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Final Session Reflection for Couples
Ending therapy is a real transition, and it deserves the same attention as the beginning did. These questions help you look back at where the two of you started, name what has changed, and be honest about what is still in progress. Your answers become the agenda for your final session.
Complete this on your own, before your final session, without comparing notes with your partner. Several questions ask for two answers: one for the two of you as a couple, and one for you as a person. Short answers are fine. Bring what you write to the session.
1. Where You Started
When we started therapy, my main goals for us were:
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When we started therapy, my main goals for me were:
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2. What You Learned
During therapy, the most important lessons or insights for us have been:
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During therapy, the most important lessons or insights for me have been:
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3. What Changed
The most important changes for us have been:
e.g. Think about everyday moments too: how a disagreement starts, how it ends, how you reconnect.
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The most important changes for me have been:
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4. What Is Still Unfinished
The unfinished work for us is:
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The unfinished work for me is:
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5. Memories
My most powerful memories about therapy are:
e.g. A session, a moment, a sentence someone said, a turning point.
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6. Feelings About Ending
The emotions I feel when I think about ending therapy are:
e.g. Relief, pride, sadness and worry can all be true at once.
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Unfinished is not failed: Every couple leaves therapy with work still in progress. That is the point: you are not ending because everything is fixed, you are ending because you now have the tools to keep working without a referee. The unfinished list is your plan for the next year.
Go deeper
Ready for more? These lessons pick up where this worksheet leaves off.
- Knowing When to Come Back, from The Neurodiverse Couples Repair Program. Ending couples therapy?
- Staying Close, from The Neurodiverse Couples Repair Program. Stay close in ordinary weeks: small daily moments and a short check-in that fits you both.
- Building Your Couple Operating Manual, from The Neurodiverse Couple. The capstone: turn everything you've learned into one shared couple operating manual — map your two systems and write agreements that actually stick.