< Back Nara Ahn Neurodiverse Couples Specialist | Associate Marriage and Family Therapist | Associate Professional Clinical Counselor At a Glance Over two decades of firsthand experience navigating a neurodiverse marriage Mother to two beautiful neurodivergent daughters, nurturing their differences and helping them thrive uniquely More than 10 years supporting neurodivergent students in schools, including autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and other learning differences Bilingual in Korean and English — bridging cultures and neurotypes UCLA, Pepperdine, and Cal Baptist educated — three graduate degrees Raised in a low-income household, with deep understanding of what it feels like to go unseen Integrates faith and personal values into therapy when welcomed by clients Why I Do This Work I work with neurodiverse couples because I've lived the complexity of loving someone whose brain works differently than mine — for more than twenty years. I know what it feels like to reach for connection and miss. I know the exhaustion of adapting, explaining, trying harder — and still feeling like you're speaking different languages. I also know that the gap between partners isn't a sign of failure . It's a sign that two people are still reaching for each other, still hoping for something better. My work with neurodiverse couples is about bridging those gaps. Not by asking one partner to change their brain to fit the other, but by helping both of you understand how your nervous systems work, where you're actually talking past each other, and how to build a connection that honors both of your ways of being in the world. Growing Up Between Worlds I grew up in a low-income household as the daughter of Korean immigrants. My childhood was shaped by scarcity — not just material scarcity, but emotional scarcity. I learned early to read the room before speaking, to anticipate needs before being asked, to make myself useful enough to be safe. What I didn't learn until much later was that this had made me invisible. I was reliable, but unnoticed. Helpful, but unknown. The people who loved me often didn't truly see me — not because they didn't care, but because they were exhausted or overwhelmed themselves. That kind of loneliness teaches you something. It taught me exactly what it means to feel misunderstood and hungry for recognition from the people closest to you. That childhood wound became my clinical compass. When I sit with couples where one partner feels invisible or unheard, I don't have to imagine what that's like. I know it in my bones. UCLA, Pepperdine, and Cal Baptist — A Foundation Built on Curiosity Education has been a through line in my life. I earned my Bachelor's degree in English from UCLA, then went on to complete two Master's degrees at Pepperdine University — one in Education and one in Psychology. Most recently, I completed my Master of Science in Counseling Psychology at California Baptist University, with an emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy and Professional Clinical Counseling. Each degree deepened my understanding of how people learn, connect, and heal. My education background gave me the language for how brains process differently. My psychology training gave me the clinical tools. And my counseling degree brought it all together — equipping me to sit with couples in the hardest moments of their relationships and help them find a way through. A Decade in the Classroom with Neurodivergent Students For over a decade, I worked as an educator supporting students with autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and other learning differences. These were not students struggling from a lack of intelligence or effort—they were navigating systems that were never designed for how their brains work. I assisted in drafting IEPs, developed differentiated instruction, and advocated fiercely for meaningful accommodations. I witnessed profound shifts when students were finally given permission to learn in ways that aligned with their needs. That work reshaped how I understand neurodiversity. I came to see it not as a deficit, but as natural variation. At the same time, I witnessed something more difficult: how often the world pathologizes difference. Regulation challenges were labeled as behavior problems. Parents carried unnecessary blame. Bright, capable children began to see themselves as broken—simply because they did not fit an expected mold. This experience now informs my work with couples in a powerful way. When I work with partners where one person is neurodivergent, I do not begin from a deficit framework. I begin with curiosity : What does this person’s brain need? How are they attempting to connect? What may be interpreted as rejection or neglect that is, in fact, a difference in processing? Two Beautifully Different Daughters Parenting has deepened my understanding of neurodiversity in ways nothing else could. I’m raising two daughters who could not be more different from each other—and watching them grow has been one of the greatest teachers of my life. My girls experience the world in ways that don’t always align with what others expect. My older daughter’s mind moves quickly, making connections that others might miss, while my younger daughter notices the world with an intensity that can feel overwhelming. She cares so fiercely about the people she loves that it sometimes overwhelms her. I’ve also witnessed the world misread them both in ways that unfairly affect their self-perception. Raising these two wildly different humans has taught me that there is no single “right” way to be wired. What supports one daughter can overwhelm the other; what soothes one can unsettle the other. As a couples therapist, this understanding translates directly: I recognize that what one partner needs for safety and connection may look completely different from what the other partner needs—and both are valid. More Than Two Decades in a Neurodiverse Marriage My understanding of neurodiverse relationships didn't come from a textbook. It came from more than twenty years of marriage to a neurodivergent partner. Early in that marriage, I thought I was failing. We had communication breakdowns I couldn't solve with clarity and effort alone. He had sensory needs I didn't understand. I had emotional needs he sometimes couldn't meet — not because he didn't care, but because regulation and social reciprocity worked differently in his brain. We found ourselves caught in that painful cycle: I'd reach, he'd withdraw. I'd interpret it as rejection. He'd feel pressured and overwhelmed. We'd both end up feeling unseen. Over those years, I had to unlearn what I thought I knew about partnership. I had to stop expecting my style of connection to land the way I intended. I had to learn his language. And I had to realize that my needs were real and valid even when they looked different from his capacity in a given moment. We had to build a different rhythm — one that honored both of us. That lived experience is the foundation of the work I bring to couples today . Not theory. Not clinical distance. But the real, messy, hard-won understanding of what it takes to stay connected to someone whose brain wires things differently. I know the grief of it. I know the beauty of it. I know what it takes. How I Work I take a strengths-based, neurodiversity-affirming approach grounded in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and nervous-system-centered practices , tailored to how neurodivergent brains actually communicate, regulate, and connect. We begin by translating—identifying where partners are talking past each other—then rebuild from a clear understanding of what each person truly needs. Who I Work With Neurodivergent-neurotypical couples navigating communication gaps and the search for connection Dual-neurodivergent couples (ADHD-autism, ADHD-ADHD, and other combinations) Partners stuck in pursuit-withdraw, collapse-escalate, or silence-pursuit cycles Parents of neurodivergent children navigating parenting stress, co-regulation, and advocacy Couples dealing with invisible labor imbalances, emotional overload, and chronic misattunement What to Expect in Session I communicate directly and literally while staying sensitive to your feelings. I help uncover unspoken or implied meanings fueling misunderstandings. Sessions are structured, collaborative, and goal-oriented. I accommodate neurodivergent needs including movement, fidgeting, reduced eye contact, written session summaries, and flexibility around sensory needs. I understand that what looks like resistance is often regulation — your nervous system protecting itself — and we work with that, not against it. You'll feel understood without being pathologized. License, Training, & More Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, AMFT #160292 Associate Professional Clinical Counselor, APCC #21068 Master of Science in Counseling Psychology — California Baptist University (2025)Master of Arts in Psychology — Pepperdine University (2012) Master of Arts in Education - Pepperdine University (2004)Bachelor of Arts in English — UCLA (2003) Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Psychodynamic approaches, and trauma-informed, nervous-system-centered care. Experienced in telehealth. Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Specialty Areas: Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients, Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, ADHD, Multicultural Challenges, Communication, Emotional Intimacy, Life Transitions, Trauma, General Couples Coaching, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), ACT, Blended Families, Christian, Cassandra Syndrome, Divorce, Alexithymia, ASD/Allistic Couples, Attachment, Betrayal/Affair Recovery, Discernment, Emotional Regulation, Family Conflict, Highly Sensitive People (HSP), Teens Nara Ahn Take an Autism Test

< Back Jen Evans Neurodiverse Couples Specialist | Associate Marriage and Family Therapist At a Glance Late-diagnosed autistic therapist — I work from inside the experience Parent of two teens — one diagnosed autistic, the other still exploring their own neurodivergence Lived experience of recovery — I understand the long arc, not just the early days LGBTQ+ and gender-affirming therapist — dedicated to supporting queer and gender-expansive individuals and partnerships. Primary modality: Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), adapted for neurodiverse couples Trauma-informed and nervous-system-centered — focused on how trauma reshapes neurodivergent life Why I Do Couples Work I work with neurodiverse couples because I know — from the inside — what it feels like to love, parent, and try to be understood across different nervous systems. I know the exhaustion of reaching for connection and missing. I know the loneliness of being told you are "too much," "too sensitive," or "too complicated" when what's actually happening is that your nervous system is doing its best in a world that wasn't designed for it. And I know the quiet grief of watching the same painful loop play out between two people who love each other but can't seem to land in the same place. My work is about slowing that loop down. Not by asking either partner to change who they are, but by helping both of you understand how your brains, bodies, and histories are shaping the moments that keep going sideways — and then practicing something different, in real time, in the room. I believe difference is not deficit, symptoms are adaptive responses to context, and healing happens in relationship. A Late Autism Diagnosis That Changed Everything I am late-diagnosed autistic. My diagnosis didn't simply add a label — it reorganized my entire identity and autobiographical history. Suddenly, patterns that had once been framed as "too much," "too sensitive," or "too complicated" came into focus as expressions of neurodivergence navigating a neurotypical world. This re-understanding was catalyzed by parenting. Seeking an assessment for my autistic teen opened a door I didn't know existed for myself. As I learned to advocate for them, I began to recognize my own lifelong patterns of masking, sensory overwhelm, and relational fatigue. Receiving my diagnosis allowed me to re-story my life with compassion. It helped me understand not only who I am, but how I have survived — and why relational safety and nervous system regulation are so central to my work today. When I sit with a couple where one partner is late-diagnosed or still in that "wait, is this me?" stage, I'm not theorizing. I know that moment from the inside. My Work With Neurodiverse Couples Many couples arrive in therapy caught in cycles of misunderstanding, shutdown, or repeated conflict — often carrying years of shame or self-blame rooted in difference. One partner may be more literal, energy-limited, and direct; the other more inferential, fast-paced, and socially tuned. Without a map, those differences can look like rejection, withdrawal, or "not caring." In our work together, I support couples in: Understanding how neurotype, trauma history, and attachment interact Translating differences without pathologizing either partner Creating relational accommodations that support both nervous systems Repairing ruptures and rebuilding trust after misattunement Moving from chronic defensiveness toward connection and repair Building communication grounded in clarity, emotional safety, and mutual respect I also work with individuals and families, recognizing that relational healing doesn't require all parties to be present for meaningful change to occur. Parenting Across Neurotypes I am the parent of two teenagers — one diagnosed autistic, the other still exploring their own neurodivergence. Parenting from inside my own neurodivergence has been one of my greatest teachers. Raising two kids whose nervous systems experience the world differently requires constant curiosity, flexibility, and repair. It has deepened my understanding of how profoundly different nervous systems can interpret the same environment — and how easily misattunement can occur even in loving families. The same dinner table, the same conversation, the same Tuesday night can be experienced as ordinary by one person and overwhelming by another. That lived experience shows up in how I work with couples. I take nervous-system reality seriously. I don't treat one partner's needs as "the right way" and the other's as a problem to be fixed. I help couples see how their two systems are actually meeting — or not — in any given moment, and how to design something more workable together. How I Work My primary modality is Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) — a non-pathologizing, attachment-based, experiential approach that treats emotion as a pathway to transformation, the nervous system as central to change, and relationship itself as the engine of growth. I have adapted AEDP for neurodiverse couples — pacing the work to honor sensory and energy load, building in concrete language and predictability where standard couples therapy can feel ambiguous, and translating between two nervous systems that often experience the same moment very differently. This is not AEDP done at a couple. It is AEDP designed for how neurodivergent brains and bodies actually meet each other. In practice, that means I work as an active co-traveler. You won't be alone with what you're feeling. We track the small shifts in real time — breath, posture, tone, the place a sentence catches — and we let emotions actually move rather than just talking about them. And we make as much room for the relief and joy of healing as we do for the pain that brought you in. Around that core, I integrate nervous system regulation and trauma-informed care, somatic therapy, nonviolent communication, and neurodiversity-affirming frameworks. The combination lets me work in a way that is structured yet flexible, responsive to difference, and oriented toward repair and growth rather than blame. Trauma, Neurodiversity, and the Work That Sits Beside My Practice Trauma is not an abstract concept to me. Alongside my clinical practice, I am deeply involved with a nonprofit dedicated to supporting people impacted by trauma — building safety, community, and access to care for people who have been hurt. That work sits beside my therapy practice and feeds it. Trauma changes how neurodivergent nervous systems organize themselves. It teaches the body to brace, the self to mask, the connection to flinch. So much of what gets labeled as "the autism" or "the ADHD" in adult life is actually the residue of years of being unseen, accommodated badly, or hurt inside relationships that were supposed to be safe. I take that seriously. It's why I refuse to treat anyone's adaptations as character flaws — and why repair, not insight, is at the center of how I work. Values I Bring Into the Therapy Room I believe that: Difference is not deficit Symptoms are adaptive responses to context Healing happens in relationship Curiosity softens defensiveness Repair matters more than perfection I strive to create a therapeutic space where clients feel seen, respected, and unpressured to perform — a space where authenticity is supported and growth is possible. Who I Work With Neurodivergent–neurotypical couples navigating communication gaps and the search for connection Dual-neurodivergent couples (autism, ADHD, AuDHD, and other combinations) Partners stuck in pursuit-withdraw, shutdown, or escalate-collapse cycles LGBTQ+ and gender-affirming therapist — dedicated to supporting queer and gender-expansive individuals and partnerships. Couples processing late diagnosis and the grief, relief, and reorganization it brings Parents of neurodivergent children whose relationship has taken the hit Individuals untangling identity, masking, burnout, or relational trauma What to Expect in Session I am warm, attuned, and direct. I'll name what I notice — gently — and I'll do it with care for both of you. Sessions are collaborative and paced to what your nervous systems can actually hold, not what looks productive on paper. I accommodate neurodivergent needs including movement, fidgeting, reduced eye contact, written summaries, and flexibility around sensory and energy load. I understand that what can look like resistance is often regulation — a nervous system protecting itself — and we work with that, not against it. You will not be asked to perform healing perfectly. You'll be asked to show up, be curious, and let us slow things down together. You don't have to do it alone. Relationships can become places of safety, creativity, and mutual care — even after significant adversity. On Recovery I bring lived experience to my work with addiction and recovery. I know — from the inside — what a recovery process asks of a person: what it costs, what it returns, and the slow rebuild of identity, relationships, and self-trust that follows. That experience means I can sit with clients in the early or fragile stages of recovery without flinching, and I can hold the long arc that comes after the substance is no longer the center of the story. I bring this most often into work with clients navigating substance recovery alongside neurodivergence, trauma, or relational rupture. License, Training, & Education Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT) #162617 — California All sessions are virtual. I work with therapy and assessment clients in California, and coach clients worldwide. Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Education Western Institute for Social Research — M.A., Psychology UC Berkeley and CSU Fullerton — Undergraduate studies in Sociology, Legal Studies, and Criminal Justice Reform Certified Integral Coach through an internationally accredited coach training program Clinical Training & Modalities: Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) — adapted for neurodiverse couples, trauma-informed care, nervous system regulation, somatic therapy, nonviolent communication, attachment-based relational work, neurodiversity-affirming frameworks Specialty Areas: Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients, Neurodiverse Couples, General Couples Coaching, Communication, Emotional Intimacy, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Attachment, Trauma, Life Transitions, Betrayal/Affair Recovery, Somatic Therapies, Autism, ADHD, LGBTQIA+ Jennifer Evans Take an Autism Test

< Back Conor Cunningham Neurodiverse Couples Specialist | Associate Professional Clinical Counselor (APCC) At a Glance Autistic adult with ADHD and OCD — navigating neurodivergence firsthand while supporting my daughter with the same diagnoses 5+ years in recovery from alcohol addiction; faith-based recovery is foundational to how I understand myself and relationships Navigated dating, long-term cohabitation, and co-parenting while neurodivergent — I've lived the couple dynamics I help you untangle Decades of masking followed by diagnosis in adulthood — I know the cost of trying to fit into a neurotypical world Grew up in the GATE (Gifted and Talented Education) program — I know the gifts and the costs of being a gifted kid from the inside, and I help parents navigate both for their own children Spent 15+ years in clinical settings before becoming a therapist: crisis intervention, case management, substance use treatment, behavioral health Walked through homelessness, incarceration, and psychiatric hospitalization — I know how systems fail people, and I know what recovery looks like Direct, literal, plainspoken — I won't expect you to perform emotions on cue or hide your authentic communication style I Know What It Costs I know what it is to love someone whose brain works differently than the world expects. And I know what it costs both people when the tools available to them weren't designed with either of them in mind. If you're in a neurodivergent-neurotypical relationship, you're already navigating a real structural challenge. One of you experiences the world in ways that feel obvious and natural; the other experiences it in ways that feel baffling, exhausting, or even impossible. You're probably both convinced you're the one telling the truth about what's happening. You're both right. And that's the problem. I'm here because I've been on both sides of that equation — the neurodiverse partner causing confusion, the one who couldn't quite understand why my communication style felt hurtful, why my intensity was too much, why I needed things a certain way. I've also been on the receiving end of neurodivergent behavior that I couldn't make sense of. I've fathered a child with autism and ADHD. I've co-parented across a divorce. I've done the relentless work of understanding what I couldn't intuitively grasp. This work changed me. And it's exactly what I bring to couples therapy. The GATE Kid Nobody Diagnosed I grew up in Southern California in a family that worked hard, valued education, and expected their kids to succeed. The problem was that I was already failing — not academically, but behaviorally. By first grade, my teachers were calling home. I was too much: too loud, too impulsive, too whatever. But my parents also recognized something else: I was sharp. I could think in complex ways. I could see patterns. So I got tested and placed in GATE — Gifted and Talented Education. I was the gifted kid. Case closed. What nobody figured out was that I was also autistic, ADHD, and OCD. I was just smart enough to compensate. I learned early that I could study the people around me, figure out what was expected, and reshape how I presented myself to meet those expectations. For decades, this was my survival strategy. It was also my slow poison. Looking back, I can see the pattern clearly: the sensory overwhelm I didn't have language for, the social rules that made no sense to me, the obsessive thoughts I couldn't turn off, the impulsivity I masked so thoroughly that people thought I was just "spirited." A teacher would complain about my behavior; my parents would respond with stricter consequences. Nobody asked what was actually happening in my nervous system. I wasn't diagnosed until adulthood. By then, the masking was so complete that I didn't recognize myself underneath it. Decades of Masking: The Real Cost Here's what nobody tells you about masking: it works. You can become so good at performing the neurotypical role that the people around you have no idea you're burning yourself alive to do it. You earn good grades. You make friends. You navigate relationships. You're successful by every external measure. What they don't see is the exhaustion. The constant mental calculation of how to sit, where to look, what to say, when to speak, how much emotion to show, which part of yourself to hide. I spent decades reshaping how I presented myself to meet neurotypical expectations. I was a high-functioning mask walking around in a human suit. The cost accumulated in ways I didn't even recognize at the time. Social awkwardness I couldn't explain. Relationships that felt confusing and painful. A persistent sense that something was fundamentally wrong with me — not because I was failing at being neurotypical, but because I was trying to be neurotypical at all. Then I found alcohol. And for a long time, it seemed to solve the problem. It quieted the obsessive thoughts. It made social interaction feel possible. It numbed the relentless effort of masking. It let me be around other people without the constant internal calculation of whether I was doing it right. I didn't understand at the time that I was medicating undiagnosed neurodivergence, social anxiety I didn't have a name for, and trauma I hadn't processed. For much of my life, alcohol was how I managed the weight of undiagnosed neurodivergence, social awkwardness, unprocessed trauma, and the relentless effort of masking. Getting sober meant losing that numbing agent. But it also meant finally being forced to look at what was actually happening underneath. And that's when I started to understand myself. Fatherhood, Parenting, Loss, and Advocacy Becoming a parent while still in active addiction and undiagnosed neurodivergence was chaotic. My daughter was born after a traumatic delivery with global developmental delays. At age three, she was diagnosed with autism, dyslexia, ADHD, and OCD — the same constellation of diagnoses I would receive years later. In some ways, watching her journey awakened me. I recognized myself in her struggles, but I also saw something different: she had advocates. She had early intervention services. She had parents and a family who collaborated to support her and fight for her rights. By age twenty, she's navigated college and is learning to drive. She's not a polished success story, but she's a person who knows herself and has resources. My family as a whole has collaborated to support and advocate for her services during her lifetime, and she is a poster-child for the success of early intervention services. But fatherhood also brought me face-to-face with grief. I experienced the loss of a child, and it broke me open in ways I needed. It forced me to stop performing and start feeling. It made me understand what really matters. Co-parenting across a divorce, navigating my own recovery, and watching my daughter grow up neurodivergent taught me something crucial: the systems designed to help people are often designed by people who don't understand neurodivergent minds. They expect compliance, they miss the actual struggles, they measure success by neurotypical standards. My daughter has had to fight for access to tools that should have been obvious. And I've had to fight to understand what she's experiencing — not intuitively, but deliberately, carefully, with humility. That's the work I do with couples. The NT partner saying "I don't understand why you can't just do this." The ND partner saying "I'm trying my best and it's still not enough." Both of them are right. Both of them are exhausted. And the systems they've inherited aren't designed to help them meet in the middle. Rock Bottom and Recovery Sobriety didn't come easily. I walked through homelessness. I experienced incarceration. I was psychiatrically hospitalized. I hit bottom hard, and there was a long time when I wasn't sure I'd come back up. But I did. And the thing that saved me wasn't willpower or bootstraps or any of that mythology we tell ourselves. It was spiritual recovery. Faith became my keystone. Not in a dogmatic way — it's foundational to how I understand myself now, how I understand other people, how I understand the work of therapy. I'm five years sober. That doesn't mean I've arrived at some polished place of stability. It means I wake up and choose recovery every day. It means I understand viscerally what it costs to be an outsider in this world. It means I've experienced systems that were designed to fail me, and I've learned to build my own recovery anyway. For the past five years, I've been volunteering at First Step House North County. I work with people in early recovery. I know what they're facing because I've faced it. I know what the shame feels like. I know what it looks like when someone is desperate to change but the world keeps telling them they're fundamentally broken. I know how to sit with someone in that place without trying to fix it or minimize it. This experience is part of how I show up for couples. I don't judge the chaos. I don't expect you to be further along than you are. I know what it looks like when people are trying their absolute best with tools that don't fit them. From the Other Side of the System Before I became a therapist, I spent fifteen years on the other side of clinical work. I was a Behavioral Health Technician at Hope Canyon Recovery. A Case Manager at Telecare Corp, working with conserved clients, doing discharge planning, navigating co-occurring mental health and substance use disorders. A Clinician at Telecare providing ACT services, counseling, and crisis intervention. A Client Advocate at Teen Challenge. I've also been a refinery engineer managing shutdowns. A firefighter and paramedic. A travel nurse recruiter. A hospice care specialist. A lab technician. My background is deliberately broad — not because I was directionless, but because I was searching for something I couldn't name. Work that mattered. Work where I could be direct and authentic. Work that aligned with my values instead of fighting against my neurology. This unconventional path taught me something crucial: systems fail people. Mental health systems, criminal justice systems, social service systems — they're all designed by people who think linearly, who expect compliance, who measure success by narrow metrics. And they fail the people who think differently, who have trauma histories, who need something outside the standard box. I've seen it from every angle. I've been the crisis counselor and the person in crisis. I've been the case manager and the conserved client. I've been the one trying to help and the one receiving services that weren't designed for me. This perspective is invaluable in couples therapy. I don't expect you to fit into the system. I expect the system is probably failing you in predictable ways. What You'll Actually Get in Sessions With Me I'm direct. I won't expect you to perform emotions on cue or package your experience in neurotypical terms. I won't misread your communication style as a character flaw. If I don't understand something, I'll ask. If I see a pattern, I'll name it clearly. I've trained in CBT, DBT, Motivational Interviewing, trauma-informed care, and substance use treatment. I'm also trained in LIGHT Therapy (Light-Induced Guided Healing Therapy) and hypnotherapy. But I don't lead with clinical frameworks — I lead with understanding. We'll talk about your actual relationship, the patterns you're stuck in, the ways you're trying and failing, the things that make no sense to one of you and complete sense to the other. For neurodivergent folks, I accommodate movement, fidgeting, reduced eye contact, and needing written summaries of what we discussed. I won't expect you to maintain constant verbal engagement or fill every silence. I won't interpret your communication style as disrespect or distance. I understand that neurotype shapes how we show up. For neurotypical partners, I get the confusion. I've been the ND partner causing it. I understand what it costs to love someone whose brain works differently and to feel like your needs don't matter because you "should just understand them." We'll work on that real dynamic. What to expect: vulnerability, directness, real conversation about real problems. No corporate therapy language. No pretending your relationship should look like someone else's. No shame about how stuck you are — that's what I'm here for. License, Training & More License & Supervision: Associate Professional Clinical Counselor (APCC), California BBS #19221 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Education & Credentials: M.S. Clinical Mental Health Counseling, Walden University B.A. Human Services, Columbia College LIGHT Certification (Light-Induced Guided Healing Therapy), UCSD Hypnotherapist Certification, UCSD Training in CBT, DBT, Motivational Interviewing, Trauma-Informed Care, Substance Use Treatment Specialty Areas: Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients, Autism, ADHD, Neurodiverse Couples, Communication, Addiction, Trauma, CBT, DBT, Christian, Alexithymia, AuDHD, Family Conflict, Teens, Transformational Coaching, Twice-exceptional (2e) Conor Cunningham Take an Autism Test

< Back Jamison Haase Neurodivergent-Affirming Therapist for Couples, Individuals, and Parents Who I Am: Act One: Small-Town Beginnings, Big-Hearted Lessons Jamison grew up in a tiny Minnesota town where the family rule was similar to so many others: feelings stay under wraps. Substance abuse, depression, and shame shaped a household that looked picture-perfect from the outside but ran on unspoken pain. Labeled “flaky” and “irresponsible,” Jamison spent years believing those words defined him—while quietly building hard-won empathy for anyone who feels misunderstood. Act Two: Hollywood Hustle Armed with a BFA in acting (1997), Jamison spent nearly 25 years on Los Angeles sets, eventually founding an on-camera school that helped hundreds of performers find their voice. Coaching actors taught him to read subtext and body language, hold space for others’ emotions, and spot the moment a story shifts—skills that now power his therapy work. Act Three: Therapy & a Late-Bloom Diagnosis After COVID, passion for showbiz faded and Jamison pivoted to mental health. While earning his Masters in Marriage & Family Therapy, he finally discovered the real reason he felt so out of sync in life: undiagnosed ADHD. Almost overnight, decades of shame melted, and a new mission emerged: help others rewrite their own misunderstood stories. Neurodiverse Couples Building a life with different neurotypes can feel like two radios tuned to separate stations—lots of volume, little clarity. Jamison’s 15-year marriage has lived that static and found the harmony, giving him lived wisdom he now shares with partners who are: Untangling Misinterpretations – When “You don’t care” really means “My brain processes differently.” Stuck in Blame-Shutdown Cycles – Swapping criticism and withdrawal for curiosity and repair. Hungry for Real Connection – Replacing scripts that never worked with communication that finally lands. How He Helps Name the Neurology – Understanding ADHD, autism, or AuDHD removes moral judgment and guilt. Create Accommodations – Practical systems for time, tasks, and sensory needs keep love from drowning in logistics. Reignite Intimacy – Emotionally Focused and Gottman-informed tools rebuild trust and warmth. With the right map, neurodiverse relationships don’t just survive—they become some of the most creative, resilient partnerships around. Neurodiverse Parenting Jamison and his wife are raising two energetic kids—one gifted, gloriously neurodiverse child and one future world-builder who keeps everyone laughing. Every school form, bedtime routine, and sensory storm doubles as on-the-job training. What He Knows Firsthand The confusion of trying discipline strategies that implode on an ADHD brain. The heartbreak of watching a gifted child mask until they burn out. The joy of seeing strengths shine when accommodations finally fit. In Parent-Focused Therapy, He Helps Caregivers: Decode Behaviors – Is it defiance, overwhelm, or an executive-function gap? Build Family Systems – Morning routines, homework plans, and shutdown-recovery scripts that actually work. Protect the Parent-Child Bond – Navigating shame, grief, and guilt so love stays front and center. Jamison believes children thrive when adults understand the brain behind the behavior—and when families trade “fixing” for celebrating unique wiring. Men, Neurodiversity, & A New Masculinity Growing up in rural Minnesota, Jamison absorbed a clear script: real men keep quiet, push through, never show weakness, or almost any emotion outside of anger. When undiagnosed ADHD amplified distraction, frustration, and shame, the result was an unhealthy mixture of anger and self-doubt that no one—least of all Jamison—could safely name. That powder keg eventually sent him to therapy, where he discovered two liberating truths: 1) masculinity isn’t one size fits all, and 2) neurodiverse brains often process emotion, stress, and sensory input in ways the old script never even considered. Late diagnosis reframed his struggles, and helped redefine masculinity as less about “manning up” and more about showing up —vulnerably, authentically, and in full technicolor neurodiversity. Today, Jamison helps other men rewrite that script. Whether clients are wrestling with ADHD-fueled impulsivity, autistic social fatigue, or the quiet dread of “never enough,” he offers a space where strength and sensitivity coexist—where tears, laughter, and profanity can all live in the same sentence. In Men’s Work, Jamison Guides Clients to: Decode Emotional Overload – separating neurological overwhelm from “weakness.” Transform Shutdowns & Outbursts – mapping triggers, building regulation tools, and practicing direct requests instead of silent resentment. Cultivate Shame-Resilience – replacing self-berating narratives with self-compassion rooted in accurate brain science. Align Identity with Values – moving from inherited roles to consciously chosen definitions of partner, father, friend, and man. Because masculinity doesn’t need to be torn down – it needs a broader definition that includes every neurotype, every emotion, and every voice. Trauma, Overwhelm, & EMDR Jamison is trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), a research-backed approach that helps the brain reprocess painful experiences so they stop running the show in the present. He uses EMDR with clients whose lives are shaped by: Old shame stories that won’t loosen their grip. Medical, relational, or childhood trauma that still lives in the body. Freeze, flight, or shutdown responses that feel automatic and out of proportion. Because many neurodivergent clients process information visually, somatically, or in “high-def” detail, Jamison tailors EMDR to honor sensory needs, pacing, and consent at every step. That can mean more preparation, slower sets, clear stop signals, and lots of collaboration about what feels safe. The goal isn’t to erase the past. It’s to take the charge out of it—so flashbacks become memories, triggers soften, and people can respond from choice instead of reflex. Specialties & Approach Late-identified ADHD & Autism in adults Neurodiverse couples communication & intimacy Executive-function coaching for real life Men’s issues & redefining masculinity Attachment & trauma-informed, person-centered care Emotionally Focused Therapy Gottman-inspired skills Somatic & creative techniques EMDR-informed trauma work License &Employment Information Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, #151355 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Specialty Areas: Neurodiverse Couples, Autism, ADHD, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Emotional Regulation, Attachment, Communication, Family Conflict, Emotional Intimacy, Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients, Blended Families, Discernment, General Couples Coaching, Sex/Physical Intimacy, Cassandra Syndrome, Trauma Jamison Haase Take an Autism Test

Meet Stephen Robertson, one of our neurodiversity-affirming counselors and coaches for autism, ADHD, and AuDHD couples, individuals, and teens. Find the right fit for you. < Back Stephen is a creative, dedicated, and passionate therapist with a background in behavioral health, education, and social services. He has wide-ranging experience working with people in all stages of life, helping them to become happier and healthier as individuals, in couples, and in families. He integrates art therapy to enable couples to connect emotionally and intimately. Strength, resiliency, and connection are essential elements of a lasting, satisfying, and harmonious relationship. Stephen believes that these are the building blocks for healing, forgiveness, and positive progress. He provides a safe, nurturing, and judgement-free space where couples can explore resolutions to a current problem, prevent an exacerbation of problems, or simply provide support for a couple experiencing a period of transition or increased stress. Stephen facilitates the discovery of fresh energy to create a healthy emotional connection. His approach is nurturing , thus enabling clients to engage with the healing power of their own personal symbols. This entails fostering self-agency to empower them to leverage their positive qualities in order to become more free, powerful, happy, and healthy. In addition to strength-based work, his therapeutic approach is trauma-informed in order to support clients in their process of trauma integration and healing. He provides treatment that activates the body, mind, and brain with expressive methods that are engaging and empowering. Stephen has worked with people of diverse culture and ethnicity. He brings the ability to relate to clients with authentic knowledge and sensitivity to culture and ethnicity. In particular, he has experience with interracial couples. NEURODIVERSE RELATIONSHIPS: Expertise Stephen offers expertise in supporting your unique neurodiverse relationship. He empathizes with the often-challenging themes that give rise to relationship stress: the dearth of emotional reciprocity and the challenge of maintaining meaningful balance with your partner and others in your life. Stephen provides a safe space enable you to share your feelings and expectations. He believes the willingness to improve communication and to be open to be open to managing expectations and finding solutions becomes the foundation of increasing trust in your relationship. Compassion and Insight Stephen presents a compassionate and understanding approach to neurodiverse couples’ therapy. This enables you both to gain fresh understanding and perspective. He helps nurture awareness in each partner of their own individual patterns, from these insights he invites adjustments to enable both partners to get more out of their relationship. The neurotypical partner gains insight that the neurodiverse retreat into safe behaviors and routine, is not a rejection but is a consequence of the Defense Mode. The defense mode being one hallmark coping strategy of the neurodiverse individual. Stephen supports the neurotypical partner process feelings of abandonment, frustration, and grief. Catharsis and forgiveness in both partners enable openness to positive feelings and increased self-esteem. Making Sense of Neurodiversity It is important that you both make sense of your neurodivergent partner’s behaviors. You may have pondered why anxiety can be a problem for your neurodiverse partner. Stephen shows you how anxiety can lead to impulsivity, melt-downs, rage, and withdrawal, all negatively impacting the relationship. More importantly he supports you both to strategize, problem-solve and better connect to make progress on the challenges to your special relationship. Fresh Perspectives By offering a fresh perspective, Stephen helps you both positively revaluate your relationship. He offers structure and effective tools to use, this enables reengagement and motivation for your partnership. Such understanding enables collaboration to use your combined strengths and resilience. Stephen believes that neurodiverse people have numerous assets such as loyalty, honesty, intelligence, strong values, the ability to work hard, generosity, and humor. He is passionate in using these qualities to bring you closer together. Communication Stephen supports effective communication and step-by-step actions to grow the loving connection you both deserve. This sensitive, nurturing process, enables neurodiverse individuals and their partners to feel supported in dealing with their communication challenges. The discontent in neurodiverse partnerships that comes from the lack of initiation of connection will be assuaged by enabling you both to safely verbalize your needs. Stephen’s will work with you on a relationship schedule. Your relationship schedule will ensure quality time is set aside to meet both your needs. Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): Children Couples’ relationships Separation and Divorce Parent and child conflicts Depression and Anxiety Trauma and Stress Grief and loss and shame Forgiveness and Self-forgiveness Modalities: Internal Family Systems, Emotion Focused Therapy, Jungian Therapy, Humanistic Therapy, Trauma-Informed Therapy Clients: Couples and Families, Adults, Adolescents, Children License: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT #149714 Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc. Specialty Areas: Autism, Neurodiverse Couples, Emotional Intimacy, Communication, Internal Family Systems, Emotion Focused Therapy, Accepting New Individual Clients Only, Trauma Stephen Robertson Take an Autism Test

Meet our neurodiversity-affirming counselors and coaches for autism, ADHD, and AuDHD couples, individuals, and teens. Find the right fit for you. < Back Adela Stone Not accepting new clients See our other clinicians or Fill our our contact form to get matched Adela is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who graduated with an MA in Clinical Counseling. She also has a Master’s degree in Journalism which she received in Europe where she is from. She speaks three languages and understands the need to tailor therapy based on cultural backgrounds. Her experience as an immigrant helps Adela to empathize with her client’s life challenges, and her early parental and spousal losses enable her to connect with others in mourning. It has also boosted her resilience and given her a worldview atypical for her age. She has gone through a big marital challenge herself during her current second marriage and has undergone couples therapy. She is now a part of a blended family which enables her to understand some of the tricky dynamics of step parenting. NEURODIVERSE COUPLES: The most common complaint of a neurotypical person in partnership with a neurodiverse person is the partner's rigidity. Often, the individuals in this type of relationship suffered attachment injuries. Making Sense of Differences I can help you shed light on some of your partner's behaviors and make sense of the hurt, misunderstanding and resentment you may feel. It is normal to go through grieving: for the past of your relationship that wasn't neurotypical as well as for the future of your union that will be always be a bit different. Your brains aren't wired the same way. Neuroscience research show us that People with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) may appear stuck or have shutdowns or meltdowns because they are often in a state of overwhelm in which someone with Asperger's is scared, frustrated, or angry, as well as withdrawn. This state is often referred to as Defense Mode. Defense Mode I can help you understand the Defense Mode that a neurodivergent person often employs so that you can help yourself or your partner from shutting down so often. Perhaps you know what the signs of Defense Mode are by now. The neurodivergent partner isn't trying to be mean. In fact, they are doing the best they can with the emotional resources they have, AND they can do better: for the sake of both of you as human beings worthy of love and acceptance, and for the sake of the future of your relationship. There are ways to help yourself or your loved one come out of Defense Mode. The two fundamental ones center around decompression time and trust building which is comprised of four necessary pillars that we can work on putting together. Your partner isn't being willful. Their definition of an issue you are dealing with just isn't the same as yours. Listening to Understand Talking in order to connect is a basic human need but we need to have a common shared understanding first. The message about what this shared understanding actually is can get blurred or corrupted. If you have a common language you can define shared values and shared expectations. Remember that forcing a conversation will lead nowhere. We can work on how to ensure an important conversation does take place though. I'm sure you know listening is important but are you actually using efficient and respectful listening with your partner? If you are, both of you will experience less frustration. Listen to understand, not to form a defensive retort in your mind as they speak. Understand what it is like to be them. I get that it isn't fair to you, the neurotypical partner, it feels as though you are doing all the work. I agree, it isn't fair but you are in a partnership and are here so I assume you do want to try. I am in the business of hope and positivity and would like to offer you some. I have seen neurodiverse marriages succeed. Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity): Healthy Grieving as a Couple Couples going through life transitions Co-parenting Kink-aware couples therapy Couples with mismatched sexual desires LGBTQIA+ ally Differences in sexual taste and style Guidance through nonmonogamy/polyamory Blended families/step families Languages: Fluent in Czech, French and English Clients: Couples, Families, Young Adults Modalities: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Mindfulness-based Therapy, Gestalt, Positive Psychology, Existential Therapy, Art Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy. License: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT #143787, APCC #9260 Specialty Areas: Sex/Physical Intimacy, Kink/Poly-Affirmed, Neurodiverse Couples, Cassandra Syndrome, DBT, Intimate Partner Violence, Blended Families, Emotional Intimacy, Parenting (Neurotypical & Neurodiverse), Not Accepting New Clients Adela Stone Take an Autism Test

Meet our Team of Neurodiverse Couples Counselors for help with Autism & ADHD and your Relationship More about the TEAM... We're a group of dedicated therapists and coaches who have come together to: treat the neurodiverse community with respect, develop a robust set of tools to help neurodiverse couples, approach neurodiverse healing from a strength-based approach , understand that the trauma of past misunderstanding needs to be healed in a gentle way, share best-practices for neurodiverse therapy amongst the team so we can offer you a beneficial experience, and offer integrated therapy where both the couple and each partner can each have their own counselor ; yet, the therapy is synchronized to achieve compatible goals. Please complete the contact form to be matched with a neurodiverse therapist or coach.

As a therapist deeply immersed in the intricate dynamics of neurodiverse relationships, I've often found myself in the middle of the age-old debate: What holds more value, facts or feelings? 🤔 Picture this: one partner, with a furrowed brow, insists, "The facts clearly show I'm right! You are completely overreacting! You shouldn't feel that way." 😠 While the other, with a sigh of frustration, counters, " But you're missing how all this makes me feel, which is just as important." 😞 This isn't just an argument; it's a vivid illustration of two fundamentally different ways of experiencing the world, each with its own language, trying desperately to be heard and understood. 🗣️ The Deep Roots of Emotions 🌱 A deeper dive into the nature of feelings reveals that they are often rooted in past experiences rather than the present moment. This is particularly true for individuals who have endured trauma. For them, current events can act as triggers, invoking disproportionate emotional responses that seem incongruent with the actual situation. It's akin to a geological fault line; when the present bumps against this line, it causes tremors that reverberate through our being, manifesting as intense emotions. Understanding an Outsized Reaction 😲😡😥😖 This understanding of emotions sheds light on why we might react strongly to certain situations that, to our partner, might seem minor. It's NOT the present circumstance that's solely responsible for our feelings; instead, it's our past experiences casting long shadows over our current perceptions. This shift from present to past can lead us to erroneously believe that, if only our partner would change, our emotional turmoil would subside. However, the key to mitigating these disproportionate reactions lies in having compassion for the underlying trauma, thereby recalibrating our emotional responses to better match the realities of the present. The Autistic Mistake: Dismissing Emotions ❌🧠 Unfortunately, autistic partners often make the mistake of arguing facts over feelings. The wiser path is acknowledging the reality and significance of feelings, while setting facts aside for the moment. Emotions are indicators, messengers that convey important insights about our inner world and our relationships. The Allistic Mistake: Equating Emotions to Truth ❌🔮 On the other hand, the mistake that an allistic partner makes is to elevate these feelings to the status of incontrovertible truths , allowing them to unjustifiably indict others or dictate our actions. This misstep can lead us down a path of misunderstanding and conflict, both with ourselves and others. Take a Pause: From Primal to Thoughtful Response ⏸️💡 One of the most effective strategies for navigating emotional triggers is the practice of pausing before reacting. This pause, a moment of intentional breath and reflection, allows us to move from a primal, reactive state to one of thoughtful response. It signals to our body that we are safe, enabling us to engage the more rational parts of our brain. Learning to pause and respond rather than react can result in a monumental shift for a couple. Feelings are Essential, Not Truth 💖 Feeling our feelings is essential. Resisting or denying them as an individual or a couple only amplifies their intensity and can lead to greater internal turmoil. Feelings are transient energies, constantly in flux. By allowing them to flow through us, they lose their power to overwhelm. Yet, remembering this truth can be challenging in moments of acute emotional distress. Ultimately, honoring our feelings while also recognizing that they are not infallible truths is a delicate balance to achieve. Feelings provide valuable insights into our emotional landscape, but they must be interpreted with caution and context, particularly when they stem from past traumas. Neurodiverse Couples Counseling 🤝 For neurodiverse couples grappling with facts and feelings, the support of a neurodiverse couples specialist can be an invaluable step towards healing and equilibrium. In doing so, we learn not only to honor our feelings but also to ensure they serve us in constructive ways, guiding us toward healthier, more informed choices in our lives. Click Here To Match With An Expert With heartfelt guidance and support, Harry Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT, PsyD Dr. Motro is a registered Marriage and Family Therapist #53452 and the Founder/Clinical Director of the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center. Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule With Whitney Take an ASD/ADHD Screener Are you curious about whether or not you have autism/ADHD? Want to learn more about yourself and take the first step towards deeper self-understanding? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and Take An ASD/ADHD Screener

Meet Sara and Mark. Mark is autistic and, in our third therapy session, his struggles with alcohol became the BIG topic of discussion. For years, alcohol use sent their relationship on a rollercoaster of misunderstandings and pain. Whenever Sarah’s parents visited or Mark’s work became overwhelming, Mark would secretly drink. However, it wasn’t secret enough. Sarah would pick up on subtle clues, confront Mark, who would feel defensive and ashamed and would completely shut down. Sarah never understood why Mark drank and viewed his struggle as a personality flaw. Mark didn't want to drink, yet he couldn't find another way to cope. And he hated Sarah telling him what to do. It was painful for both of them! Fortunately, they didn't give up. Instead, they tried neuro-informed therapy. In our work together, they could finally stop blaming each other and take a deeper look at themselves. They learned to look beyond the alcohol to the underlying stressors. Eventually, they quit seeing each other as the enemy and started working towards an addiction-free relationship. Surprising Stats 📊 When it comes to substance use and autism, the conversation is far from straightforward. A recent study by the Autism Research Centre in Cambridge examined this issue using a mix of surveys and in-depth responses. Here's what they found: Less Frequent Autistic Use: Only 16% of autistic adults reported drinking on three or more days per week, compared to 22% of their non-autistic peers. Just 4% of autistic adults reported binge-drinking, compared to 8% of non-autistic adults. Male & Female #’s: Autistic males are less likely to have ever smoked or used drugs compared to non-autistic males. There were no significant differences in substance use patterns between autistic and non-autistic females . B ehind the Numbers: The Real Story of Autism & Addiction 🗣️ Despite the lower rates of substance use overall, the qualitative data tells a different story: Self-Medication: Autistic individuals were nearly nine times more likely to use recreational drugs to manage autism-related symptoms like sensory overload and mental focus . Many also used substances to mask their autism, a practice known as camouflaging. Mental Health: Autistic adults were over three times more likely to use substances to manage mental health symptoms, including anxiety, depression, dealing with past trauma, and suicidal thoughts . While some found relief and reduced their prescribed medication doses, others faced significant risks. High Risk: Autistic individuals are over four times more likely to report substance use related to dependence and managing suicidal thoughts . Working Together in Neurodiverse Couples Therapy for Addiction 🤔 Here are five key insights and steps to support your relationship: Recognize the Overlap 🔀: Understand that autistic partners may use substances to cope with sensory overload, social anxiety, or other challenges. A cknowledge this unique interplay between autism and addiction, how it shows up in your relationship, and break the shame cycle which is based on misunderstanding. Personalized Treatment Plans 📝: Develop both individual and couples treatment plans that consider the specific needs of the autistic and allistic partners. This may include sensory-friendly environments and transparent addiction recovery plans. Developing Shared Language 💬 : For neurodiverse couples dealing with addiction, creating a shared language is crucial. This includes practicing "recovery check-in’s" where partners discuss their progress and setbacks. I t's important to differentiate between a slip (a single instance of substance use) and a relapse (a return to previous patterns of substance use). By fostering clear communication, couples can address feelings of shame and vulnerability openly, which helps in supporting each other through recovery. Professional Support 🩺: Work with our therapists who are experienced in both autism and addiction. Specialized strategies tailored to neurodiverse couples can be more effective. Build a Support Network 👥: When appropriate, engage family and friends in the treatment process. Their support creates a stable environment crucial for recovery. Alternative Coping Mechanisms 🌟: Encourage healthy coping mechanisms, such as hobbies or physical activities, that provide relief without substance use. Stay Connected 💬 We're here to help you navigate the complexities of neurodiverse relationships. If you have any questions or need support, don't hesitate to reach out. Let's continue to learn and grow together! Harry Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT, Clinical Director Founder Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Think You Might be on the Autism Spectrum? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and Take the RITVO Diagnostic Scale

🧩 The Struggle to Connect: What's Really Going On? I’m guessing that many of you have struggled to connect with your partner? Probably for years… But have you ever wondered what’s really behind this difficulty? Is it a lack of social motivation on the part of the autistic partner? Or is the effort required to connect simply too overwhelming? 💭 Social Motivation: A Key Factor? Researchers have proposed the “ Social Motivation Theory of Autism ”, which suggests that autistic individuals may have a diminished intrinsic drive to seek out social interactions. Unlike neurotypical individuals who naturally find social connections rewarding, those on the autism spectrum may not experience the same level of social motivation. This reduced motivation can lead to fewer social interactions, which in turn contributes to underdeveloped skills in forming and maintaining relationships. The social motivation deficit comes first, leading to less ability to connect. However, it’s crucial to understand the difference between motivation and desire. Desire is the longing or wish for something , an emotional or cognitive state where a person wants a certain outcome. Motivation is the drive or push that turns that desire into action . It’s the internal or external force that compels someone to take steps toward fulfilling that desire. For autistic individuals, the desire for connection might still be present—they may deeply want to form relationships and feel connected to others. However, the motivation to pursue these connections might be lower because the brain doesn’t register social rewards as strongly as it does in neurotypical individuals. This doesn’t mean there’s a lack of desire, but rather that the drive to act on that desire is less compelling due to how these social interactions are processed in the brain. Key Insight : The struggle to connect may stem from an inherent difference in how social rewards are perceived, rather than a lack of desire to connect. 🛠️ The Effort Barrier: A New Perspective While social motivation might be lower for some autistic individuals, another significant factor is the sheer effort required to navigate social interactions. For many on the spectrum, the effort can feel like climbing a mountain. Contrary to the research we just discussed, a different study found that autistic adults can be just as motivated, if not more so, to engage in social interactions as their neurotypical counterparts. However, the effort required—decoding social cues, managing sensory sensitivities, and following unspoken social rules—can be overwhelming. This high level of effort can lead to withdrawal, not because the desire to connect isn’t there, but because the process is exhausting. Revised Understanding : The challenge in connecting may not just be about motivation but also about the significant effort required to maintain social interactions. For autistic individuals, this effort can be a critical barrier, even when the motivation to connect is strong. 🔄 Misinterpretations & Conflict: The Vicious Cycle Neurodiverse couples often misinterpret each other. Instead of understanding that their differences stem from how their brains work, they assume their partner’s behavior is intentional, leading them to take things personally. When these misunderstandings accumulate, they can lead to conflict, which further diminishes the motivation for social interaction and makes the effort barrier seem even more insurmountable. 🛋️ What to do? Here’s a suggestion to try at home: 1 - Find a time to have an open conversation with your partner about this topic. 2 - Ask each other whether you feel your connection struggles are more about motivation or effort. 3 - At this point, don't solve any problems. Take turns listening and only talk about how you understand yourself, not your partner. Try not to talk for your partner! If this feels too overwhelming to tackle on your own, please reach out to us. We’re here to help you clear away the misunderstandings that keep you stuck and explore how motivation and effort issues impact your relationship. Warm regards, Harry Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT, Clinical Director Founder Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Do You Think You May be on the Autism Spectrum? Take the RITVO Autism Test

"Cassandra Syndrome" is a term that Dr. Tony Attwood first coined in his book, The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome . It describes a situation where an individual with Asperger's Syndrome (a form of autism spectrum disorder) is in a relationship with a neurotypical partner. The neurotypical partner often feels dismissed and unheard, leading to feelings of frustration, resentment, and even anger. Defining Neurodiversity and Neurotypical: Judy Singer, an Australian sociologist with autism, first coined the term "neurodiversity" in the late 1990s. The term is now used to describe the range of neurological differences within the population, including conditions like attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), dyslexia, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), autism spectrum disorder, and even some traumatic brain injuries (TBI). While there is no one-size-fits-all definition of "neurotypical," the term is generally used to describe individuals with no neurological disorders or differences. In other words, neurotypical people are considered "neurologically average." What is Autism Spectrum Disorder? Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a complex neurobehavioral condition that affects a person's ability to communicate, interact with others, and have typical motor and sensory behaviors. ASD is characterized by impaired social interaction, verbal and nonverbal communication issues, and unusual or repetitive behaviors. The medical community now recognizes that there is not one "type" of autism but rather a spectrum of symptoms and behaviors that differ significantly from person to person. Current research shares that men are four times more likely to be diagnosed with ASD than women. However, this number is changing as we become more aware of the prevalence of ASD in women and girls. Differences in Brain Wiring: What is fascinating is the brain differences between those on the autism spectrum and neurotypical individuals. The autistic brain is wired differently than the neurotypical, and this difference in wiring can account for many of the challenges and strengths that people with ASD face. For example, people with ASD tend to be very literal thinkers and may have difficulty understanding sarcasm, metaphors, or jokes. This literal thinking can also lead to strengths in attention to detail and pattern recognition. People with ASD may also have Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD), which means that their brain has difficulty processing sensory filtering information. This condition can lead to Sensory Overload, where an individual is bombarded with too much sensory input and becomes overwhelmed. While everyone's brain is wired differently, those with ASD tend to have more extreme differences in brain wiring than neurotypical individuals. These differences can account for many of the challenges and strengths that people with ASD face. What is Cassandra Syndrome? Cassandra syndrome is named after the Greek mythological figure cursed by Apollo. Apollo blessed her with the gift of foreseeing the future, but when she rejected his advances, he cursed her so that no one would believe her predictions. In other words, she had knowledge others didn't have, but she could not share it effectively. In neurodiverse relationships, one partner has a different way of processing information and communicating than the other, leading to misunderstandings and frustrating communication breakdowns. However, there are ways to decode Cassandra syndrome and improve communication in neurodiverse relationships. What Causes Cassandra Syndrome? There are a few different things that can cause Cassandra syndrome in neurodiverse relationships. Poor Understanding: One is simply a lack of understanding about how the other person processes information. Communicating can be challenging when we don't understand how someone else perceives the world effectively. Psychoeducation for both the neurodiverse partner and neurotypical is key in overcoming this challenge. Lack of Empathy: If we cannot see things from another person's perspective, it's easy to become wrapped up in our point of view and ignore their needs altogether. This concept is known as the empathy gap and significantly contributes to Cassandra syndrome. Different Communication Styles: Another reason Cassandra syndrome occurs is that people with ASD tend to communicate differently than neurotypical individuals. Those on the autism spectrum may not pick up on nonverbal cues, such as body language and tone of voice. They may also prefer to communicate in more literal, concrete terms, leading to miscommunication and frustration on both sides. Different Priorities: Another cause of Cassandra syndrome is that people with ASD often have different priorities than neurotypical individuals. This can lead to disagreements about what is important in a relationship and how to spend time together; it is vital to be understanding and patient as you learn about your partner's priorities. Differences in Social Skills: People with ASD often have challenges with social skills; this can make communicating difficult, leading to frustration and misunderstanding. However, there are many resources available to help improve social skills. With practice and patience, communication will improve over time. Diverse Learning Styles: We all have different ways that we learn and process information. Some are visual learners, while others are more auditory or kinesthetic. Communicating can be challenging when we don't understand someone else's learning style. Power Differential: Another cause of Cassandra syndrome is an imbalance of power in the relationship; this can result when one person feels like they are the only "normal" or the only one who understands what's happening. It's important to remember that both partners are equal and that each person's experience is valid. Cognitive Abilities: Lastly, Cassandra syndrome can be caused by a difference in cognitive abilities. People with ASD often have higher-than-average IQs, while neurotypical individuals may have average or lower-than-average IQs. This difference in cognitive abilities can lead to tension and conflict, as the neurodiverse individual may How to decode Cassandra Syndrome: If you think you might be experiencing Cassandra syndrome in your relationship, you can do a few things to help decode it. First, try to educate yourself about how your partner perceives the world and what their needs are. Reading books and articles and talking to professionals specializing in autism spectrum disorders is essential. Second, be understanding and patient as you communicate with your partner. They may not pick up on nonverbal cues or understand sarcasm, and it's important to be clear and direct. Self-esteem and patience are essential in decoding Cassandra syndrome. Third, learn about your partner's priorities and how they like to spend their time; this will help you understand their perspective and make communication easier. It's also important to be flexible and willing to compromise. Fourth, try to find ways to improve your social skills. There are many resources available online that can help with this. With practice, you'll be able to communicate better with your partner. Fifth, make an effort to connect with your partner on their level; perhaps you can become more involved in finding common interests or learning about things that are important to them. With time and patience, you can build a strong, supportive relationship. Sixth, manage your anxiety and stress levels, especially working some physical movement into your daily routine. When we're feeling overwhelmed, it can be challenging to communicate effectively. Try to take some time for yourself every day to relax and de-stress; this will help you be more patient and understanding with your partner. Lastly, remember that both partners are equal and that each person's experience is valid. Everyone has different needs and perspectives, so respecting each other's differences is essential. If you can do these things, you'll be on your way to decoding Cassandra syndrome in your relationship. Want to learn more about Cassandra Syndrome? We invite you to visit Believing Cassandra, our partner site dedicated to providing women with the support they need to heal and flourish in their relationships with neurodiverse partners. Believing Cassandra Conclusion: Cassandra syndrome can be frustrating and challenging, but there are ways to decode it and improve communication in your relationship. By educating yourself about how your partner perceives the world, being more empathetic towards their perspective, and managing any anxiety you may have, you can start rebuilding trust and communication in your relationship. There's no one-size-fits-all solution to decoding Cassandra Syndrome. It's essential to be flexible and adaptable as you navigate your relationship. You can build a strong bond with your partner. And if you think you or your partner may be experiencing Cassandra Syndrome, please reach out for help. We at the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center can provide you with the support and resources you need to decode this syndrome and improve communication in your relationship. Click Here To Match With An Expert All the best, Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony , MA is a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #127882 , Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor #10253 , Transpersonal Coach, Author & Speaker. Click here to learn more about Barbara Lazarony. Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule With Whitney Take an ASD/ADHD Screener Are you curious about whether or not you have autism/ADHD? Want to learn more about yourself and take the first step towards deeper self-understanding? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and Take An ASD/ADHD Screener

Hi There, Have you ever felt like your meal routine was a little...different? You're not alone! We'd like to share some intriguing insights about eating problems in adults with autism, and it's eye-opening. 👀✨ 🍽️ Eating Challenges for Adults with Autism: The Research says… Men with Autism: The Struggle is Real Research has shown that men with autism face various eating problems that can disrupt their daily lives and relationships. These issues range from being extremely picky with food to feeling uncomfortable eating around others. Key Insights: Picky Eating: Men with autism scored 12.6 on the picky eating scale, compared to 9.7 for neurotypical men. Social Mealtime Discomfort: Men with autism scored 23.4 in social mealtime discomfort, compared to 18.7 for neurotypical men. Impact on Your Relationship: 👫 💞 Imagine your partner is struggling with picky eating or social discomfort during meals. This can make shared meals—a common bonding activity—stressful or even impossible. Misunderstandings and frustrations can arise, affecting the emotional connection and harmony in the relationship. 🥗 Women with Autism: A Closer Examination Heightened Sensitivity and Eating Disorders The same study found that women with autism experience even more significant eating problems than men. They report higher sensitivity to the sensory aspects of food, such as taste, smell, and texture, and display symptoms of eating disorders, like food refusal and purging. Key Insights: Sensitivity to Food: Women with autism scored 26.4 on sensitivity to food, compared to 20.6 for neurotypical women. Picky Eating: Women with autism scored 13.2 on picky eating, compared to 10.6 for neurotypical women. Eating Disorder Symptoms: Women with autism scored 10.5 on eating disorder symptoms, compared to 8.8 for neurotypical women. Impact on Your Relationship: 👫 💞 For women with autism, heightened food sensitivities and eating disorder symptoms can create significant strain. Partners might struggle to understand why certain foods or mealtimes are problematic, leading to feelings of isolation and tension. Addressing these challenges with empathy and tailored support is crucial for maintaining a healthy, supportive relationship. 🚨 Sensory Sensitivities & Interoception How Sensory Sensitivities Affect Eating Behaviors Research has also shown that sensory sensitivities in adults with autism are strongly linked to dysfunctional eating behaviors. Specifically: Visual Hypersensitivity: Those who are overly sensitive to visual stimuli tend to have higher levels of both eating disorder symptoms and autistic eating behaviors. Taste Hyposensitivity: Those with reduced sensitivity to taste are more likely to exhibit eating disorder symptoms. Interoception: The Hidden Link Another important factor to consider is interoception, which is how we perceive signals from our own body, like hunger, thirst, and even heartbeats. A recent study found that people with autism often experience atypical interoception, meaning they might not always sense these bodily signals accurately. This can contribute to eating problems and disorders. 🧩 Choose the Neuro-Informed Nourishment Way Our Call to Action Mainstream treatments for disordered eating are generally ‘one size fits all’. This can fail to help and, even worse, harm neurodivergent people. At Eating & Autism Therapy (EAT) , our individualized approach considers you as a whole person when it comes to food and eating, integrating an understanding of neuro-informed nourishment and trauma-informed care to honor your unique needs and autonomy. We see autism (or other forms of neurodiversity) as a strength and help you use it to your advantage. We are here to support you to explore and understand the patterns in your brain, body, nervous system, thoughts, and behaviors around food. We support you to define for yourself what you want and need when it comes to eating and find strategies that allow you to feel more comfortable and capable with your nourishment. This process is both practical and deep, as many clients find broader growth and healing along the way, like increased self-awareness and self-acceptance, happier relationships, more self-agency, and relief from chronic despair and shame. If you and your partner are struggling with the impact of eating problems on your relationship, we are here to help. Stay strong and keep thriving! Harry Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT, Clinical Director Founder Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Meet a Neuro-Informed Eating Specialist! Danielle Grossman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Neuro-Inclusive Disordered Eating Specialist. Her neuro-inclusive approach to therapy combines several factors to help clients better understand themselves and their relationship with eating. Among these factors are the neuroscience of eating, genetic components, the neuro-different brain as it relates to eating, and the impact of trauma. Danielle is passionate about moving away from harmful, more traditional eating disorder treatments and working with neurodivergent couples and individuals who seek help with eating and nourishment. Are you ready to get started and begin healing your relationship with eating? Complete Contact Form Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neuro-informed eating specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Do You Feel Restricted or Weighed Down by Your Rigid Routines? Want to measure how your repetitive behaviors present themselves in your life? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and take the Adult Repetitive Behaviors Questionnaire-2 (RBQ-2A). Take the RBQ-2A Test

🌟 ADHD Isn’t a Deficit—It’s a Different Way of Focusing ADHD isn't about a lack of focus—it's about a focus that operates on its own unique terms. Your ADHD brain is wired to zero in on what excites and engages you, unleashing incredible creativity and drive. But this same strength can also make it challenging to tackle tasks that don’t spark your interest, leaving you (and your loved ones) frustrated and misunderstood. It’s time to rethink ADHD as both a powerful tool and a challenge, and to understand how to harness its full potential. 🧠 The ADHD Nervous System: Unleashing Strengths and Overcoming Struggles The ADHD brain is a powerhouse of potential, driven by an interest-based system that can propel you to remarkable heights or present significant challenges depending on the task at hand. 🌟 The Strength: Hyperfocus and Creativity One of the most powerful aspects of ADHD is hyperfocus —the ability to become intensely absorbed in activities that captivate you. This laser-like focus can lead to extraordinary productivity, creativity, and problem-solving abilities. When your interest is piqued, your brain engages fully, allowing you to dive deep and excel in ways that others might struggle to achieve. 😴 The Struggle: Managing Mundane Tasks However, the same brain that excels in areas of passion can struggle with mundane, repetitive tasks . When a task lacks stimulation or personal relevance, it can feel nearly impossible to complete. This can lead to procrastination, avoidance, and a cycle of frustration where the inability to finish these tasks diminishes your sense of accomplishment and self-worth. 🥶 Another Struggle: Overwhelm and ADHD Paralysis Another significant challenge is ADHD paralysis —a state of overwhelm that occurs when faced with too many tasks or too much information. This mental shutdown can leave you feeling stuck, unable to move forward, and further exacerbates feelings of shame and inadequacy. By understanding these strengths and struggles, you can learn to navigate the challenges while leveraging the incredible potential that comes with your unique way of thinking. 🛠️ Therapeutic Interventions: Using NICUP and MEDS to Thrive In therapy, understanding that the ADHD nervous system is driven by interest allows us to develop strategies that not only manage symptoms but also harness the unique strengths of ADHD. Here’s how we approach it: 💥 NICUP: Aligning Tasks with Your Brain’s Natural Preferences NICUP stands for N ovelty, I nterest, C hallenge, U rgency, and P assion—elements that are key to engaging the ADHD brain effectively: Novelty : Incorporating new elements into routine tasks can keep your brain engaged and focused. We explore ways to introduce freshness into your daily routines. Interest : We help you connect your responsibilities with your personal interests, ensuring that even mundane tasks carry some level of engagement for you. Challenge : Transforming tasks into challenges or competitions can tap into your natural drive, making it easier to stay focused and complete them. Urgency : Creating realistic deadlines or adding time constraints can stimulate your brain’s need for urgency, helping you maintain momentum. Passion : We work to align your tasks with your core passions, ensuring that what you do feels meaningful and motivating. 🧘 MEDS: Building a Foundation for Mental Wellness While NICUP focuses on task engagement, MEDS — M indfulness, E xercise, D iet, and S leep—provides the foundation for overall mental wellness: Mindfulness : Practicing mindfulness helps you become aware of your thoughts and behaviors, enabling you to manage distractions and reduce shame-based thinking. Exercise : Regular physical activity is essential not just for your body but for your brain, helping to regulate mood, improve focus, and alleviate anxiety. Diet : A balanced diet supports brain function and energy levels, making it easier to maintain focus and manage ADHD symptoms effectively. Sleep : Quality sleep is critical for resetting your brain and preparing you for the challenges of the next day. We work on strategies to improve sleep hygiene, which can have a significant impact on your ability to manage ADHD. 💬 Addressing Shame and Self-Worth in Therapy ADHD isn’t just about focus; it’s also about the emotional toll that comes with it. Many adults with ADHD struggle with feelings of shame, inadequacy, and low self-worth because of the challenges they face in meeting expectations—whether their own or others'. In therapy, we work on: Building Self-Compassion : Recognizing that ADHD is not a flaw but a different way of processing the world. This shift in perspective is crucial for healing. Reframing Negative Thoughts : Helping you identify and challenge the negative self-talk that often accompanies ADHD struggles. Creating a Supportive Network : Encouraging connection with others who understand ADHD, so you don’t feel isolated in your experiences. ADHD isn’t about a lack of focus; it’s about focusing differently. The therapy we offer is not just any therapy—it’s specialized and deeply understanding because our therapists don’t just know ADHD clinically—they live it. Our team includes clinicians who are ADHD’ers themselves, bringing a wealth of lived experience to their practice. They understand the unique challenges you face because they’ve been there too. Through this specialized lens, we help you navigate challenges, build self-worth, and harness your unique strengths. Warmly, Harry Motro Clinical Director, Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center 📝 Take Charge: Screeners to Better Understand Your ADHD Understanding your ADHD is the first step toward managing it effectively. We invite you to take one or more of the following screening tools to gain deeper insight into your symptoms and how they impact your daily life: 🧠 Adult ADHD Self-Report Scale (ASRSv1.1) A commonly used self-assessment tool for adult ADHD, the ASRSv1.1 consists of 18 questions designed to help identify ADHD symptoms. ⚡ Barratt Impulsiveness Scale (BIS-11) This 30-question screener focuses specifically on impulsivity traits, helping you understand how impulsiveness affects your life. 📋 Structured Adult ADHD Self-Test (SAAST) The SAAST covers 21 questions about concentration, impulsiveness, disorganization, and hyperactivity, providing a broad overview of how these traits manifest. 🧩 Copeland Symptom List for Adult ADD If you’re more concerned with attention deficit rather than hyperactivity, this 63-question screener zeroes in on symptoms related to inattention. Taking these screeners can offer valuable insights and guide you in seeking further evaluation or support. 📊 Stats of the Week Did you know? Prevalence: Approximately 8.7 million adults in the U.S. have ADHD. 1. ADHD Statistics And Facts In 2024 – Forbes Health Underdiagnosis: Many adults with ADHD remain undiagnosed. Studies suggest that less than 20% of adults with ADHD are aware of their condition. 1. Adult attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) - Symptoms and causes - Mayo Clinic 2. Adult ADHD: Statistics and Facts - WebMD Gender Disparity: While more men are diagnosed with ADHD, women are often overlooked due to differences in symptoms presentation. 1. ADHD in Women - WebMD Comorbidities: ADHD often co-occurs with other mental health conditions, such as depression, anxiety, and substance abuse. 1. Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder in Adults: What You Need to Know - National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) Impact on Work and Relationships: ADHD can significantly impact an adult's career, relationships, and overall quality of life. 1. Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder in Adults: What You Need to Know - National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) Treatment Effectiveness: Treatment, including medication and therapy, can be highly effective for managing ADHD symptoms and improving overall well-being. 1 1. Adult ADHD: Symptoms, Statistics, Causes, Types, and Treatments - WebMD Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney

Communication sounds simple, right? Just talk and listen. But for many couples, that’s where things get completely stuck. When communication breaks down, it can feel like you're hitting a brick wall, leaving you frustrated and hopeless. Reflective listening can be incredibly helpful, making sure each partner feels heard and understood. But let’s face it, reflective listening is rarely enough, especially for neurodiverse couples. To break through your communication walls, you need to dig deeper and ask yourself some though-provoking questions. Here are four crucial questions to continually ask yourself: 1. 🤔 How have I been complicit in creating the communication patterns that I say I don’t want? There's a difference between being “complicit” and being “responsible”. Complicit means you're playing a part, even unintentionally, in creating the situations you claim to dislike. You might be doing things you say you don’t want, but in some way, these actions serve you. Do you know what this might be? Think about it. Are you trying to protect yourself in some way? Having a hidden agenda can create chaos in our communication, making it difficult to break free from negative cycles. 2. 🗣️ What am I not saying that needs to be said? 🗣️ Do you hold back important feelings and thoughts because you fear your partner's reaction? One way to reduce this fear is by using a " soft start "—actually asking permission to say something that may be hard to hear. Ask your partner to listen and promise not to respond for at least an hour. Sometimes, even when it feels safe talk, it may still be really hard to figure out what you want to say. This is especially true for our neurodiverse partners who may not be “tuned in” to themselves. Meanwhile, allistic partners may be so worried about keeping everyone else happy that you’ve lost track of your own needs. Taking the time to deeply reflect on what is truly important to you can change your world. It can help you feel like you matter. 3. 👂 What am I saying that’s not being heard? 👂 Ever feel like you’re talking, but your partner isn’t listening? First, focus on how you are saying what you're saying. Are you speaking calmly and clearly, or are your words dripping with frustration and hopelessness? Work on soothing yourself enough so you’re not in a triggered state of mind and body. Instead of pointing out what they’re doing wrong, try focusing on your own feelings and experiences. Expressing your internal thoughts can lower defenses and open your partner to really hear you. 4. 🧏 What’s being said that I’m not hearing? 🧏 Listening is a gift. It means setting aside your own agenda for a moment to truly enter the other person’s world. Take some time to reflect on everything your partner is trying to tell you. Is there a deeper message beneath all the words they are saying? Does a complaint about dishes in the sink really mean that your partner feels overwhelmed at the end of the day and needs someone to notice all the work that gets done? By staying curious about what is being said, even if you disagree, you show respect and validation for your partner’s feelings and thoughts, breathing new life into the relationship. 📝 Start the Deeper Work of Communication 📝 The deeper work of a couple's communication begins with you and a piece of paper (or keypad!) Here’s an exercise to get started: 1. Answer these four questions honestly: Take some time alone to reflect on each question. Write down your answers thoughtfully and thoroughly. 2. Share your answers with your partner: Set aside a quiet time to discuss your reflections. Make sure to carefully listen to each other. Say back what you are hearing but don’t respond. Save that for later. 3. Get expert help: Breaking through years of stuck communication is tough to do alone. To work through challenges, consider seeing one of our neuro-informed clinicians. They can provide expert guidance and support on this journey. For more transformative insights and neuro-informed support, don’t hesitate to reach out to us. We're here to help you navigate and strengthen your relationship. Until next time, Harry Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT, Clinical Director Founder Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center Want to Meet with Our Client Care Coordinator? Hi, I'm Whitney Pressley, Client Care Coordinator. Let's talk so I can match you with the neurodiverse specialist that's right for you. Schedule with Whitney Do You Focus Intensely on Some Interests, but Not Others? Want to see if your behavior is consistent with monotropism? We invite you to visit the Adult Autism Assessment Site and Take the Monotropism Test