Looking Back Through Two Lenses Every relationship is made up of two unique perspectives . For neurodiverse couples, those perspectives may sometimes feel as if they come from entirely different worlds. But rather than seeing this as a challenge, consider it an opportunity. Taking time to reflect on the past year allows you to view your relationship through two distinct lenses, appreciating and learning from your differences. Reflection fosters curiosity, deepens understanding, and strengthens connection. Even if your relationship doesn’t feel ready for this kind of shared reflection right now, there’s still value in the process. You can explore your thoughts privately, with a trusted friend, or in therapy. Reflection helps nurture personal growth and paves the way for relational growth too. Your Reflection Blueprint 🌟 Now, take a moment to reflect on your year with these thoughtful questions. Each prompt is designed to help you uncover insights and set intentions for the year ahead. Highlights and Challenges ✨ What was the single best thing that happened this past year? What was the most challenging, and how did you navigate it? What brought unexpected joy into your life? What obstacles taught you something important? Personal Growth 🌱 How did you grow emotionally, spiritually, or physically? What unique strengths helped you tackle challenges? If you had to describe your year in one phrase, what would it be? Work and Time Management 🕒 What energized you most in your work or daily life? What drained your energy, and how could you shift that next year? How did your unique ways of thinking lead to creative solutions? Relationships and Connection 🤝 How connected or disconnected did you feel with your partner this year? What was one meaningful moment you shared together? How did your neurodiversity shape your relationship, positively or negatively? What is something your partner did that you’re grateful for? Couples-Specific Reflections ❤️ In what ways did your differences create opportunities for growth and learning? What was a moment when your perspectives clashed, and how did you handle it? How can you create space to better understand each other’s lens in the year ahead? What do you each need from the relationship moving forward? The Power of Curiosity and Acceptance 💡 When reflecting together, aim to be curious rather than critical. Each of you brings a unique lens to your relationship. For neurodiverse couples, exploring these lenses—whether shaped by autism, allistic norms, or other experiences—can turn conflicts into opportunities for connection. Curiosity fosters acceptance, and acceptance strengthens bonds. Even when your perspectives seem far apart, choosing to stay open can draw you closer. What If Sharing Feels Too Hard? 🌱 Not all relationships feel ready for this level of sharing, and that’s okay. If it feels too hard right now, let your partner know this is something you’d like to work toward. In the meantime, consider sharing your reflections with a trusted friend, family member, or therapist. Our neuro-informed specialists can help create a safe space for these conversations, making it easier for both partners to feel seen and understood. The Reflective Pause Effect in Relationships ❤️ The Reflective Pause Effect , supported by psychological research, shows that intentional reflection strengthens relationships by enhancing understanding and connection. For neurodiverse couples, this practice becomes a bridge to appreciating each other’s unique lenses and experiences. To take advantage of this effect: Set aside regular time for reflection. Identify how your differences shape communication. Seek guidance from therapy to deepen mutual understanding. By embracing this intentional practice, you can turn your differences into strengths, building a relationship rooted in empathy, curiosity, and shared growth. Click Here to Schedule! Wishing you clarity, connection, and compassion as you move into the new year! Warmly, Harry Motro Clinical Director 🔦 Spotlight on Liz McClanahan Specialties Neurodiverse Couples Therapy Autism & ADHD Parenting Autistic Children Intimacy, Sex Affair Recovery Anger Management Life Transitions Depression, Anxiety, Mood Disorders, Personality Disorders Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist Professional Qualifications Neurodiverse Couples Specialist Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology from Azusa Pacific University (APU) Dedicated to helping neurodiverse couples improve communication, reduce conflict, and increase intimacy. Life Experience Diagnosed with ADHD at age 17 Married 26 years to a neurodivergent husband Mother of three neurodivergent children: Age 21 – Autism/ADHD/twice exceptional, Age 18 – ADHD, Age 13 – Autism/ADHD Proud parent of LGBTQ+ identifying children Caregiver to parents diagnosed with cancer through treatment and end-of-life care Contact Liz Today! Did you miss the last Blog? Click Here to Read Now! Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Cassie Clayton, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Cassie Think You May be Have ADHD? The Structured Adult ADHD Self-Test (SAAST) may be used to identify adults who may have undiagnosed ADHD Take the SAAST Test Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Your Brain OUR BEAUTIFUL BRAINS UNHELPFUL NARRATIVES Many couples arrive in neurodiverse couples therapy with one or both of the following stories: Neurotypical Partner: "They don't' care about me" or "He just can't give me what I need." Autistic Partner : "I'm a failure." or "My partner is overly emotional." We are here to tell you that you are both mistaken. If you don't understand the problem you are trying to solve, it is virtually impossible to solve it. First, the root problem is that your brains are wired differently. Second, you are reaching conclusions based on your experiences of your partner's behaviors, not is what is happening inside. Third, once you begin to understand what and why a behavior is happening, you can begin to find a way to make your relationship work. Without his clear problem definition, you are more likely to: assume bad intent on your partner, blame yourself, and stay stuck without change indefinitely. These assumptions keep you locked in a state of conflict, isolation and misunderstanding. TRENDS IN BRAIN RESEARCH Ok, so how do brains with autism (autistic) differ from brains without autism (allistic)? Studies that make use of a brain-scanning technique called magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) have highlighted brain regions that are structurally distinct in people with autism. However, research has not uncovered a ‘characteristic’ brain structure for autism , meaning that no single pattern of changes appears in every autistic person. This reflects the wide variety across individuals in general. Nonetheless, there are some consistent differences that have emerged for subsets of autistic people . Some of these differences are summarized on the information table on this page. Unfortunately, making direct connections between brain structures and the differences in thinking styles, body awareness, use of emotional language, focused interests, literal language interpretation, pattern perception, and theory of mind is imprecise. BIOLOGICAL DIFFERENCES To understand the autistic brain at a deeper level, it is helpful to focus on the biological differences; thus examining the structural, functional, and neurochemical aspects rather than behavioral manifestations. Here's an overview emphasizing these biological distinctions: Neuroanatomy and Brain Structure Autistic brains can exhibit variations in brain structure compared to allistic brains. This includes differences in the size and development of certain brain regions. For example, studies have found early brain overgrowth in some young children with autism, and there are often variations in the cerebellum and amygdala, which are regions involved in motor control and emotional processing, respectively. Neural Connectivity There are notable differences in neural connectivity in the autistic brain. This encompasses both hyper-connectivity and hypo-connectivity in various brain regions. Hyper-connectivity might occur within certain areas, leading to enhanced abilities in specific tasks, while hypo-connectivity between different regions can affect integrative functions such as social cognition. Synaptic Function and Neurotransmitters Research indicates differences in synaptic function in autistic individuals. Synapses are the junctions where neurons communicate, and alterations here can impact neural communication. Additionally, variations in neurotransmitter levels and functioning, such as glutamate and serotonin, have been observed, which play a role in mood, learning, and sensory processing. Brain Plasticity The autistic brain may exhibit unique patterns of neuroplasticity – the brain's ability to change and adapt. This can influence learning and development. Neuroplasticity in autism is a complex area of study, with research indicating both enhanced and reduced plasticity in different contexts or brain regions. Cerebral Cortex Organization Differences in the organization of the cerebral cortex, especially in regions involved in social interaction, communication, and sensory processing, are noted in autism. This includes variations in the minicolumns – small units of neurons in the cortex – which may affect information processing. Genetic Factors Autism has a strong genetic component, with numerous genes identified that contribute to its development. These genes often play a role in brain development and functioning, influencing aspects like neuron growth and synapse formation. Sensory Processing and Integration At the biological level, differences in how sensory information is processed in the brain are evident in autistic individuals. This can be linked to the aforementioned differences in neural connectivity and brain structure, leading to atypical sensory experiences. These biological aspects underlie the wide range of experiences and abilities seen in autism, highlighting the complexity and diversity of the condition. As research continues, our understanding of these biological differences is constantly evolving, offering deeper insights into the neurological basis of autism. THE MAIN POINT We encourage you (both allistic and autistic) to be open to seeing your partner's behavior with a new level of acceptance, knowing that their behaviors are not a reflection of bad intent, lack of will, or an inability to care. With this in mind, building bridges in a relationship become immensely easier. FOR THE RESEARCH MINDED For excellent detailed explanations about the biological differences in the autistic brain, see: Spectrum: Autism Research News offers insights into how brain structure differs between people with and without autism, with a focus on regions like the hippocampus, amygdala, and cerebellum. They also discuss changes in brain structure during development and alterations in white matter. You can explore their content for more detailed visual representations and explanations here . NeuroClastic provides a series of infographics and detailed discussions on apraxia, agnosia, and similar processing disabilities in autism. These infographics explore how these conditions manifest and their impact on autistic individuals. The infographics are part of a broader series that delves into various aspects of neurological differences in autism. 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There’s a kind of pain that doesn’t show up on the outside. You’re still functioning. You’re getting through the day. But inside, you’re quietly falling apart. That’s what Cassandra Syndrome feels like. The name comes from Greek mythology. Cassandra was given the gift of prophecy—but cursed so that no one would believe her. She could see the truth. She cried out. And she was ignored. Sound familiar? You try to connect with your partner. You explain, you ask, you plead. And somehow… they still don’t get it. You end up feeling invisible. Like your emotions are too much. Like you’re the problem for wanting connection. And over time, something starts to crack. You begin to lose your sense of self. You question your reality. You feel emotionally starved in a relationship that looks fine on the outside. We see this all the time —especially in couples where one partner may be autistic or otherwise neurodivergent. It’s not about blaming your partner. It’s about recognizing that you are stuck in a painful cycle that’s eroding your strength. First, we help you reclaim your sense of self — your voice, your clarity, your wholeness. Only then can we work on healing the relationship itself, from a place of true stability. That’s why we created something new. It’s called the Cassandra Syndrome – Relationship & Identity Distress Scale (CS-RIDS-24 ). It’s a short, 5–7 minute self-assessment to help you name what’s happening inside you. It breaks your experience down into four areas: 💔 Relational Distress The constant ache of not feeling emotionally safe or close. 🧍♀️ Identity Erosion You’re still you—but barely. You can’t find your own voice anymore. 🗣️ Communication & Validation You say the words. They hear something else. And the cycle continues. 💪 Coping & Resilience You’re hanging in there. But it’s costing you more than anyone knows. Your total score gives you a clear picture of the weight you’re carrying. The four subscale scores help you—and your therapist—know where to begin healing. This tool was made by our team. For people like you. 👉 Take the CS-RIDS-24 Assessment If you’re living in that silent heartbreak… You’re not being dramatic. You’re not broken. And you’re not alone. We’re here for you—whether you need one-on-one support or want help navigating this together as a couple. With care, Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center and Believing Cassandra Take the First Step 🔦 Spotlight on Heather Emerson-Young Specialties Neurodivergent Couples Autistic Individuals & Family Members ADHD & Executive Functioning Support Complex Trauma & PTSD Substance Use & Co-Occurring Disorders Co-Parenting Challenges Parenting Twice Exceptional Children Identity & Self-Acceptance Specialist in Neurodiverse Relationships Life Experience Lived Experience in a Neurodiverse Marriage Mother of Two Unique Children – Parenting an 18-year-old and a 13-year-old. Diverse Educational Background – Master’s in Marriage & Family Therapy, degrees in Communication, and a Doctorate in Education Experience Across Multiple Fields – Over five years in nonprofit work supporting the unhoused, LGBTQ+ communities, and individuals with learning disabilities Dedicated Educator – Adjunct professor at community college, undergraduate, and graduate levels Neurodiversity-Affirming Therapist – Using evidence-based and strength-focused approaches to support clients Learn more about Heather! Disclaimer: The CS-RIDS-24 is intended for personal reflection and informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional support from a licensed therapist. For a deeper understanding of your experience and personalized care, we encourage you to speak with one of our neuro-informed clinicians. Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

There are a lot of words floating around these days. HSP. Autism. ADHD. Sensory. Empath. Neurodivergent. It can feel confusing, overwhelming—even invalidating. What do these labels actually mean? And more importantly… what do they mean for you ? That’s where we come in. Our job is to give you the tools to figure it out—with clarity, compassion, and zero pressure. You might be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) if… You feel things extra deeply. You notice what others miss. You get overstimulated easily—and you need real downtime to recover. Does this sound familiar? If so, you're not alone. Roughly 20% of people are Highly Sensitive. Want to learn more? Start here if you're in a relationship: Understanding the HSP in a Relationship Start here if you're exploring it on your own: What It Means to Be an HSP But what if there's more going on than HSP? HSP traits can overlap with autism and ADHD. That doesn’t mean they’re the same—but it does mean they’re easy to confuse. Autism vs. HSP: Both experience sensory overwhelm. But for autistic individuals, it’s often about processing difficulties . For HSPs, it’s more about emotional depth —a sensitivity to meaning, nuance, and relational energy. ADHD vs. HSP: Both can feel overwhelmed in busy environments. But ADHD is often marked by inattention or impulsivity . HSPs are more likely to feel over-focused —on emotions, subtle cues, or everything at once. Getting clear on what’s what can make all the difference—in how you manage life, relationships, and even self-talk. Want tools to help sort it out? Take the HSP Inventory: 👉 HSPI-24 Screener 📘 About the HSP Inventory Explore autism traits: 👉 Autism and Related Screeners Check for ADHD traits: 👉 ADHD and Related Screeners Still unsure? Let’s talk. You don’t need a label. You just need a path that fits you . 👉 Fill out our contact form to get started. Our team is here to help you take the next step. With care, Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Get Matched with a Therapist 🔦 Spotlight on Nancy Rushing Specialties Neurodiverse Couples Specialist HSP, ADHD, Autism, AuDHD, Sensory Sensitivities and Processing Sex Anxiety and Depression Parenting (Neurodivergent & Neurotypical) Social Anxiety Intimate Partner Abuse Perfectionism/High-Achievement Grief Chronic Illness/Caregiving Support Personal Experience I am AuDHD , living with both Autism and ADHD. I am a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) I am also raising two Highly Sensitive Children (HSC) Born and raised in the South—in Louisiana and Texas—by immigrant Chinese parents, both of whom are neurodivergent. Languages: English & Mandarin Chinese. Experienced various neurodiverse relationships through family, friends, partnerships, teaching, parenting and counseling. Learn more about Nancy! © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these questionnaires may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Neurodiverse Discernment Counseling TIP: Want answers fast? Check out our 📄 Quick Guide on Neuro-informed discernment counseling for key facts, FAQs , and why you should choose us. MEET EMMA AND LUCAS... (Not their real names) After years of being misunderstood and repeatedly working with therapists who didn’t grasp the nuances of their neurodiverse relationship, they’ve arrived at a breaking point. Their latest fight was the tipping point: Emma (neurotypical) felt deeply dismissed when Lucas (who has autism and ADHD) forgot their anniversary. Lucas was overwhelmed and shut down in response to Emma’s emotional reaction. Now Emma threatens divorce—but that threat rarely gets acted on. They don’t know what to do next. They find themselves questioning: Should we try to save this relationship? Work on Your Relationship Now! ON THE BRINK When a neurodiverse marriage is on the brink of falling apart, couples face the hardest choice of their lives. Here are some of the questions that haunt them: Is my neurodiverse partner capable of change? Am I? Do I even want to work on it? If I make a decision to work on it, how can I be confident that it is the right one for me, or for us? What have I missed? Do I have a blind spot? Is it fair for me to ask him/her to change if that's not who he/she really is? What happens to our children? Will they be better off with us staying together in an unhappy marriage? Whether to stay married or get divorced is a multi-layered decision process. One that will confound even the most discerning people. You will second guess yourself, ruminate over the decision, and even drive yourself to depression. Sometimes you'll be tempted to decide just to end the misery of uncertainty. Get Started Now! NUTS & BOLTS OF DISCERNMENT COUNSELING Discernment Counseling: It is a structured, time‐limited assessment process , not full couples treatment. Typically completed in five sessions or less (in the classic model). It’s designed to slow down the impulse to act (e.g., impulsive divorce or immediate “fix everything” therapy) and instead encourage a longer view of your relationship and a broader range of choices. It provides the critical information needed to evaluate the relationship and choose a path forward: either: (a) divorce/separation with more clarity, or (b) commit to a defined course of intensive couples therapy (in this context, neuro-informed therapy). For neurodiverse couples , this information includes the input of a neuro-informed couples specialist who understands how neurodivergent-neurotypical dynamics play out, can clearly explain what a 6-month roadmap of intensive therapy should look like for a neurodiverse couple, and can help map what specific contributions each partner needs to make (including adapting communication styles, expectations, and neurodiversity-informed strategies). In this tailored approach: Neurodiverse couples can find themselves in a particularly hopeless place , not just because of marital conflict per se, but because their differences are misunderstood —by each other, by previous therapists, and by social expectations. Discernment counseling offers a resource to clarify those misunderstandings. A partner who is a literal thinker (often characteristic of some neurodivergent individuals) can benefit even more from spending the extra time up front during these five sessions to have a very clear roadmap and explicit expectations of what the work together will look like. This clarity helps reduce ambiguity, which often derails neurodiverse relationships. A neurotypical partner who’s experiencing symptoms of Cassandra Syndrome (feeling unseen, unheard, unbelieved in their relationship) may be hesitant to commit to counseling without a deeper understanding of what’s involved and what to expect. Discernment counseling offers a low‐commitment, clarifying stage that builds confidence and understanding before diving into full therapy. During these sessions you will identify core areas that each partner needs to work on (with neurodiversity in mind)—giving clarity on what each person must do differently (e.g., pacing conversations, checking assumptions, learning each other’s sensory/emotional triggers). One of the key questions the couple will face is: “Are you willing to work on your contributions to the relationship—in light of your neurological wiring?” If both partners answer yes, you move forward into a defined period of neuro-informed couples therapy (often six months). After that, you revisit the decision about continued commitment vs. separation. If either partner answers no, the counselor supports a healthy separation process or helps make the status-quo as manageable as possible. BEACON OF HOPE We understand how lonely and desperate neurodiverse couples feel when on the brink of separation or divorce. Discernment Counseling offers a beacon of hope. Couples who go through this process often feel much better, no matter what path they ultimately choose. It provides clarity, reduces uncertainty, and instills a sense of empowerment. There is always hope, and we are here to support you every step of the way. Meet with our Client Care Coordinator Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

"Why can't you look me in the eye?" Have you ever heard or said this? In the realm of human connection, eye contact is often hailed as a cornerstone of intimacy and understanding. However, for those of us living in a neurodiverse relationship, the act of locking gazes isn't always the golden key to connection it's made out to be. For some of us, eye contact can be a challenge, a discomfort, even an impossibility at times. For these people, connection doesn't need eyes to flourish. In fact, it may be easier for them to listen deeply without maintaining eye contact. Yet, for their partners who are not neurodiverse, the absence of eye contact can sometimes feel like a gulf, a silent space where connection is sought but not found. It's a valid feeling, stemming from a world that teaches us to seek the soul in the eyes of another. This dissonance can be painful and can feel like rejection, even when it's anything but. It's crucial, then, to acknowledge this pain, to understand that it comes from a place of deep longing for connection, not from a lack of love or desire to understand. Next Steps: Start Seeing Differently Here are some steps we can take, together, to bridge this gap, to build a world where connection thrives in every look and in every look away: 1. Share Openly. For the neurodiverse partner, explain what eye contact feels like for you, and for the allistic partner, share why it's important to you. This mutual understanding is the foundation of empathy. 2. Find Your Language of Love: Connection wears countless faces. Discover yours. It could be through words of affirmation, shared hobbies, touch, or simply sitting side-by-side in comfortable silence. 3. Celebrate Small Victories: If eye contact is something you both wish to explore, approach it gently, as a journey you're on together. Celebrate the moments, however brief, where comfort is found in a shared glance. But remember, it's not a measure of progress in your relationship. 4. Seek Support, Together: You're not alone on this journey. When you're ready, reach out to one of our neurodiverse couples counselors. As you move forward, hold close the knowledge that connection is not confined to the eyes. It blossoms in the spaces we create for each other, in understanding, acceptance, and the countless ways we choose to say, "I am here with you." Ready to explore this journey further? Click Here To Match With An Expert All the best, Harry Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT, PsyD Dr. Motro is a registered Marriage and Family Therapist #53452 and the Founder/Clinical Director of the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center. Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule With Whitney Take an ASD/ADHD Screener Are you curious about whether or not you have autism/ADHD? Want to learn more about yourself and take the first step towards deeper self-understanding? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and Take An ASD/ADHD Assessment Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Neurodiverse couples therapy just got a major upgrade. We’ve fused the warmth and wisdom of expert human therapists with the precision of smart AI technology. The result? Unmatched clarity. Deeper understanding. Real connection. Think of it as your therapist, supercharged. They get the insights needed to help you finally bridge the gap and truly see each other. How AI-Assisted Therapy Can Work for You Our secure, confidential AI tools work in the background to support your therapist and empower your growth. Here’s how: 1. Capturing Every Detail, Accurately Have you ever left a session and wished you could remember a key moment perfectly? Our system creates a precise transcript of your sessions. This allows your therapist to review the exact words used, ensuring no important nuance is lost and that both perspectives are fully honored. 2. Uncovering Deeper Insights & Patterns Sometimes the biggest breakthroughs come from seeing the connections you didn't know were there. Our AI helps your therapist identify recurring themes, communication patterns, and hidden dynamics that emerge over time. This helps you both move past the surface-level issue and address the core patterns underneath. 3. Tools and Exercises Tailored Just for You Forget generic worksheets. Based on the specific themes of your session, our system helps your therapist create personalized homework, reflection prompts, and skill-building exercises . These are tools designed for your unique dynamic, helping you apply what you learn in therapy to your daily life. 4. Empowering Your Growth Between Sessions For those who enjoy exploring on their own, we can provide you with expertly crafted prompts to use with your own personal AI tools (like ChatGPT). This is a completely optional way for you to continue reflecting and discovering insights on your own terms, in a way that feels comfortable to you. Your Therapist is Always the Pilot Let's be clear: You are not in therapy with a robot. You are in therapy with a skilled, compassionate human who is an expert in neurodiverse relationships. The AI is simply a powerful co-pilot, handling data and spotting patterns so your therapist can focus entirely on what matters most: you, your partner, and your connection. Your therapist makes all clinical decisions. Empathy, trust, and human connection remain the heart of our practice. The AI provides data; your therapist provides the wisdom. Yo ur Privacy is Our #1 Priority We know that therapy is a private space, and sharing your story requires trust. Protecting your confidentiality is a responsibility we take very seriously. A Private, Enterprise-Grade AI: The AI we use is a secure, enterprise version of the technology, which is completely separate from public models like the free version of Gemini or ChatGPT. Your data is never used to train these public models. It all happens within our private, locked-down system. Protected Within Our Practice: Your session information is managed with the highest level of professional confidentiality. It remains securely within our practice's private system and is only accessed by our authorized clinical team for the purpose of supporting your care and ensuring you receive the best possible service. A Note on Public AI: If you choose to use the prompts we provide with your own personal AI tools, please know that those public platforms are not confidential. We will guide you on how to use them safely, and we always advise against sharing sensitive, identifying details on any public service. Is AI-Assisted Therapy Right for Us? This enhanced approach can be incredibly powerful if you: Often feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages. Want to move beyond recurring arguments and understand the root cause. Appreciate data-driven insights and a clear view of your progress. Are looking for practical, personalized tools to use between sessions. Value a therapeutic approach that is as unique as your relationship. An Innovative Option: Your Choice & Comfort This service is completely optional. We understand that this approach is new, and your comfort is our priority. If you prefer traditional therapy without these tools, we fully support and respect that choice. AI-assisted therapy is a specialized service currently offered by select therapists in our practice who have received specific training. If you are interested in exploring this option, please be sure to mention it when you schedule your consultation so we can match you with the right therapist. Ready to Discover a New Way to Connect? Experience the clarity that comes when human expertise and smart technology work together for you. Reach out today to learn more. [Schedule Your Free Consultation Today] Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

AI-assisted therapy autism AI is starting to show up in our counseling sessions. Clients bring it in. Sometimes it helps. Sometimes it hurts. Here’s the upside. For autistic partners, AI can act like a practice partner. It can suggest wording that feels clearer. It can help find the hidden emotion. It can flag tone that might come across the wrong way. It can give space to rehearse a hard conversation without judgment. Research on tools like TwIPS shows that LLMs can help autistic users rewrite texts so their intentions aren’t lost. Another study shows how AI “social coaches” lower anxiety when practicing conversations. That can be powerful. Especially when communication gaps fuel so much pain for neurodiverse couples. But there’s a dark side. Some partners are turning AI into a weapon. Typing in grievances. Getting back polished, one-sided arguments. Quoting the bot as objective truth. Even having AI “lecture” their spouse in front of kids. Conflict that once simmered now boils fast. Therapy progress gets undone. Trust erodes. Why? Because AI is a mirror. It reflects you. It validates what you feed it. AI wants to please you, so it may trash your partner. That’s where it gets dangerous. So how do you use it wisely? Set boundaries. No AI during fights. No quoting ChatGPT as “proof.” Limit your use so you don't get lost in the AI's perspective. Use it for prep, not combat. Draft your thoughts, then make them yours. Check AI results with a real person. Spend time just thinking. Listen to yourself. Bring it into therapy. If you’ve used AI, share what it said. We’ll unpack why it resonated—and what got left out. And help you can repair what's broken, with authentic listening and connection. [Click here to schedule a session today] Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center ***NEW*** AI-ASSISTED THERAPY We now offer AI-assisted Therapy to harness the good—clarity, practice, preparation—without letting tech replace human connection. See how we integrate AI safely and ethically here: https://www.neurodiversecouplescounseling.com/ai We’ll dive deeper into this in a future newsletter. © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these statements may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. 🔦 Spotlight on Nancy Rushing Specialties Neurodiverse Couples Specialist ADHD, Autism, Intimate Partner Violence Emotion Focused Therapy Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Sex/Physical Intimacy Emotional Intimacy Communication Life Experience I am AuDHD , living with both Autism and ADHD. I am a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) I am also raising two Highly Sensitive Children (HSC) Born and raised in the South—in Louisiana and Texas—by immigrant Chinese parents, both of whom are neurodivergent. Languages: English & Mandarin Chinese. Experienced various neurodiverse relationships through family, friends, partnerships, teaching, parenting and counseling. Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT #149167, Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Get Booked with Nancy! Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Gifted, But Struggling in Your Relationships? Do you ever feel like being gifted is a double-edged sword? Your mind races with ideas, your emotions run deep, and yet...relationships feel way harder than they should. That’s because giftedness isn’t just a mental superpower—it’s a full-body experience that can leave you feeling disconnected, misunderstood, or just plain overwhelmed in your relationships. Kind of like having a superpower without the cool cape. At the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center , we get it. Let’s talk about how your giftedness might be affecting your relationships and, more importantly, how we can help you thrive (even without the cape). 🔍 What is Giftedness? Let’s clear up what we mean when we talk about giftedness . Being gifted isn’t just about having a high IQ or excelling in academics. It’s more nuanced than that. Giftedness often shows up as an advanced ability to process and comprehend information quickly, coupled with intense emotional depth and a complex, layered thinking style . Here’s how giftedness typically manifests: Abstract Thinking : You can grasp complex concepts quickly, often seeing connections others miss. (It’s like you’re driving a mental Ferrari while everyone else is in a Prius.) High Sensitivity : Emotionally and sometimes physically, you feel things more deeply than others around you. Early Emotional Awareness : From a young age, you’ve been tuned in to the feelings of others and the world’s injustices. Existential Curiosity : You’re fascinated by the "big questions"—life’s meaning, purpose, and why things work the way they do. (Spoiler alert: no one actually knows why coffee gets cold faster than it should.) But with all these strengths, gifted individuals can struggle with social disconnect , feeling "different" from others, or being overwhelmed by their own internal world. What It Means to Be Gifted and Neurodiverse Giftedness isn't just about being smart. It's about feeling things more intensely , thinking deeper and faster , and having a unique way of interacting with the world. When you combine giftedness with other forms of neurodiversity, like autism or ADHD , the challenges become more complex, especially in relationships. Miscommunications, emotional overload, and feeling like you’re "too much" for others can become everyday hurdles. Sound familiar? 😅 (And yes, your brain probably just processed that faster than mine.) How Giftedness Impacts Relationships Relationships can be tough when you feel like you’re living on another plane— too intense, too deep, or too complex . Many gifted adults find that their relational struggles boil down to: Feeling misunderstood by loved ones. Difficulty managing emotional highs and lows . Conflicts that arise from communication differences . Without the right strategies, these dynamics can erode even the best relationships. 😞 But here’s the good news: we’re here to help. How Our Neuro-Informed Specialists Can Help You Thrive So, how do you transform these challenges into a healthier, more connected relationship? It starts with understanding . But not the generic, “everyone has their struggles” kind. We dive deep into the intricate web of how your unique neurotype interacts with the world around you—and most importantly, with those closest to you. Here’s what we do differently: We don’t just manage emotions; we explore them Emotional regulation isn’t about pushing your feelings into a neat little box. We help you understand the why behind those intense emotions. Why do you experience anger as a flash of heat, or joy as an overwhelming flood? Why does conflict send you spiraling, even when it's not a big deal for others? By unpacking the root of these emotional responses, you can lean into your feelings without them controlling you—or your relationship. We embrace your complexity. Giftedness, ADHD, and autism don’t make you a puzzle to solve. They make you complex, layered, and deeply fascinating . Our specialists don’t simplify your experience—they embrace the intricacies. We help you (and your partner) appreciate that your quick-thinking mind and fast emotional shifts aren’t “problems” to fix but powerful elements of your personality. We help you learn how to channel these traits in a way that deepens your relationships. We don’t shy away from discomfort. Conflict happens. But for neurodiverse couples, it can feel like an earthquake. Instead of avoiding it, we help you recognize that discomfort in a relationship can be a gateway to authentic connection . With the right strategies, those intense moments can bring you closer, not drive you apart. We focus on building emotional agility , so you can face tension without retreating into emotional overwhelm or shutting down. (We promise, it’s better than retreating into Netflix.) We reimagine connection. You don’t need to connect with your partner in a way that feels unnatural or forced. If you’re autistic and prefer logic-driven conversations, that’s valid. If you’re gifted and love abstract, big-picture thinking, that’s valid too. We work with you and your partner to find new ways to meet each other where you are —not where you “should” be. Communication, connection, and intimacy all get a refresh, on your terms. (Because, honestly, who needs one-size-fits-all?) We help you create rituals that work for you. Routine can be grounding for anyone, but for the neurodiverse, it’s essential. We help you and your partner create relationship rituals that honor your need for structure, without feeling rigid or robotic. Whether it’s scheduling regular “decompression” time after a long day or crafting communication habits that feel supportive (not stifling), we help you design rituals that nurture your relationship. We bring curiosity into your relationship. Relationships often falter when we assume we know everything about our partner. We teach you and your partner how to stay curious —to approach each other with a sense of discovery. Instead of seeing differences as hurdles, we encourage you to see them as opportunities to learn more about each other, to grow together in ways that are unexpected and exciting. (Because who doesn’t love a good plot twist?) This isn’t just therapy. It’s an opportunity to redefine how you relate to one another—empowering you to celebrate your unique neurotype and embrace what makes you both special. 🌱 Ready to Transform Your Relationships? If being gifted is leaving you feeling misunderstood, overwhelmed, or disconnected from your partner, we’ve got the tools to help you. Click here to schedule your first session and start making your giftedness the superpower it’s meant to be, not the thing that holds you back. Warmly, Harry Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT, Clinical Director Founder Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Think You May be Masking Your Autistic Traits? The Camouflaging Autistic Traits Questionnaire (CAT-Q) may be used to identify autistic individuals who do not currently meet diagnostic criteria due to their ability to mask. Take the CAT-Q Test Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Frequently Asked Questions Tip: Want more resources? 📄 See our Quick Fact Sheet for a short, skimmable overview of our services. 📖 Read our in-depth Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Article for a full overview of challenges, therapy approaches, and more. FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS 1. What is neurodiverse couples counseling? Answer: Neurodiverse couples counseling is therapy designed for relationships where one or both partners are autistic, ADHD, or otherwise neurodivergent. It focuses on improving communication, building emotional safety, and helping partners understand each other’s unique ways of thinking and feeling. Unlike traditional counseling, this approach uses strategies that account for neurological differences so couples feel understood and supported. 2. Can autistic or ADHD partners feel empathy and love? Answer: Yes. Autistic and ADHD partners are fully capable of empathy and love. They may simply express or process emotions differently. This difference is sometimes misunderstood as “lacking empathy,” but in reality, it’s about a mismatch in communication styles. Therapy helps both partners recognize and share empathy in ways that strengthen connection. 3. What is the Double Empathy Problem? Answer: The Double Empathy Problem describes how both autistic and neurotypical partners can struggle to understand each other’s perspectives. It’s not a “deficit” in one person—it’s a two-way misunderstanding caused by different communication and emotional styles. Counseling helps bridge this gap so both partners feel heard and valued. 4. What challenges bring neurodiverse couples to therapy? Answer: Common reasons include recurring conflicts about “tone” or chores, emotional distance, sensory overload, mismatched needs for intimacy, parenting struggles, or feeling like you’re speaking “different languages.” These challenges don’t mean your relationship is broken—they mean you may need tools built specifically for neurodiverse partnerships. 5. How does therapy for neurodiverse couples work? Answer: We focus on eliminating unhelpful patterns, creating emotional safety, and building a roadmap toward closeness. Sessions may involve the couple together, plus individual support for each partner. Our therapists teach practical strategies to improve communication, manage conflict, and reconnect —without blame, pressure, or trying to “fix” one person. 6. What makes your approach different from traditional couples therapy? Answer: Traditional therapy often overlooks neurodiversity, sometimes even suggesting autistic partners can’t feel empathy or love. We reject that myth. Our team customizes every counseling plan to the unique needs of each couple—we don’t believe in one-size-fits-all therapy. While many traditional approaches overlook neurodiversity, we design our methods specifically for autistic and ADHD partners and their loved ones. Three things set us apart: Ongoing Specialized Training – Every therapist receives weekly training on neurodiversity-focused content, ensuring our approaches stay current and effective. Collaborative Case Support – We hold weekly case consultations and supervision so that no couple’s challenges are handled in isolation—your therapist has a full team behind them. Continuous Professional Growth – All team members pursue ongoing continuing education in neurodiverse relationships, keeping us at the forefront of best practices. In addition, we use a strengths-based, solution-focused model that emphasizes safety, communication, and mutual understanding. With your permission, we may integrate a couples therapist plus individual therapists for each partner, coordinating care so both partners feel fully supported. 7. What if one partner isn’t sure about being autistic or ADHD? Answer: That’s okay. A formal diagnosis isn’t required to start. Many couples come to us simply because they notice “different wiring” is affecting communication and connection. Therapy works whether or not a diagnosis is in place—and if desired, we can help California residents explore assessments for autism or ADHD. 8. Will this type of counseling actually help our relationship? Answer: Yes. Research shows that solution-focused therapy helps couples shift away from blame and toward problem-solving and emotional connection (McDowell et al., 2023). Many neurodiverse couples who work with us report more trust, less conflict, and a stronger bond over time. Change is usually gradual, but very possible. 9. How long does it take to see progress? Answer: Many couples feel relief within the first few sessions once they understand their patterns and learn new strategies. Meaningful progress takes time, but with consistency, couples often notice more empathy, teamwork, and closeness after just a few months. 10. Who do you work with? Answer: We support neurodiverse couples nationwide through online therapy or coaching. 11. Do you take insurance? Answer: No, we are a private-pay practice. For California therapy clients, we can provide superbills for possible out-of-network reimbursement. Please note that coaching services (all clients outside California) are not covered by insurance. 12. What if we’re in crisis? Answer: While we are here to help, we are not a crisis service. If you are in immediate danger, please call 911. For urgent mental health support, dial or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. LEARN MORE 📖 Read our in-depth Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Article for a full overview of challenges, therapy approaches, and more. 📄 See our Quick Fact Sheet for a short, skimmable overview of services. Last reviewed: Aug 22, 2025 • Author: Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT (Clinical Director) GETTING STARTED We would love to create a safe place for you to break the painful patterns of the past and communicate in a new way. Please fill out our contact form and we will be glad to connect you with one of our team members. Mitchell, P., Sheppard, E., & Cassidy, S. (2021). Autism and the double empathy problem: Implications for development and mental health. British Journal of Developmental Psychology, 39(1), 1–18. https://doi.org/10.1111/bjdp.12350 Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Some of the most damaging lies are the self-critical stories you tell yourself. “I’ll never read people right.” “I can’t handle change.” “I’m too awkward to make friends.” “I always mess up conversations.” These lines feel true because you’ve rehearsed them for years.They’re familiar, not factual. Autistic communication differences get misread in a world built for sameness. That mismatch can turn into shame if you let it. Fortunately, research has given us new ways to reconsider our perceptions: The Liking Gap means people usually like you more than you think after a conversation. The Beautiful Mess Effect means others see your openness as courage, even when you feel exposed or clumsy. The Spotlight Effect means people notice your slip-ups far less than you imagine.Put together, these show your inner critic is rarely telling the truth. Let’s make this real. Say you catch yourself thinking, “I’m too awkward to make friends.” First, pause before reacting to the thought. Remind yourself it’s a story, not a fact. Now try to reframe it: “When I’m in a quiet space and have time to warm up, I connect well with people who share my interests.” See the difference? The first line shuts you down. The second line gives you a pathway forward. The more often you catch and reframe, the faster your brain starts looking for proof of the new story. The new story starts with catching the old story in the act. Call it what it is—a story. Find recent moments that prove it wrong, or at least partially wrong. Write down a replacement line that’s both honest and workable. Practice saying it when you’re calm, so it’s ready when you need it. Then start taking tiny actions to support the new story each day. If you’re part of a couple, be aware that self-critical stories can get amplified in the relationship. Your partner’s reaction—whether confused, frustrated, or trying to help—can accidentally make the old story louder. Knowing this, and deciding together how you’ll handle it, can protect the progress you’re making. If you want a guide for rewriting those old stories and replacing them with something truer, we can help. Schedule a session and start telling the story you actually want to live. Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these statements may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. 🔦 Spotlight on Megan Mance Specialties Neurodiverse Couples Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse) Blended Families Autism, ADHD, ACT, AuDHD, Somatic Therapies Trauma Communication Life Experience Lived through a neurodiverse marriage that ended in divorce, gaining firsthand insight into the challenges of mismatched communication, emotional pacing, and unmet needs. Over a decade into a blended partnership, continuing the daily work of co-parenting, healing old wounds, and choosing connection over avoidance—even when it’s hard. Brings grounded empathy and practical tools to couples work, shaped by lived experience with both disconnection and deep repair, offering real-world support instead of quick fixes. Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT #144966, Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Get Booked with Megan Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

OCD vs Autism autism friendly stress relief Overload is real, not rude. Your mind and body are off-line. More words won’t regulate; breath will. Use breath as first aid. Start solo. Do it together when you're ready. It’s quick, concrete, and science-backed. Here’s exactly how. First, name it with a cue you both agree on. Try: "breath break," “red light,” “reset,” “time-in,” “quiet minute,” “buffer,” or “storm pause.” The cue means to stop talking, and start the breath exercise. Pick one of two ways to breathe: Option A — Physiological Sigh for fast relief. Two short inhales through the nose, then one long, unhurried exhale through the mouth. Repeat for 1–3 minutes. Research: Daily cyclic sighing has better results than mindfulness for improving mood in a randomized trial. Option B — Resonance Breathing for deeper regulation. 4 seconds in, 6 seconds out Repeat for 2–5 minutes. Research: This pace reliably boosts vagal activity and steadies the system. If breathing together feels hard, you’re not failing—you’re flooded. Say, “I need two minutes to breathe on my own,” to settle your system. Then decide if you can come back together. Remember that co-regulation is a skill you can work on in therapy.Solo regulation is a valid step on the way there. Make it autism-friendly. Keep it simple. Minimize noise and distraction. Tailor the environment so it's sensory-safe. Use a visual pacer (see the example below). When and if you’re ready, do it side-by-side. Hand-in-hand or shoulder-to-shoulder, and match pace. Gentle partner touch increases respiratory and heart-rate coupling under stress. Do your breath work before tough talks.And after, especially if you feel revved up. Do it nightly to lower your baseline. Two minutes of breath work every day can save hours of spiraling later.Need help working on this with your partner? [Click here to schedule a session today] Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Note 1: For a short video explaining the “Physiological Sigh”: https://youtu.be/rBdhqBGqiMc?si=MohtB6FddBw3C8rS&t=7 Note 2: For visual guides to breathing: https://duffthepsych.com/anxietygif/ https://healthymonday.com/stress-management/6-gifs-to-help-you-relax © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these statements may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. 🔦 Spotlight on Shea Davis Specialties Neurodiverse Couples Cassandra Syndrome Support Communication Addiction, Trauma, Betrayal Recovery Blended Families Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse) Emotionally Focused Therapy Internal Family Systems Life Experience Lived 24 Years in a Neurodiverse Marriage. I know the highs and heartbreaks of a relationship where love is real—but miscommunication is constant. That lived experience grounds the way I support couples navigating similar dynamics. Parented a Brilliant, Struggling Neurodivergent Son. As a mom and advocate, I learned to interpret, adapt, and create safety for a child the world didn’t always understand. That shaped my deep respect for nervous system differences and co-regulation. Rebuilt After Addiction, Trauma & Betrayal. I’ve walked through collapse and come out the other side—with hard-earned insight into recovery, boundaries, and how to rebuild relationships rooted in mutual safety. Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT # 154799, Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Get Booked with Shea! Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Making the Holidays a Win for Neurodiverse Couples The holidays are here — lights, gatherings, music, traditions... For some couples, it’s the most wonderful time of the year. For others, especially those in neurodiverse relationships , it can feel like walking into a minefield. Take Sarah and James. Sarah’s idea of holiday magic was non-stop socializing. James, who is autistic, felt his energy drain with every party invite. By Christmas Eve, Sarah felt abandoned, and James was burned out. Sound familiar? This season, it doesn’t have to go this way. 🎁 The Struggles Are Real—But Fixable Holidays mean extra sensory overload, social expectations, and unspoken assumptions. For autistic partners, loud gatherings, surprise events, or last-minute changes can create a meltdown. For allistic partners, the lack of enthusiasm or perceived “shutdown” can feel isolating. Add holiday traditions into the mix, and it’s easy to see how good intentions can morph into conflict. But here’s the good news: understanding and planning can make a huge difference. 🌟 Why Holidays Feel Different in Neurodiverse Couples For neurodiverse couples, the holidays magnify existing dynamics: Autistic partners often focus on consistency, structure, and recovery time. Unscheduled gatherings or unclear expectations can feel chaotic. Allistic partners might value spontaneity, connection, and tradition . A lack of engagement can feel personal. Instead of labeling these differences as “wrong,” therapy can help couples see them as strengths. 🕯️ Connection Over Perfection Here’s what matters: connection doesn’t have to look like perfection. For Sarah and James, the solution wasn’t attending every holiday party together. It was building a shared plan: Sarah hosted a Friendsgiving, and James stayed home to recharge for the family event they both prioritized. This year, embrace the fact that neurodiverse love looks different — and that’s beautiful. ✨ The Gift of Interventions: How can our neuro-informed specialists help? Customizing Connection Plans: We’ll help you identify how much socializing works for both partners. Together, we create a game plan that respects everyone’s needs. Teaching the Power of Scripts: We offer strategies like prepared phrases for exiting conversations, saying no to extra gatherings, and avoiding awkward moments. Addressing Sensory Needs: Let’s talk about your holiday environments. Our therapists guide couples to set up calm zones or use tools like noise-canceling headphones during high-sensory events. Building Emotional Fluency: Misunderstandings spike when stress rises. We’ll teach both partners how to communicate what’s happening internally, without blame. These tailored tools go beyond generic advice. They’re designed to meet your unique needs as a neurodiverse couple. 🎉 Want Personalized Holiday Tools? Let’s Talk! Our team of neuro-informed couples counselors are here to help you navigate the season with clarity and care. Whether you’re looking to reduce holiday stress or deepen your connection, our neuro-informed specialists can help. Click here to schedule your session today. Warm wishes, Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center 🔦 Spotlight on Whitney S. Specialties and Certifications Neurodiverse Couples Specialist Neurodiverse Parenting Specialist Life Transitions Postpartum Depression Birthing Trauma Spirituality/Christianity Grief and Loss IEPs/Special Education LGBTQ+ - Affirming Parenting Life Experience Diagnosed with ADHD at age 17 Married 23 years to neurodivergent husband Proud mother of 3 neurodivergent kids: age 21 Autism/ADHD/twice exceptional, age 18 ADHD, age 13 Autism/ADHD Proud mother to LGBTQ+ identifying kids Care giver to 2 parents diagnosed with cancer through treatment end of life Contact Whitney Today! Did you miss the last Blog? Click Here to Read Now! Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Cassie Clayton, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Cassie Think You May be Have ADHD? The Structured Adult ADHD Self-Test (SAAST) may be used to identify adults who may have undiagnosed ADHD Take the SAAST Test Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Are you desperately hoping to work on your neurodiverse relationship but worried that traditional weekly therapy just won't be enough? With sessions spread over months, progress can feel glacial. And hope gets zapped between sessions. Also, whoever said that one hour a week is always the best formula for therapy? 🔄 The Retreat Relationship Reset What if you could spend 3 days (with lots of breaks!) where you could reset your relationship? Like rebooting your computer!? At our neurodiverse couples retreats, you can: Reset your profound misunderstandings of neurodiversity and each other Get some therapy momentum going Secure buy-in to a healing roadmap from both partners Build a foundation to rebuild your relationship in a new way 🚫 Overcoming Objections Attending a retreat is a big decision. We usually hear some strong objections that sound like: How can I fit this in my schedule? 🗓️ When you do the math, a marriage retreat, often over a weekend, may be easier to fit into your schedule than the total time and logistics involved with going to an equal number of hours of weekly therapy. 🎯 It’s a big commitment. Maybe too big! Research shows that more commitment usually leads to higher motivation and better results. Yes, it is a big commitment. But on the other hand, if you make the commitment, it can set you on a much better path. 🤔 This sounds way too intensive. I'm autistic! Will I be able to handle it? We use the words “couples retreat” and not “couples intensive” for a reason. We are flexible with our agenda and slow things down as much as necessary, with lots of check-ins and breaks to give you a chance to reset your nervous system. 📝 What will actually happen during the retreat? Good question! Check out this sample schedule . 🏠 We can't afford the travel plus the cost of therapy. Virtual Retreats: Many couples love attending via Zoom. You’re in the comfort of your home, with no travel costs, extra planning, or added expenses. You get the same personalized attention and specific tools for success as an in-person retreat. In-Person Retreats: If it works in your budget, our getaways allow couples to escape everyday life and focus solely on reconnecting. The change of scenery helps you disconnect from stress and dive deep into the retreat experience. It’s about resetting in a new environment, fostering deeper connections, and learning new relationship skills. I’m afraid we’ll invest all this time and then fizzle out. 🔥 You’ll have the tools and strategies from the retreat to empower you to develop skills for self-awareness, understanding, acceptance, and communication. We’ll give you an individualized action plan that meets the needs of your relationship. We also encourage you to book ongoing regular therapy sessions with your retreat therapist so you can continue your momentum! 🌟 Ready to Take the Next Step? Why wouldn't you want someone who really understands you?! Whether you choose a virtual or in-person retreat, the Neurodiverse Couples Retreat Center is here to support you. We're the only retreat designed for neurodiverse couples run by neurodiverse specialists. Visit www.neurodiverse-retreat.com to learn more and book your retreat today! With hop for your growth and connection, Harry Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT, Clinical Director Founder Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Do You Struggle to Recognize and Express Emotions? Want to see if your behavior is consistent with alexithymia? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and Take the Alexithymia Test Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel