Some of the most damaging lies are the stories you tell yourself: “I’m too awkward to make friends,” “I’ll never get it right.” These thoughts feel true because they’re familiar—not because they’re facts. Research shows people like you more than you think, notice your mistakes far less, and often see your openness as courage. By catching and reframing these old stories, you can start living the story you truly want.

Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), or Persistent Drive for Autonomy, isn’t defiance—it’s a nervous system response to pressure. Learn the signs, what triggers it, and how to create safety and connection at home or in relationships.

Wondering if your partner might be autistic? Skip the pressure of a diagnosis. Use our relationship-focused trait screeners to gain clarity, understanding, and connection.