Hamed Fatahian
​My Passion:
I believe if we can transform the couple’s relationships, we are not only helping them, but also helping them and their families for generations to come. Also, most of people’s toughest struggles are related to their relational issues so, as the relationship improves, the person's individual problems seem less challenging. My passion is to work with couples and individuals to help them rebuild their relationships and to reshape their pattern of reactions.
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My Strength:
My personal experience as a husband and father over the past decade has given me the real world experience to speak into the lives of my clients. I understand the daily challenges of working, parenting and maintaining a loving connection with one's spouse.
My experience as an Iranian American who has been living and working in both countries helps me to be more understanding and supportive to cross-cultural clients. I understand the subtle cultural differences that can become magnified and destroy relationships. I am able to build a bridge of understanding and acceptance that can reunite a relationship.
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Neurodiverse Couples:
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Individual brains are wired differently. You might have felt that you and your partner are on different channels in the way you experience the world or communicate with one another. This might be a neurodiverse relationship; when one or both partners being on autism spectrum. Neurological differences in the way your brains work may make it hard to see eye-to-eye, live together, co-parent, be in social settings together or communicate about certain topics. While all couples experience challenges within their relationship, neurodiverse couples may face unique challenges based on these neurological differences. Neurodiversity can lead to rich, fulfilling relationships but it can also cause frustration, stress and heartache.
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Therapeutic Approach:
My main therapeutic orientation is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), an attachment-based model that has been developed by Dr. Sue Johnson and her team over the past 40 years in more than 40 countries around the globe. EFT gives me an attachment lens, the universal language of love, that helps me not focus on the surface, but help my clients to see their underlying issues. With this model I feel more competent to work with diverse people with different issues.
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Education:
M.A. Counseling Psychology, Palo Alto University
B.A. Clinical Psychology, University of Tehran
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Training & Certification:
Completed ICEEFT-endorsed Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Training
Completed ISEFT-endorsed Emotion-Focused Therapy-Individual (EFTI) Training
Completed SAR (Sexual Attitude Reassessment) Training
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Affiliation and Membership:
ICEEFT– International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy
NCCEFT– Northern California Community for EFT
CAMFT– California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists
ACA– American Counseling Association
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Other areas of focus (in addition to Neurodiversity):
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Cross-Cultural Couples
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High Conflicts Couples
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Couples Struggling with Trauma
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Relationship Conflicts
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Affair Recovery
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Pre-marital Counseling
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Grief after Divorce
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Healthy Grieving as a Couple
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Couples going through life transitions
Languages:
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Fluent in Farsi (Persian) and English
Clients:
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Couples, Families, Young Adults
Modalities:
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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Emotion-Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT), Attachment-Based Psychotherapy, Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Family System Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Person-Centered Therapy, Humanistic Approach
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License:
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Registered Associate, MFTA #124635, APCC #9331
Supervised by Claudio Silva, LMFT #82582
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Contact and Website:
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