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Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are autistic, have ADHD, or are otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help! < Back Jenny Pan Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist | Neurodiverse Couples Specialist My Personal Story Caught Between Cultures I am a first-generation Chinese American, born in Taiwan and raised in New York. I’m fluent in Mandarin Chinese and deeply connected to my cultural roots. But growing up, I often felt like I had to shapeshift to belong—blend in, stay quiet, and strive for perfection in everything I did. I carried the weight of being “too much” in some spaces and “not enough” in others. Over time, I’ve come to embrace what makes me different. I wear my heritage with pride, speak my truth with courage, and hold my healing journey as a testament to resilience. Early Struggles With Differences I immigrated to the U.S. at age 9 and endured years of bullying due to emotional, physical, and learning differences. Like many kids in the '80s, I went undiagnosed for ADHD —though I carried many of its traits. A Neurodivergent Marriage - Unrecognized Later in life, I married someone who was eventually diagnosed with autism— after our divorce. For 15 years, we struggled to connect, not realizing that we were a neurodivergent couple trying to operate in a neurotypical model of marriage. Living Through Cassandra Syndrome I now understand that I was experiencing something many partners of autistic individuals face: Cassandra Syndrome. I was confused, emotionally depleted, and constantly questioning my reality. At the time, I didn’t have a name for the chronic sense of loneliness and the emotional disconnection I felt. Today, I can look back and name it—and I want others to know they are not alone. If this resonates with you, I recommend exploring Believing Cassandra , a powerful resource for partners of neurodivergent individuals. Parenting in a Neurodiverse World Today, I’m the mother of two amazing kids (now 14 and 12), including a daughter with ADHD. Our family continues to navigate the neurodiverse world—messy, beautiful, and real. At one point, I poured that journey into a poem, capturing the raw truth and hope that helped me move forward: Brokenness is not the end, it’s the place where light gets in, where truth unfolds in tender threads, and new stories can begin... This isn’t just poetry—it’s a path I’ve walked. The Impact of Therapy on My Life Therapy didn’t just help me—it changed everything. I often say my therapist was like a breath of fresh air to lungs that had forgotten how to breathe. Therapy gave me space to rediscover my voice, to grieve and heal, and to show up for my children in a way that felt grounded and whole. Becoming a therapist was a leap of faith. I wanted to give others the same compassion and clarity I received when I was lost. It’s been one of the most fulfilling decisions of my life. Helping Neurodiverse Couples Find Connection Neurodiverse couples often come to therapy exhausted—not from a lack of love, but from the endless misunderstandings. I get it, not just professionally, but personally. I’ve lived the confusion of missed cues, clashing communication styles, and emotional disconnection. These couples aren’t broken. They’re navigating two different operating systems, often without a manual. My approach is rooted in this truth: neurodiverse relationships can thrive—when we stop trying to force sameness and start learning each other’s language. I also work with individuals and couples in Mandarin (and Chinglish), offering a space that feels more natural and deeply connecting for clients with shared cultural backgrounds. I have experience supporting multicultural and mixed-background couples in navigating the complexities of identity, language, and communication. I help couples: Understand their neurological differences without judgment De-escalate conflict and strengthen emotional regulation Build communication tools that actually work for both partners Create systems that support daily functioning, from parenting to housework Repair old wounds while building new habits of connection Common dynamics I address include: One partner needing direct, literal communication while the other craves emotional nuance Shutdowns, meltdowns, or missed signals leading to hurt or confusion Different needs for routine, sensory input, or social interaction Emotional burnout from masking, rejection sensitivity, or late diagnosis Couples with mixed cultural backgrounds Together, we untangle the pain, challenge the shame, and build something more authentic—something that works. Life Inside a Neurodiverse Blended Family I’m now remarried and living in a blended family that includes my two children and my husband’s adult children. Every day, we’re learning how to honor each other’s histories, personalities, and neurotypes while building something new together. Blended families aren’t easy—but they are rich with opportunities for grace and growth. Ours has been no exception. We’ve had to work through loyalty binds, competing schedules, co-parenting dynamics with exes, and very different ways of expressing emotion or asking for space. What helps us stay connected is our commitment to intentional practices. We hold weekly check-ins as a couple—not just to address problems but to stay tuned in emotionally. We also attend monthly couples therapy, even during the calm seasons, because we believe in proactive care. It’s like tending a garden—you don’t wait until things are dying to water the soil. Our family isn’t seamless. But it’s ours. It’s genuine, loving, and constantly growing. And that, to me, is beautiful. Supporting Coparents and Blended Families in Neurodiverse Contexts Blending families is never simple. When you add neurodivergence—whether in a parent or child—it introduces a whole other layer of complexity. From sensory needs to emotional regulation, from time blindness to executive functioning struggles, the everyday logistics of parenting can feel overwhelming. I help parents and stepparents: Co-parent with empathy across households and neurotypes Build trust with stepchildren while respecting boundaries Manage uneven transitions between two homes Support neurodivergent children who feel misunderstood in blended environments Navigate parallel parenting, emotional dysregulation, and the grief of “family ideal” myths This isn’t just theoretical for me—it’s lived. And I bring that experience to every session with compassion, clarity, and hope. When Cultural Identity and Neurodivergence Collide In some couples, one partner is navigating the world through a neurodivergent lens while also carrying the weight of cultural expectations, family loyalty, or identity struggles. That’s been my lived experience—and it’s a frequent reality in the clients I serve. That is why I offer individuals and couples in Mandarin (and Chinglish) - to provide a space that feels more natural and deeply connecting for clients with similar cultural backgrounds. I am passionate about supporting multicultural and mixed-background couples in navigating the complexities of identity, language, and communication. Some of the challenges I help couples face include: Cultural pressure to “save face” conflicting with the need to set emotional boundaries Differences in how love, care, or conflict are expressed across cultural or neurological lines A neurodivergent partner who struggles with social norms while their partner fears community judgment One partner taught to suppress emotional needs, the other wired for direct expression or sensory regulation I help couples slow down, translate, and build shared meaning in a way that honors both their brains and their backgrounds. The goal isn’t assimilation—it’s authentic connection. My Book I’m proud to be a co-author of Asian American Chronicles: Tales of Mental Health & Hope, written with my professor and classmates. It’s a heartfelt, honest look at the intersection of cultural identity and emotional well-being. For anyone who’s felt caught between expectations and authenticity, I hope it brings comfort and connection. Healing Trauma & Relational Wounds with EMDR In addition to talk therapy, I am trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), a trauma-focused approach that helps the brain re-process painful experiences so they no longer feel as overwhelming, intrusive, or defining. I use EMDR with clients who are navigating: Complex PTSD rooted in childhood or relational trauma Betrayal trauma, affairs, and repeated relationship ruptures Chronic shame, self-blame, and “never enough” narratives Experiences of racism, bullying, or cultural invalidation that still echo in the present Because many of my clients are neurodivergent, highly sensitive, or carrying cultural and family expectations, I tailor EMDR to honor pacing, sensory needs, and safety. That can look like: Spending extra time preparing your nervous system and building trust Using clear stop signals, check-ins, and collaborative choice at every step Integrating body awareness, imagery, and resourcing that fit your cultural and personal story The goal isn’t to erase what happened. It’s to lessen the emotional “charge” of those memories, so they no longer run your relationships from the shadows—and you can respond from clarity and self-compassion instead of survival mode. Specialties Neurodiverse & Neurotypical Couples Counseling Complex PTSD Divorce, Parenting & Blended Family Work Betrayal & Affairs Recovery Work Multicultural Relationship Challenges LGBTQ+ Affirming and Relationship Support Modalities Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) Gottman Method (Level 1) EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Brainspotting (Phase 1) Traditional Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) & TEAM-CBT Trauma-Informed Therapy Existential Centered Therapy PREPARE/ENRICH assessment tool for premarital, marital or enrichment counseling Education M.A. Marriage and Family Therapy, Western Seminary B.S. Finance & Accounting, New York University License & Employment Information Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, #155590 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Specialty Areas: Neurodiverse Couples, Trauma, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), LGBTQIA+, Betrayal/Affair Recovery, Divorce, Blended Families, Multicultural Challenges, Cassandra Syndrome Support, Communication, EFT, CBT, Brainspotting, Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients Jenny Pan Take an Autism Test

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are autistic, have ADHD, or are otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Nancy Rushing Not accepting new clients See our other clinicians or Fill our our contact form to get matched My Neurodiversity I am AuDHD , living with both Autism and ADHD. This combination shapes how I think and feel—offering a mind that can focus deeply on details while juggling a steady stream of ideas. AuDHD means I experience the world with a unique clarity, noticing subtleties others might overlook, alongside a restlessness that keeps me seeking new connections. It’s a way of being that balances routine with flexibility, teaching me patience and a quiet strength in embracing differences. I am a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). I am also raising two Highly Sensitive Children (HSC). Specialties and Certifications Neurodiverse Couples Specialist ADHD, Autism, AuDHD, Sensory Sensitivities and Processing Sex Anxiety and Depression Parenting Children (Neurodivergent and Neurotypical) Social Anxiety Intimate Partner Abuse Perfectionism/High-Achievement Grief Chronic Illness/Caregiving Support Brainspotting Phase 1 & 2 Languages Spoken English Mandarin Chinese Life Experience Born and raised in the South—in Louisiana and Texas—by immigrant Chinese parents, both of whom are neurodivergent. Experienced various neurodiverse relationships through family, friends, partnerships, teaching, parenting and counseling. I have been an Early Childhood Educator for over 10 years with direct experience working with children ages 4-17. Before attending graduate school, I was a stay-at-home parent for 8 years. I have been teaching yoga since 2011 and enjoy creating classes that bridge the mind-body connection in yoga with psychoeducation. Multicultural Competencies Intergenerational Trauma Immigrant/Refugee Trauma Second-Generation Immigrants- Bicultural/Multicultural BIPOC LBGTQIA+ Bilingual: Mandarin Chinese My Therapeutic Approach My approach is client-centered and tailored to your unique needs, incorporating an integrative approach based on our interactions over time that include: Neurodivergent-Informed Cognitive Behavioral (CBT) Dialectical Behavioral (DBT) Emotionally Focused (EFT) Trauma-Informed Brainspotting Phase 1 and 2 Solution-Focused Attachment-Based More about Nancy I really enjoy making connections with people and am a naturally curious and inquisitive person. I am an avid animal lover and advocate for the benefits of the bond between neurodivergent children and animals, drawing especially from firsthand experience. I have perfect pitch and can identify notes in any song I hear immediately and can play the song on piano. This gift is linked to neurodivergent individuals, and a gift that I hid from others for most of my life, while I was still masking. Hi, I'm Nancy. I'm glad we connected today! I want to acknowledge how difficult it can be to take this first step in your journey in understanding more about yourself, your partner, and your relationship—especially if you’re at a crossroad. It takes courage to cross an unknown journey. You might be feeling hopeless, pessimistic, confused, and possibly filled with anger and angst about your relationship, especially when you notice recurring patterns—repeating the same conversations, and experiencing the same interactions, thoughts and emotions. In each of our personal journeys, we metaphorically travel a path and face various obstacles along the road— let’s call these life’s “challenges”. Sometimes, these obstacles can make us feel stuck, pressure us to turn back, confront them aimlessly, repeat familiar patterns, or find a new path and direction. Obstacles are an essential part of a journey, just as the challenges we face in our life experience are unique and contribute to growth and transformation . Without these hurdles, it would be difficult to gain insight into our strengths, understand ourselves and the world around us, and develop the resilience needed to navigate life’s challenges. Each obstacle we encounter shapes our character, deepens our understanding, and ultimately enriches our experience, making the journey more meaningful and rewarding. The goal of our therapy sessions is to help you explore and harness the power of perspective and the choices you make, leading to acceptance and understanding around your unique challenges. I aim to assist you in finding the right tools to gain insight and effectively navigate the obstacles along your life’s path. Additionally, I want to help you, and your partner reconnect and intertwine your paths, enabling you to continue the journey and create meaningful destinations together. My Story I am a child of Chinese Immigrant parents, born and raised in the south—specifically Louisiana and Texas. My neurodivergent journey started when I lost my mom in 2019 and discovered that she had undiagnosed mental health issues and was also neurodivergent. Witnessing the disconnect and misunderstandings that happen in a neurodivergent relationship helped me realize that every person wants to be loved and wants to love others. Every person deserves to be loved and longed for, the way they need and understand love to be. Since childhood, I have been extremely curious and inquisitive by nature and have a passion to learn about and understand others. I am a HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) and was late-diagnosed ADHD during graduate school while I was studying about neurodiversity and discovered that my perceived anxiety was an excess of complex thoughts in my mind that was misdiagnosed as generalized anxiety. It took the right therapist to connect me to this understanding and acceptance. My passion is to support others on their neurodivergent journey—to help them discover their authentic selves embrace their unique differences and build meaningful connections in their relationships. I have been living in the Bay Area for 17 years, married for 13 years, and have two neurodivergent children who are 7 and 9 years old. When I am not spending time with my family, I enjoy teaching yoga, exercising, cooking, having meaningful conversations and experiences with others, and being an avid animal lover. Obstacles faced be neurodiverse couples: Communication Differences – How do you express yourself, interpret what your partner is saying, and understand their message: Are you feeling misunderstood? Sensory Sensitivities – Are there feelings of being uncomfortable or overwhelmed by sensory stimuli such as sounds, lights and textures that prevent you or your partner from processing feelings or engaging with each other? Emotional Processing – Is it difficult to recognize, interpret, and manage emotions during emotional experiences? Do you and your partner respond in a way that is challenging for each other? Contrasting Perspectives -Do you and your partner have different views on issues or, see them differently? Social Expectations - How do you and your partner navigate societal or cultural expectations in your relationship, and what impact do these expectations have on your interactions? Routine & Flexibility - How do you and your partner handle changes to your routines or plans, and what effect does this have on your relationship? Support Needs - How do you and your partner express and respond to each other's needs for support, and what challenges do you face in meeting these needs effectively? 🎯 Working with AuDHD Clients Living with AuDHD (Autism + ADHD) often means navigating a world that doesn’t fully understand your unique way of thinking, processing, and engaging. Whether you’ve always known you were different or recently discovered your neurodivergence, therapy can help you untangle challenges, embrace your strengths, and create a life that works for you. Many AuDHD individuals experience a mix of intense focus and executive function struggles, sensory sensitivities and sensation-seeking behaviors, deep emotional intensity, and difficulty with social expectations . These traits can impact relationships, career paths, and day-to-day functioning in ways that feel frustrating and overwhelming. In therapy, I help AuDHD clients: Understand their unique wiring – Recognizing the interplay of ADHD and autism and how it shapes their experiences. Manage executive function challenges – Developing practical strategies for focus, organization, and task completion. Navigate sensory sensitivities & overwhelm – Identifying triggers and creating coping strategies to reduce stress. Build meaningful relationships – Learning communication tools to express needs, set boundaries, and connect authentically. Regulate emotions – Developing techniques for processing feelings without burnout, shutdown, or emotional overload. Work with, not against, their brains – Creating routines, systems, and environments that align with their natural rhythms. Whether you’re struggling in your relationships, career, or personal growth, I provide a nonjudgmental space to explore what’s working, what’s not, and how to move forward in a way that makes sense for you. Your brain isn’t the problem—let’s find ways to work with it, not against it. Other Areas of Focus (in addition to neurodiversity) Sex Anxiety and Depression Parenting Children (Neurodivergent and Neurotypical) Social Anxiety Intimate Partner Abuse Perfectionism/High-Achievement Grief Chronic Illness/Caregiving Support Clients Couples Individuals Families License Registered AMFT # 149167 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc . Specialty Areas: ADHD, Autism, Intimate Partner Violence, Emotion Focused Therapy, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Neurodiverse Couples, Sex/Physical Intimacy, Emotional Intimacy, Communication, Not Accepting New Clients Nancy Rushing Take an Autism Test

🧩 The Struggle to Connect: What's Really Going On? Hi There, You’re at the Neurodiverse COUPLES Counseling Center for relationship help, right? So why am I talking about you about individual counseling ? Because sometimes the most powerful way to transform your relationship is to focus on yourself . Yes, you read that right! In neurodiverse relationships, where communication can often feel like navigating through a fog, taking time for individual work can be the key to finding clarity and moving forward. The Foggy Glasses Analogy 🕶️ Imagine you’re wearing glasses that keep fogging up. No matter how many times you try to wipe them clean, the fog returns. You’re trying to see clearly, but the blur remains. Now, imagine this is your relationship. The fog represents miscommunication, and despite your best efforts—and even couples therapy—the clarity you’re hoping for just isn’t there yet. Couples therapy is crucial, but sometimes, in neurodiverse relationships, you need to step back and clean those glasses on your own. Why Individual Sessions Are a Must for Neurodiverse Couples 🔍 Here’s why individual sessions are vital: Gaining Personal Insight : Individual sessions give us the space to gather valuable information about each person’s history, personal triggers, and their commitment to the relationship and therapy process. A Less Triggering Environment : Working individually allows you to explore and address your own challenges without the emotional charge of your partner being in the room. This helps you become more open and less reactive when you return to couples sessions. Building Confidence in Communication : There may be topics you want to discuss with your partner but feel too overwhelming to share in front of them. Individual therapy provides a safe space to work on expressing yourself with more skill and tenderness, so when you do bring it up in couples therapy, you’re better prepared. Going Deeper: Individual counseling gives you more time to understand your unique neurotype. We offer individual counseling for: Autistic Men Autistic Women ADHD Women AuDHD Support (autism + ADHD) Cassandra Support (for allistic partners) Individual therapy helps clear that fog and allows you to approach your relationship with new clarity and understanding. A Big Team, A Big Benefit 🤝 One of the greatest strengths of working with a large group of neuro-informed therapists is the collaboration between our couples therapists and individual therapists . When you work with us, you’re not just receiving support from one person—you’re tapping into the collective wisdom of a team of neuro-informed specialists. We collaborate to ensure that your therapy experience is cohesive and aligned. We always get your permission before discussing your therapy across the team, and the goal is to make sure we’re not working at cross purposes. We don’t want one therapist telling you one thing and another saying something completely different. Our team works together to support you with consistent, unified guidance. Get Clear and Move Forward 🚀 If couples therapy feels like it’s not getting you the clarity you need, don’t worry. In neurodiverse relationships, it’s normal for communication to feel cloudy at times. Individual therapy can provide the personal clarity you need to move forward with your partner—together. Next time you're in a session, ask your therapist how individual work can help you see your relationship more clearly. Until next time, Harry Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT, Clinical Director Founder Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Is the Weight of Deadlines, Chores, & Requests Holding You Down? You may meet the criteria for Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). Take the PDA Test Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Amanda is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a mother of 4, plus 2 children from a blended partnership. She is currently working towards the completion of her doctoral degree in counseling education and supervision. Amanda specializes in working with couples and individuals who want to strengthen their lives and relationships through positive communication, conflict management, and improvement in intimacy as well as self-care, so they are able to continue to care for others. Using a non-judgmental, strength-based approach, Amanda guides couples in finding solutions to problems, while also maintaining a safe and supportive space where couples can communicate safely and openly about the fears that paralyze them, such as fear of loss, disappointment, rejection, and loss of self. Neurodiverse Couples Communication is important in every relationship, and it can be particularly challenging for a neurodiverse couple. Amanda believes that it is vital to identify solid communication strategies between partners, using specific techniques for handling relationship troubles, whether perpetual or solvable. These techniques encourage the understanding that emotions are important, there is no absolute reality, only two subjective ones, acceptance is crucial, and a development of fondness and admiration within the relationship. Amanda encourages couples to celebrate the small steps towards a larger goal and helps keep focus on what the couple can do to set themselves up to thrive. Parenting Neurodiverse Children Amanda has personal experience as a mother of a neurodivergent 13 year old, working through the white waters of concern for her child’s behavior and development, receiving the diagnosis of neurodiversity, and wondering what it means to parent a child who is neurodiverse. Parenting neurodivergent children can be exponentially intense. Amanda teaches parents positive parenting skills that encourage the use of “Why?” to address the child’s behavior, focusing on an understanding of the purpose that behavior serves the child and what they are trying to tell you. Allowing the behavior to inform what needs to be put into place ahead of time to help the child manage the particular challenge, and also ensuring that consequences are related to the behavior/issue as a last resort to addressing behavior. Amanda encourages parents to catch their child’s positive behaviors whenever possible and to name specifically what they see so as to encourage the positive behavior to reoccur. Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): Addiction Affair Recovery Major Life Transition Support, co-parenting, blended families, separation/divorce Parent Coaching Sex Therapy Clients: Couples and families Modalities: Coaching Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) Gottman Method Internal Family Systems (IFS) Solution Focused Brief (SFBT) Strength-Based Structural Family Therapy License: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT #150002 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Neurodiverse Couples, Cassandra Syndrome Support, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Betrayal/Affair Recovery, Sex/Physical Intimacy, Intimate Partner Violence, Christian, Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients Amanda Silvester Take an Autism Test

< Back Quick Guide - Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Tip: Want more resources? 📖 Check out our FAQs section if you have a specific question about our services you'd like an answer to. Reach out now to get matched with an expert and schedule a free consultation. KEY FACTS The “Neurodiversity Magnet”: Many autistic and neurotypical partners feel an immediate and powerful attraction towards each other and their differences . Autistic partners are often admired for their focus, intelligence, and stability, while neurotypical partners are valued for their social skills and support. This can feel like being “pulled together like magnets.” When Differences Become Challenges: Over time, those same differences can cause misunderstandings . Couples may feel like they are speaking “different languages,” leading to trust issues, arguments, distance, or struggles with parenting and intimacy. Yes, Empathy Is Possible: Some people wrongly believe that autistic partners cannot feel love or empathy. In reality, they do feel empathy—they just may show it in different ways ( Double Empathy Problem ). With the right tools, both partners can better understand and connect with each other. Therapy That Works: Research shows that neurodiverse couples who participate in solution-focused therapy show an increase in “solution talk” and positive reinforcement, which helps partners move away from blame and start expressing emotions more openly. Change Takes Time, But It Happens: Autism is not a “fixed” condition . With patience and the right kind of therapy, many couples see progress and grow closer over time—leading to relationships that feel more relaxed, connected, and rewarding. FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS (FAQS) 1. What is neurodiverse couples counseling? Answer: Neurodiverse couples counseling is therapy designed for relationships where one or both partners are autistic, ADHD, or otherwise neurodivergent. It focuses on improving communication, building emotional safety, and helping partners understand each other’s unique ways of thinking and feeling. Unlike traditional counseling, this approach uses strategies that account for neurological differences so couples feel understood and supported. 2. Does neurodiverse couples counseling work? Answer: Yes. Research and our experience as counselors support the idea that neuro-affirming therapy can be more effective than traditional counseling approaches because it focuses on one's strengths and individuality rather than pushing people to “act neurotypical.” Therapists who affirm autistic and ADHD traits —while also addressing challenges like anxiety or communication struggles—have been associated with couples building healthier relationships and stronger self-acceptance. 3. How long does it take to see progress? Answer: Many couples feel relief within the first few sessions once they understand their patterns and learn new strategies. Meaningful progress takes time, but with consistency, couples often notice more empathy, teamwork, and closeness after just a few months. 4. How much does neurodiverse couples therapy cost? Answer: Our session fees range from $150–$400, and standard sessions are 50 minutes long. Fees vary depending on your therapist’s experience and qualifications. A limited number of sliding-scale spots ($100–$150) are available, though these are limited and may not always be open. When you complete the contact form , you’ll share what you’re able to pay, and we’ll do our best to match you with a professional who fits both your needs and budget. The length of therapy varies a great deal based on your goals but a typical couple may be in therapy weekly for two months and then every other week for another two months. The majority usually end up spending from $1,000 to $5,000 on counseling depending on how much help is needed. To put the cost of couples counseling in perspective, it is difficult to buy something for $5,000 that will give you the same quality of life that a healthy relationship provides. Consider the emotional costs of your ongoing conflicts have been to each of you as well as your family and friends. What is the value of feeling and interacting more lovingly, effectively and respectfully now and in the long-term? This is probably your most significant relationship, which radically impacts your life and your wellbeing. Getting help to communicate with your partner in more effective and lasting ways may be one of the best investments you can make. If you and your partner feel loved, respected and meet each other's emotional needs, you may be able to do without many other material things and feel much more fulfilled. 5. What if one partner isn’t sure about being autistic or ADHD? Answer: That’s okay. A formal diagnosis isn’t required to start. Many couples come to us simply because they notice “different wiring” is affecting communication and connection. Therapy works whether or not a diagnosis is in place—and if desired, we can help California residents explore in-depth assessments for autism or ADHD. You can also access free self-screeners on our website to start gaining insight into your unique brain/relationship. 6. What challenges bring neurodiverse couples to therapy? Answer: Common reasons include recurring conflicts about “tone” or chores, emotional distance, sensory overload, mismatched needs for intimacy, parenting struggles, or feeling like you’re speaking “different languages.” These challenges don’t mean your relationship is broken—they mean you may need tools built specifically for neurodiverse partnerships. 7. How does therapy for neurodiverse couples work? Answer: We focus on eliminating unhelpful patterns, creating emotional safety, and building a roadmap toward closeness. Sessions may involve the couple together, plus individual support for each partner. Our therapists teach practical strategies to improve communication, manage conflict, and reconnect —without blame, pressure, or trying to “fix” one person. 8. Can neurodiverse people feel empathy? Answer: Yes. Autistic partners are fully capable of love and empathy. They often care deeply, but may not always pick up on subtle signs that their partner is hurting. Sometimes it needs to be said out loud for them to recognize it. This difference is often mistaken for “lacking empathy,” but really it’s about how emotions are noticed and processed. Therapy helps both partners understand these differences and share empathy in ways that strengthen connection. 9. What is the Double Empathy Problem? Answer: The Double Empathy Problem describes how both autistic and neurotypical partners can struggle to understand each other’s perspectives. It’s not a “deficit” in one person—it’s a two-way misunderstanding caused by different communication and emotional styles. Counseling helps bridge this gap so both partners feel heard and valued. Last reviewed: Sep 2, 2025 • Authors: Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT (Clinical Director) and Jasmyne Mena (Director of Clinical Research & Scientific Communications, Senior Medical Writer, Neurodiversity) REFERENCES 10 secrets of happy neurodiverse couples… . (2024, September 4). BPS; The British Psychological Society. https://www.bps.org.uk/psychologist/10-secrets-happy-neurodiverse-couples Calderoni, S., Billeci, L., Narzisi, A., Brambilla, P., Retico, A., & Muratori, F. (2016). Rehabilitative Interventions and Brain Plasticity in Autism Spectrum Disorders: Focus on MRI-Based Studies. Frontiers in Neuroscience , 10 . https://doi.org/10.3389/fnins.2016.00139 Graf-Kurtulus, S., & Gelo, O. C. G. (2025). Rethinking psychological interventions in autism: Toward a neurodiversity-affirming approach. 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Psychological strengths and well-being: Strengths use predicts quality of life, well-being and mental health in autism. Autism : the international journal of research and practice , 27 (6), 1826–1839. https://doi.org/10.1177/13623613221146440 WHY CHOOSE US? DEPTH OF TEAM — 30+ neuro-informed therapists and coaches. 16,000+ sessions each year. The world’s largest practice dedicated to neurodiverse couples and individuals—so you benefit from deep, proven experience. WE ARE NEURODIVERSE: More than 90% of our clinicians are neurodiverse themselves, bringing a firsthand understanding of autism, ADHD, and related experiences. This lived perspective, combined with professional training, allows us to provide both expertise and genuine compassion to help you thrive. OUR MODEL: We use a neurodiverse counseling model —practical, skills- based, and tailored to each couple. We don’t pathologize difference; we name neurodiverse traits as natural human variations in communication style, sensory needs, social energy, and executive functioning. Together, we map those patterns so both partners can see what’s really happening (not what they’re blaming each other for). From there, we translate insight into action: shared language for signals and needs, simple agreements for sensory fit, clear routines for planning and follow-through, and repair tools that reduce defensiveness. The goal isn’t to make anyone “more normal.” It’s to help you work with your differences—so empathy grows, teamwork strengthens, and your bond gets measurably closer. STRENGTH-BASED: Our neurodiverse counseling model is strengths-based and neuro-affirming because that’s what works—well-supported in couples therapy and even more effective with neurodiverse couples. Instead of fixing “deficits,” we identify and deploy real assets—precision, honesty, loyalty, pattern recognition, creativity, deep focus—so they actively solve problems. This lowers shame, builds safety fast, and turns differences into shared tools: clearer signals and agreements, sensory fit instead of overload, and routines that reduce friction. The payoff is practical—fewer blowups, better follow-through, and a bond that strengthens because you’re using what you already do well, together. OUR TEAM: Our experts are deeply compassionate and dedicated to helping neurodiverse couples thrive. Three things set our team apart: Ongoing Specialized Training – All team members receive weekly training on neurodiversity-focused content, ensuring our approaches stay current and effective. Collaborative Case Support – We hold weekly supervision sessions, including case consultations, so that no couple’s challenges are handled in isolation—your therapist has a full team behind them. Continuous Professional Growth – Every therapist pursues ongoing continuing education in neurodiverse relationships, keeping us at the forefront of best practices. ASSESSMENTS: In addition to providing therapy, many of our clinicians are specially trained in conducting in-depth adult autism and ADHD assessments . If you’re seeking greater clarity or considering an in-depth evaluation, our team can guide you through the process with professionalism and care. INSURANCE — We are insurance-friendly. As an out-of-network provider, we will send you a Superbill for therapy services that you can submit to your insurance company for potential reimbursement. Please know that we do NOT bill insurance directly or participate as an in-network provider. For more information, please visit the "Insurance/Fee" section on our FAQ page. DIAGNOSIS OPTIONAL — You don’t need a diagnosis to get help with us. We can start with what’s happening now—communication loops, sensory needs, executive-function friction, meltdowns/shutdowns—and turn those patterns into clear agreements, better repairs, and real relief. If you’re in California and want a formal autism or ADHD evaluation , our licensed clinicians can provide it—but it’s not required to benefit. Either way, the goal is the same: less blame, more understanding, a stronger bond, and real individual healing. NOT A CRISIS SERVICE — We’re not a crisis service. If you’re ever in immediate danger, call 911. For urgent mental health support, call or text 988 or go to https://988lifeline.org Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center is part of New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. WHO WE HELP We support neurodiverse couples and individuals nationwide through online therapy or coaching. Some common issues we help clients tackle include: Autism/ADHD differences Cassandra Syndrome Support Alexithymia Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) Highly Sensitive People Parenting and co-parenting challenges Intimacy (both physical and emotional) Autism and ADHD assessments and self-screeners Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Recurring discussions about “tone,” initiative, alexithymia , or intimacy Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) Discernment Counseling LEARN MORE 📖 Check out our FAQs section if you have a specific question about our services you'd like an answer to. Reach out now to get matched with an expert and schedule a free consultation.

About Us We are experts in autism , ADHD & neurodiversity. Why risk being misunderstood? Our team understands the challenges that the neurodiverse community faces when seeking help. We dedicate our lives to supporting you. Meet The Team Stephen Robertson Inna Kuchmenko (1)-newgall Danielle Grossman copy-newgall Nancy Rushing copy )-newgall2 Lea Choi_edited copy)-newgall Dan Chung copy)-newgall Tamala Takahashi Focus on Neurodiverse Couples Learn More > Experience 14,000 appointments per year Read More > Trauma- Informed approach to healing Read More > How we're different: Our Values: Neurological differences = Natural biodiversity Autism is not a disease Everyone must grow & change in a relationship Start with Strengths Curing differences denies one's true self Thriving neurodiversity changes the world

Have you ever felt like you’ve been living life on autopilot, only to be jolted awake by a surprising discovery? Imagine finding out, after decades, that the quirks and challenges you or your partner face have a name: Autism . This revelation can be both liberating and overwhelming, especially for couples. Let’s dive into how a late-life autism diagnosis can impact your neurodiverse relationship and ways to navigate this new chapter together. 💡 The Late-Life Diagnosis Shockwave 🔍 Understanding the Revelation Imagine living your entire life without knowing why certain things felt so different or challenging. A diagnosis later in life can be a game-changer, offering clarity and a new perspective. For couples, this can explain years of misunderstandings and frustrations, suddenly making sense of those "puzzle pieces" that never quite fit. 💬 A Real-Life Story (with names changed) Meet Jane and Mike, married for 30 years. Jane had long suspected that Mike might be on the autism spectrum, often hinting at her suspicions. When their child was diagnosed with autism, it prompted Mike to seek a diagnosis at 55. Jane felt a mix of validation and frustration, often thinking, "I knew it all along." Mike, on the other hand, grappled with feelings of shame and regret, wondering why it took him so long to figure it out. With the help of one of our neuro-informed therapists, their journey of rediscovery was filled with moments of empathy, patience, and renewed connection. Instead of trying to "fix" Mike, they focused on finding new ways to interact while learning to accept each other's way of being and thinking. 📊 Eye-Opening Statistics In a SPARK Study involving over 22,000 autistic adults and 102,000 children, about 50% of the autistic adults were diagnosed when they were older than 17, some in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. Some sought a diagnosis for themselves after their child was diagnosed with autism. Other adults benefited from a public awareness of autism that did not exist when they were growing up. If you or someone you care for is interested in pursuing a diagnosis, we encourage you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Center for more information and support. 🚀 Actionable Steps for Couples 📚 Educate Yourselves Dive into resources about adult autism. Knowledge is power and can help you understand each other better. Recommended reads: " The Autism Couple’s Workbook " by Maxine Aston, " Neurodiverse Relationships " by Joanna Stevenson. 💬 Open Dialogue Regular check-ins with each other. Ask open-ended questions like, “How can I better understand how you think and what you need?" Create a safe space for honest conversations, free from interruptions. 🌈 Embrace the Journey Focus on strengths. Celebrate the unique qualities that each partner brings to the relationship. Develop new routines that accommodate both partners' needs. Flexibility and compromise are vital. 💬 Accept and Adapt Resist the urge to "fix" your autistic partner. Instead, find new ways to communicate and connect, embracing each other's unique traits and perspectives. Valuing these differences can enrich your bond. Remember, this journey is uniquely yours. Embrace it with compassion, curiosity, and love. Our team of neuro-informed couples counselors and assessments specialists would love to be on the journey with you! Until next week, Harry Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT, Clinical Director Founder Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Do You Struggle to Recognize and Express Emotions? Want to see if your behavior is consistent with alexithymia? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and Take the Alexithymia Test Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

As neurodiverse counselors and coaches, our team learns from our clients every single day. We learn how everyone is unique. We learn ways to accept you as you are AND how to encourage growth and change. We learn what works for you, pull it all together, and then share it with all of our clients. Our goal for this blog is to bring REAL WORLD advice to REAL PEOPLE. Our clients inspire us every day and our hope is to pass that inspiration on to you. We know combining families is never easy. But, with the right guidance and support, it is always worthwhile. Click Here To Match With An Expert We want to hear from you so please comment on our posts. Life works best when we all learn from each other!! Warmest regards, Harry Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT, PsyD Dr. Motro is a registered Marriage and Family Therapist #53452 and the Founder/Clinical Director of the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center. Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule With Whitney Take an ASD/ADHD Screener Are you curious about whether or not you have autism/ADHD? Want to learn more about yourself and take the first step towards deeper self-understanding? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and Take An ASD/ADHD Screener Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Our Neurodiverse Specialists are ready to help you work on your relationship. Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Joseph Kaiser | Neurodiverse Couples Specialist My Story Born and raised in the Redwoods of Northern California, I spent two decades in the advertising industry as a creative director, art director, and copywriter collaborating on regional, national and global campaigns. As a creative director nothing was more thrilling then collaborating with other creatives. Nurturing diverse perspectives and personalities to create high impact campaigns was a source of great personal and professional inspiration. Later I founded two small businesses; one in tech accessories and another manufacturing active toys developed for neurodiverse, neurotypical, and other children with special needs. I am a US Patent holder and was honored with a Silver Clio Award 2002, Bronze Clio 2002 and published in Graphis Design Annual 2004 and American Graphic Design 2003. My goal is to empower growth through the use of dynamic evidence-based theories and therapeutic rapport. Though I love my work with individuals, I am particularly passionate about couples work and how it can lead to individual well being and familial harmony. For better or worse, our earliest programming teaches us what we think marriage 'should' be. The truth is, marriage is what we make of it. We are the creators and, although painful at times, it can also inspire and empower. I am a firm believer that people heal and grow in connection to others. Main Areas of Focus Neurodiverse Couples Some couples have yet to realize they are neurodiverse. When they finally do, a diagnosis can feel like a relief after years of pain and contention. One common complaint from a partner may be that they are being "gaslighted” by the neurodiverse partner; accused of being irrational and not having their experience or feelings validated. The neurodiverse partner can feel overwhelmed and misunderstood. Common differences in communication are logical vs. emotional, concrete vs. abstract, absolute vs. relative, and avoidant vs. insistent. The first step is to help couples identify just how differences in their wiring affect their interaction cycles. Next is to break blame and shame patterns and find acceptance in differences through a structured step by step process that helps you rediscover love and acceptance. Couples De-escalation and healthy communication are a crucial place to start but only one dimension of couples work. Uncovering deeper unspoken truths and patterns by creating an environment of trust and acceptance is at the core of the healing process. Exploring and validating each partner's unique experience is essential to connecting. I help clients work past blame and shame. Major life changes like the loss of a job, the arrival of a child, or grief and loss, can bring about a shift in dynamics. My goal is to help couples grow together instead of apart while retaining their own identity. I provide a structured approach to couples therapy using elements of EFT, Gottman Method, CBT, Attachment Theory, Relational Life Therapy, Internal Family Systems and more. Affair Recovery Unfortunately, affairs transcend race, culture, sexuality, age, and socio-economic background. Whether it be emotional or sexual, infidelity is traumatic. The betrayed partner can develop depression, anxiety, and symptoms similar to PTSD while the unfaithful partner can be plagued with guilt. My first step is crisis management to stabilize your lives so the therapeutic work can begin. Once the immediate crisis has settled, the real work begins. If partners are willing, compassionate, and persistent, it can be an opportunity for tremendous growth. Affairs may be a reflection of long-standing wounds or struggles that pre-dated the marriage as well as patterns that developed during the relationship. Understanding why the affair occurred is critical to getting on a productive path to affair recovery. Using a step-by-step process, I will compassionately steer couples through this difficult minefield. Parenting And Co-Parenting It is in the best interest of their children for parents to move from an adversarial relationship to a cooperative and collaborative one. After 15 years of parenting and co-parenting of his own, I leverage my training and personal experience to help couples develop co-parenting plans and maintain a safe, secure, nurturing environment for their children to thrive. When done successfully, co-parenting counseling can improve the child’s confidence and self-esteem. Individuals As a compassionate professional, I am committed to helping individuals find healing, growth, and relationship transformation. This begins with building rapport which I believe is the wellspring of effective psychotherapy. I work with challenges such as depression, stress or anxiety, self-esteem, and career transition. Whether it is the cycle of life, health crisis, a move, a loss, relational struggles or change of circumstances, we can become overwhelmed. All too often there is a confluence of things that happen all at once. We thought we could handle it all but our body and psyche say no. I have a compassionate, accepting, curious approach that melds joining the client with various therapeutic methodologies and evidence-based practices. Other Areas of Focus Neurodiverse Couples Therapy & Coaching Trauma informed therapy Depression & Anxiety Treatment Life transitions High stress jobs Discernment Counseling Trauma-informed Therapy Pre-marital Counseling Depression and Anxiety Grief, loss, and shame Clients Couples of all ages Couples of all ethnic backgrounds Adult Individuals. Men, Women High achievers Modalities Internal Family Systems (IFS) Emotionally Focuses Therapy (EFT) Narrative Therapy Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) Person-Centered Therapy Gottman Method Family Systems Positive Psychology Attachment-based Culturally Sensitive Existential Family Systems Humanistic Mindfulness Motivational License Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT #151271 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Addiction, Discernment, Betrayal/Affair Recovery, Sex/Physical Intimacy, Assessment, LGBTQIA+, Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, ADHD, Blended Families, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Internal Family Systems, Eating & Autism, ND at Work, Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients Joseph Kaiser Take an Autism Test

< Back Kimberly Hawks Neurodiverse Couples Specialist | Associate Marriage and Family Therapist My Approach to Therapy Welcome! I believe neurodiverse couples deserve understanding, practical tools, and compassionate support to navigate differences, repair ruptures, and strengthen their bond. Therapy with me centers on how you relate to yourself and how you connect with your partner, so we can co-create healthier patterns that respect your individual needs and the realities of your neurodiverse relationship. Together, we will design a clear roadmap with actionable steps for communication, shared growth, healing, and resilience —helping you navigate conflict, feel heard, cultivate compassion, and deepen your connection. M y Journey: Neurodiversity in Parenting, Partnership, and Life I’m a wife and mom in a neurodiverse family. Our three kids each have different neurotypes, my husband has ADHD, and I’m a highly sensitive person (HSP). As a couple, our different wiring impacts our parenting approaches, emotional needs, communication styles, and ways of showing and feeling love. Over the years, we’ve navigated the ups and downs of raising children, managing serious medical challenges for one of our children while keeping life “normal” for our other two, and juggling work and travel. In times of crisis and busy-ness, it’s easy to slip into survival mode and stop connecting—we’ve learned that relationships, especially between partners with different neurotypes, take intentional daily practice . Small, consistent efforts to stay attuned, adapt, and repair have strengthened our bond and our family rhythm. Children thrive when their parents are connected and in love. This experience informs how I support couples: empathy, practical strategies, curiosity, and consistent practice can make real, lasting change in relationships. Parenting Through Neurodiversity and Serious Medical Issues I’ve done the hospital all-nighters, medication schedules, insurance calls, and constant “Plan B.” I’ve navigated children with different needs, and when HSP and ADHD come into conflict at the least opportune times—and learned that clear communication and small repeatable routines steady a household better than one-off heroics. Families don’t need perfection; they need nervous-system regulation, aligned expectations, clear boundaries, and repair that actually sticks . Adoption, Attachment, and Complex Family Systems I was adopted as an infant and raised with split custody after my adoptive parents divorced. My mom came out as a lesbian when I was in first grade and built a large, loving blended family with her partner (now wife of 20+ years), her children, and my step-sister from a prior relationship. My dad remarried, and in that home I was an only child. As an adult, I reunited with my birth mother. Living between different households—and then doing the attachment work of reunification—taught me that belonging is built through safety, consistency, and trust , not titles. I bring those attachment lessons into therapy: predictable care, listening, straight talk, and small promises kept. Married 25 Years- Staying Connected My husband and I met in college on the East Coast, and in 2025 we celebrated 25 years of marriage. He was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult–learning about his neurotype, and understanding more about my sensitivity, enabled us to break old cycles of recurrent arguments, missed cues, and shutdown/flare patterns. Couples counseling has been key to our growth and staying connected , especially during medical crises and times of stress—prioritizing repair over being “right,” using clear scripts on hard days, and protecting time for intimacy and connection when everything else feels unstable. This experience informs my work as a couples therapist, helping partners navigate differences, improve communication, and strengthen their connection. Parent Coaching and School Support Before becoming a therapist, I helped to launch two schools –a preschool and a K-8 school, where I was deeply involved in school administration and admissions. That experience matters. I understand how administrators make decisions, how to make sure a school is a good fit for a child, and how to advocate for the support that each child needs and deserves through collaboration and IEP/504 processes. As a therapist, I bring experience working in elementary school settings and was honored with a California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) award in 2025 for my collaborative approach to working with neurodiverse children, their families, schools, and other specialists. Mind–Body Wellness Trail running with friends keeps me balanced—it’s nervous-system regulation in motion. Cooking with my family, whether we’re making homemade pasta or tackling creative kitchen challenges, brings joy and connection. Time with friends and family restores perspective, and reading keeps me curious. Playing with our golden retriever, going on dates with my husband, jumping on the trampoline with my son, and hanging out with my teen daughters make life deeply meaningful. These moments remind me that nurturing our closest relationships matters most, especially when life feels full and demanding. Neurodiverse Couples: Repair That Works Under Real-Life Stress Neurodiverse couples often love each other deeply but trip the same wires: intent vs. impact mismatches, processing-speed differences, sensory overload, executive-function gaps, and uneven social needs. When you add a child’s medical needs or school crisis, the bond can slide into logistics-only mode and resentment. What we build together: Shared language for neurotype differences. Clear, non-pathologizing terms that reduce blame and make needs discussable. Repair first, then reasons. Ownership before context; repair scripts that fit your brains and your stress window. Executive-function scaffolds for the relationship. Time anchors, transition plans, decision trees, and externalized reminders so love isn’t held hostage by working memory. Sensory-aware intimacy. Pressure-free closeness, pacing, and predictable rituals that make connection safe again. Conflict that ends. Shorter fights, calmer recoveries, and agreements you can actually keep during busy weeks or medical flares. Bottom line: we design routines and communication playbooks that hold under pressure—because that’s when you need them. Parenting Neurodiverse Children (Including Chronic Illness and 2e) Parenting neurodiverse kids is both beautiful and challenging. You’re balancing strengths with support needs, independence with safety, and your own burnout due to high demands. I help you: Stabilize the nervous system at home (yours and your child’s) before layering new skills. Build routines that survive chaos, using smallest viable steps and visual anchors. Translate assessments into accommodations schools will actually implement. Support 2e learners so giftedness doesn’t mask disability—or vice versa. Cope with chronic illness : pacing, grief, medical advocacy, and sibling care that doesn’t disappear. Manage dynamics between siblings of different neurotypes, fostering understanding, fairness, and connection. Align as parents to reduce conflict and create consistency, helping children feel safe and supported. Keep the couple strong so the family system can thrive. Blended Families (Informed by My Own Upbringing) Growing up across two homes—with different rules, values, and cultures—taught me how identity and belonging form in motion. In session, we clarify roles, set respectful boundaries, and create rituals that include everyone without erasing anyone. Small, predictable gestures build trust faster than good intentions. Working With Adult Adoptees Adults who were adopted in infancy or childhood often experience unique challenges around attachment, identity, and belonging. In my work with adult adoptees, I help clients understand how early adoption experiences can shape patterns of closeness and trust with partners and children, as well as how these dynamics may influence parenting. Together, we explore the impact of trauma, loss, and questions of identity while building tools for authentic connection and open conversations about adoption within relationships and families. Treatment Modalities- An Integrative Approach There’s no single approach that works for everyone. I take time to get to know you—both as individuals and as a couple—and tailor my work to meet your unique needs and goals. I draw from a range of therapeutic modalities and the latest evidence-based research to best support your growth and connection: Foundational Approaches: CBT, ACT, Humanistic/Person-Centered, Solution-Focused/Brief, Psychodynamic, Behavioral and Social Thinking interventions. Mind–Body & Experiential: Mindfulness, somatic-informed work, expressive arts to help clients connect with and regulate their internal experiences. Relationship & Systems: Family Systems Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Relational Life Therapy (RLT) to support connection and relational growth. Trauma-Informed: I use a trauma-informed lens in all of my work, creating a safe, attuned, and empowering environment to help clients process experiences and build resilience. Collaboration: I coordinate with medical teams, schools, specialists, and educational consultants when it supports the work and the client’s goals. Education Bachelor of Arts , Psychology — Boston College Master of Science , Counseling Psychology — Dominican University of California License & Employment Information Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, #156426 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Specialty Areas: Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients, Neurodiverse Couples, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Trauma-Informed, CBT, Attachment, ACT, Blended Families, Communication, Emotional Intimacy Kimberly Hawks Take an Autism Test

There are a lot of words floating around these days. HSP. Autism. ADHD. Sensory. Empath. Neurodivergent. It can feel confusing, overwhelming—even invalidating. What do these labels actually mean? And more importantly… what do they mean for you ? That’s where we come in. Our job is to give you the tools to figure it out—with clarity, compassion, and zero pressure. You might be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) if… You feel things extra deeply. You notice what others miss. You get overstimulated easily—and you need real downtime to recover. Does this sound familiar? If so, you're not alone. Roughly 20% of people are Highly Sensitive. Want to learn more? Start here if you're in a relationship: Understanding the HSP in a Relationship Start here if you're exploring it on your own: What It Means to Be an HSP But what if there's more going on than HSP? HSP traits can overlap with autism and ADHD. That doesn’t mean they’re the same—but it does mean they’re easy to confuse. Autism vs. HSP: Both experience sensory overwhelm. But for autistic individuals, it’s often about processing difficulties . For HSPs, it’s more about emotional depth —a sensitivity to meaning, nuance, and relational energy. ADHD vs. HSP: Both can feel overwhelmed in busy environments. But ADHD is often marked by inattention or impulsivity . HSPs are more likely to feel over-focused —on emotions, subtle cues, or everything at once. Getting clear on what’s what can make all the difference—in how you manage life, relationships, and even self-talk. Want tools to help sort it out? Take the HSP Inventory: 👉 HSPI-24 Screener 📘 About the HSP Inventory Explore autism traits: 👉 Autism and Related Screeners Check for ADHD traits: 👉 ADHD and Related Screeners Still unsure? Let’s talk. You don’t need a label. You just need a path that fits you . 👉 Fill out our contact form to get started. Our team is here to help you take the next step. With care, Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Get Matched with a Therapist 🔦 Spotlight on Nancy Rushing Specialties Neurodiverse Couples Specialist HSP, ADHD, Autism, AuDHD, Sensory Sensitivities and Processing Sex Anxiety and Depression Parenting (Neurodivergent & Neurotypical) Social Anxiety Intimate Partner Abuse Perfectionism/High-Achievement Grief Chronic Illness/Caregiving Support Personal Experience I am AuDHD , living with both Autism and ADHD. I am a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) I am also raising two Highly Sensitive Children (HSC) Born and raised in the South—in Louisiana and Texas—by immigrant Chinese parents, both of whom are neurodivergent. Languages: English & Mandarin Chinese. Experienced various neurodiverse relationships through family, friends, partnerships, teaching, parenting and counseling. Learn more about Nancy! © 2025 New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc. All rights reserved. No portion of these questionnaires may be reproduced, redistributed, or used in any form without explicit written permission from the New Path Family of Therapy Centers. Want to learn more about yourself? Explore our sister site, Adult Autism Assessment , and take a deeper dive into your journey of self-discovery. Click the links below to get started! Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Tests Related to Autism & ADHD General Screeners Use our Trait Wheels to better understand your strengths and challenges: Autism Trait Wheel ADHD Trait Wheel AuDHD Trait Wheel

Find answers to your questions about Autism, Neurodiverse couples counseling, Cassandra Syndrome, and Skills Training. HELPFUL RESOURCES INFORMATION OVERLOAD It is easy to fall into the deep hole of the internet to research neurodiversity and never come out. THERAPIST AS GUIDE One way to become informed is to soak in some information, process it with your therapist, and then see what makes sense to you. COUPLES CONTENT LIBRARY Visit our Couples Content Library to access additional exercises and information. Your therapist can can help you toward resources that may be a good fit for you. For now, here are a few touchstones of organized content. Infographics Neurodiverse Couples Communication Neurodiversity Magnet Family of Origin & Neurodiversity Neuro-Informed Websites Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center www.neurodiversecouplescounseling.com Adult Autism Assessment Center www.adult-autism-assessment.com She Rocks the Spectrum www.sherocksthespectrum.com Therapy 4 Autistic Men www.therapy4autisticmen.com Parenting Autism Therapy Center www.parentingautismtherapycenter.com Believing Cassandra (for Neurotypical Partner) www.believing-cassandra.com Neurodiverse Couples Retreat www.neurodiverse-retreat.com Books to INSPIRE you These books contain deep insights about being different. They will make you laugh, cry and learn. Enjoy: The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time by Mark Haddon Memoirs of an Imaginary Friend: A Novel Paperback by Matthew Dicks The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man's Quest to Be a Better Husband by David Finch The Power of Different: The Link Between Disorder and Genius by Gail Saltz Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger's by John Elder Robison We're Not Broken: Changing the Autism Conversation by Eric Garcia Books to INFORM you. These books are about making a neurodiverse relationship work. They can be hopeful and discouraging. Reading the books will help a little but most couples need to have an experienced professional walk you through the healing and growth process. Aspergers in Love, Maxine Aston Marriage and Lasting Relationships with Asperger's Syndrome, Eva A. Mendes Going Over the Edge? Practical Steps to Savings You and Your Relationship, Kathy J. Marshack Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships, Ashley Stanford Alone Together, Katrin Bentley Connecting With Your Asperger Partner: Negotiating the Maze of Intimacy, Louise Weston Loving Someone with Asperger's Syndrome: Understanding and Connecting with your Partner, Cindy Ariel PhD 22 Things a Woman Must Know: If She Loves a Man With Asperger's Syndrome, Rudy Simone The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder), Tony Attwood Neurodiversity Network https://www.neurodiversitynetwork.net/articles-websites Neurodiversity Hub https://www.neurodiversityhub.org/ Different Brains https://www.differentbrains.org/resources/ Vanderbilt University https://www.vanderbilt.edu/autismandinnovation/neurodiversity-reading-list/ Exceptional Individuals https://exceptionalindividuals.com/neurodiversity/ Neurodiversity at Work https://ndpathways.org/neurodiversity-overview/ Autism Spectrum News https://autismspectrumnews.org/the-superpowers-of-neurodiverse-couples/ Tony Attwood's home page http://www.tonyattwood.com.au/ AANE (Asperger’s Association of New England) http://www.aane.org Autism Women’s Network, Inc http://autismwomensnetwork.org Here are some helpful blogosts, podcasts and articles: GENERAL Neurodiverse Love - Support Groups and Podcast How an Evaluation for Autism Can Reduce Anxiety in Your Relationship The Top 5 Things People in Neurodiverse Couples Should Know Embracing neurodiversity in relationships Are You in a Neurodivergent Marriage? Tips for Women in Relationships with Partners on the Autism Spectrum Lessons from an Aspergers-NT Marriage Neurodiverse PARTNER An Aspie’s Perspective on Neurodiverse Marriage What's so special about a Special Interest? Rules to live by Eye Contact: the Conversation within the Conversation Asking for Help Perfectionism Catastrophizing Sucks! Saying No Neurotypical PARTNER What I've learned in a Decade of Marriage Neurodiverse Marriage: How to Love a Partner with Autism Five Suggestions For Communicating With Your Asperger’s Partner What to do when your partner has Asperger’s syndrome “We need to embrace those who are different and the bullies need to be the ones who get off the bus,.” Caren Zucker, co-author of “In a Different Key”