Learn why an ASD diagnosis may or may not be helpful and how an adult assessment for Austism Spectrum Disorder is conducted. SELF DISCOVERY Self-Tests to Help Neurodiverse Partners Understand Themselves and Each Other Autism Screeners ADHD Screeners Co-Occurring Neurodiverse Screeners HSP , Dyslexia, Rejection Sensitivity, OCD, Sensory Sensitivity General Screeners Perfectionism Anger Interactive Trait Wheel Exercises Autism ADHD AuDHD Neurodiverse Relationship Check-up Autism Screeners: General Autism Screeners (Broad Traits) 1. Ritvo Autism & Asperger Diagnostic Scale (RAADS-14) Emphasis on internal experiences 14 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Autism Spectrum Quotient Test (AQ) Most common screener for Autism 50 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Additional test for Women: 3. Modified Girls Questionnaire for Autism Spectrum Condition (GQ-ASC) Designed for adult women, it identifies behaviors and abilities in women associated with autism 21 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Learn more about these tests here. Autism Screeners: Associated Feature Measures 1. Alexithymia (2 screeners) 1a. Online Alexithymia Questionnaire (OAQ-G2) Measures 7 factors related to emotions (see below) 37 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 1b. Toronto Alexithymia Scale (TAS-20) Identifies difficulties identifying and describing emotions, and distinguishing body sensations from emotions 20 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Burnout (3 screeners) 2a. Autistic Burnout Trait Inventory (ABTI-24) * Measures long-term burnout risk based on masking, stress, health strain, and recovery gaps over the past year. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2b. Autistic Burnout State Inventory (ABSI-24) * Assesses autistic burnout in terms of your energy, sensory overload, masking fatigue, and stamina over the past two weeks. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2c. Autistic Burnout Construct (ABO) Measures signs of Autistic Burnout—a state of intense physical, emotional, and cognitive exhaustion that can result from prolonged masking, unmet support needs, or sensory overwhelm. 8 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Autism Screeners: Domain-Specific Autism Screeners 1. Camouflaging Autistic Traits Questionnaire (CAT-Q) Detects masking, social compensation, and assimilation 25 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Adult Repetitive Behaviors Questionnaire-2 (RBQ-2A) Measures repetitive and restricted behaviors in adults 20 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 3. Extreme Demand Avoidance Questionnaire for Adults (EDA-QA) Assesses behaviors often associated with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) —or as some prefer, Persistent Drive for Autonomy —a profile seen in some autistic individuals. Explores regulation, flexible thinking, sensory coherence, and social perspective-taking. 26 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 4. The Monotropism Questionnaire Assesses for features indicating a monotropic cognitive style, the tendency to focus deeply on a limited number of interests at one time. 47 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. ADHD Screeners: General ADHD Screeners (Broad Traits) Recommendation: Take these 4 tests and then book a free consult . 1. Adult ADHD Self-Report Scale (ASRSv1.1) Commonly used self-assessment tool for adult ADHD 18 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Structured Adult ADHD Self-Test (SAAST) Covers concentration, impulsiveness, disorganization, and hyperactivity 22 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. ADHD Screeners Domain-Specific ADHD Screeners 1. Barratt Impulsiveness Scale (BIS-11) Focus on impulsivity traits 30 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Copeland Symptom List for Adult ADD Assesses 8 ADHD-related domains 63 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Learn more about these tests here. ADHD Screeners Associated Feature Measures 1. ADHD Sexual Intimacy Measure (ADHD-SIM-24) * Measures strengths and challenges across four subscales: Attention & Presence, Impulse Control & Risk, Boundaries & Consent, and Relationship Communication & Satisfaction.. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 1. ADHD Masking Screener (AAMM ) The AAMM is a comprehensive masking profile that captures how frequently you engage in camouflaging behaviors across 7 key areas: Emotional Suppression, Social Camouflaging, Compensatory Organization, Overcompensation & Perfectionism, Physical Masking, Time Anxiety, Attention & Apology 28 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Co-Occurring Neurodiverse Screeners 1. Highly Sensitive Person Inventory (HSPI-24) * Designed for individuals seeking to better understand their level of sensitivity and emotional/sensory responsiveness. It measures four key traits commonly associated with high sensitivity: Depth of Processing, Overstimulation, Emotional Reactivity, and Sensitivity to Subtleties. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. The Dyslexia Questionnaire for Adults Assesses difficulties with reading, writing, and spelling that indicate dyslexia in adults 13 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 3. Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria Self-Assessment (RSD-24) * This self-assessment is designed for adults who want to better understand how rejection sensitivity may be affecting their emotions, relationships, and daily life. 24 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 4. Obsessive Compulsive Inventory – Revised (OCI-R) Identifies the presence of obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors across six key areas—washing, checking, neutralizing, obsessing, ordering, and hoarding—offering insight into how they may be impacting daily life. 18 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 5. Sensory Profile Screener Breaks down your sensory profile into 6 distinct categories. This screener identifies patterns in how you process sights, sounds, touch, and movement in your daily life. 60 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. General Screeners 1. Perfectionism (2 screeners) 1a. Clinical Perfectionism Questionnaire (CPQ) Assesses patterns of goal-setting and self-evaluation to determine clinical perfectionism. 14 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 1b. Frost Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale (FMPS) Measures perfectionism across several dimensions, including concern over mistakes and organization. 35 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. 2. Clinical Anger Scale (CAS) Assesses the severity of anger as a symptom or condition. It can identify individuals who may benefit from anger management strategies or therapeutic interventions. 21 Questions Want to learn more about this screener? Click here. Trait Wheel Exercises Three (3) available exercises. Each wheel turns complex traits into a simple visual map of your strengths and struggles. Want a quick overview of these wheels and their purpose? Click here. 1. Autism Trait Wheel Maps autistic traits across sensory processing, communication, focus, and emotional patterns using a dual-lens view of challenges and strengths. Visual Exercise — 12 Trait Wedges Want to learn more about this wheel? Click here. 2. ADHD Trait Wheel Highlights attention patterns, executive functioning, motivation, and hyperfocus while showing both difficulties and corresponding strengths. Visual Exercise — 10 Trait Wedges Want to learn more about this wheel? Click here. 3. AuDHD Trait Wheel Combines autistic and ADHD traits into one map, capturing overlap, contradictions, and the balance of overwhelm and creativity. Visual Exercise — 14 Trait Wedges Want to learn more about this wheel? Click here. Not sure what’s right for you? We offer a free consultation to help you figure it out—no pressure, just support. Check out the screeners and learn more at Adult Autism Assessments → Go to the Adult Autism Assesment Center For more self-discovery, join us at the Adult Autism Assessments: Services Overview (including pricing) Screening Tests (at no cost) ASD Assessment ADHD Assessment Dual Assessment (ADHD & ASD) Sensory Assessment Alexithymia Assessment Demand Avoidance Assessment *Disclaimer This questionnaire is designed to offer helpful insights and support self-reflection. It can be a useful starting point to increase understanding and many individuals find it valuable for identifying patterns and starting meaningful conversations—whether with a partner, therapist, or coach. That said, this tool is still in development and has not been validated through formal scientific research. While the questions are based on commonly reported experiences, the questionnaire’s reliability and accuracy have not been formally established. 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Whether one or both of you are Autistic, ADHD'er or otherwise neurodivergent, we are here to help. < Back Conor Cunningham Neurodiverse Couples Specialist | Associate Professional Clinical Counselor (APCC) At a Glance Autistic adult with ADHD and OCD — navigating neurodivergence firsthand while supporting my daughter with the same diagnoses 5+ years in recovery from alcohol addiction; faith-based recovery is foundational to how I understand myself and relationships Navigated dating, long-term cohabitation, and co-parenting while neurodivergent — I've lived the couple dynamics I help you untangle Decades of masking followed by diagnosis in adulthood — I know the cost of trying to fit into a neurotypical world Grew up in the GATE (Gifted and Talented Education) program — I know the gifts and the costs of being a gifted kid from the inside, and I help parents navigate both for their own children Spent 15+ years in clinical settings before becoming a therapist: crisis intervention, case management, substance use treatment, behavioral health Walked through homelessness, incarceration, and psychiatric hospitalization — I know how systems fail people, and I know what recovery looks like Direct, literal, plainspoken — I won't expect you to perform emotions on cue or hide your authentic communication style I Know What It Costs I know what it is to love someone whose brain works differently than the world expects. And I know what it costs both people when the tools available to them weren't designed with either of them in mind. If you're in a neurodivergent-neurotypical relationship, you're already navigating a real structural challenge. One of you experiences the world in ways that feel obvious and natural; the other experiences it in ways that feel baffling, exhausting, or even impossible. You're probably both convinced you're the one telling the truth about what's happening. You're both right. And that's the problem. I'm here because I've been on both sides of that equation — the neurodiverse partner causing confusion, the one who couldn't quite understand why my communication style felt hurtful, why my intensity was too much, why I needed things a certain way. I've also been on the receiving end of neurodivergent behavior that I couldn't make sense of. I've fathered a child with autism and ADHD. I've co-parented across a divorce. I've done the relentless work of understanding what I couldn't intuitively grasp. This work changed me. And it's exactly what I bring to couples therapy. The GATE Kid Nobody Diagnosed I grew up in Southern California in a family that worked hard, valued education, and expected their kids to succeed. The problem was that I was already failing — not academically, but behaviorally. By first grade, my teachers were calling home. I was too much: too loud, too impulsive, too whatever. But my parents also recognized something else: I was sharp. I could think in complex ways. I could see patterns. So I got tested and placed in GATE — Gifted and Talented Education. I was the gifted kid. Case closed. What nobody figured out was that I was also autistic, ADHD, and OCD. I was just smart enough to compensate. I learned early that I could study the people around me, figure out what was expected, and reshape how I presented myself to meet those expectations. For decades, this was my survival strategy. It was also my slow poison. Looking back, I can see the pattern clearly: the sensory overwhelm I didn't have language for, the social rules that made no sense to me, the obsessive thoughts I couldn't turn off, the impulsivity I masked so thoroughly that people thought I was just "spirited." A teacher would complain about my behavior; my parents would respond with stricter consequences. Nobody asked what was actually happening in my nervous system. I wasn't diagnosed until adulthood. By then, the masking was so complete that I didn't recognize myself underneath it. Decades of Masking: The Real Cost Here's what nobody tells you about masking: it works. You can become so good at performing the neurotypical role that the people around you have no idea you're burning yourself alive to do it. You earn good grades. You make friends. You navigate relationships. You're successful by every external measure. What they don't see is the exhaustion. The constant mental calculation of how to sit, where to look, what to say, when to speak, how much emotion to show, which part of yourself to hide. I spent decades reshaping how I presented myself to meet neurotypical expectations. I was a high-functioning mask walking around in a human suit. The cost accumulated in ways I didn't even recognize at the time. Social awkwardness I couldn't explain. Relationships that felt confusing and painful. A persistent sense that something was fundamentally wrong with me — not because I was failing at being neurotypical, but because I was trying to be neurotypical at all. Then I found alcohol. And for a long time, it seemed to solve the problem. It quieted the obsessive thoughts. It made social interaction feel possible. It numbed the relentless effort of masking. It let me be around other people without the constant internal calculation of whether I was doing it right. I didn't understand at the time that I was medicating undiagnosed neurodivergence, social anxiety I didn't have a name for, and trauma I hadn't processed. For much of my life, alcohol was how I managed the weight of undiagnosed neurodivergence, social awkwardness, unprocessed trauma, and the relentless effort of masking. Getting sober meant losing that numbing agent. But it also meant finally being forced to look at what was actually happening underneath. And that's when I started to understand myself. Fatherhood, Parenting, Loss, and Advocacy Becoming a parent while still in active addiction and undiagnosed neurodivergence was chaotic. My daughter was born after a traumatic delivery with global developmental delays. At age three, she was diagnosed with autism, dyslexia, ADHD, and OCD — the same constellation of diagnoses I would receive years later. In some ways, watching her journey awakened me. I recognized myself in her struggles, but I also saw something different: she had advocates. She had early intervention services. She had parents and a family who collaborated to support her and fight for her rights. By age twenty, she's navigated college and is learning to drive. She's not a polished success story, but she's a person who knows herself and has resources. My family as a whole has collaborated to support and advocate for her services during her lifetime, and she is a poster-child for the success of early intervention services. But fatherhood also brought me face-to-face with grief. I experienced the loss of a child, and it broke me open in ways I needed. It forced me to stop performing and start feeling. It made me understand what really matters. Co-parenting across a divorce, navigating my own recovery, and watching my daughter grow up neurodivergent taught me something crucial: the systems designed to help people are often designed by people who don't understand neurodivergent minds. They expect compliance, they miss the actual struggles, they measure success by neurotypical standards. My daughter has had to fight for access to tools that should have been obvious. And I've had to fight to understand what she's experiencing — not intuitively, but deliberately, carefully, with humility. That's the work I do with couples. The NT partner saying "I don't understand why you can't just do this." The ND partner saying "I'm trying my best and it's still not enough." Both of them are right. Both of them are exhausted. And the systems they've inherited aren't designed to help them meet in the middle. Rock Bottom and Recovery Sobriety didn't come easily. I walked through homelessness. I experienced incarceration. I was psychiatrically hospitalized. I hit bottom hard, and there was a long time when I wasn't sure I'd come back up. But I did. And the thing that saved me wasn't willpower or bootstraps or any of that mythology we tell ourselves. It was spiritual recovery. Faith became my keystone. Not in a dogmatic way — it's foundational to how I understand myself now, how I understand other people, how I understand the work of therapy. I'm five years sober. That doesn't mean I've arrived at some polished place of stability. It means I wake up and choose recovery every day. It means I understand viscerally what it costs to be an outsider in this world. It means I've experienced systems that were designed to fail me, and I've learned to build my own recovery anyway. For the past five years, I've been volunteering at First Step House North County. I work with people in early recovery. I know what they're facing because I've faced it. I know what the shame feels like. I know what it looks like when someone is desperate to change but the world keeps telling them they're fundamentally broken. I know how to sit with someone in that place without trying to fix it or minimize it. This experience is part of how I show up for couples. I don't judge the chaos. I don't expect you to be further along than you are. I know what it looks like when people are trying their absolute best with tools that don't fit them. From the Other Side of the System Before I became a therapist, I spent fifteen years on the other side of clinical work. I was a Behavioral Health Technician at Hope Canyon Recovery. A Case Manager at Telecare Corp, working with conserved clients, doing discharge planning, navigating co-occurring mental health and substance use disorders. A Clinician at Telecare providing ACT services, counseling, and crisis intervention. A Client Advocate at Teen Challenge. I've also been a refinery engineer managing shutdowns. A firefighter and paramedic. A travel nurse recruiter. A hospice care specialist. A lab technician. My background is deliberately broad — not because I was directionless, but because I was searching for something I couldn't name. Work that mattered. Work where I could be direct and authentic. Work that aligned with my values instead of fighting against my neurology. This unconventional path taught me something crucial: systems fail people. Mental health systems, criminal justice systems, social service systems — they're all designed by people who think linearly, who expect compliance, who measure success by narrow metrics. And they fail the people who think differently, who have trauma histories, who need something outside the standard box. I've seen it from every angle. I've been the crisis counselor and the person in crisis. I've been the case manager and the conserved client. I've been the one trying to help and the one receiving services that weren't designed for me. This perspective is invaluable in couples therapy. I don't expect you to fit into the system. I expect the system is probably failing you in predictable ways. What You'll Actually Get in Sessions With Me I'm direct. I won't expect you to perform emotions on cue or package your experience in neurotypical terms. I won't misread your communication style as a character flaw. If I don't understand something, I'll ask. If I see a pattern, I'll name it clearly. I've trained in CBT, DBT, Motivational Interviewing, trauma-informed care, and substance use treatment. I'm also trained in LIGHT Therapy (Light-Induced Guided Healing Therapy) and hypnotherapy. But I don't lead with clinical frameworks — I lead with understanding. We'll talk about your actual relationship, the patterns you're stuck in, the ways you're trying and failing, the things that make no sense to one of you and complete sense to the other. For neurodivergent folks, I accommodate movement, fidgeting, reduced eye contact, and needing written summaries of what we discussed. I won't expect you to maintain constant verbal engagement or fill every silence. I won't interpret your communication style as disrespect or distance. I understand that neurotype shapes how we show up. For neurotypical partners, I get the confusion. I've been the ND partner causing it. I understand what it costs to love someone whose brain works differently and to feel like your needs don't matter because you "should just understand them." We'll work on that real dynamic. What to expect: vulnerability, directness, real conversation about real problems. No corporate therapy language. No pretending your relationship should look like someone else's. No shame about how stuck you are — that's what I'm here for. License, Training & More License & Supervision: Associate Professional Clinical Counselor (APCC), California BBS #19221 Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro , LMFT #53452 Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Education & Credentials: M.S. Clinical Mental Health Counseling, Walden University B.A. Human Services, Columbia College LIGHT Certification (Light-Induced Guided Healing Therapy), UCSD Hypnotherapist Certification, UCSD Training in CBT, DBT, Motivational Interviewing, Trauma-Informed Care, Substance Use Treatment Specialty Areas: Accepting New Couples & Indiv. Clients, Autism, ADHD, Neurodiverse Couples, Communication, Addiction, Trauma, CBT, DBT, Christian, Alexithymia, AuDHD, Family Conflict, Teens, Transformational Coaching, Twice-exceptional (2e) Conor Cunningham Take an Autism Test

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