NEURODIVERSE COUPLES GROUP

Neurodiverse couples often feel completely alone in their struggles. It is hard to explain your experiences to friends and family for fear of being judged or misunderstood.

 

Our goal for our groups is to provide a safe space for you to speak with other neurodiverse couples about how neurodiversity affects your relationship. Most couples quickly realize that their issues sound pretty similar to everyone else's. This helps you lessen the shame you are feeling and hopefully be more open to learning new ways to change and grow.

Furthermore, a group can inspire awareness and change that individual therapy or solo work cannot. Group dynamics can provide different perspectives and experiences.  These dynamics can be powerful as you explore a greater awareness of your neurodiversity.  A group can also bring a greater level of accountability and a sense of teamwork as you reach towards a common goal.    

 

Our group therapist or coach will introduce tools and strategies AND facilitate learning tools and from the other couples who have addressed similar experiences and issues.

 

FORMAT:

The format is as follows:

  • Each group is limited to 5 couples.
     

  • Couples meet for 1 hour and 15 minutes twice a month on Zoom.
     

  • The group begins with a brief "relationship check in".
     

  • After this, there is a 15 to 20 minute training or discussion of a topic dealing with relationships. The topics (which be modified based on your interest) are:
     

    1. Neurodiverse communication

    2. Understanding pursue / withdraw patterns

    3. Building intimacy (Love List exercise)

    4. Anger management

    5. Time together and apart

    6. Sexual connection

    7. Open topic night

       

  • The rest of our time is devoted to one couple working with the therapist/coach on an issue in front of the group. You will be invited to volunteer and will NOT be put on the spot.
     

  • The last part of our time is for the group to voice an appreciation to the working couple for something they witnessed and to share what they got out of what they saw. 

 

While this may seem intimidating, our hope is that you will feel the support of your peers as you deal with issues that most of you others share. We will create a safe place where you can be open and share meaningful experiences with each other.

 
REQUIREMENTS:
 

The requirements are:
 

  • You must have an initial couple interview session with your therapist/coach, although this may not be needed for current or past clients. 
     

  • You can not be in crisis. Your therapist/coach will help you define this.
     

  • You must be willing to commit to at least 7 sessions.
     

  • You must be willing to commit to complete confidentiality of what is discussed during our group sessions. 
     

  • No formal diagnosis of ASD is required.
     

 

WHEN:
 

Monday 3:30pm PST. Start date will be determined after signups.. 

FAQ'S ABOUT GROUP

Q: What’s the first step? 

A: Fill out the contact form below.

Q:  What will the group cost? 

A: $100/couple/session with a commitment of 7 sessions. Payment for each session is due after each session. Because the fee "reserves" your spot in the group, you will be charged for each session even if you miss it.

 

A limited number of sliding-scale options may be available. Please ask your therapist/coach about this.

Q: My marriage is really struggling. Will we mess up the group?

 

A: Probably not but your therapist/coach will help you figure out if this is a good fit in the initial consult conversation. 

Q: What if I am in individual therapy?   

 

A: No problem. I can work with your individual therapist to make sure we are on the same page and support the work you are doing in your other therapy.

Q: What if I am super nervous about groups? 

 

A: Then joining the group will require courage on your part but, rest assured, the group will work hard to support you. This may help you have more comfort in other groups that you are a part of, maybe even in your family. 

Q: What if I can’t come to all the groups? 

A: You still need to pay the full amount. We will offer homework in between the sessions. Even if you miss one or two groups you will still benefit, though if you know in advance you’ll miss multiple sessions it may be best to wait for another round of the group.

Q: When does the group start? 

A: Once we have put together a cohort of couples who are ready to go on this journey together, we will get things rolling. We will make sure to keep you posted, and give you a heads up so you can make the necessary arrangements to ensure your participation. 

Q: Will members come and go?   

A: No. This group is what is called a closed group. The members you meet on the first day are the ones that will be with you the whole time unless they drop out, and no new members will be added. The group will be limited to 5 couples, giving you ample time and space to be heard.

Q: If my partner is sick, can I come without her/him?   

A: Yes. You are welcome to attend as long as your partner is OK with doing so.

Q: I am not in a relationship but want to be. Can I still come? 

A: Unfortunately not. This group is for couples only. I may start a different group for people seeking relationships so let me know if this is of interest.

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“Life is . . . not about counting the losses and the lost expectations, but rather swimming, with as much grace as can be mustered, in the joy of all of it.”.”  

 

 

Leisa Hammett