental ones center around decompression time and trust building which is comprised of four necessary pillars that we can work on putting together. Your partner isn't being willful. Their definition of an issue you are dealing with just isn't the same as yours. Listening to Understand Talking in order to connect is a basic human need but we need to have a common shared understanding first. The message about what this shared understanding actually is can get blurred or corrupted. If you have a common language you can define shared values and shared expectations. Remember that forcing a conversation will lead nowhere. We can work on how to ensure an important conversation does take place though. I'm sure you know listening is important but are you actually using efficient and respectful listening with your partner? If you are, both of you will experience less frustration. Listen to understand, not to form a defensive retort in your mind as they speak. Understand what it is like to be them. I get that it isn't fair to you, the neurotypical partner, it feels as though you are doing all the work. I agree, it isn't fair but you are in a partnership and are here so I assume you do want to try. I am in the business of hope and positivity and would like to offer you some. I have seen neurodiverse marriages succeed. Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): Healthy Grieving as a Couple Couples going through life transitions Co-parenting Kink-aware couples therapy Couples with mismatched sexual desires LGBTQIA+ ally Differences in sexual taste and style Guidance through nonmonogamy/polyamory Blended families/step families Languages: Fluent in Czech, French and English Clients: Couples, Families, Young Adults Modalities: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Mindfulness-based Therapy, Gestalt, Positive Psychology, Existential Therapy, Art Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy. License: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT #143787, APCC #9260 Specialty Areas: Sex/Physical Intimacy, Kink/Poly-Affirmed, Neurodiverse Couples, Cassandra Syndrome Support, DBT, Intimate Partner Violence, Blended Families, Emotional Intimacy, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Not Accepting New Clients Adela Stone Take an Autism Test

Alexithymia Do you struggle to recognize and express emotions? Do you feel a bit confused whenever a friend asks "How are you?" Are you uncomfortable around others who are processing their emotions? Do you prefer to "live in your head?" If you answer is "I think so" to most of these you, are probably in the right place. WHAT IS ALEXITHYMIA? Alexithymia is a condition characterized by challenges in identifying, understanding, and expressing emotions. Individuals with alexithymia may find it difficult to recognize their own feelings or the feelings of others. This can lead to challenges in forming and maintaining relationships, as well as navigating various social situations. Our counseling group recognizes the unique needs of individuals with alexithymia and offers specialized support to help them navigate their emotional experiences. Do I suffer from Alexithymia? Wondering if you may have difficulty identifying and expressing emotions? Take our Alexithymia Questionnaire to gain insight into your emotional awareness and discover resources for support and growth. The button below will take you to our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment . There, you'll be able to take our Free Online Alexithymia Questionnaire and gain further insight. Alexithymia Questionnaire 7 SIGNS OF ALEXITHYMIA Difficulty Identifying Emotions: Individuals with alexithymia may struggle to label and identify their own emotions accurately. This can make it challenging to communicate their feelings to others. Limited Emotional Vocabulary: A restricted emotional vocabulary is a common sign of alexithymia. Expressing nuanced or complex emotions may be particularly challenging for individuals with this condition. Physical Symptoms in Response to Emotions: Some individuals with alexithymia may experience physical symptoms, such as headaches or stomach aches, in response to emotions because they may struggle to recognize and process them cognitively. Difficulty Describing Emotional Experiences: Describing emotional experiences in detail can be challenging for those with alexithymia. They may find it hard to articulate the subtle nuances of their feelings. Difficulty Distinguishing Between Emotions and Bodily Sensations: Alexithymic individuals may have difficulty distinguishing between emotional experiences and bodily sensations, leading to confusion about the source of their feelings. Limited Imaginative Processes Involving Feelings: Creativity and imaginative processes related to emotions may be limited in individuals with alexithymia. This can affect their ability to engage in activities that involve emotional expression. Difficulty Understanding Social Cues: Alexithymia can contribute to challenges in understanding and responding to social cues, making it harder for individuals to navigate social interactions effectively. Ready to get help? THERAPEUTIC APPROACH TO ALEXITHYMIA At our counseling group, our therapists adopt a compassionate and individualized approach to working with clients experiencing alexithymia. We understand that each person's journey is unique, and our goal is to create a supportive environment that fosters emotional exploration and growth. We employ a range of therapeutic techniques tailored to the needs of individuals with alexithymia, including: Emotion Identification Exercises: Therapists work collaboratively with clients to develop strategies for identifying and labeling emotions. This may involve using visual aids, journaling, or other creative methods. Mindfulness and Body Awareness: Building awareness of bodily sensations and mindfulness practices can help individuals with alexithymia connect with their emotional experiences on a physical level, fostering a deeper understanding of emotions. Narrative Therapy: Through narrative therapy, individuals can explore and articulate their emotional experiences through storytelling. This approach allows for a more comprehensive understanding of personal narratives and emotional landscapes. Social Skills Training: Therapists may incorporate social skills training to help clients enhance their ability to recognize and respond to social cues, improving their interpersonal relationships. Final Words Living with alexithymia can feel isolating, but understanding the condition is the first step toward meaningful growth and connection. By recognizing the signs and seeking support, individuals can begin to bridge the gap between their internal world and the emotional landscape of those around them. Our counseling group is here to provide guidance, helping you develop the tools to better identify, process, and express your emotions. Remember, emotional awareness is a journey—one that doesn't have to be traveled alone. Meet with our Client Care Coordinator Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel