Soy Kim
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Hello, it’s nice to meet you. My name is Soy and I am a registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist who earned my master’s in Clinical Psychology and studied Business during my undergraduate years.

I believe that therapy is a sacred space where one comes to learn to re-embrace their most authentic selves as well as their partner’s. These parts of us that were once labeled as cute, charming, or safe, have now become nuisances, being written off as “too sensitive,” “needy,” or “cold,” “disconnected.”

 

Together, it is my hope to create a place where you can re-examine the strengths in yourselves and the other, remember what was alluring in the first place, and how might you renegotiate your relationship with new discoveries. My approach is balanced: Gentle yet firm, non-shaming and affirming, without enabling, and it is in my nature to support those who may feel stuck, unseen or unheard, to find their voice and bridge the connection where there is disconnect.

 

Neurodiverse Couples:

Sometimes, it isn’t a mismatch in our personalities or values that impacts couples in challenging ways—sometimes, it’s our biology, and how does one change their biology?​

 

I offer neurodiverse couples the space, tools, and skills to both celebrate the relationship and also examine areas where there may be some challenges, learning how to respond to these challenges in a more connected way.

 

Another part of my role is to help facilitate conversations that may challenge you to slow down to not just hear what your partner is saying, but to also take in their intention. Our world is so fast-paced, sometimes we forget to take a step back not just to listen to the words, but to hear what’s being said.

Another important piece to this is education and awareness: We will take the time to learn more about yourselves and how you relate to your partner, as well as understand the biology of your AS partner. The goal here is to help gain a better understanding about oneself and the other, so that when opportunities show up to connect, you can do so in a more attuned way.

I honor the relationship you have already built so far and look forward to seeing how else I can help nurture its growth.

 

“When we reveal ourselves to our partner and find that this brings healing rather than harm, we make an important discovery—that intimate relationship can provide a sanctuary from the world of facades, a sacred space where we can be ourselves, as we are…This kind of unmasking—speaking our truth, sharing our inner struggles, and revealing our raw edges—is sacred activity, which allows two souls to meet and touch more deeply.”

 

-John Welwood

 

Specialties (in addition to Neurodiversity):

•   Couples struggling with trauma

•   Communication and emotional intimacy

•   Parenting after child sexual abuse

•   Addiction & codependency

•   Affair recovery

 

Clients:

Couples, adults (young, middle, older), adolescents

 

Modalities:

Trauma-informed, Attachment-Based, Humanistic Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Harm-Reduction, Narrative Therapy, Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Relational Therapy, Psychodynamic

Languages:

Fluent in English and Korean

 

License:

Registered Associate Marriage & Family Therapist, AMFT #119664

Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452

 

Contact:

Email: soykim.therapy@gmail.com

Phone: 650-273-0914